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She's usually not so open about sex...
My boyfriend have been dating for a month now. Within a week of us dating, my mom brought up sex. She is extremely tight on that subject, because I've had sex before and she got very angry when she found out, but she said a while ago, "You can have sex with John.......as long as we go to a doctor first and get you all set."
I was taken aback... because I never expected that. I only nodded since I didn't wanna make her suspicious or jump into it too quick. I'm wondering if she is just joking, or is she really serious? What do you think? And if I wanted to have sex with my boyfriend (not yet of course,) how would I bring it up without it having to be so awkward??
Thanks!
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Your mother is being serious. And thats because she really cares about you. Most mothers, wouldnt have been so cool so consider yourself lucky. My mom did this to me when I had my first boyfriend. She just didnt want me to become pregnant, and thats how your mother feels too. If you do decide you want to have sex with your boyfriend, approach your mom. Tell her "Mom, I know you wanted me to come to you, when I decided I was ready to have sex. And i have been thinking about it. Can you help me set up a Drs. appointment?" and she would also really love it if you asked her to go with you. It makes her feel like you still need her. But you shouldnt be in any rush to have sex. I am 20 years old, engaged, and am still a virgin. But everyone is different and I am glad your handling this maturely.
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As a mother myself, I am quite sure your mom is very serious. However, what is the hurry? There is so much more to do out there than have sex. You have the rest of your life for that. I don't want you to regret your decisions as I have. If I could go back I definately would have waited until I was married. These guys out here do not deserve to be so intimate with you. You are worth so much and never let anyone make you feel less than the queen you should be treated like.
Please talk with your mom and be open and honest with her. She loves you and only wants the best for you. If you decide to get on birth control please know that this doesn not mean you must have sex.
I think the best way to bring it up with your mom is to tell her that you are not looking to have sex anytime soon but you would like her to take you to the doctor to hear your different birth control options. I'm sure she will understand and this will start an open line of comunication.
Good luck and please be responsible.
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Of course she is being serious she doesnt want you to end up pregnant at a young age with no way to take care of a child. Maybe you should go talk with her now and tell her you want to get on birth control for just in case purposes that way if you do end up having sex then you will be prepared just sit down with her and tell her its not going to be easy talking about sex with you mom give everyone an odd feeling but dont worry you can do it !! :)
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