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same guy for 6 years!
Hello, So I met this guy(derek) in 6th grade (I'm now getting ready to go to college) and I liked him a lot, we lost our virginity to each other and whatnot. He never wanted to date me and so i figured he just wanted me for sex.Deep down i thought he liked me because we would talk all the time and he cheated on every girlfriend he ever had for me but like i said..didn't want to date me. Mid 10th grade,he got serious with a girl and it broke my heart.He stopped talking to me and eventually after lots of time,i got over him and started to move on. Around 11th grade,him and the girlfriend broke up and he began talking to me again,i was so happy but i knew it was wrong so I wrote him a letter basically saying how i love him and if it's never gonna be,then to never talk to me again. I found a new boyfriend (garrett) and dated him for 5 months and was so happy.Me and Garrett broke up ,and Derek started talking to me again. He would call me constantly ,and text me all the time ,and i didn't have feelings for him so i'd barely write back and just didn't care.One night,he convinced me to hangout with him and he poured out his feelings to me telling me how much he really likes me and how jealous he was when i was with Garrett. I decided to give him another chance at friendship,and my feelings came back again. It's been a few months were we are on talking terms and he seems to be so confident and doesn't treat me right. He tells me he likes me and still treats me like shit.He never wants to hang out,only to have sex.He is rude to me and just makes me unhappy.I've told him to stop talking to me and then a few days later ,he'll talk to me again and i fall for it because I like him so much. I'm trying to get him out of my life for the better,but I don't know how to go about it. We see eachother every day and it's so hard to deny his phonecalls like i used to.help!
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well judging from what you wrote this guy is obviously using you for sex and you know it, guys usually call this type of thing a spare wheel i'm sorry but thats what hes doing to you he comes to you whenever he feels like having sex this is really cruel so what are you even doing with this guy, you deserve way beter and as hard as it may be for you, you have to tell him to get lost this guy is going to ruin your life and speaking honestly once you tell him to leave you alone hes going to start to make you look bad and spread rumours so you need to prevent that somehow like get some form of blackmail on him or something but its really important that you stop seeing him you don't deserve this
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If you're completely serious about not wanting to be with this guy, then you have to be more than serious with him. Tell him you don't want to associate with him, if he really likes you, he wouldn't treat you that way. Seems to me he definitely just wants the sex. Tell him you won't have sex with him anymore, and don't want to do anything with him. Say it's beyond your nature and don't want to go any farther with him, and that any relationship you ever had with him is over. If he keeps calling and texting you, have his number blocked, or delete it. I know you've said you've tried ignoring it, but if you really don't want to be hurt, even though you really like him, then you have to let him go. Both of you should go your separate ways, and tell him that. If he keeps bothering you, then all I can say is get angry with him, if you act like a complete bitch to him he'll leave you alone. Deny his every want from you, and when he calls you answer saying "stop calling me, bye derek" and hang up. everytime. no matter what he tries to tell you to keep you around. You can't fall for guys like that girl, it'll be better without him. Hope this helped!
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