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should i tell her?
ok there is this amazing girl at my school. i dated her last year, and now i am a freshman in highschool. while we were going out, i was to shy to really do anything. i wanted to kiss her so bad but i just couldnt find the strength to actually make my move. we broke up later because she did not like me anymore. we went out for about 3 weeks. before that we were really good friends, but now its like we dont talk at all anymore, part of the reason being we dont have any classes together. ever since we broke up though, its weird, it seemed like i wanted her more and more every day. i havnt stopped thinking about her every day and it has been almost a year now. i still see her almost everyday, because i go to a small private school. anyway, i have just learned that she is leaving my school, to go to another because she wants a change of things. i think i love her and i dont want her to leave, but i am too shy to step up and admit to her my feelings, not that it would change anything, but i just feel like she should know, before she goes that someone is thinking of her. i also feel that that might make things even more aukward between us, and i am really shy when it comes to this stuff. i dont know i was thinking of just going and telling her, but i dont know there is something just keeping me from doing that. maybe a note or something?
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your smart to go with the note tyhing.just tell he EXACLY how you feel.it might make things things a little akward but at least she knows now.and you never know she can feel the same about you
let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie
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Hey,
Yeah a note would work, but you have to make it really personal. You can't be like
______,
I kinda think i like you
-_________
Its got to be full of feelings and show her that you really do like her and you want something to come of it. Tell her everything. Don't be afraid that she is going to make fun of you, or anything, if she does then shes an idiot and doesnt deserve awesome you. Yeah things may be more awkward between the two of you, but it already is awkward and shes leaving in a little bit, so you really dont have anything to lose. This will be good for you. I'm shy too, and I think that a lot of things in my life would be different if I stepped up and told the guys I liked that I liked them. But none of them have moved away, so nows your chance. To finally step up and do something because if you dont you'll regret it.
In the note tell her that she has the choice she can call you and tell you if she wants to go out sometime, but if she doesnt call you'll understand. Leave it somewhere she will definatly find it and no one else will. like meil it to her or something so that her locker neighbour doesnt read it or her sister doesnt think its for her. If she doesnt respond, then it may be because you hurt her the first time, or it may be that she doesnt think starting up a new relationship before she goes is a good thing. So if she doesnt respond dont take that as a bad thing. Because actually it doesnt matter what she says, the up side is that you are putting yourself out there. And that is very important to do before you get older and are just too scared to do this type of thing. So if all else fails think of this as a learning experience. Then move on (if you need tips let me know) and pick a new girl, and then try and get up the courage to ask her out.
But hopefully this works out for you. I think that you are going to get through this and whether or not you go out with her again or not, you are putting yourself out there and showing yourself that you can do something you dont feel confident doing thats really good. Good luck, Love ya,
angie91
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if this was me i would want you to like bring me like a little place in the school and just tell her how you feel and if its going well litly kiss her
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If you can't tell her to her face, a handwritten note is the way to go. Honestly, telling her is the best thing you can do right now. If you don't, you'll regret it for the rest of your life, wondering "What if...". She's leaving the school anyways, so if worst comes to worst & she laughs in your face, you won't have to deal with seeing her constantly.
There's always the possibility she still has feelings for you. This is less likely because she broke up with you, but it's possible. You haven't seen each other in awhile, and who knows? She may be thinking the same thing about you, asking herself the same questions. The only way you're going to know for sure is to tell her how you feel about her. If she doesn't reciprocate these feelings, it's not the end if the world. Keep in touch when she leaves- she'll likely want to know what's going in the school she's left behind. Plus, you'll likely gain a close friend in the process. Either way, you win.
I hope I helped you, & good luck with whatever happens!
:)
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