I'm a third year psychology student and i love giving advice to those who are in need of it but if you ask me a stupid question you should expect a stupid answer i love hanging out with friends and socialising i can be really conceited at times and if you get on my bad side you might wanna sleep with an eye open!
Altogether I would say that I am still finding myself and my place in this huge world, searching for the great amor and visiting beautiful places
so guys feel free to ask me anything that's on your mind and I will try to give you the most helpful advice
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My parents were divorced at the age of two.
I am an only child. and my mommy has always been a single hardworking mom.
My mom began to work night shifts when i was 12 years old. At that age i was still what you could call innocent. i had no intention what so ever of doing anything "wrong". After i turned thirteen i began watching porn while my mother was gone. i started meeting waaaay older guys and since they had cars i would invite them to my house. that all began around december. at first it was just making out. and during the month of december and january it was with only one guy. in the middle of january i met another older guy and he too began coming to my house at night. around february i made the biggest mistake of my life. i lost my virginity.
loosing my virginity was the worst thing i have ever done. but i didnt know what to do. when ever i had sex it made me feel loved,needed,understood. and i never had that type of feeling since i was always alone. from february to may i had sex with more than 10 different guys all of which were older than 20. By june i had had sex numerous times. and the worst part is i would hardly ever use protection. No one ever knew about this because no one would ever believe me capable of doing such a thing.i am a straight "A" student and i look like an innocent bright and kind girl which i use to consider myself to be. in june i decided to move to mexico since i have family over here. soo i had the oppurtunity to have a fresh start. luckily my mom never caught me doing anything. but i feel terrible. my innocence was completely gone in less than 3 months. i did things far too horrible to even describe. you guys have no idea how bad i feel. i know most of you are thinking what a slut! and i know i deserve it. but i promise im not a bad person. i was simply a confused, lonely girl that didnt know the definition of love. Thank God i am now living in Mexico and am proud to say i have changed dramatically and am a whole new person.i have not had sex in 6 months! which is a major accomplishment. i thank god every day that i didnt get pregnant. but girls please be smart and learn from my mistakes. some of you might not be so lucky and end up with a huge responsibility that you have to deal with for the rest of your life.
Think Twice.. (link)
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it's really sweet that you posted that, i'm sure you wanted to let all your feelings out i've also been through a tough time so thanks and you shouldn't get yourself too down about it because it was your past everybody makes mistakes and they learn from them and so did you that's so admirable
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Im 14 years old and i do not eat Vegetables i do but very rarely! i do eat junk food alot but! i've been staying away from it now. but still i dont eat vegables! i do eat fruit and im very worried about geting a heart attack at 17 i dont know how high my cholesterol is!my mom tells me im to young to worry about that so what should i do! (link)
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haha i understand but think about some parents and why they force their children to eat vegetables it's because it's really good it's funny how all the bad tasting stuff is actually really good for you i think you should cut off the junk food a bit because i believe that it would affect you later on in life and plus it's really bad for your skin don't stop completely that would affect you just cut down a bit some vegetables like carrots, lettuce, cucumbers and most greens dont taste that bad and are really good for you
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Thank you for taking the time to look over this, I was wondering I'm not a person who is a member of the church but I do believe there is something waitin for us on the other side, but I want to know, awhile back I attempted killing myself , because I did this did it send me to hell once I die? (link)
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well it is a sin in christianity to commit suicide or even try to, but god loves everybody equally and will forgive you for your past mistakes remember he sees everything you won't go to hell and if you do pray, pray and ask him for forgiveness you won't go to hell unless you know deep down in your heart that you are sorry for doing it and then again do we really even know if there is a heaven and a hell?
hope i helped you out
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My ex boyfriend (who broke up with me 3 months ago) text me saying he still loves me and can't get over me. But he isn't sure what he wants. He apologised for how he's treated me since we broke up and the day later he text me again saying he did mean what he said yesterday.
I'm so confused :/ What does he want? Attention? (link)
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i personally think that this is just a typical guy thing he probably wanted to see your reaction to this to see if you're still in love with him i think that by now he would know what he wants because remember absence makes the heart grow fonder so he shouldn't really be confused if he wanted you back honestly he would have did something about it by now i understand its hard but i think you gotta try and forget about him it's for the best
best of luck
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Ok! So I'm a junior and i like this freshman kid (please, no comment!. I didn't really like him until I started thinking he liked me. Of course, now that I do, I'm not sure if he likes me or not! I know this is very juvenile, but when we're on facebook chat he never says hi, and I texted him one time and he said gave be an enthusiastic hi but then that he was busy and he never texted me after that. Is that a definite no (that he doesn't like me)- should i try and get over him? I just dont know because he flirts with me like crazy in person...So frustrating! (link)
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well he's just being one of those guys that flirts with you whenever he feels like it honestly most guys are like that but we just have to deal with it, now truth time:
if he really did like you he would want to speak to you all the time even if it is on facebook so it's like he does't even care and probably thinks that he is obligated to flirt with you when he sees you in person, personally i think you should get over him because he's acting real immature and don't you think that if he really liked you he would have asked you out by now? so my advice would be to forget about him he sounds like trouble
best of luck
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Hello, So I met this guy(derek) in 6th grade (I'm now getting ready to go to college) and I liked him a lot, we lost our virginity to each other and whatnot. He never wanted to date me and so i figured he just wanted me for sex.Deep down i thought he liked me because we would talk all the time and he cheated on every girlfriend he ever had for me but like i said..didn't want to date me. Mid 10th grade,he got serious with a girl and it broke my heart.He stopped talking to me and eventually after lots of time,i got over him and started to move on. Around 11th grade,him and the girlfriend broke up and he began talking to me again,i was so happy but i knew it was wrong so I wrote him a letter basically saying how i love him and if it's never gonna be,then to never talk to me again. I found a new boyfriend (garrett) and dated him for 5 months and was so happy.Me and Garrett broke up ,and Derek started talking to me again. He would call me constantly ,and text me all the time ,and i didn't have feelings for him so i'd barely write back and just didn't care.One night,he convinced me to hangout with him and he poured out his feelings to me telling me how much he really likes me and how jealous he was when i was with Garrett. I decided to give him another chance at friendship,and my feelings came back again. It's been a few months were we are on talking terms and he seems to be so confident and doesn't treat me right. He tells me he likes me and still treats me like shit.He never wants to hang out,only to have sex.He is rude to me and just makes me unhappy.I've told him to stop talking to me and then a few days later ,he'll talk to me again and i fall for it because I like him so much. I'm trying to get him out of my life for the better,but I don't know how to go about it. We see eachother every day and it's so hard to deny his phonecalls like i used to.help! (link)
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well judging from what you wrote this guy is obviously using you for sex and you know it, guys usually call this type of thing a spare wheel i'm sorry but thats what hes doing to you he comes to you whenever he feels like having sex this is really cruel so what are you even doing with this guy, you deserve way beter and as hard as it may be for you, you have to tell him to get lost this guy is going to ruin your life and speaking honestly once you tell him to leave you alone hes going to start to make you look bad and spread rumours so you need to prevent that somehow like get some form of blackmail on him or something but its really important that you stop seeing him you don't deserve this
best of luck
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12/m
ok so theres this guy who i really like. he is nice sweet. yells out that im beautiful in the middle of class. has asked me out twice. texts me almost everyday even thought it cost him 40 cents a text and he is really nice. but ive had 2 say no wen he asked me out because my parents wont let me have a boyfriend. he even said hell wait 2 years 2 be able 2 go out with me in high school what should i do??? and i cant go out with him and not tell my parents because 1.) i wont b able 2 go on any dates with him
2.)if my parents find out ill lose my fone my ipod my tv tha laptop tha computer ect.
so please help me. thankyou (link)
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i know what you're going through because i am 17 and my parents wont let me have a boyfriend! so you should meet up with him like go out with your group of girl friends to the mall or something and tell him to meet you there and anyways you'll get to see him in school its hard but the truth is your parents will never agree to it at this age so for now you'll just have to see him in school and whatever chance you get out of school try not to get caught!
best of luck
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You are requested to name the most effective sleeping pills availabe easily at medical store.
For a further note, i am not mental illing problem or any domestic prob., I am 38 yrs male indian, single, doing pvt. job, just fed up from living unmeaningly life with unwanted issues which are not even relate to me.
Thats why, I want to take it for easy suicide. If you think I need any guidance to live, just ignore the massage.
Thanks (link)
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i'm really sorry for whatever has driven you to want to commit suicide but i don't think i can help you out with your question as we are not allowed to give out that kind of advice, for every problem there is a solution and i'm sure you can find yours maybe you shouldn't i'm sure you're a great person and you juat need to let your feelings out
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I am 15 years old. Ever since I can remember, I have been unhappy - including my early childhood, which was filled by drunk and uncaring parents. I was sexually abused by my step brother for 2 years, and when I tried to tell my parents, they threatened to send me to a therapy session for 'false memories.' I grew up a quiet and introverted child, and I could never change my ways. I have always been filled with this guilt, sadness, and hatred, which led to me wanting to commit suicide. I hate speaking about my past. However, I want to learn how to open up and let people in - to trust them. I want to not worry about what they might think and to just move on. How do I do that? (link)
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first of all i'm really sorry it sounds like you had a terrible childhood and to be honest with you if you don't speak to someone about this and open up, your past will haunt you for the rest of your life and you will never be able to trust people, the fact that your parents don't want to believe you is a problem so you need to speak to someone else that you trust and tell them about your step brother, maybe another close relative someone that your parents are going to listen to you should even try going to a shrink because this will impact your life dramatically if you don't let it out soon
best of luck
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k;; well me nd this guy have been dating 2 months;; we have only made out but talked about him fingering me; he felt me up nd he played with me down there many times he tried getting farther but i stopped him;; we were at the movies nd he felt me up;; the started ggoin down;; i felt a little uncomfortable then he just started fingering me ;; then i felt good i let him keep doing it;; i finallly stopped him; im 13 am i a slut? (link)
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when you refer to someone as a slut it would usually be one of those girls that sleep around with a ton of guys so you're not a slut however don't you think that you are a little young to let this guy feel you up i understand that you are growing and want to experiment but you have your whole life ahead of you to think about sex so for now concentrate on things that really matter and enjoy your life because if you do end up sleeping with this guy and you two break up he's going to start talking about you and you will be referred to as a slut
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sees her to help fix her house (link)
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fix her house? wow that just sounds like an excuse i don't mean to make assumptions but since she's his ex why is he helping her out you probably get what i'm trying to say speak to him about it because i personally don't think that this is okay
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I have almost lost my voice and I have a big play coming up HELP ME!!!!! (link)
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try a quarter cup of warm water with two teaspoons of honey and one teaspoon cinnamon powder and a few drops of lemon juice drink twice a day it always helps me
best of luck
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Is it a bad thing if i never got my cherry popped? (link)
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no it's not a bad thing at all unless you are like in your thirty's or something but if you're not you should be really proud because there are a lot of girls including me that regret popping their cherries
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If you're going to tell me that this is wrong, stupid, immature, against God's wishes (I'm an Athiest) and/or to be myself, please don't respond.
There is this girl that I really dislike in school. She is fake and very annoying. I guess you could call her my "frenemy" in a way. We're friends and be talk but I secrety hate her. How can I make her jealous? (link)
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well you can try and find out who she has a crush on and hang out with that guy or just like seriously out dress her or something make sure guys notice just you when you two hang out if she does have a crush find out where he's hanging out and go with your frienemy but don't tell her that he's going to be there tell her it's not a very smart place so she won't really dress and you can bump into this guy there and he'll notice just you! hope this helps
best of luck
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Hi all
My ex boyfriend broke up with me 4 months ago, I still really wanted to be with him but he didn't show any signs of wanting to get back together, although he said he "still wanted to be with me" and he "still loved me" He was upset when I said I didn't want to speak anymore, I felt I couldn't move on if we still spoke. I started seeing a new guy recently, and my ex boyfriend found out. He text me saying "I know you are seeing other guys so there is nothing I can do but you never know what will happen" I said what do you mean? He said "Things change, you don't know what will happen in the future. You could break up with him and then we get back together"
Why would you say that to someone you don't want to be with???? (link)
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your ex boyfriend just seems like he expected you to still want him and ask for another chance he didn't think you would move on so fast so this makes him a little jealous you'll see sooner or later he will start dating girls just to prove a point to you if he really wanted you he would have done something about it by now so show him that you no longer have interest it's for the best
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I'm 15/f and my bf is 17... sorry if this is long bt i really need help..
okay so i have a daughter she is my world she will be two tommorrow and my bf (baby daddy) abuses me everyday for no reason we live together i got kicked out of my house when i was 13 my mom died when i was 12 and my dad wanted nothing to do with me so i moved in with my bf Dametrious i love him so much we have been threw hell we been together for three years. he hits me hard he leaves bruises and scares yesterday he burned me with the iron i have tears running down my face as i write this he hurts me really bad he got mad because some guy texted me saying that he got my numb off of myspace and my didnt believe him ! im scared that if i keep letting him hurt me then he will hurt my daughter too !! he slaps me in front of her calls me a bitch he spit in my face i have no where to turn what do i do? i have no family!! and all my friends cut me off when they found out that i was preg. ohh ya and my bf cheats on me all the time like about a week ago he brought some girl named asia over our house and told her i was his sister and my daughter was his niece !!!! wtf?? im really crying right now how could he do this to me ? and after that he went upstairs and had sex with her i know because you could hear them !!! what do i do !!!! help ! (link)
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oh my word okay i'm sure you don't want to hear this but you really need to leave him he treats you this way because he knows that you have nowhere else to go and the fact that he is hitting you in front of your two year old daughter will really really affect her later on in life and she will probably behave in the same manner please for the sake of your child try to find woman shelters around where you stay you really don't deserve to be treated this way your boyfriend is a real JERK if you continue staying with him he would most probably end up killing you please try and seek help there are many organisations that can help you nobody should live this way
i'm really sorry
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okay me and my ex boyfriend had a fall out about 7 weeks ago and we ended up breaking up. i was completely heartbroken and he seemed to be too. we stayed friends for a while but recently we just stopped speaking. so anyway i went on a date with this guy from my work and my brother told my ex i had. when i spoke to my ex next he was like thats hurt me, i dont suppose there is anything i can do though. i said well i wanted to get back together with you and you wouldnt so im just moving on with my life. he said well i know youre talking to other guys now. i said well im single so i can speak to as many as i want to. its your loss at the end of the day. like a couple of days later my brother told me hes just gone crazy now likes hes out trying to kiss lots of girls and just literally flirting with any girl he comes across. obviously it hurts because i still love him and ive gone on a couple of dates but im not behaving like he is. do you think hes doing it to ease the pain or something? i just wanna make it clear that im not saying what he is doing is wrong, its his life and no longer anything to do with me, but id hate to think what id said to him had caused this (link)
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well i personally think that it is just a pride thing the fact that you moved on before him makes him envious which is why he's going girl crazy trying to in a way compete with you remember if he really did love and cared about you he would've done something about it by now and not try to compete with you so just try and show him that his behaviour doesn't affect you and tell him that you're happy he's moving on if it were meant to be you two would be together remember you have your whole life ahead of you and there is surely someone out there that you would spend the rest of your life with, it just takes time
best of luck
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i want to find out a job for the future but i have so much interest to pick from.i just cant think of what my future job will be.how can i pick the best one. (link)
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you should try going to a few colleges and take a personality test this helps a lot in deciding what you want to become because they give you results in helping you choose a career that best suits your personality and you should remember that never just choose something because the money is big well unless you would like doing it because the career that you choose is what you would spend the rest of your life doing and if you do somethinng you don't enjoy you would never be good at your job
best of luck
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i am 11 yeas old and i asked him out and my bff asked him out after i did and he sed yes what shold i do ???????????????????????????????? (link)
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you didn't mention if your friend knew that you asked him out before she did if she did know that doesn't sound like a very good friend to me she probably wants to make it seem like she's better than you and will hold it over you forever speak to her about it first and let her know that it was wrong it's not really worth ruining your friendship over
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I have been with a long distance girlfriend for 9 months. I really love her but, she seems to be too clingy. She expects me to talk to her 24/7 and if i don't, even for less than an hour, she will flip out and not wanna talk to me for the rest of the day/night. She will talk to me again the next day though so its alright i guess. She doesn't have any trust in what i do, because she found out i lied to her about a small thing to go out and that's the problem. I'm trapped in my house, with no time to go out with friends, or even go out just by myself. She keeps me stuck in my room, and i barely even see her. If she was with me every second i would be okay. I'm sick of just staying home alone all day and not getting to do what i love to do. I know she loves me but it's getting real hard to handle. In my opinion a relationship should not sacrifice this much of my normal life. I don't want to break up with her because she's the only person i have to talk to, and she's beautiful, kind, caring, and respectful. Why is she so clingy yet 200 miles away? Should I break up with her? I could probably find someone better and much closer. But i don't want to break her heart and I'm really trying to stay with her forever.
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well sincing its a long distance relationship she is bound to be clingy but it really doesn't give her the right to tie you down like that communication is the key you need to let her know how you feel assure her that you wanna be a normal guy and go out but remember to mention that you're not going with the intention of meeting other girls and if she doesn't respect this then maybe she's not the right one for you because eventually you will get tired of this and realise you don't wanna be with her
good luck
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