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This might be the end...
hey...well my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and a couple of months now and we were doing really well...now we've been through a whole lot and we pretty much know how it is with each other...it hasnt been so great...it seems that ive been the only one putting in effort into the relationship and he says himself that he doesnt care about most things...i changed some things about myself for him but when it comes to him its like he doesnt even try...i would say everything on here that happens but theres way too many things that go on...it seems like now its comming to an end and at the same time ive learned a lot from it...i talked to him last night and he said that he doesnt think we're right for each other...i couldnt bear with what he was saying i felt so hurt but he wants to wait a little longer just to see if it gets anyt better all but i dont know how long that'll last and i dont know if i should wait...i need some advice on how to get over him...ive stayed up all night for weeks with this...missed school...cant concentrate..i cant let him go i just cant see him with another girl it hurts too much...and i dont know if i should end it...i know i should but i cant...thanks for anyone who tries to help i really appreciate it...
17/f
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I went through this same exact thing. Feelings fade and that's how it is. It will take a long time to get over but it can happen. It does sound like you should end things if he isn't giving much effort in the relationship then why should you? When you guys break up don't call him, totally ignore him, don't look or talk to him,and pretend like he was nothing to you. I know it may sound really hard or impossible it's not. A year is a long time but you have to move on, and if you do the things I just told you, you will move on faster. Good luck with everything!
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It is going to be very rough at first..but you'll see hhow much stronger you will get with time..and you will be so proud of yourself! You will find the guy who wants to make it work,who will appreciate you, etc. Think positive thoughts like:
-more time to spend with friends..have a girls night out..go flirting with guys you meet..have a sleepover with the girls
-eventually getting back to the single life..dating..flirting..persuing new crushes..finding someone better
I definately think you should just end it with him..it seems like its coming to an end..its time for you to start a new chapter.
its going to be very hard..but you will pull through i promisee :)
its ok to cry..let it all out..but definately try to keep busy with friends..going places..etc.
like i said with time it will get better
i hope something i said helped a little?
definately inbox me if you want..im here to listen and help!
-melissa-
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this is probably hard to hear, but hes not right for you.
you have to get over him.
if he says stuff that hurts you or stuff that makes you upset then hes not the right guy for you. you need someone who will put as much effort into the relationship as you do. the fact that he doesnt care about alot of things says something, that means he might not care about you the same way you care about him.
i went through the same situation, and i really thought i loved him. but he always made it clear he didnt care about anything. and at times he was the sweetest guy in teh world, but in the end he was just an ass hole.
thats how this guy may end up. so id suggest leaving him now.
cause if not, hell break up with you, and it will end in you crying, alot.
if hes making you miss school, and you cant concentrate, than hes deffinatly not a benefactor to your life.
there are no good ways to get over people, but to get them out of your head. stop think ing about it, dont even think of the bad things, dont think of the good.
just try and stop caring, youll move on eventually maaybe in a couplar weeks you can get over it.
but it will take a while.
so give it time, and dont think about it and you should be fine.
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Girl i know this is hard for you but you have to let him go. He is the wrong person for you he is standing you up!! He might be cheating on you or he doesnt really care about you. He is a wrong for you. You should find a real man that care for you and would give all his efforts into the realationship like you would do. You need to get over this guy trust me.
He is making your life a tragic he is making you miss school and cant concentrate on your future.
Need to get over this guy!!!
hope i help
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Hey,
You know that you have to get out of a relationship when the strain of it is putting a tole on your life. You've missed school, and you cant concentrate. He doesnt care about things you say, he says things that break your heart. You need to get out. If you stay in the relationship things will just get worse. And you will end up hating him. Hating the man you once loved. Isnt that the opposite of what you wish could happen?
SO next time you talk to him, tell him how you feel, tell him how the relationship is one sided, and you love (?) him but you need to stop seeing him, or things will just get worse. Explain to him that you wish that the two of you could continue going out, but you jsut can't because it would be too painful and in the end you would both just end up getting hurt.
Okay, now moving on. This is tough, and different for every person. And the answer will be different too. THere are the obvious things like find a job or spend more time with friends. Join a club or volunteer. Then there are the less obvious things like write a letter about how your feeling, but dont send it, or write in a diary daily. You can spend more time on yourself, like get a makeover (not that you need it, you look awesome!, that was just a random complement I thought maybe you could use one l ol) or spend a friday night with candles and a bubble bath.
You can try doing something that shows you have talent like paint a picture or write a poem, or do something you've never done before, like rock climbing or horseback riding. Or you can make new friends(ie join something outside of school that none of your friends are into) or focus on one of your friends and try and build up your relationship with them. Another thing you could try is if you have a younger sibling or cousin, or younger neighbor even, try and spend some time with them, take them to a movie or shopping. It will help to give them a positive rolemodel, and it shows compasion.
Lastly, the most famous one, move on. Pick a new guy. I dont usually suggest actually making moves on other guys for at leasta few weeks (aka the rebound weeks) but pick a nice looking guy in your your english class and think(or obsess) about him. Getting your ex out of your head is the most important thing.
Those are just a few suggestions, and they may work, but if they dont, thats okay, I've got a lot more. I think I answered your question, and it sucks to be in your situation, but it happens to everyone sometimes. I hope I helpped, and good luck. Let me know if you need more tips. Love ya,
Angie91
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