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Hi!My name is Melissa.I'm from G.I. New York.I love being able to help people and giving advice.I'm usually the person who people come to for advice and i'm always glad to be there for them.If you just wanna talk or if you want advice you can IM me.UnLuckyWishes3.I'm really into sports and love to play basketball.I play JV voleyball and Varsity track.

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my friend is going out with the guy i like i dont want to tell her that i like him cause then she will think oh u just like him cause i do ( she is like that ) what should i do?

I know how you feel.My best friend is just like that.I think you should just tell her and if she thinks you like him just because she does, let her.i mean if she has a big ego like that you might as well.I you know thats not the reason so its kinda something just to laugh at.Good Luck.Hope everything works out.

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alright..well ive been with ryan for now 6 months..and still my ex-bf brian is still in love with me (we went out for 9 months) he doesnt act it..or be an ass to me or anything, its just i know he still loves and cares about me. it kinda gets annoying that he still does..how can i ask him to just move on?

You might just need to sit him down and tell him how you feel you.Or maybe this is just something that's gonna need to blow over.It's happened to me and one of my boyfriends, but he finally figured out that i was only interested in being his friend.

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I was taken into a family at age 6 1/2 and Ive been with this family since.Well the mom of the family and I don't get along and well i really wish we did.I love her to death but I just don't think she really knows how much I care for her.Im also scared to get close to her because I lost my biological mother when i was 3 and I don't wanna lose her.She has a very weak heart and isn't doin too well right now so now more than ever am I scared to lose her.I really wanna become closer and be able to tell her almost everything if not everything.Anyways can someone plz tell me how I can get closer to her.Ive tried to write her letters and tell her openly in person but nothing has seemed to work.Someone plz help.

Signed,
Desperate to get close

I would try to get interested in something she does, that way you two can do it together.I'm not sure who else is in your family but talk to them about it too maybe they can get throught to her.Your mom might also be afraid to lose you as well if she's not doing too good, or she could just be afraid to get clsoe to you as well.i really hope everything works out.Let me know how it goes.

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ok, well my momz b/f has HEPATITIS C that he got from another girl while cheating on my mom ..they have gone thru manny problemz in their relationship and he hurt he wayy too many timez...yet she still stayz with him .. and i cant get thru to her no matter wut..

but my real question is this : 3 days ago my mom told me that were moving into his house on friday .. she said she'd help me buy a car and give me 50 bucks a week for no reason and drive me to my old school everyday and all ill have to to do is take a train back home .. shez trying to bribe me to move in ...BUT the only thing holdin me back is that he has hepatitic c and i dont want my mom getting it and i feel lyk if i move in with them, then ill be supporting her chances of getting HEPATITIS C .. and everynite wen i lay in bed ill have to worry about wut they are doing in their bedroom and if shes having unprotected sex with him and if she'll get HEP C at any moment now ... i mean, i really love her and ive already tried talking to her about this but her mind is made up!! plz tell me if i shuld go and if i am overreating here or wut ..... but itz HEPTITIS C !!!!:( plz help me

I would sit your mom down and tell her that your worried about her and you just want her to be safe.Just tell her exactly whats on your mind.Who knows maybe she's already using protection.Hope everything works out and have fun with your car!

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ok well there is this girl that i have liked for a long time now but thought she was always " out of my league " well finally i told my best friend that i liked her one day and the next day he went and asked her out well they broke up and now the girl found out about how i liked her and she liked me the whole time too so now we wanna get wit each other but my friend keeps sayin if we do he wont ever talk to me again so im not sure what to do


what would you do???
sorry its so long

First I would ask your friend why he doesnt want you to go out with the one girl.I mean there could be something he knows about her and didnt want to tell you or he might not want you to get hurt.But if he doesnt have a reason then i think thats kinda mean of your friend to do.Even if he doesnt like the girl he should still be happy for you and your girlfriend.There's always that chance he could be really jealous of you.I mean look it he got the girl for a little while but she's liked you all that time.I definatly think you should go out with her but give your friend sometime, just try and put yourself in his shoes for a minute.Good Luck!Let me know how it works out.

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Who here has a friend (including family member) who has had depression?
This includes the full spectrum of things such as: aenorexia, bulemia, traumatic abuse disorder, manic depression (bipolar).
I believe it is important to educate youth about this stuff because more than 25 percent of people will be disabled for some time of their life with depression!
Thanx!

I've actually had a problem with anorexia about a year ago.I hated who i was and how i looked.I had been 148 and in less then a month i had gone to 102.It lasted for about three months until i got help from my doctor and parents.

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How do you keep your self hygenic you know, down there? im 13 female

Definatly try to shower some more.Like before you go to school or at the beginning of the day and then when you come home from school or before you go to sleep.

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Well I already asked a question on my depression. But yeah... I'm scared to tell my parents' about it. It doesnt seem like they would take it seriously or do much about it. I'm so scared. I don't feel very comfortable telling my parents either. Its so severe though I feel I really need help. I cry at night and I can't get to sleep, I'm so insecure about myself (looks and everything else about me), I don't like kids my age so I don't have many friends (and the few that I have are older which sucks because I can't be with them much). Basically I just hate life in general and I never feel like doing anything... all I do is sit arounf the house all day. And my depression is not like i just get it sometimes... I'm like going through it (a year and a half almost ago is when my really trajic depression started). I don't know what to do... help? Thanks so much

I would ask your parents to make an appointment with your doctor to maybe give you something for your depression and if they ask why tell them its something you need to discuss with your doctor first.Or maybe even though your nervous you can ask your parents for conseuling with other kids who are going through the same thing.I really hope you get better!let me know how it turns out.

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Hey! And thanks ahead of time ^_^ Might as well get the usual stuff out. I'm an 18 year old female from Chicagoland and I have a boyfriend (*gasp shock*) named Marc who is 21.

Marc and I met about 3 years ago online, and even though we lived rather close, we didn't meet up until June of last year. We started dating theoretically (meaning we were open to each other about having feelings for each other, but were both in relationships) in January of this year, and officially dating in March. We've been together since then, have never had a single serious fight. In addition to being each other's lovers, we're also best friends.

We've never had any problems to date, though we both knew in August, I was going off to college about 5-6 hours away, and he was spending a semester in... Japan. We both knew it was going to be hard, but that we loved each other enough so that it would not be a problem.

The night before both of us left, we talked about *dundundun* our future together, namely, marriage. We both agreed that we are definagtely not ready for marriage, but would like to establish SOME kind of future.

When Marc gets back from Japan in December, he goes back to his own college (all the way ibn Minnesota T_T), but after that, he graduates in May. He has plans to go to Grad School, but wants to save up some money first, so he was planning on taking off school for a couple years and work to save. To make a long story short, we decided upon him moving down here to where I go to college and getting an apartment that both of us can pay rent on and live together.

Now here is where the advice comes in. Marc and I truly believe thsi is the right thing to do. We've lived together before (in his house at college for a couple weeks in April of this year, and on and off throughout the summer), so we know each other's quirks and that we're compatible and whatnot. We both love and trust each other enough. BUT, I would really appareciate an outsider's opinion of things.

Also, although my parents met and love Marc, I don't know how they'd feel about me living with him, and I'm pretty much deathly afraid to bring it up to them. Any ideas on how to do this to make it easier?

Sorry this is so long, and thank you again!

I would talk to your parents about when they were younger and when they moved in together.Maybe that way it can break the ice a little bit if your a lil worried about telling them.But it seems like you know what your doing and the possibilities and concequences for your actions.Hope everything works out for the best!

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my boyfriend... who i HAVENT talked to in like 3 weeks... seems to be ignoring me becuz he knoes im wantin to dump him... so what do i do sinc ei can never get in touch with him? Do i call and leave him a message breaking up with him?

Yea, i'd try adn give him a call.Either then that leave an e-mail or instant message him.Hope you get a hold of him.

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What does 69 mean?? and what does it mean to be 'wet'?

69 means the guy is licking the vagina and the girl is sucking the guys penis.wet means getting horny and the cums, for girls.

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to start off with, i'm sorry this is so long

Alright, i fell in love with this guy who it would never work out with (like really really never work out no matter how hard we tried if we wanted to). He never said he loved me or anything, and he never came onto me, and i'm not angry about it or anything like that. i miss him infact. I told my few very trusted friends about my feelings (they got kinda creeped out) and my mom said i would just move on and i'd feel this way about some one else some day (but i know i won't). I don't want to move on. How do i tell my friends and family that? I understand that they're just worried about me and stuff like that. i know that they just want me to feel better again, but i know that with out him in my life, i'm never going to feel like this again. i don't want to get over him. he makes me so happy even when i'm not near him. i love him too much, but i'm afraid of what my friends and family would say to that. i need mental help, but advice would by nice too.

i think you should try to get your mind off of him.i liek dthis one guy for 5 years and i still kinda like him.Maybe this is just your first love.I"m sure your family would understand, i mean thier your family.I would also tell the guy, just to get it off your chest it might make you feel alot better.Hope it works out.

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does anyone have the sims house party? if yes...how do u get the guests to leave? thanks!

You can type in the the code, move_objects on and that will delete them.After you type it in click on the people you want to leave adn you'll be able to delete them.

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Ok there is a guy a like aand he thinks I'm cute and he and his friend asked if my friend and I wanted to go swimming and we said yes. But should I change my mind? I'm scared because what I fall or trip or something.


Sincerely,
CameronLover1

No, i think you should go and have fun, dont worry about it.Just concentrate on having fun.If you trip or fall just get back up and laugh it off.Everyone had a clumsy moment.Just be yourself and you'll have a,lot of fun.hope you have a great time.

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i want to loose weight i know i need to and i want a boyfriend and ive never had one!!! ive tryed to do stuff to loose weight and ill be going strong and then ill like lash out and go food crazy!! but i weigh 235 and im only 16 and im 5'6 & 1/4 please help me i want a boyfriend soo bad i have lots of guyfriends but never a boyfriend!

you shouldn't stop what your eating just portion it.Like dont have a lot of something at one sitting.Also everyday or a couple times a week, just go for about at least a mile walk or something.That way you can talk with your friend and your not so concentrated on the walking part.It may not be a dramatic change right away but it'll help and you'll see your weight slowly decreasing, which is actually healthier then losing it tight away.Dont do this just to get a guy though.Your too good for that a guy should like you for who you are.
So please dont do this just to get a guy , if you want to lose weight do it for yourself.I mean i had to figure this out the hard way.Hope i helped.Good Luck!

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whats a wigger?

a wigger's a white person acting black or ghetto.

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Ok, i really ReAlLy like this boy named Naz. This whole year, i worked hard at getting to know him, and it finally worked! So now i'm really really good friends wit him, and i tell him everything, like he tells me. My parents dont really care about me liking him, as long as i dont do anything. But then one night wen i wuz talkin to Naz, he found out that i was a virgen still, and he said, "i guess whoever u give it up to, u really luv them." Then he asked me if i wud sleep wit him. I sed i dont know. (And i know he's not usin me becuz for one thing, i'm really close wit him, and also becuz he knows i liked him this WhOlE year, so if he wanted to use me, he cud've tried to a long time ago. And i DiD kiss him before.) So anyway, i really want to, becuz i luv him. And i KnOw this is luv becuz....well i jus know. Everyone who's been in luv knows. So i want to sleep wit him, but then my brotha Miguelle cums into the picture. He says if i do that, i'm a slut and a hoe and that i shud be ashammed of myself. He made me feel really bad. But it's My lIFe, isnt it? I wanna listen to him cuz he's my brotha, but he jus has no idea how much i luv this dude. He doesnt understand, cuz he's neva been in luv before. But wat shud i do? (sorry its so long! I ReAllY need help on this, pleaz dont delete it! Thanx!)

I really dont think your brother means that.He's pry just being any other brother(protective of his sister).I'm sure your older then me but my brother is just like that.Actually he is exactly like that.Well if you really love Naz and you know its real i would.It's your life and as long as you know what your doing that's the important issue.Hope it works out!Good Luck.

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What do you do when you are in love with a guy but your parents forbid you to see him. im almost 18 and im having to sneek around at my best friends house just to see him. i cant even talk to him at school without getting in trouble. we have been together before and we want to be back together for good. we were together for 10 months. what do i do.

I would talk to your parents and ask them why they dont want you too see them.If he's what makes you happy tell them that.Your going to be an adult soon and your gonna be able to see who you want and thier really wont be anyway for them to stop you.I'm sure your parents want you to be happy.i would sit them down and talk to them.Good Luck!Let me know if it works out.

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I told my bf that i had a crush on his bff and he was upset but didn't want to get real mad even though he was and all he did was try to make me happy and do wut was the best for me and we r still togeather but i feel really bad because he's being so understanding and im being a real BITCH for me feeling but it's really hard to not like his bff because he is the only one that has ever reallr understood me and i can talk to him 4ever and not ever get tired but now my bf is all upset and he still wants to be with me but i dont want to hurt him so i dunno if i should just brake up with him or stay in the relationship and hope that everything ends 4 the best.oh and im 14 and me and my bf have been going out 4 4 months and his bff has been my friend 4 2years.PLZ HELP

I would take a break to get your feelings straightened out.You might end up really liking his best friend or you might just figure that you really feel comfortable around him and go back to your boyfriend.It seem likes your confused with everything so i would take a break for a while and spend some time with your friend to find out if there's more between you or if there's not explain that to your boyfriend.It could just be a crush your going through.Hope it works out.

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what do you do when you REALLI like someone but they don't see the true side of you cause all they are worried about is getting "some"..my ex b/f is like that and i don't know..it just feels like they are the only kinda guys i attract! what can i do to help let guys see my inner side?! i realli need help! thanks! i'll rate! =)

If you really into the guys you see but you dont want to just have them get "some" all the time.Try to do something with them that you like.Maybe play a sport with them that you like.That way they can get an idea of who you are and what you liek to do.Who knows maybe they'll be interested in seeing what else who do and what your perspectives on things are.hope it works out.

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