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Q: is there any website where i can get a freeringotne for a nextel phone that actually works? cos i wanna get buy u a drank and i was just gonna get it off of my phone and charge it to my phone bill but it wanted a credit card number and my mom said she wasnt gonna let me use her credit card

try www.phonezoo.com
(you need internet access on your phone though)

♥ danielle

Q: I've recently put on some weight, maybe like ten pounds (which puts my weight at like 130.) Most of this new weight seems to have turned into stomach fat.
My friend Khalil,saw me recently (we don't live very close to eachother so it was a longer visit) and really liked the extra pounds, he said it made me look softer,and my new belly (which is kinda rounded) was 'adoreable'.

So I was wondering do more guys think like my friend, or are they mostly in for skinny girls?

From what ive heard from guys,guys dont really like super skinny stick straight kinda girls.Alot of them like girls with curves and a little meat on their bones.I think the whole "skinny trend" is going away now,and big is becoming beautiful again :D and thats a good thing because the women you see in movies and on tv their bodies arent realistic,because real women have curves :)

♥ danielle

Q: I really need to know what it feels like when your cherry pops. Yesterday i went for a bike ride for the first time in like a month. i just went again this morning, and i could barely sit down. it hurts really bad, but only when i'm on the bike. i read that it could pop just doing sports and stuff, but what does it feel like? please help!

It REALLY hurt for me when it happened, i hated the feeling.It continued to hurt for the second day but then the pain gradually went away.Maybe you should stay off the bike for a few days until it heals down there.

♥ danielle

Q: how do you say yes ?
and like
how does someone ask will you go out with me ?
wanna be my gf?
or what !?
helpppp

Well,to say "yes" it depends on how your asked like if the person said can i take you out to dinner sometime? or how about a date? you could say "id love too" or "sounds great".

If the person says "would you like to be my girlfriend?" you could say if you were friends first "do you think we should take our friendship too the next level?" or you could just simply say "would you like to be my girlfriend?".

I used to stress over this too lol.But it really is'nt a big deal just go with the flow and dont worry about sounding stupid because if you think too much into it you will lol but trust me youll do fine :)

♥ danielle

Q: where can i get cute summer &nd friendship quotes ? everywhere i look are mostly oldish quotes or either love quotes . any ideas ?

http://www.geocities.com/kristensquotes/holidays_summer.html

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070601210056AA9FZMp

http://www.friendship.com.au/quotes/quofri2.html

http://www.boardofwisdom.com/default.asp?topic=1005&listname=Friendship

you can also try going on www.xanga.com and type in "summer quotes" tons of sites will pop up :)

♥ danielle

Q: I'm a 21 year old female. I live in Pennsylvania. I met this guy about two weeks ago off of a dating website. He lives in Canada. I know two weeks doesn't seem long, and to fall in love with someone you've never physically met is stupid, but this guy stole my heart. I instantly fell in love with how much of a gentleman he was, how much he cared about me, and how sweet he was. I'd never felt so happy in my entire life. People actually commented me on how happy and alive I seemed. We got into some sort of argument over something, and he told me that he felt as if we were too incompatible. And the distance. I told him I'd move to him and everything. The thing is, I just can't get over this. I cried the hardest i've ever cried before in my life last night. I didn't sleep a wink, I got up for work at 5:30 this morning feeling like a zombie. I sat at work for three hours just staring into space, not doing anything, feeling like I didn't even exist. I haven't had anything to eat since 7:00 last night... the thought of putting food near my mouth just makes me sick to my stomach. I came home from work at 11:00 because the pain was just too much to handle. What should I do? I don't know how to cope with this at all.

i went through the same thing.the guy i swore i was "in love with" ended up moving and things between us just changed but i still wanted things with him and me to work out so i tried to talk about things we used too but nothing worked he moved on and it was too hard for me to realize that.I cried every night because i coudlnt stand him with another girl,he told me he loved me then i see hes told his current gf the same thing when they just starting going out for only about 2 weeks i felt miserable and betrayed because i wouldve done anything for him.I was my happiest too when i talked to him or i heard his voice.It took me about 4 months to get over him,but im better off without him because i learned he wasent worth the trouble when we werent going to go anywhere and i finally realize what a jerk he was.Im not going to lie,its going to be hard to move on.Try focusing your mind on something else.When i was upset i talked to my friends about it it made me feel better then we would just go out and have a good time.Shopping works too,nothings better then getting a good deal at one of your favorite stores ;] And trust me,guys are not worth it,no guy is worth getting all worked up over and should'nt ruin your life.Youll eventually find a guy who will go the extra mile just for you and will stop at nothing until he has you in his arms.Take Care!

♥ danielle

Q: Haha...welllll...i feel like an *idiot* asking this...but owell.

So my boobs are kind of far apart...and theyre large Bs...but they look SMALL with most shirts that are low cut because theyre far apart ya no..and i see all these girls that have the same size boobs as me but they like look beautiful in those v cuts.

So. I was wondering if like maybe push up bras like would push them up and together? but ive never had one before..and i dont know the difference between a push up and a normal one if I were to buy one.
Any help for anything to help them look a little bigger? is buying a push up bra my best bet or is there another kind? Thanks!!!!

---The very embarrased girl---

Omg victorias secret "very sexy" push up bras are wonderful! their seamless and look good their a little expensive but their worth it.Victorias secret si the best place to go for those type of bras in my opinion.Just look on the tags they usually tell you what kind of bra they are.Have anymore questions just leave one in my inbox :D

♥ danielle

Q: I am new with tampons and i just pull all first one out and it really hurt. How do i make it stop hurting me?

Same thing happened to me too when i first started using them.You might not have put it in all the way,it really hurts if you didnt so maybe thats why.It also might be too dry too when you take it out.Another reason might be that your too tight down there so you might want to work your way up from small to large in tampons.Start out with a regular sized tampon along with a pad (because regulars dont really hold that much) and then when it dosent hurt anymore to take out the tampon try the next biggest size.Good Luck! (and if you have anymore questions feel free to leave one in my inbox)

♥ danielle

Q: well basically the subject says it all. i'm 15 and in 9th grade and the guy i like is in 8th grade. but he has a girlfriend that is in 9th grade that goes to another school. i've never met his girlfriend, so i don't know how well their relationship is. but i REALLY like him, and it seems like he is flirting with me a lot. he is always IMing me, he says hi to me everytime we see each other in the hallway, he always bumps into me in the hall on purpose (but in a fun cute way), and he has a nickname for me. he is already a really friendly person, it just seems like i'm getting a little extra attention. anyway thats not the point. the point is he has a girlfriend but i like him. what can i do? should i try to flirt with him so maybe he will breakup with his girlfriend? or would that be mean and i should just back off?

oh and since he's in 8th grade i don't have any classes with him. what are some ways to talk more in or out of school without being obvious that i like him? we used to be in the play together but now the play is over and i don't get to hang out with him everyday after school for practice anymore.

sorry this is so long its just that i love your advice and i needed some help =]

Aww thank you so much :D

This happened to me so many times,for some reason i always go after the guys that are taken lol i know its not want you want to hear but i really dont think you shoudl pursue anything with him right now.Its never a good idea to mess with a relationship it leads to alot of drama and someone always ends up getting hurt.Right now just be friends with him.If you want to hang out ask him (but dont let it be just the two of you)let it be a group of friends go to the movies, play mini golf,etc just dont flirt with him or anything since hes still a taken guy.Just let whatever happens with you two happen.If they do end up breaking up then maybe you can go in for the kill ;] but in the meantime try to find another guy to crush on.

♥ danielle

Q: i wear slip on shoes, and theyr low in the front, so if i wear socks, you can see them. but i have stinky feet, so my shoes smell when i dont wear socks. what can i do to stop this?

http://www.thriftyfun.com/tf689584.tip.html

http://www.ehow.com/tips_5022.html

http://surveycentral.org/survey/19643.html

i found some more websites if you need anymore just leave one in my inbox :]

♥ danielle

Q: I am looking for a movie on Polygamy...not a documentary...but like an acutal movie (similar to the show Big Love)
Please let me know if you know any...

THanks so much!

this website gives you movies tagged with polygamy in it:

http://www.spout.com/members/0/tags/polygamy/MemberTagFilms.aspx

♥ danielle

Q: So at the beginning of the school year I got in a fight with this girl. Let's call her Lynn. Then we became best friends! But later I was noticing these weird things. At school she would sit REALLY close to me at lunch. At recess she recently put her arm around me. Whenever I talked to her she would either stare at my boobs or right into my eyes! She's always talking about how much she thinks guys are hot... but ahh is she like bi? we're both 13/f, is she lesbian?? what's up??with her??? and she calls me 30 times every 2 days... i'm scared... because i'm straight!

Alot of straight girls will put their arms around other girls or hug them or whatever and its not a big thing.I doubt shes staring at your boobs maybe you just happened to look at her at the wrong time and thought you saw her staring at you when she really wasent.Now for the calling 30 times thing,maybe because you guys got into a fight in the beginning of the year she wants to make up for lost time and hang out with you and just chat with you about everything that is going on.I wouldnt jump to conclusions to quickly.Dont ask her if shes gay or bi because that would be rude,if she likes girls she's probably tell you considering your her best friend and all.And if you feel uncomfortable when she touches you then tell her you dont like it and that it makes you feel uncomfortable and hopefully she'll listen to you and stop.

♥ danielle

Q: hi ummmm i wanted to ask you a question about sex and i need advice as soon as possiable. okay so me and my boyfriend had sex for the first time march the 5th of this year. and we did it twice that night. okay well a day later we did it three times. well its still hurting me. and bad too. is that normal? what could be wrong?

Its normal for sex to hurt the first few times you do it,it doesnt really stop hurting until like the 10th time you do it.You could be a little raw down there so im guessing you probably stressed your gentials because you had sex too much so i would say take a break from sex for a little while till everything down there heals,and once your ready to do it again when everythings fine tell him to go a little bit more gently,hope i could help!

♥ danielle

Q: 14/f

im stuck inbetween two guys, both my age in the same school, both my good good friends. the first one "J", second one "M". Well me and J have went out before in the begining of the school year and things didnt work out because he was never around or could hang out and we broke up. Now he likes me and i like him (or I did) and we kind of have a little thing, also we went to 2nd base and that night he asked me out but i said i couldn't answer (yes stupid thing i regret doing that). so as of now, we are good friends and flirt at times, just i dont know if he likes me like he did before, and i like him a little. now M, we've been good friends and he likes me, but also likes another girl. hes such a great guy in every way and i think i am falling for him, pretty much thats it in a bottle. i am just stuck inbetween these two boys because if i choose one i will be curious about going out with the other one.. yeah im pretty screwed up =/. haha hope you can help, thanks in advance

Im actually kind of iffy with both of these guys.If "J" does the same thing before by not being around alot or couldnt hang out with you (even though you were his girlfriend and shouldve made sometime for you in the first place) but if he is willing to change how he was before and really act like a boyfriend and be around for you then try it out,it seems to me you like "J" more.Now with "M" its not a good idea to try going with him because if he told you he likes another girl too then you would be going out with a guy knowing your not the only one he has his eye on,but then again if he starts to hang out with you and really get to you know better he might forget about the other girl and realize how much your worth it and just souly focus on you.I think you should just go with your gut feeling and go with what your heart thinks is right and do it without any regrets.

♥ danielle

Q: who is older than I am (not that that matters to me, i've dated guys 4 years older than me before). and I need a way to show that I like him. I think he likes me because i was flirting with him a lot before and he still talks to me now. :)

should i ask him out?

or should i ask his sister (who is my age) to tell him that i like him so he'll ask me out?

cuz i have to get at least one date with him.

Its better if you do it yourself then ask his sister so he has to do it for you.Make the effort,guys like it when a girl makes the first move it puts less stress on the guy and they really admire you for it.So just go for it and ask him if he wants to go to the movies or the ice skating rink something like that.Good Luck!

♥ danielle

Q: Whats a good colonge (sorry not sure how to spell that) to buy a guy ? not more then 40 dollars though ? and where can i find it ?
THANKS :]

i found a website that has cologne for under 40 bucks by designers that smell nice:

http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/48076/top_mens_designer_cologne_under_50.html

i actually bought cologne as gifts from the dollar store and form what ive heard they smelll great they sell like discount colognes there like ralph lauren,i think thats the best kind to get but they can be expensive but it does smell really good.Hope i could help! if you need anymore help just leave one in my inbox ;]

♥ danielle

Q:

I`m really sick and can barely walk, but my mom won't let me stay home from school tomorrow unless I have a fever. She's letting me have the thermometer, but i have to have a fever by tomorrow. so, any help?
its the electronic kind you stick under your tongue.

i hate when parents do that :'[

i found a website that might help:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20060716002713AAFjrDk

♥ danielle

Q: im going on a cruise next month, (i go to a year round school and we have 2 weeks of at the end of april) and i'm worried that i will have my period while on the cruise. if i do then can i still swim? i canNOT put tampons in and if i swim in the pool will it stop "bleeding" ?

Yes,when your in the water your period does stop so you should be fine but i would strongly recommend wearing tampons just incase because some might leak.If you absolutely CANT wear tampons then try wearing ultra thin pads in your bathing suit.And make sure you dont drip anywhere while getting out of the pool if you have a break from swimming and jsut lay out or go to the bathroom or whatever just remember to change the pad and put a new pad on.

♥ danielle

Q: ok so theres a guy at my school who im not really friends with. hes one of the "mans men" meaning hes always with the guys. so anyways the guys in my school argue with eachother a lot, even the girls. every time im talking to someone or just making a point and someone counters it [goes against what i say] he almost always defends me. for example my friends would be joking and saying "oh its her fault" and he would say no its not its mine its ok or "no you're wrong" he'd say well actually..etc etc. i dont think hes overly friendly, but is this a sign that a guy might like you?? thanks.

Aw what a nice guy :] yeah it could be a sign he likes you.This one guy would always stand up for me when someone said i was wrong or like took something from me and hed get it back for me and he ended up being my boyfriend for awhile so yeah i think he might like you ask him to go out sometime ;]

♥ danielle

Q: it's been almost a year since i've been with this boy, but lately i just started missing him. i was with him for almost 6 months, and i guess that doesn't really seem like a lot, but when you're 12, being with somebody for that long is longer than it seemed. anyways. i've really been missing him lately. i had a dream about him last night, which made me miss him more. plus, we passed by where he lived yesterday, and it made me think of him. march 18th would've been our 2-year anniversary, if we didn't break up. gosh, i really miss him. i was thinking of him when i woke up this morning. i don't want him back, but i really wanna see him again or something. maybe start talking to him again, since we haven't talked since we broke up. do you think it would be a good idea to ask him to meet me somewhere?? he doesn't have a girlfriend right now, but i'm pretty sure he has his eyes on somebody. like i said, i don't wanna go out with him again, i just wanna see him. should i do it or not? if you have any other opinions about this, i would really appreciate it, too.

thanks.

Wow that was a long time ago and you still remembered the date you gusy went out and you were 12 and had a boyfriend for 6 months? wow that just really shocks me.But anyway,yeah i would say talk to him say something like hey [ his name ] do you want to hang out sometime its been awhile. and if hes uncomfortable it being just the two of you then ask him if he can bring his friends and youll bring yours and hang out.Hope i could help if you need anymore advice leave one in my inbox!

♥ danielle