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Q: My friend and I have been growing apart, you know it happens. Well, she has other freinds that I know, and some are my actual friends. And now that me and her aren't that good of freinds anymore, I am worried she is going to tell her friends all of my secrets I told her in the past. What should I do?

well you should know her well enough that you could tell if she is going to tell people your secrets.but if you think that she really was your best friend then she wont tell your secrets.if she does then she was never yur friend to begin with friends never tell friends secrets(i learned that the hard way )and hey if sher tells to embarassing of a secret im sure you know some of her secrets as well.let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: okay well my best friend told me that anotheror one of my frinds sisters is well....a prostatute.
i didnt believe it at first but i assure u its tre, shees about 17 and dropped out of college after a year and well she workes in a a local mall, but shees a prostatute aswell, now i really dont want tohurt my friends feelings but i want to tell him aswell so he can sort it out so do i tell him or not?

deffinitly tell him,but be very nice about it so he dosnt feel inbarrassed.maybe he or you could help her get out of prostitostion.its a very dangerous buissness
let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: agh i need help pranto!!! well i woke up this morning and everything was fine so then i decided to put ice cubs on my face IDK WHY! i guess i read somewhere that if u do the redness from a blemish goes away??? well after putting the ice cubes on my face got even more red!!! and school starts tomrorow!!! and after the ice cubes i put make up on to try to cover it up but then i didnt wnat to clog up my pores so i fashed my face with an acne scrub then wied it with acne wipes and put acne lotion on but it got EVEN MORE RED!! now i dont know what to do and AGHH IM PANICINING!! because tihs never happened before.... welll one time before when i used this spa treatment thing?? PLEASE HELPPPP!!!

you could use baby oil or baby lotion on.make sure that the product you use dosnt ave anything you are illergic to in it though
let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: well i like my cousin and he likes me to and i like him because he is really sweet to me and treats me different than other guys. and he lives in mexico and i live in california so as u can see we arent really close cousins. the first time i met him was 2 summers ago and from then we liked each other but we know we can't b together but we want to be together.
wat should i do ?

i dont thin nk you should go out with him cuz your family but if you really like him you could write to him,or talk to him n the phone,or deside to take trips to see each other.its up to you
but if you deside to tell your family be carefull with how you put it
let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: we got our school pictures back today. and i have no idea what to write on the back. what are some cute things to write. by the way im a girl and in 10th grade.

you could say like have a great summer,nice pics,thanks for being here,your a great friend,i love you,you rock
you could also really make it personal with your own little jokes or something that happened written on it
just do whatever you feel like doing
let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: Well me and my bf have been going out for about 3 weeks and I think I just might get my first kiss. But im really nervous. When the kiss is over I dont know what to do or say? Please help! Im so nervous.

there is alot of things you can do and say
you could say your a good kisser
or you could smile
or you could laugh
or you dont have to say or do anything
let me know how it all works out
lots of love
lizzie

Q: I think I'm completely disregarding my social life right now, to the point that I am extremely lonely. I have had one really close friend since elementary school and she was like the ONLY person I ever hung out with or had sleep overs with. I mean, I still go to parties ocassionally, but I don't have a close group of friends. And now my one best friend isn't in any of my classes and we hardly ever see each other anymore. I feel like I'm losing her. We are both so busy and have no time for each other. It's kind of sad. She has all of her volleyball friends that she hangs out with now, and I don't know most of them. I feel like such a loser. What's my problem??and how do i fix it??

maybwe you could try talking to some new people about stufff they like and ,or maybe try to talk to some of her volley-ball friends .if you care about your friend enough you will do everything you can not to loose her
let me knwow how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: I am 13/f and REALLY skinny, but I have somewhat big hips and very long legs. I need maybe a size triple 0 with a 34" inseam and size 1 in hips! Does anyone know how to get very long, slim, flare jeans with big hips? Thank you in advance!!!

if you go to kohls they have a clothing line called candis and they do great for long legs and they make your hips look smaller then they are
let me know how it all works out
lots of love
lizzie

Q: I love the smokey eyes look and I have tried to do them on my eyes but i hate it because you can always see my eyeliner a lot. How can I make my eyes stand out without putting on tons of eye makeup and being able to tell that i have eyeliner on. Thanks!!

belive it or not if you put conceller under your eyes(even if you dont have anything to cover up )it really helps.make sure you puit ur eyeliner on first,then your eyeshadow,it works beetter that way.light like ballarhina pink really brings out your eyes,or gray,or light black,or purple arwe the best colors to use
let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: 17 female

my dad died when i was 12 and I still get upset about it every now and then and now since the anniversary of his death is coming up soon this month i've been feeling upset more than ever he died about 5 years ago is this normal?

my dad died when i was 5 years old.he was suppost to just go in for a check-up so i dicided to go to a fishing place with m,y brother.i can still remember my mom comming home and sitting me down on the couch and telling me "lizzie....daddy died today".it was ther hardest thing i have ever had to hear.sometimes i can be very happy for one minute but then i will think about it and be so sad because i miss him so much.i know its hard but you rerally have to think about the good times you had together,and how happy he must be now that hes in heaven .the best you can do is be happy for him.let me know how it all works out
and if you ever need to talk im allways here.
my email is Iluvaaron1993@aol.com yuou can also im me if you want
lots of love,lizzie

Q: My best friend and me like the same guy but i dont want to tell her that i like him to. She talks about him all the time and it makes me sad becuase i have to keep my feeling inside. He asked her to homecoming so i dont know what to do. If i should tell her how i feel or just go on like nothing happen

ouch thats a hard situation your in.i would say deffitly telll her if u are sure that she will take it okay.you dont have to feel guilty for liking him its not your fault.if your not so sure how ur relationship will be afterward then dont tell her at all.you dont want onme relationship to ruein a friendship
well,let me know how it all works out
love,lizzie

Q: my brother has this thing that he has to be better than me in everything i do. for example we were in a arcade and they had that basketball game where u shoot the balls and i got a higher score than he did and he didnt show it but i knew that it bothered him that i beat him in basketball.. even hate home when we are playin like horse or something he gets mad when i keep gettin them in and he keeps missing also i have been hip hop dancing for 6 years and my bro always has to try and show off dance moves in front of me even tho he cant dance that good and he's like ha i bet you cant do that and i just play dumb and say no i cant do that.. i mean its soo annoying that he has to compete in everything i can do... what should i do i mean its so dumb for a 19 year old to compete with me and im only 14 its kinda pathetic

so what should i do about it???

my brother is like this too and it cuased alot of problems between us.simply explain to him what the dangers are in your relationship.tell him that he dosnt have to be better at you at everything u will still love him either way.just dont loes your temper.u think that it is pathatic for your 19 your old broother,now you know how it feels to have a 23 year old brother be like that.
welll let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: There's this guy from my clique who likes to irritate me. But anyway, he makes fun of everyone. I'm rather close to him as in like I can talk to him. Both of us belong to the same clique and I guess i can talk to him pretty well as compared to the rest in my clique.

Recently, he kept criticising bout me. Whenever he knows a guy is interested in me, he'd be like "What?! He has really bad taste". There's this other guy who was interested in me and he happens to know that guy as well. So he was telling me "Ya, anyway, he has really bad taste. His favourite girls from the FHM magazine are all not nice."

And he likes to put me down, saying for eg "everyone in our class is quite pretty.. except for ___(my name)"

And when i just randomly told him that someone said i look like one of the girls from a pop group,(the girl is a tomboy) he'd say "ya , people say that you look like the ugly lesbian part of her right?"

And I'd be like OK FINE! just what the hell is your problem. Can someone tell me just what the heck is he doing cos he's really pissing me off a lot. And it's not like he's so handsome ok! He's not handsome at all! And I'll be like yeah what right do you have to criticise people's appearance.

maybe he just likes u as corny as it sounds guys somehow think it is attractive to tease girls (lol)just tell him look i dont find it attractive that ur teasin me,and i dont apprecheate you treating me like this so just back off.maybe he will listen up (guys are scared of girls )and if not ttake matters into your own hands (punc him ...lol)let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: i'm 17 and my boyfriend is 19. he will be 20 in Sep. and i'll be 18 in Dec. well my boyfriend got into some trouble about 3 years ago. he spent 2 years in jail. bC some girl lied about her age and she got pregnant by him. well he isn't labled as a sex offender but he is on porbabtion and is not allowed to be around anyone under the age of 18 i know we are risking alot. my mom knows his deal and HIS MOTHER is trippin about the whole thing. we really don't go out and see each other bc of the risk and if we do we go with a group of people. well now i found out that his mom wants to kick him out in a week. i think it might bC he want quit seeing me. so now i have no clue what to do. i wanna stay with him we are so happy with each other. but it's so hard. it keeps getting worse and hasn't really gotten better...

well maybe you can talk to your mom about letting him stay with you guys if he gets kicked out of his house.i dont think thats why she would be kicking him out though.if she says know then wherever he stays at you can see him at.and if not you could try talking to his mom,if you love him as much as it sounds like you do wou will figure somethin out
let me know how it all wroks out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: Hi, my name is Shiloh and im 16. Im about 5'4 and i weigh around 90 pounds i believe. Everyone always asks me if i am anerexic. People even say behind my back that i am. Iam not though, thats the thing. I mean, i eat pretty healthy. like i dont eat a lot, but iam not starving myself or anything. i also dance, so thats probably part of it. i dont really care that people say these things about me, but i dont want to be unhealthy. does this seem unhealthy to you, and what should i do about these bitches saying iam anerexic?

there is this brillant thing out there called IGNORING .just let them say whatever about you,because more then likely they are jelous because you are skinnier then them
let me know how it all works out
love,lizzie

Q: i recently got a pregnancy test after beng 4 days late for my period and it came out negative its now gone another 6 days and that means im 10days late on my period could i be pregnant and are the tests ever wrong???please write bak and answer my questions luv me xxxxxxxxxx

i would say go to the doctor pregancy test can be wrong !!!!!!!!!allthough it also depends on your age.i wuld most likely say the best thing to do is go to the doctor
let me know how it all, works out
love,lizzie

Q: what are some safe, easy, non virus causing websites that i can get ringtones from and get them to my cell phone?

virgin mobile.com,blinkyou.com

Q: Alright, well there is this one guy that I've been hanging out with, but basically we're only friends so far. Everyone says that he likes me, and I like him, but I'm not sure about his feelings.

I'm not sure if I should make the first move and ask him out, or wait a little longer and see if he does?

girls should never kiss a guy unless they kiss her first !you could try breaking the ice by saying somethin like"you know whats funny everyones says we like each other,...they were right about me how about you ?"that will really break the ice

Q: Hey lizze sorry for teh reli long question it's just really hard for me right now i hope you can help!And its weird cause im teh one giving advice to my friends all the time!
I hav been going out for this guy let's call him Josh for almost 10 months. We hav an amazing relationship and he really is my best friend. We have one problem his ex girlfriend is insane. She is obssesed with him and there is a long story behind that but just to make it short she is jealous and she wants him and her and I got into a big thing. I don't liek to start things and i do stand up for myself but i don't liek having enemies. About 2 weeks ago. My boyfriend started treating me like crap. This is 2 weeks ago: Saturday night we got into a fight because his ex's friends were starting stuff with my friends. I told him that i didn't know if i cood take i anymore. We weren't on the best page. Since it is summer we don't see eachother that much he went to camp before these 2 weeks and now he's on vacation. SO back to Saturday so that happened then on Sunday we talked and he was mad and upset. On monday we were planning to see eachother on tuesday but my friends messed it up. Also on monday we had a long talk about his ex and hwo i feel like he doesn't stand up for me like he should. When our plans got ruined for tuesday i was upset but it seemed like he didn't even care. On tuesday he called me at night and we didn't talk much but i asked him what he did today and he said nothing and that he's been thinkin about alot. I got a little worried. Well anyways Wedneday came n i went to my friends house with him and all my friends.I decided to just forget about everything because he was leaving that friday and i thought it would be the last time i would see him so i wanted it to be good. It somehow came up and he wanted to talk and said that i don't feel like he is really intersting and all that and he simply told me that he was just thinking that the relationship is getting too serious as in commitment wise. I understood because we are still young but how could he tell me he loves me if he doesn't wanna be with me. Well anyways on thursday i found out that on wednesday night he slept at his friends house and he did a camera thing with one ofmy friends theyw ere all joking but he told her to pull her shirt down more so her boobs would show. It's so hard to even write this because he's so not like this. On thursday night i found out earlier that day his ex adn her friends came over to swim with his friends. Just to amek it short on friday i saw him for 2 minutes and i was planning on talking to him about it but he could opnlys tay for like 5 minutes. He was being an ass and he just left and said i love you bye. He's on vacation right now and i don't know what to do when he comes back. Thanx for reading this .What should i do? I'm 13 almost 14 and a girl.lol

wow your boyfriend sounds just like mine soometimes he can be hoplessly romantic,and also sometimes an ass!i would tell him how much it hurts you in a lettter so this way he has no choice but to listen to you ..i defenitly dont like the sounds of what he told your friend to do .ask him if he is sure he is really over his ex because you really want to be witr him .if he says hes not i no you hate hearing this because its corny,bnut there are other fish in the sea girl !even though he may sound like the perfect guy,he shouldnt be treatiing you like a piece of shit !let me know how it all works out
love,lizzie

Q: My mom told my dad three days ago that she wants a divorce. My mom is unhappy and our family is nothing but fighting. My mom told my little brother who is 13 about this today. he is taking it pretty hard. He is also blaming me when i have nothing to do with it. it rally upets me because my brother is saying this whole thing is my fault. well my dad wants to do counsling. he thinks he can change everything but he cant. my mom doesnt want to live like this. so im supose to move out with my mom and my brothers supose to move out with my dad. Im not sure what the question in this is but ive never moved before. my dad mentioned couple years ago that he was going to leave and me my mom and my older brother cried about it. my little brother was to young to understand. im just looking for advice please help

first of all take a breath ...breath in...and out ....okay,now you know what it is not you or your brothers fault .so you try siting your brother down and calmly explaining that this is between your mom and dad .everyone goes through this its not just your family,and you know counciling dosnt have to be the worst thing ever.maybe you could do it for your brother it will give you tips on how to talk to him and explauin that to im.
let me know how it all works out and if you need a friend im here
lots of love,lizzie

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hey guys whats up im Lizzie .i love to give people advice and i sometimes need to ask others for advice if i dont know what to do .the most important thing i want everyone to know is that they shouldnt be ashamed to ask others for advice.it will get you far if u ask questions.im not here to tell people how to live there lives,im just here to help .so if u ever need advice or just want to make a friend im allways hear .hope to hear from u soon ,
lots of love,lizzie