Gender:
FemaleOccupation:
PsychologistAge:
36Member Since:
June 29, 2011Answers:
263Last Update:
May 5, 2019Visitors:
17077Main Categories:
General Sex Questions
Job Searches
Adoption
View All
about
< I am a Christian and I am a mother >Hello all. I am a 36 year old married mother of three boys. I have my degree in Forensic psychology and business management- human resources, I work in social services while juggling my three children and a marriage. When I originally joined this community I was excited to get back into what I love and that is helping people through listening, understanding, and guidance. However I quickly found that through my desire to help others, others are helping me. I have found my advice column beyond rewarding. I have found myself getting extremely passionate about each and every question that I read and respond to. The more the questions the greater the connection I have found between people of all walks of life, ages groups, races, gender, and religion. What I have found to be our greatest bind is love. Love for others and the love of being loved.
advice
at my daughters school next year,(9th grade) in PE there will be a swim unit and boys and girls have it together? Why is this allowed? Wouldn't this make girls feel uncomfortable. Wouldn't boys use this opportunity to harass or humilate girls? Also, why are boys allowed to be shirtless in the presence of girls? Why is no sense of modesty maintained
I must say this is a very unique question. There is nothing out of the ordinary with this swim class. I've never heard of seperate pools or swim classes. Once you are in the water you really can't see anything but a face. As far as boys being shirtless it's actually a safety reason as to why they don't wear shirts. They can fill up with water and for the inexperienced swimmer they could drown.
If a girl were to feel uncomfortable I'm sure the school has ways to accomidate her fears or anxiety. Please do not worry. Based on the questions you have asked I have a feeling that you have brought your daughter up to be an intelligent and respectable young lady. Rest assured that she is there to learn and have fun in a manner that I am sure will be pleasing to you. If your schedule allows how about you stop by one of the swim classes and see exactly what is going on for yourself. I think this will ease your mind to know your daughter is learing a skill that is imparative to know and could oneday be used to save someones life. You might even want to consider taking swim lessons yourself. Everyone needs to learn to swim.
I'm so proud of you for being so concerned about every aspect of your daughter's life. You are obviously a great mother and I think you are raising a wonderful daughter. Don't worry and just relax. She will be fine.
so i have been crushing on my guy friend bryan from the day i saw him in 9th grade now were seniors. even though i have crushed on him for so long i have been in and out of relationships kinda waiting for him. he has been in a realationship for a year now. well they broke up i guess two weeks and i finnaly was brave enough to tell him how i felt he told me he'd been crushing on me to for a while. we started to go on a lot of dates for the past week. i knew i wanted to take it slow becuase they did just break up. well we had our first kiss then he took me home i was smitten. this is where the problem is his ex found out got really mad and called him begged him to go back out with her. so the next day he texts me saying he's sorry but he loves her and everything but how could he love her and have spent 6 days in a row leading me on then turn around and tell me we were just friends? how do i go back pretending we are only friends and i dont like him?
You hit the nail on the head. She will leave him again without a doubt. She is just playing games with him and he is dragging you and your feelings into it. What you naed to do is move on. Find someone else and when he comes crying begging you to be with him it will be too late. Trust me, he'll be back but please don't be there for him to use you and then walk away. He has already proven that he is capable of playing with your emotions only to leave you in the dust so don't let it happen again.
You are worth so much more than what he is putting you through. Let him see what he is missing out on by living your life, having fun, and accomplishing all your dreams and aspirations. You don't have time for his childish games. Find a man that knows what he wants and knows who he is. Bryan looks like a fool chasing after a girl who probably only wants him back because he started dating you. Sounds like he totally used you to get his attention. How pathetic is that. He'll be sorry. . .
I know this must hurt but please know how special you are and that you do not need to take this from anyone. Bryan will be a distant memory before you know it. Everything will be ok.
Okay My boyfriend claims he has hacked my phone which is pre paid and can see all who i text and call. I am very hypocritical to this. I have done a lot of research and everyone always says you have to pay for a service like that. i know dang well he didnt have the money for that, but he is smart with computers. My question is only for people who honestly know for sure if it is possible to do that? He always seemes to know what ive said and shit and he doesnt go near my phone usually. It is always in my sight if im around him. I know people are going to say i should dump him but that isnt my concern at the moment. Can he acutally hack and track my phone calls and texts like he says?
No, most likely he is trying to get your reaction. If he has access into your cell then it must be while you are sleeping or taking a shower. Be sure to keep your lock on and be sure the code is a random set of numbers that make no sense to anyone, just numbers that pop into your head.
Sounds to me like he is playing mind games with you and listening to your every word to catch you at any hand. He's insecure and searching probablly because he is up to no good.
Don't worry about it though he has no way into your cell phone messages.
I’m a 26 year old man form India; I have a sister of 21 year old. My sister broke up with her boyfriend a month ago.
But now my sister wants to have sex with me because she is really addicted in having sex.
So will she get pregnant if she has sex with me?
Especially she wants to have sex without a condom.
NO!!!!!, you can not have sex with your sister. THE END!
Question for you: In India is it normal for brothers and sisters to have sex with one another?
Am I emotionally cheating? I've been dating my boyfriend for 8 months and everything has been great. But there's a new guy I work with that I keep thinking about. What do I do? I don't want to think about or like this guy I work with, but for some reason I'm attracted to him. I still have feelings for my boyfriend though and I for sure want to be with my bf. What do I do? I don't want this to sabotage my relationship- I'd never cheat on my boyfriend physically but am I being dishonest to him by having another guy on my mind?
Yes, you are cheating. Sometimes we knowingly put ourselves in the position that ultimately becomes detrimental to our relationships. The key to your situation is to not allow ourselves to get that close. It is natural to be attracted to others by nature but if you avoid certain situations you can avoid problems. If you truly want to be with your boyfriend then just stay away from the other guy. The grass is always greener I've found out but in the end is only unhappiness searching for what you already had all along.
On the flip side of things perhaps you aren't ready to be a serious relationship. There is nothing wrong with that. Everyone should get out there and date, meet new people, and find out who they are first before they truly know who they want to spend their life with. Life is too short to be tied down to one person while your mind is on another. Perhaps it's an indication that your boyfiend just isn't meeting all your needs.
However, please be honest with your boyfriend if you do want to date other guys. I'm not saying to tell him you are thinking about someone else but let him know if your thoughts might turn into actions.
To me it sounds like this guy at work makes going to work all that more fun. Whats wrong with that? Enjoy yourself but be cautious and fair. I know you would never want anyone to get their feelings hurt through all of this. Best of luck and please enojoy life.
f/17
My mom is a hard working woman and she's already in her mid-fifties. She's also got a ton of health problems and my sister has severe depression, so my mom is always stressed and worried about things. She pays ALL of our bills and she cleans the entire house, she makes the food. And my father does nothing about it. He just lays around the house or goes to work, saves his money so he can spend it on himself, and then he talks crap about my mom to my little sister and I. It's outrageous!! They've been married for almost nineteen years! I mean, my father is Mexican and he never learned English, so he's a bit hindered in some places, but he could at least help pay the bills, even so, he doesn't! He told my sister that he's sick of paying all our bills and doing all the work, but he does nothing! And not to mention, he's almost as depressing as my sister and having him around her is just making her worse!
My mom keeps saying she'll kick him out, but I think she's too scared to. She'll be lonely and she doesn't want to hurt her husband. I understand this, but she's just hurting herself by doing this! I really want to help my mother, she's miserable now and I know she is, even though she smiles and says she's fine. She's just bottling it up. She broke down a while ago when she found out my dad had used some of her money to buy a new car or something like that. I'm not trying to sound heartless or anything, but my mom's husband has got to go. He treats everyone, not just my mom, like crap. He's even abused our dogs!! And, I'm not quite sure, but I THINK my dad MIGHT be saving money away to move out. I'm not quite sure, but there's no way I'm asking him. I don't talk to him very much. He's more like that annoying neighborhood kid to me than a father, which actually kind of makes me upset sometimes because I try and talk to him about things, but he just tries to start a pity party on how he's the hard worker and I just get so fed up with it... What can I do about this situation ):? I really want to help my mom because it actually sounds like she might hurt herself with all this stress... (According to her doctor, she's already had a heart attack because of all the stress last year and that's terrifying my sister and I.)
I am so sorry you are going through this. You do not deserve any of this and neither does your sister.
As horrible as your father may seem it isn't completely his fault. It is the duty of your mother to protect you and your sister. If your father is not carrying his own weight then that is something your mom should have already addressed with him. Obviously your mother is not in a position where she feels strong enough to stand up to him. This is so sad and I feel for her because sometimes situations can go on so long you almost feel like there is no way out. She's been with him for so long that it's almost like she is "comfortable" in a since. You know what I mean? Kind of like she's just so used to what life has been like for her it's frightening for her to imagine life any other way.
I think the best thing for you to do is love your mom, encourage her to gain strength to be the person she knows that she can be. Remind your mom that she is worth so much more than what her husband is putting her through. She is a strong woman and clearly can make it without him but until she believes it there is really nothing you can do. The good thing at least for you, is you are almost 18. You can go away to school or get a job and move out and remember to never let a man treat you the way your father has your mother. You, your mother, and sister are beautiful women who deserve to be happy and treated with respect. Stay strong for your mom and pull her through this. She needs you right now. As a mother myself I know that it must be breaking her heart that her daughters are so unhappy and that she allowed things to get so out of hand. Please know she doesn't want this for you all, she just hasn't figured out a way to change it yet. I'm sorry to say things may never change but I think all that you have been through will make you a stronger and wiser person. Lets pray that your mom will open her eyes and do right for you all and herself.
I am deeply sorry and hope things turn around for the better very quickly. You are a wonderful person and your mom is blessed to have you as a daughter.
I'm getting a six letter tattoo in cursive on my lower side area. Can I get a range of how much it will cost? and how bad does it hurt? Thanks!
Depending on the size but I would guess around $100 but perhaps as low as $60. But, remember you get what you pay for. If you go to a reputable artist you might pay more than you would like but you should not seek out a bargain. Tattoo artist are like any other artist. Their work means a lot to them (it's their art) and it's permenant. If someone quotes you a ridiculously low price be leary. I warn you, this is forever and you don't want a half ass job. As for the pain level, it WILL hurt. There is no getting around it. If you put it on a more fatty area it hurts even worse, keep that in mind. Don't drink alcohol before hand it does not help and actually makes it worse. The pain is tolerable and you will be fine. Believe me you will be back for more.
One last suggestion be very careful during the healing process. Do exactly what the artist tells you to do. I found A&D ointment to work very well. Stay out of the sun and don't scatch. I'm so excited for you. Good luck!
well i am 15 years old and theres this guy who comes up here during the summer, he is basically my neighbor and he likes me. I kinda like him too but i didnt want to start a relationship with him because he is my neighbor for the summer, but ive been hanging out with him for the past couple of weeks and we ended up kissing yesterday and we made out today. So now i feel bad because i didnt want to start anything with him but i really like him:/ should i stop or what should i do?
This sounds so sweet. Keep having fun but do not go all the way or do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. Since it's only for the summer the down side of things is that you are going to be crushed when he has to go back home so please keep that in mind. But, you are young so have fun and keep it safe. I wish I could go back to when I was 15. What a fun time. There is always facebook, webcam, and cell phones. Put them to use when he goes back home and then plan something for next summer. This is the time of your life. Good luck and please BE SAFE :)
5 years ago a guy found a red bump under his penis when he busted it it bled for a smoll while, and it never happennend again any idea why?
Sounds like a boil to me.
Hey I'm 13 and I hear people say how people from Canada are nicer than Americans and I was just wondering how theyre nicer. Is there less crime or racism or drugs or other bad stuff there so people just treat each other better? Or is it just that people there are more polite? Would you like to live in Canada? Is it better than the U.S? I'm from America but is Canada just like it us here or is it better?
I know there's a lot of questions. Sorry, I do that alot. Just answer what you can. :)
This is a great question! I too have been very interested in Canada. Have you ever seen Bowling fo Columbine. I think this particular movie (documentary) would be a good one for you to check out. It gives reasonning behind the differences between Canadian and American society. Please give it a watch. It can be kind of slow at times but it has very interesting information.
My opinion personally in regards to America Vs Canada is that American's are too money hungry. At a very young age we are taught that you NEED money and happiness comes with more money. Because of the stress of becoming financially stable or even wealthy is so strong here in America it causes for a lot of frustrated people and leads to anger then hate. Once we get this far we let things that are not real problems take over or focus. For example: lets say your family is poor. In America your whole life is geared towards getting out of that situation. If you can not come up quick enough people turn to other things to get where they need to be such as dealing drugs. Then the drug lifestyle brings in more crime, lies, and deception leading to viloence and murder. So, I think where American's can be some of the most caring, loving, giving people in the world the stress of living up to your dreams takes over and emphasis is placed on the negative. But, I think in Canada perhaps people aren't as money hungry. There government appears to look at the people almost like family. For example their health care/ they provide equal health care for all but here once again it's all about money.
I feel people from Canada may not have all that stress to succeed as we do so they have time to be happy and genuinely are because they don't have to worry about every little thing.
This is just my thoughts as I have never been to Canada, but I would love to visit Prince Edwards Island. I think it's beautiful in Canada.
Please check out that movie.
So all summer long my moms been complaining about how I haven't gotten a job.
I'm getting really sick and tired of listening to her constantly complain and belittle me because she's jealous that I'm on summer vacation and get to stay home while she works.
Every summer she treats me like crap and it's pretty much like being grounded for 3 months and i'm tired of sitting around because she never lets me leave the house and listening to her scream and whine and complain about how I "never do anything" and she even told me earlier it pisses her off to see me not working when she is and that just seeing my face or hearing me talk makes her angry.
So I went to the Barnes and Noble Website and downloaded an Application and now i'm filling it out and I intend to send it to them and I think I have a better chance at getting the job then most people do since I have a pretty much perfect school record along with being a certified associate of Microsoft Office and the Adobe Suite (they ask on the resume if you know how to work with Microsoft Word).
My only worry is that I'm only 16 (minimum age) but in a month and 14 days i'm going to be 17. I'm very charismatic and I've been a counselor at a camp for the past few years during the summer so I know how to deal with people as well. I'm also a member of FBLA and have the Presidents Volunteer Award among other certificates and I've taken "Leadership Training".
I don't see how it could be a bad idea so I think I'm going to just go ahead and do it even though I haven't asked my mother. I mean she's the one who always complains about me sitting at home "doing nothing" and has told me on multiple occasions that I need to get a job.
I'm filling my resume out on the computer so everything will be neat and tidy but I want to know, should I should put all of my achievements down on an extra sheet of paper and attach it to my resume or would that be overkill?
Any advice helps :)
Since you have never worked I would suggest putting as much info as you can. Honestly, I think you are doing a great job already without getting summer employment. You seem very intelligent and have already acheived more than a lot of adults. I really don't see a need for you to work this summer. You have the rest of your life to worry about that. What about going to a summer camp: basketball, swimming, or other fun activity? If your mother can pay all the bills on her salary why work at 16? I wouldn't.
Answer me this question though: When you are at home do you eat, lay around, mess up and never clean up. As a mother of three boys and a husband when I walk in the door from a long day and they are laying around with trash everywhere not helping with household chores I get mad too. Perhaps if you help out more around the house, cook your mom dinner a couple times here and there and give her time to settle in before you ask her something she will have a happier attitude towards you.
The simplest things can make a world of difference. If it's hot outside make her a giant cup of ice water have her favorit show on TV when she walks through the door. Then leave her alone for awhile. Once she rests up go to her and tell her how much you appreciate her and love her. Make her one of those little kiddy cards with a red construction paper heart. lol I'm serious..
Back to the resume. If you want you can send me the information you have and I will make you a resume. Let me know and good luck :)
In the past few years, I started listening to many types of music including hip hop and rap. I found out that I really enjoy listening to Eminem, but my dad is especially close minded about him. I know that he has some bad songs, but I believe that he is still a good person and does have some meaningful songs. How can I get my parents to understand my point of view of Eminem even if I am a Christian?
Find out what type of music your parents like. Then find information on some of the artists or find out some lyrics from the songs they like that happen to be bad. There are negative parts to all music. If you need help finding them send me a message on the type of music they like and I will help you. Then when I send you the information you can show your parents that there are bad in all areas but that doesn't mean EVERYTHING about it is bad including rap and hiphop. Also try showing your parents some positive rap like Will Smith for example. Everybody loves Will Smith. lol Perhaps you can introduce your parents to Christian rap.
At the end of the day before you know it you will be grown and moved on out of your parents house and you won't have to worry about it but I think it is GREAT that you have a good open relationship with your parents. Please know that they only want whats best for you as I'm sure you are aware so they want to keep anything negative away from you. They love you.I myself love Eminem's music but as a mother of three boys I really don't want them to hear all that. YOu know what I mean? So, it's all about love not trying to control you or limit your fun. Just the fear that one thing can lead to another. I think you're a good kid and I hope everything works out :)
Hi,
Thank you so much for your response to my question "Is it time to let my friend go?". You are right and I have now told my friend I want an indefinite break from all communications. She did not take it well but hey ho.
I have a problem with my old account - I can't log in so unfortunately I can't rate your answer. Sorry about that!
Thanks again for taking the time to answer :)
You are so welcome and thank you :)
My name is Amanda, and I have strong feelings for a guy I have known for almost five years. We were dating four years ago and we fell apart. It was all my fault and I know that. We were working on being together and his ex came back and wanted to be with him again. She cheated on him and lied to him. He told me and when I asked him what he was going to do he said that he was not sure. That hurt a lot because I had never done anything to betray him and he was thinking about choosing her. So I slept with his best friend. Now four years later I still want him and he is with someone else. We are friends but he can not trust me like that again. It kills me to see him with someoen else because I would give anything for him to be with me again. My question is how do I stay his friend when it hurts so bad? Is having him in my life worth the pain?
I think it is time to move forward with your life. When you first split up four years ago he clearly had moved on due to his action of bringing his ex back into the picture. When you asked him if he wanted to be with you or the ex and his response was uncertainty right then and there the option should no longer be up to him. It's unreasonable to expect you to wait around for him to figure out whom he wishes to be with. This isn't a game. It is your life, feelings, and emotions tied into all of this. As a stand up man he should have told you that either he could or could not accept what ever it is you did to break up the relationship and he needed to figure out if it was something he could look past.
My gut instinct it to guess that although you take complete responsibility for the problems in the beginning is it at all possible that he manipulated the situation and made it look to be all your fault. Rarely is it ever just onesided problems. I would lean towards wondering if he had feelings for his ex the entire time...
As far as you messing around with his bestfriend, seeing as he was his bestfriend I'm really wondering the circumstances surrounding how you guys ended up. It couldn't have been completely you coming on to him, so I wonder if your ex-boyfriend actually used what you did with his friend to justify stringing you along only to end up back with his ex?
Honestly I don't think you should feel too bad about all of this. It really sounds like somehow one way or another he manipulated the situation from the beginning to make you out to be the bad guy.
If I were you I would move on with my life. No need to be friends but for your own satisfation I would get out and meet new people and stop worrying about this guy. He wasn't worried about you when conviently his ex just pops back into the picture. There is so much more out there. I promise you. The moment you allow someone else into your heart time will pass so fast and you will laugh at yourself and wonder why on earth you were ever hung up on this guy. You see, too much has been said and done for you guys to ever really have a good relationship. No, having him as a part of your life is not worth the pain. What are you getting out of being just his friend? My guess is, not too much. I think you are wasting precious time when you can be enjoying so much more and finding someone who really appreciates you for you. Every relationship takes time and a lot of effort and it's not always going to be a walk in the park or all laughs and smiles so when you are faced with stuggles the tell, tell sign is to see how well you all can deal with adversity. If your new boyfriend seeks out companionship with an ex or other person rather than working things out with you and not involving others then you know somethig is not right. When you have disagreements thats the time to sit down and figure out how to fix the problem, not add to the problem by turning to someone else. Another thing, always be leary of someone who "just needs time to themselves". That statement rearely means what is said.
I hope this helps and please know you are worth so much more than all of this pain, drama, and confusion. You need a man who puts you first and treats you with the upmost respect no matter what problems mat arise. You are too good for this nonsense and any man would be lucky to have you.
Take care and let him go. You'll be ok I promise.
My girlfriend and I have been best friends from a young age. After a few dating fiascos on both our parts, we realized that we wanted to be with each other. We are 6 months into our relationship and we both couldn’t be happier…except for one thing. She works at a job which keeps her extremely busy for about 5 months in the year. During this time she gets some evenings off every other week, and about one weekend off a month. I’m at the point where I love her so much that I want to spend every second I get with her, but my 40 hour a week schedule doesn’t match up with her 95 hour a week schedule. I find myself getting frustrated with the lack of time I spend with her, and the lack of physical and emotional connection I feel with her working constantly. We spend less time together, talk/text less, and our sex life is pretty infrequent. I can’t be in a relationship that is like this nearly 50% of the year.
With how hard she works, she has been getting praises from her bosses, saying she can go anywhere within the company. Don’t get me wrong, I am happy for her and her career. But because of this, her talk of possibly finding something else has changed to talking about staying for several more years. What’s worse is the fact that this is very close to her dream job, and what she went to school for. The time I get to see her, my frustration goes away, but then when she’s away I hardly feel like I’m in a relationship.
How do I bring up just how dissatisfied I am with her schedule? This is literally the only thing wrong in our relationship. I feel like bringing it up at all would push her away from me. I will be the one telling her that she shouldn’t pursue her dream, and getting out would inhibit her career. How can I effectively talk to her about and maybe even fix the situation?
There is absolutely no reason why you should keep your feelings inside. You are a person with real feelings that deserve to be addressed. It sounds like you have invested a lot of time and emotion into such a wonderful girl. However, you must remember that this wonderful girl had dreams, goals, and inspirations set for herself which I'm sure is part of the reason you are so attracted to her. So, I think the best way to approach the situation is to find a time when you both can give 100% into the conversation and then you start off by telling her how proud you are of her and what a great job she is doing and express how happy you are that she is able to have a career that she enjoys because the majority of us never get that opportunity. Then you tell her how much you love her and how every moment without her feels like an eternity. If she expresses the same feelings for you after pouring your heart out then you can get a feel of what to say from there.
I would assume she will feel the same as you so once she makes her feelings clear I would tell her that you really want to move forward with the relationship and with her forever is where you want to be. If forever is how she feels as well then you can address the strain her work schedule is having on your relationship. But, please don't make her feel like she must choose between her career and your relationship. If the conversation ever leans that direction quickly pull it away and let her know that you are very happy for her and would never want to change that. But, suggest that if at all possible she cut back on some hours. I have no idea how she will respond but lets say she is completely against the idea. I think the best thing for you to do is get involved with other activities that fullfill your dreams and goals. I suggest that you please do not put your main focus on her if she is not willing to dedicate more time for you. You matter, and just because she has a wonderful job doesn't minimize your worth or take from the love you have to give. Look at it this way we as human beings can be "selfish". She may feel that she worked so hard to get where she is there's no way she's going to let anyone stand in her way. It sounds like she is almost addicted to work. And many people are and my guess is she is not going to change. So, you are probably going to have to accept her long hours. My question for you is this. You say there are no other problems in your relationship. However, because you spend very little time together is it possible you just may not have as much in common as you may think. I bet when you all do get together it's more like a vacation. It's all fun and a lot of sex but you never see the real her day in and day out. Do you think if you were to focus more on your own happiness and the things you like to do you will have less time to worry about not seeing her? My other question do you think it at all possible she is not working as much as she says but is actually seeing someone else. The reason I ask is because you say everything has become lessoned. Talk, text, and sex. If someone wants to make it work they will you know what I mean? I think once you tell her how you feel you will get a pretty good idea of where her head is. If she makes more time for you then thats a great thing but if she does not you might want to let her know that you are looking for more in a relationship and then open yourself up to someone else. Someone who appreciates the great person you are and the love and dedication you have to give. You deserve to be happy. Don't let the actions of others dictate your happiness. You are someone wonderful and if she can't see that or if work is just that much more important that you know where you stand. Please don't spend your life unhappy waiting on her. Life is too short for that and there are so many other people out there to enjoy life with.
I hope this helps at all and I wish you the best. I'm so sorry love can't be easier :(
My boyfriend have been dating for a month now. Within a week of us dating, my mom brought up sex. She is extremely tight on that subject, because I've had sex before and she got very angry when she found out, but she said a while ago, "You can have sex with John.......as long as we go to a doctor first and get you all set."
I was taken aback... because I never expected that. I only nodded since I didn't wanna make her suspicious or jump into it too quick. I'm wondering if she is just joking, or is she really serious? What do you think? And if I wanted to have sex with my boyfriend (not yet of course,) how would I bring it up without it having to be so awkward??
Thanks!
As a mother myself, I am quite sure your mom is very serious. However, what is the hurry? There is so much more to do out there than have sex. You have the rest of your life for that. I don't want you to regret your decisions as I have. If I could go back I definately would have waited until I was married. These guys out here do not deserve to be so intimate with you. You are worth so much and never let anyone make you feel less than the queen you should be treated like.
Please talk with your mom and be open and honest with her. She loves you and only wants the best for you. If you decide to get on birth control please know that this doesn not mean you must have sex.
I think the best way to bring it up with your mom is to tell her that you are not looking to have sex anytime soon but you would like her to take you to the doctor to hear your different birth control options. I'm sure she will understand and this will start an open line of comunication.
Good luck and please be responsible.
Hello. I'm 20 f and I've been single for about 3 years. I don't know why. I've been told that I'm very beautiful and I think I'm a fun person. I thought that because three days I've been feeling do lonely, I could ask a good friend of mine to find me a match. Not to force anything just one date or something. But I feel kind of embarrassed. I don't have many girlfriends and maybe its just awkward because my friend is a guy but a very nice person. I just want to broaden my horizons and expand my love life and this person can help me. I just don't know how to ask him. Thank u!
Are you at all interested in your good friend? Sometimes the perfect person is right there all along. However, if he is not someone of interest to you I do think it's a great idea to have him fix you up with someone. Dating websites are an option but can be dangerous. If your friend knows the person then at least you can feel at ease but also your friend knows your likes and dislikes so he'll be able to fix you up with someone of similar interests.
Don't be too much in a hurry. I've heard that it's when you stop looking that "mr. Right" shows up. Enjoy your single life. You are young and the sky is the limit. Travel, hang out with friends, take up some hobbies, join a sports team. . . you might find someone who enjoys the same things as you. If you are going to college or working that may be an option as well.
Hang in there.
The guy that I think is "the one" is moving 1,959 miles away from me and I having a hard time imagining life without him, sure we tease each other but it will never be the same without him. Also I don't know whether to tell him if I love him so much that I can't live without him or wait to see what happens. He is also my best guy friend and we have a very strong friendship. We talk to each other about everything and I really need some advice before I get too depressed. Please anyone? :'(
You may be surprised to find out how he feels. But if he truly has no feelings it's best to maintain your friendship visit when you can but live it up now. Meet new people enjoy your life, discover new things. Trust me- right now is the time of your life. You don't want to look back regreting the time you wasted stressing over someone 1,959 miles away. I know it hurts right now; but let me share a story with you. Ok, I was three month pregnant living with my fiance planning my wedding when out of the blue he left me never to return never to see him again. I thought my life was over but look at me now. I'm happily married and thank the Lord everyday that he saw fit for this other guy to disapear out of my life and brought me the real love of my life. Basically I was a wreck. Crying non stop for a couple weeks but the pain faded and fast. I know you probably can't sleep, eat or get your mind to stop thinking about this but I promise you with time you will be ok. I PROMISE. Before you know it a year will have passed and you'll be doing your own thing.
I am a 13 yearold girl who loves clothes, shoes and all that stuff. :) I need a job and modeling would be really fun and exciting cause I love to try on clothes. Modeling for magazines and websites. Runway would be a little too much and scary for me but if anyone knows good places to or how to get started. That would help and is appreciated. (: the closet big city to me would probably be Boston, MA. so if anyone knows some places or some people that are for real. Please give me there name, what they need, how i can meet them, if there's a cost and everything else needed to know about it. Thanks ! :)
My suggestion for you is to actually get a portfolio made. You are going to want a reputable photographer take a LOT of different and unique photos of you. You want to show that you are diverse and can give the look the client is looking for. You need to research what they are looking for and get some pictures that fit that discription. Once you have a good portfolio done you need clothes. You need an array of different types of clothing from simple and elegant to out landish plus a good pair of heals. Then you need to go to NY and go to as many agencies that you can find and literally knock on their doors and prove yourself. Let me give you an example: You want to do a Macy's commercial or print ad. You contact Macys and ask what agency they go through to find their talent. They will give you the name and so you call the agency and set up a time to show your portfolio or you can go straight to the agency and knock on the doors yourself.
As far as money- if anyone asks for money DO NOT GIVE THEM ANY MONEY. You are going to be working for someone and they are to give you money. The only money you need to shell out is for your pictures. Even if they tell you it's just a one time fee or a small fee or you can make payments. It is a SCAM!!
On the other side of things, you can not show any client that you are afraid to do runway or anything else. Whatever they ask tell them you can do it with confidence. Suck up those nerves and DO IT. Don't be afraid, you will be fine.
There is one exception to this rule. NEVER EVER pose nude for anyone no matter what. Even when you are 25 years old, if that is what they are looking for you tell them "your body is worth more than money" then run away. Never do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable or that you would be ashamed for your mother to see. You are a wonderful girl and you must command respect from yourself and everyone else.
Now back to the NY trip. Be prepared to be there for a good month.( this summer would be great) These things take time and once everything falls into place be prepared to move. Don't let the agency know you are from out of town until you have signed the contract. They are more likily to choose someone local over an out of towner.
I wish you the best of luck!
P.S. check out this website http://www.wilhelmina.com/divisions_kids.cfm
Below is the direct link to apply
http://www.wilhelmina.com/become_model_submit_photos.cfm
im 18/f
i'm currently in a relationship with an amazing guy. he's the first boyfriend i've ever had and the first person iv'e had any sexual contact whatsoever with. I also recently lost my virginity to him as well, and he wore a condom both times we've had sex.
Since we've started dating we had many discussions about sex and protection, and we both decided it would be a smart idea for me to go on the pill. However now that i actually might have to go on it, i'm having second thoughts...
You see, a year and a half ago i started to get EXTREMELY bad period pain that would leave me bedridden for up to 2 days. My period ever since i got it when i was 13 has always been irregular. The pain went away for about 4 or so months, however the irregularity was still there. My mum said back when i first got those pains a year ago that i might have to go on the pill, it was the only option left (we tried everything to lessen the pain and whatnot) however i was scared to go on it back then knowing how much weight my friends put on and their rapid mood swings. I have just lost over 19 kilo's that im proud of losing and the last thing i want is to put it back on. plus i like my personality and i dont want the mood swings or anything to change really.
but now that i have a boyfriend, i also want to be protected sexually from getting pregnant, i want to be very safe. Today i got my period, and im currently bedridden due to the extreme pain that im in at the moment. like i mentioned earlier the pain subsided for 4 months or so and now its back. Mum thinks i should go to the gynocologist and get checked out, and thinks that i may have to go on the pill.
and even though the pill would be bennificial to my period AND my new sex life, i cant help but not want to go on it due to the side effects that i may/may not get.
i dont know what to do
First thing is first you need to go to the gynocologist. My fear is that there is something more going on that you are not aware of. It is not good to have irregular periods. This irregularity can be do to several things but fibroids or ovarian cysts are quite common for those with irregular and painful periods. It can be treated but you must see a doctor so that it does not get worse.
Ok, birth control is a great option. Weight gain through birth control really shouldn't be your concern if you are considering the pill. You see those that gain weight from the pill only gain about 5 pounds if that. If you do not increase your food intake you won't gain weight. You may have increased hunger from the hormones but as I said if you maintain your normal diet you should be fine. Now one thing about the pill is that it can may you feel sick for the first few months. But, there are several different kinds and some are better than others. I found that taking your pill at night is the best time as far as lessoning the sick feeling you can get with the pills. Another great thing about the pill is you can get the kind where your period only lasts a couple of days or even get the kind where you have no period for months.
Sounds like you are a very intelligent woman and I am so proud of you for taking steps to be responsible and not throwing caution to the wind when I know it can be so easy to do in the heat of the moment when you are in love. You are doing a GREAT job! Please go see the doctor. I'm sure everything is ok but it's always best to error on the side of caution.