Hi there.. My name is Kirsten.. I'm 21, I live in a small country town in South Australia, Australia. I love life, I love giving advice to anyone who needs it. I have a boyfriend of 5 years and were very much in lurrve ;) Feel free to ask me anything guys and gals.. thats what i'm here for. If I don't know the answer to your questions i'll try my best to give you what I know.. Have fun, live life to the fullest and ask away... ;) xoxo
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Age: 21
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I want people's opinions on this. Do you think people should wait to have sex until their married. Do you think People would regret it? I mean because like youve waited and now your wondering like "what would it feel like with someone else?" On the other hand i hear people having sex when there 14 and having STDS and they probably should've waited. idk
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I was 17 when I first had sex, I don't regret it one bit! My boyfriend who is two years older then me and I had sex for the first time together just before my 18th birthday.
We were together 12 months before we had sex, not once was I pressured or pressured my boyfriend with the subject of sex. We were both virgins before we slept together.
The night was so perfect, we didn't really talk about it much before we did it, it was kind of it happened because it was meant to happen!
My boyfriend was so sweet and gentle towards me, today.. two years later we are still together and love each other very much. We always use protection during sex as well as the pill!
When the time comes, when i'm not worried about getting pregnant we'll have unprotected sex but I want us to be checked out for any diseases, just to be safe!
So no not everyone needs to wait until they are married to have sex because you need to find yourself and experiment and have fun before you settle down!
But.. on the other hand.. I do not agree with 13 and 14 year olds having sex!! They are way too young to deal with the consequences for pregnancy and diseases! They are not carefull enough with protection! They shouldn't even know what sex is at that age!
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My friend's boyfriend is terrible. He smokes, drinks, does drugs. Basically, all the things she'd never do. And now we barely talk anymore and I don't know what to do. They've been together for a while now, but we've been friends 5 times longer. I try talking to her, but she pushes me away. How can I tell her that she can do so much better? What should I say? (link)
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If her boyfriend is into all of these things maybe there is a reason she is pushing you away. She probably feels like she can't leave the relationship because she knows he is a horrible person. She might feel like she is stuck there forever and is screaming for help but no one is helping!
I think you need to get her on her own and talk to her.. tell her that you miss the friendship you used to have and can see that her boyfriend is changing her for the worse.
She might not come around straight away but give her time.. always let her know you are there for her.. she'll come around eventually but in the mean time keep out for signs of perhaps abuse from the boyfriend.. if she doesn't normally do the things that her boyfriend is there could be a bit or pressure for her to do these things too.
She'll only ruin her life if she starts doing drugs and things..!
What about her parents or someone else that she is close with.. could you perhaps talk to them, let them know how you feel and what they boyfriend gets up too, if she is talking to someone older then her she might wake up!
I wish you luck, I hope she comes around for her own sake :)
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there's this boy he's like way older than me but i consider him as a bro he really isnt tho. everytime i c him i give him hugs.every single girl in my school likes him. when i give him hugs and talk 2 him they get mad. everytime he sees me he gives me huggs or calls my name. idk if i like him or consider him as bro wat yah think (link)
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I think you have a little feeling for him! ;p
But if 'every' girl in the school is crazy about him do you really want to take a chance to ask him out and ruin your friendship?
I have tons of guy friends and they all say they love me as a friend because they can totally be themselves around me because I don't crack on to them like every other girl does!
They say it's nice just to have a 'girlfriend' that they can give a cuddle and come to as a friend.. get a girls point of view of situations and to just hang out with in general!
I say remain friends just as you are and if you are to be together then let it happen on it's own!!
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okay so like idn if youll be able to help or not. but like i have an ex that im still like in love with and like ill talk to him and he doesnt seem intrested and then like i wont talk to him for awhile and then he'll i.m me saying like we havent talked i miss you. idn what to do cause i dont no how to tell him i still like it. like it has been awhile since (link)
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ok so he obviously still thinks of you too for him to message you if he hasn't heard from you i a while.
Why don't you tell him that you still have strong feelings for him and you need him to either love you back or to stay out of your life completely.
This is messing with your head! It's going to hurt if he chooses to stay away but it will help you in the long run.. It will just make you a stronger person.
If he is always going to be in your life as just a friend it's going to kill you if you see him with another girl. Also he deserves to know how you feel. He could be feeling the same!
Make him aware that you don't want him out of your life! Tell him that you have these feelings for him but if he's not going to take the opportunity to love you back then you need him to leave because it's hurting you more to see and to speak to him knowing that you can't have him and he's right in front of you!
It will be hard and it will hurt to say goodbye if thats what he chooses but you could also be making the biggest mistake of your life by not letting him know that you love him.. he could be feeling the sam as what you are but doesn't know how to ask you back!
I'm sorry chook but it's just how it's gotta be!
I wish you luck :)
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I really want to get a piercing. Really really badly. not like a normal piercing but a unique kind of one. Nothing big just something thats different. I've tried talking my grandma [I live with her] about it and she wont let me. I've talked about getting my eyebrow pierced and she said she didn't want me to do that. I've been thinking about a Marylyn Monroe [sry if spelled wrong] because I've been told that it would look good on me. I have two questions kind of, How can I try to convence my g-ma to let me get the piercing [knowing her, I would most likely be able to get one if it wasn't too extreme and if I had info about piercings and stuff] and what other piercings would be a good idea? [I do not want a nose or another ear piercing though]
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My friend got her neck pierced! Try that..
You didn't say how old you are? if you are too young you have to get parent consent so take someone who you know that is older then you and is happy to take you.. if you get your neck pierced and wear you hair down when your around your grandma she wont be able to see it.
But if you are too young and no one will take you i'm sorry but your going to have to wait.. sucky I know!
Or you could just tell her that its a phase your going through and you will eventually take it out if she lets you get it done. Tell her that piercings aren't permanent like tattoo's are lol
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do you have to have a pap smear before getting on the pill for the first time? (link)
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No you don't.. it's a personal preference!
You just go to the doctor and say you want to be put on birth control. If it's to regulate your period or because you want or are sexually active you need to tell your doctor as different pills are stronger then others.
With the pap smear, you should have one every two years of becoming sexually active.
This is something every girl dreads but I work for a doctor and unfortunate things happen to the best of us so please keep in mind that it's something that has to happen.
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I'm going back to school in about two months, so the summer vaca just began. When I go back to school I want to be different. I'm a nice person and everything and I talk enough, but I want to be more outgoing and more talkative and different. What should I do to change ? (link)
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Be comfortable with who you are.. you'll become more confident!
Don't become cocky or stuck up.. be who you are and be happy with who you are!
Don't be a fake person or someone who talks about others! Become friends with people who you wouldn't normally mix with! You could infact save a life..!!
Always smile.. a smile makes a person so beautiful that they shine!
Just be a happy person and appreciate everything that you have!
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I'm 14 and I was wondering what piercing I should get. I have my first holes, my top hole on my cartilage, and one a little below that in the middle. I want another piercing, but where. If on my ear, where and what type of earring ? (link)
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Get your belly button pierced! My friend just got her neck pierced lol you could always try that!
Or what about a small stud on your nose? Thats hot!
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im 17 years old almost 18.
i have an amazing boyfriend who is everything i could possibly ask for.
today was our first time trying anything sexual.
we didnt have sex but we messed around.
im horrible at saying what i want to happen or not to happen.
its too late to sit down and set boundaries now.
i loved messing around with him and im comfortalbe with it but im worried that we havent waited long enough and that ill end up having sex with him. (which is something im not emotionally ready for)
i can talk to him easily and hes understanding but what do i do if i want to mess around and am comfortable with it but im not sure if its whats best for our relationship right now???
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Ok this is what you need to tell your boyfriend..
You are happy and feel comfortable doing sexual things with him but for the moment sex is out of the question. It's something that you aren't ready for and you want it to be more then perfect!
If you and your boyfriend were messing around and now your scared you haven't waited long enough... think again hun.. You said yourself that you were comfortable and that you loved messing around with him..
What more could there be too it..?!
If you are feeling guilty now could it possibly be that your parents wouldn't approve if they found out..?! Or is something bothering you?
To me it sounds like you waited long enough and you thought and talked about it with your boyfriend and you both sound mature and comfortable with what you are doing.
From going to oral etc to sex is a big thing so if you say you are not ready.. don't do it until you are!! You'll only feel horrible other wise!
I'm sure your boyfriend isn't expecting sex from you right now.. If he's waited this long just to cop a feel then he'll wait an eternity to have sex with you.
Your boyfriend can't force you to have sex and you shouldn't try to 'hurry' yourself up emotionally to have sex.. it'll happen when it happens!
Just remember to play it safe ;P
Good luck, be careful, have fun!
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well i have this friend katie who i've known all my life. we used to be really good friends, but a couple years ago things changed. she became all obsessed with being popular, and only hung out with me when there was no one "better" available. eventually i gave up on our friendship. well, now things have changed again. we're in cheerleading together, and i guess now i'm cool enough for her. she's always calling me and wanting to hang out. now, i'm not a mean person and i'm really not resentful about how she acted before. i actually wouldn't mind hanging out with her sometimes, just to be nice. but the problem is, she has gotten a really bad reputation. she offers to give guys blow jobs at school, sends half naked pictures of herself to guys, and a lot of people think she's a total skank. so i'm kind of worried about hanging out with her cuz i don't want to get that kind of reputation. i usually just make excuses why i can't do stuff with her. but i'm afraid if i keep doing this, it will seem like i think i'm better than her or something. or that i'm mad about the way she treated me before (which i'm not). it's really important to me to be a nice person and i usually try to hang out with everyone, no matter what "group" they're in or what other people think of them. but i'm just not sure how to handle this one. if i start hanging out with her, will i get a bad reputation? (link)
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Unfortuanetly there could be a possibility about you getting that sort of reputation, but she was and is your friend.
You could make her change again.. to be more respectiful. I'm sure she was pressured into those sorts of things with the whole 'trying to be cool' phase.
She could just simply want to be your friend again.. you never know.
Perhaps you should talk to her. Tell her that you don't agree with the things she has been getting up to but you will always be her friend. Tell her that you don't want to be pressured into doing those sorts of things and you want to have your friendship the way it used to be.
She might be asking for help with letting you back into her life.. just take it easy with her and watch that she doesn't change you either.. she could be feeling like an outcast, embarrassed or ashamed of the things she's done and knows that if she becomes friends with you again that everyone might forget about it and treat her properly again.
Good luck
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Well a year ago around this time I was at a soccer game and hyper extended my knee out of place.
I had to wear a knee brace for about 2 months.
My knee still hurts today if I keep it bent for long.
Or if I stay sitting down for a long time with my legs normally dangling off the couch, it still hurts my knee to be in one place for a hile.
It's only my right knee.
I was wondering if this is anything to worry about, or if I should go to a doctor, to get x-rays.
Thanks a lot.
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I would strongly suggest to see a doctor. You could be stretching or tearing something that you shouldn't be.
This could lead into knee reconstructions and so forth.
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im almost 15 and i have been with my boyfriend for about 8 months now. One of his good friends who is a girl needs him for what shes going through at home right now. He admits that he has neglected me for his attetion has been focused on her. (BTW she likes him) I have told him that she has beginning to get between us, but he fails to see it and says im the only one who sees it. So what is really between us then? Am I right? Or is there something else? (link)
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Now this is a hard one..
I understand how hard it is for you to see another girl confiding to your boyfriend. It's happened to me before but my boyfriend (who I am still with) was just only trying to help.. just like we all help on here.
You need to tell your boyfriend that you feel uncomfortable about this situation. As you said you two have been together for 8 months, i'm almost certain he wont leave you.
He probably is just trying to help her. Let him know that you don't mind him trying to help its a good thing but there is a fine line between helping and caring too much.
Perhaps you should talk to the girl as well.. let her know that if she needs a girl to talk to that you are there to help too. Perhaps suggest to her that if things are too bad she should see a professional psychiatrist or something.
Good luck :)
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okay. i really i dont what i'm doing. i completely fell for my best friend in the entire world. he is completely awesome and goofy and everything i've ever wanted in a guy. we are completely inseperable and i can tell him/talk to him about anything, except this. i cant seem to talk to him about this, not because of him, just i've never been someone to tell people i like that i like them. but he says that he would never date me because my friendship means too much to him and he could never bear to loose me. but everytime he describes what he likes in a girl, its generally kinda things about me. like curly hair and not anorexicly skinny. and i'm both of those things. and on top of all that i feel like i'm loosing him because i just sarted talked to my cuzin who i had had some problems with again. and he and her have become pretty close. i know its like him to be friends with like everyone but i couldnt bear to loose him. especially not to her because i've always been jealous of her and shes stolen two of my friends b4. but he says he'd never do that to me but i ge really paraniod. help me (link)
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Ok I think it's time that you talk to both of them.
First of all with your cousin. You need to tell her that you have deep feelings for this guy and you would trust that she would never take him away from you.
She needs to learn to stay away from the guys you like and your friends and to find her own. She is not only your friend but she is related to you. She cannot do that to you.
Then your boy.. You need to sit him down and talk to him too. You need to say that you have developed feelings for him, let him know how you are feeling. Leave it open for him to take the chance with you or to just remain friends.
Let him know that you will support his decision in what and how he feels for you. You can't force someone to like you so don't push the subject with him.
Just say that you needed to tell him because it's been tearing you apart and he deserves to know how you feel about him..
Respect his choice no matter what it is and stand by him. If he grows distant from you if he decides not to be with you it's more then likely going to tear you apart but it's something that you might have to deal with. If this is the case.. you need to talk to him again.
Also.. talk to him about your cousin perhaps. If you two are close then he probably knows that she has taken away your friends before, tell him that you can't bear to see him with her so you would appreciate it if he could put your cousin in her place with feelings and such.
I hope you get what you want out of this.. Good luck :)
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ok so i got hot pink nail polish on a pair of while and blue shorts how do i get it out???? do i use nail polish remover with pure aceatone(i think thats how you spell it) or none at all???? please help these are like my favorite shorts
thnks a ton!!!!
peace out
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Hot water and soap should get it out.. just what ever you do don't put nail polish remover on your shorts.. the colour will come out.
If all else fails use vinegar!
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ok my guy friend had the yankees hat that he adored. then he lost it. he was sad and i want to find him the same yankees hat to make him feel better. it was white and had a red N and a blue Y. it wasn't one of those little flimsy ones either. i dont know where to find it, i have check every hat store in my area. any help would be appreciated.
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Ask him where he got it from.. he could have purchased it from a game maybe..?
Or you could be sweet and make him one ;)
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Well one of my friends is a good friend but shes kind of new. Anyways theres a guy in our class that shes friends with but they both like each other. Well this guy asked her if she wanted to drink with him. She told me about this and I dont know what to say! I don't want to be like NO YOU'LL RUIN YOUR LIFE AND ILL HATE YOU. well idk i just dont want her to not like me anymore!! pleeease help %%thanks! (link)
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Well just tell her how you feel. Tell that you'll support her desicion although you don't agree on it 100%
Tell her that your there for her if things turn bad and to just be careful, tell her to eat something before she drinks or she'll be really sick.
Make sure she will be safe with this guy because there could be a possibility that he wants one thing and one thing only.
Good luck and tell her to be careful.
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I feel like such an asshole.
I don't even know if I should.
ugh.
So I like this boy right and today was our last final so me and some friends were just hanging out in this part of the school so I was going to walk down this one hallway then I saw this guy I like coming. I was like "SHIT" and ran to the next hallway. I'm pretty sure he saw me make a bolt for it considering that my friends were yelling "HEY WHY ARE YOU AVOIDING THIS HALLWAY?"
I feel like a jerk.
I don't even know why I ran.
I like him so much and idk it was just impulse?
I was planning on asking him out on friday (since we go in for report cards then we're done school) but I dont even know if I can look at him without feeling horrible.
Should I feel bad?
I don't know what to think.
It probably sounds really reallllyyy stupid.
I don't know what to do :(
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I say still ask him out.. I bet that if a few weeks, months, years even you'll be kicking youself if you didn't.
If he ever happens to say anything about you running away just say it had nothing to do with him.. you didn't even see him there but you were running from a teacher or something.. or a geeky kid that likes you.
Simple.. then who knows if you two get close that'll be something to talk and laugh about down the track.
Lurve makes people do crazy things.. this was just a crazy thing ;)
Good luck asking him out.
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how do i do my hair like this?
http://s2.photobucket.com/albums/y7/waioluaiai/?action=view¤t=978716890_l.jpg (link)
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Make sure your hair is dry and freshly washed. Use your straightner to curl it.. i know that sounds weird lol but it works.. Part your hair on the side and leave it looking messy and fluffy..
Use lots of hairspray!
As for the curls.. just curl the bottom half of your hair but not all of it.. leave some of it naturally wavy... Do not spray the bottom of your hair until you hav got it looking how you want it too.
Then spray away.
Remember Practice makes perfect!!
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when a guy is in a friend's with benefits relationship do they have absolutely no emotional attachment to the girl or do they normally like them a little. also what about girls? do most girls get a little emotionally attached in a friends with benefits relationship? i just broke up with my friend with benefits i guess you would call it and i told him it would be hard not being with him even if it was just for sex, and he said he thought it would be easy not being together because there were no emotions involved. i was shocked that he felt absolutely nothing...then i remembered he had a dick and was just another guy. so what do you guys think...is it normal to have some emotional attachment? (link)
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I'm sure at some stage he had to feel something for you. Guys aren't completely heartless.. although... lol
No seriously.. maybe he was starting to develop feelings for you and got scared.. maybe he thought he was getting himself into something he thought he couldn't get out of.
Or there is just the possibility that he didn't feel anything for you.
Some guys are like that.. they don't care about anything but themselves.
I hope in the future you attract a guy that will take better care of you :)
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My dad died when i was 8 and my mom recently got married to a guy who used to be in the army. I have two sister and now i have 3 step brothers. He is like way strict and his kids are like perfect angels but me and my sisters have never really been raised that strict and for lack of better words are pretty wild. my mom never really punished us for things and now this guy is trying to control us and take over our lives. What should i do? (link)
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Ok first of all.. just take the time to see it from his point of view.
He's come into your life hoping to take the father figure role of you and your sister. You said he was in the army so therefore he is used to all these rules and regulations and so are his sons. So of course it's going to rub off on you girls because he hopes to see you as his own.
Having new people come into your family could be pretty hard if you don't all get along.
You need to speak to your mum and let her know how you feel. Tell her that you are not used to all these rules and your not particulary fond of them either.
Your step dad needs to understand that he can't just walk in and take over but at the same time don't give him a lot of attitude. Just try to stay out of his way and do your own thing.
Perhaps talk to him too.. tell him that you aren't used to having a father figure and you really want everything to work out but there are certain things that need to be left alone.. (what your allowed to do and what your not allowed to do)
Good luck :)
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