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i fell for my best friend and i feel like i'm loosing him to
okay. i really i dont what i'm doing. i completely fell for my best friend in the entire world. he is completely awesome and goofy and everything i've ever wanted in a guy. we are completely inseperable and i can tell him/talk to him about anything, except this. i cant seem to talk to him about this, not because of him, just i've never been someone to tell people i like that i like them. but he says that he would never date me because my friendship means too much to him and he could never bear to loose me. but everytime he describes what he likes in a girl, its generally kinda things about me. like curly hair and not anorexicly skinny. and i'm both of those things. and on top of all that i feel like i'm loosing him because i just sarted talked to my cuzin who i had had some problems with again. and he and her have become pretty close. i know its like him to be friends with like everyone but i couldnt bear to loose him. especially not to her because i've always been jealous of her and shes stolen two of my friends b4. but he says he'd never do that to me but i ge really paraniod. help me
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Ok I think it's time that you talk to both of them.
First of all with your cousin. You need to tell her that you have deep feelings for this guy and you would trust that she would never take him away from you.
She needs to learn to stay away from the guys you like and your friends and to find her own. She is not only your friend but she is related to you. She cannot do that to you.
Then your boy.. You need to sit him down and talk to him too. You need to say that you have developed feelings for him, let him know how you are feeling. Leave it open for him to take the chance with you or to just remain friends.
Let him know that you will support his decision in what and how he feels for you. You can't force someone to like you so don't push the subject with him.
Just say that you needed to tell him because it's been tearing you apart and he deserves to know how you feel about him..
Respect his choice no matter what it is and stand by him. If he grows distant from you if he decides not to be with you it's more then likely going to tear you apart but it's something that you might have to deal with. If this is the case.. you need to talk to him again.
Also.. talk to him about your cousin perhaps. If you two are close then he probably knows that she has taken away your friends before, tell him that you can't bear to see him with her so you would appreciate it if he could put your cousin in her place with feelings and such.
I hope you get what you want out of this.. Good luck :)
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Alright I totally know what you are talking about. I too have fell for my best friend, happen to be a guy, and I of course am a girl. (im 16/f by the way) So yeah I was too afraid to tell my feelings because even though im really loud and outgoing, i can get shy... really shy about that stuff... ESPECIALLY because he's my best friend. So i know what you mean there. So I planned all these "elaborate" things to tell him and all that, but I never did follow through the plan. So what I'm saying is, if things were meant to happen, the moment will come.
I mean we were just hangin out together because of school field trip, and we were in back seat of the car and I was dead tired so I just leaned my head on his shoulder, and he put his arm around me and i put my arm around him and things sort of got picked up from there.
I think that's the best way because later (we are going out now by the way) when we talked about that night, I told him how i was gonna tell him out of blue that i like him and he said that would've been bit weird.
I mean im not trying to make you do it in my way but I hope my story helped and if you need any more help, please let me know!!~
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you cant be upset if he talks to your cousin he is your best friend and he doesnt want to lose you like he said guys often do mean what the say as girls we just read to deeply into things or at least that is what i have noticed. i think that you should be like have you ever tought about you and me together. and if he just says no say that like someone said that you two should date and that will get him thinking about it. and you should just firlt with him a little more. like you do with other guys that you like. but dont talk about other guys beucause then he may think that you dont like him. hope this helps! good luck!
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