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Step dad
My dad died when i was 8 and my mom recently got married to a guy who used to be in the army. I have two sister and now i have 3 step brothers. He is like way strict and his kids are like perfect angels but me and my sisters have never really been raised that strict and for lack of better words are pretty wild. my mom never really punished us for things and now this guy is trying to control us and take over our lives. What should i do?
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Try to get him to lighten up. Not everyone is perfect. You need him to know that you and our family are just not used to the rules he gives. And try and spend mroe time with him, he may be strict. But think about it, he was in the army. Just give him time.
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Ok first of all.. just take the time to see it from his point of view.
He's come into your life hoping to take the father figure role of you and your sister. You said he was in the army so therefore he is used to all these rules and regulations and so are his sons. So of course it's going to rub off on you girls because he hopes to see you as his own.
Having new people come into your family could be pretty hard if you don't all get along.
You need to speak to your mum and let her know how you feel. Tell her that you are not used to all these rules and your not particulary fond of them either.
Your step dad needs to understand that he can't just walk in and take over but at the same time don't give him a lot of attitude. Just try to stay out of his way and do your own thing.
Perhaps talk to him too.. tell him that you aren't used to having a father figure and you really want everything to work out but there are certain things that need to be left alone.. (what your allowed to do and what your not allowed to do)
Good luck :)
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Talk to your mom about it and try to find a middle ground. Since he is your step dad, you should respect him. However, he is not your father so he does not really have the right to "control" your life. Tell your mom what is going on. Be respectufl about it though, don't just spazz out. Present your argument appropriately.
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Tell this guy to stfu!! hes so stupid..if ur wild then be wild, he cant stop you from being urself...say f u man.
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