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okay i am on birth control but i have been late for my shot. i was supposed to get it like two weeks ago and i didnt because i didnt have a ride. while i am on the shot my boyfriend (t) and i have alot of sex and i let him cum inside of me because it hasent got me pregnant yet and we have been together on and off for about 3 years now. we are both 18 and he has a job but i dont. i stay with my cousin because of some family problems. a few days ago my bf and i had sex and we didnt use a condom and i wasnt on my shot for my month. and he accidentally came inside me but i hurried and whiped it all out..i need to know if im going to become pregnant even though i hurried and cleaned it out? and i also need to know if i get my shot friday is it still possible of being pregnant?? please someone give me a answer fast!
Hi,
Sorry to tell you, but yes. If he came inside of you, there is always going to be a chance you could become pregnant. All it takes is one sperm! And even if you cleaned it out, there is still the opportuntity from the time he came in you until the time you cleaned it out that a sperm got inside. Even if you get your shot Friday, that is still several days from when you had sex... so YES. I would get a pregnancy test and take it a week after you have had sex with your boyfriend. This is when you will get the best reading. Its always better to be safe than sorry, so I would definately check to make sure you aren't one of the many that have gotten pregnant this way. Best of luck
20 female.
So I've always liked my friend Nick. I've known him for 5 years. He used to have a girlfriend for 3 years, I didn't like her at all. She knew that me and Nick were close and didn't like us hanging out all the time and knew that Nick also wanted me. Well they ended up breaking up their senior year and he moved to South Dakota to play hockey. She still goes there to see him all the time even though their "broken up" supposedly. She just wrote on his facebook wall, guess what's in less than two weeks! -he's coming home for the first time it's the only break they have for hockey. Things like that just annoy me.
So I met a new guy, but he's on Nick's team. He's so nice, respectful ..everything you could ask for. He's good friends with Nick though because they're together all the time with hockey. I seen this guy when me and a few friends went to South Dakota to see Nick play. It turns out this guy lives about 20 minutes from me which is even better. I told Nick to hook me up with him and so Nick told him he was going to give me his number. Nick said that the boy was excited to talk to me. So we've been talking for about a month but I just keep thinking about Nick. But I don't want to be in this position anymore, I'm not going to have to worry about his "ex" girlfriend and him always hanging out. Nick hasn't even admitted to liking me, but everyone tells me they can tell and know he does he just can't let go of his ex girlfriend. I don't see this to be fair to me at all which is why I tried moving on. I don't want to mess it up with this guy because of Nick. How can I move on from Nick and focus on this guy?
Hey there,
I am a bit suprised that Nick got this other guys number for you if he really does like you. Usually a guy would (likely) try to avoid it, but I think he was trying to be a good friend.
I think this guy on Nick's team sounds great for you. If he is everything you say (nice, respectful), then if you get to hang out in person, you will probably find he is so much more than what you think even now. If Nick hasn't shared his feelings with you, then he must not be that interested. You said he is still stuck on his ex, so I wouldn't get too involved with someone who is always thinking of their ex.
As for separating yourself from Nick. You have to erase him from your life as much as possible and only think of guy number 2 (sorry, I wish I knew his name). Delete Nick from your phone, try not to talk to him and if you do run into him just give a casual "hi" to be polite. Take everything that reminds you of him and get rid of it. He sounds immature to ask you for a threesome. Do activities that will make you have to focus on that task alone and go new places with this new guy. The more time you spend with your new guy, discovering new things together, the less your mind will wander to Nick.
You don't have any signs that tell you Nick is actually interested.. I mean from him directly. He must hide it well if he does like you... To move on, you have to tell yourself Nick has nothing to offer except what his friends tell you and then let this new guy into your life. Hanging out with the new guy more will help you realize what you've been missing the whole time
20 female.
So before I started having sex I thought, "I'm not going to be one of those girls that moans ..I just can't see myself doing that."
But then the first time I had sex, I moaned like crazy. It just came naturally like it basically just came out. I wasn't embarrassed at the time because I was so in the moment but now that I think about it, do guys like when you moan? Does it turn them on or do they think it's weird?
Also, what else can you do to a guy while having sex that will really get him going? I know all guys are usually different, but any advice would be appreciated!
Hi,
Yes, most guys like it if you moan and they will find it a turn on. I know that some guys actually will want a girl to moan louder. Ask your guy what he likes.
Things you can do to get a guy going: nibble on his earlobe, kiss his neck, massage his thigh, whisper sexy things in his ear, rub the side of your foot against his, kiss/massage all the way from his neck to his crotch, rub his butt, wear some sexy lingerie (gives a sexier view), tell him he's all in control (guys love dominance), pull him in closer, or let him know "you turn me on". If you tell a guy he is doing a good job (compliment him in any way) he will be proud and want to please you even more. Of course as you know, every guy is different. Find what works for yours and make it happen
How long after you start discharge does your period start?
Hi,
It really all depends on the individual. But in general, usually within a week to a month. Every girl is different, so you cannot expect a specific answer. Just be prepared for any chance that you might get your period with the necissary feminine hygiene products when you go out :) You won't have to worry that way
f/16
So, I read somewhere recently that the average amount of sexual partners for a woman in her lifetime will be four sexual partners, and when I read this, I was a little....well...disgusted with myself, to be honest. I've already slept with two; although, one was a rape, and the other, a long term relationship 1+ years with my boyfriend. He was three years older, so sex, I suppose, was just natural at that age. Regardless, that's still two, and I feel, well, a little promiscuous, a little slutty, a little dirty, and a little like if that's really the average, that I shouldn't have been so foolish and quick to make decisions. My question is, I guess, is that REALLY and accurate average? And, if it is, is there any advice you could give when it comes to picking who to have sex with? I understand this sounds a little silly, but it's difficult to gauge whether or not you should have sex with someone if you truly believe you love them and have been with them for a while. Thanks.
Hey there,
You are not alone in the fact that you have already been with two guys. I wouldn't say rape counts as having "sex" necissarily, because you didn't choose to. I would rather say: you made up your mind that you loved one person and so you had sex with him (your boyfriend). A lot of people these days actually don't think about who they sleep with. In my highschool, when I graduated at 17, I believe there was about 3 out of 14 girls (approx), that were still virgins. One which was me. This is a very high number of girls who have already slept with one or possibly (most likely) several different guys.
A lot of girls (and guys) are definately quick to make decisions when it comes to sex. Guys and girls will have sex for a variety of reasons. Most which shouldn't be good reasons at all. I have three friends my age which already have a baby and are trying to support a child when they are still teens themselves. I wouldn't say four partners is an accurate average, for everyone is different, parts of the world are different and you can't always survey everyone. I guess it is accurate for whoever got those results from whomever.
Advice when it comes to having sex: know the persons background (Who have they slept with already? Do they have a bad history in relationships? Etc.), be able to relate on all levels: personal, friendship, spiritual, mental, and physical (not the most important), have common ground, being completely honest with not only yourself, but with your partner (essential!), knowing you can trust that he won't leave you once you have the sex... and NEVER ever have sex based on the fact that you "think" you are in love with them. You have to "know". 'Know' meaning: you have all the above mentioned things with this person and you are being completely true to not only yourself, but to him.
You can never tell right away if any guy is a good person to have sex with. As you may know, it takes time to tell who a person really is. Know that: one guy who has slept with one girl, could have actually slept with many people. For example: if the one guy had sex with the one girl and she had sex with two guys before him... the first guy just had sex with three people (not meaning to). If you don't know who your partner slept with, you could catch something unwanted too. Therefore, trusting your inner judgement, using your knowledge and choosing wisely is the most important advice
I'm a female and currently a senior in highschool. I have 2 ppl I truly care about, for privacy purpose we can call them Derek and Jeremy. I met Derek 9th grade. And dated him for almost 3yrs. I moved highschool's after sophomore year and our relationship actually got stronger, I sad to say I only saw him like 2ce a year. So it didn't seem like much of a relationship. Junior year I met Jeremy and we hit it off right away, I cheated on Derek. And later broke up with him. I have been dating Jeremy for about 8 months now, and still talk to Derek like if we have a relationship. I love them both and have no clue what to do, I feel like I'm hurting both of them. And myself. Derek is my best friend and I can't lose him, I mean he's still here after all I did. But I love Jeremy, and he's so sweet, cute, and loving, and I actually get to see him. I know y'all might think this is typical highschool drama, but I've spent 4 years of my life living this. So no there's not an "you'll meet other guys when you go to college" option. I'm scared of change, scared that I will choose wrong and regret my choice, o please help me....choose.
Hi,
It sounds as if Jeremy is for you... but I don't know him personally, so I wouldn't know for sure. He must be a very sweet guy if he sticks by you and loves you that much (awwwe). The only way you won't be hurting both of them (and yourself) is if you chose one guy.
Whoever you don't choose, will find someone who can relate to him better. So it wasn't you, there will be someone else for that guy. Least he won't be spending his time trying to find you when you really don't feel the same. He could be searching for someone else who does feel the same. This will work out for the best. I think you do have more feelings for Jeremy, for there must have been something in your mind telling you to stick with him this long. I am sure that Derek will still be there for you in the end though, cuz he still communicates and is a friend to you right now.
I know what you mean about "you'll meet other guys"... that saying can last a very long time without coming true. I have been with a few guys and I know I have to do a lot of searching to find guys I can personally relate to... you are probably the same. And change, it is always a rough thing to go through, but without change there is no variety. You could be stuck doing the same thing over and over again... Choose the guy that you know will make you smile, who you aren't afraid to be yourself around, who makes you laugh, who holds you tight in his arms, who tells you you are beautiful (because you are) and who will always be there for you. If you follow your heart, you should not regret your choice
16/f
So this is probably gonna be long...
Well I have a boyfriend of almost 2 months. We really like each other and all that. We were friends for about 2 years before we decided to date. He is my age.
Then there is this guy who I've also been friends with for 2 years. He's 18 and we liked each other. But we decided nothing to happen since he's going to college. He'll be coming home for breaks and all that and I'm gonna go to the same college as he is, not because he is going there, it's just always been the plan. Don't know why any of this matters..but yeah. I've had a crush on him for over a year. I liked him more than my ex boyfriend of 10 months. We told each other we liked each other and all that and he'd call me and you know, we were really good friends. We talked about future and us and all that.
I'm also best friends with his sister so I'm always at her house. She's totally cool that we like each other and all that.
Well last week during our break I was at their house. His sister had to leave and only he and his mom was home and it was like 1am. We were texting and then he asked if he could come in there when his mom fell asleep. I knew something was gonna happen. I knew I would be cheating on my bf but I thought about it, I liked him for so long and he's finally into me and I didn't want to let it go. So we just made out.
Ok, yeah, I admit it was wrong but I can't take it back. I'm not planning on telling my bf either. I'm not one to cheat on someone, I've never done it before obviously but in all honesty, this guy would be the only guy I'd ever do that with.
So I realized that it was a mistake. I still like my boyfriend and have little feelings for my friend.
Mostly because my friend likes another girl that I'm sorta friends with. I mean it hurt because I had just made out with him a few weeks ago and then I find out he also likes her. I'm not jealous, I just feel a bit used. He told me he wouldn't use me and he didn't. He said he still likes me. I believe it but it just brought me to thinking that I'm not as good as the other girl and he'd rather be with her than me. They're the same age too. I just hate the feeling of being compared to her. It'd be hypocritical of me to be mad that he likes someone else because of course I'm with someone else. That's not the case though. I'm just confused.
I'm not quite sure what my question is and I spent all night crying over this situation so I basically just vented and I need someone to help me out or give me some advice. Also does this make me a bad person? I feel the guilt but I can't take it back..
Thanks so much!
Hey there,
I think you should not tell your boyfriend that you seen the other guy.. BUT if you have stronger feelings for this other guy and feel the need to be with him more, then you should dump your boyfriend and be with him. It isn't right to be with two guys at once. Your friend probably thinks it is okay to have feelings for another girl, for you two aren't officially dating.. so it is alright for him to think of someone else. Besides, you are already claimed right now as it is (as you know).
Please don't compare yourself to another girl. We are all different: you have your talents, she has hers, you have your personality.. and she has hers. You are confused because you probably feel you should be with your friend when you already have a boyfriend. Ultimately, you have to decide who you really want to be with and make it happen. What you did does not make you a bad person, it just shows that you are trying to sort things in your life out and weren't sure where to find an answer.
You wouldn't know if things would go well with your friend if you didn't see him that night. Just as, you wouldn't know how good your boyfriend is if you had not dated him. You did not cause much harm this time. Just know that you should finish one relationship before you start another... and the person who you feel stronger for, deserves all the votes
I am 14 and i found out this guy from my school asked one of my friends what my name is, and his friends told her that he points me out and stuff, i also found out his friends and him have a code name for me, my friend told me that he was going to talk to me, but it turns out hes nervous too, and he is 16 so i dont think he should be nervous. Its been at least 2 weeks and he still hasnt talked to me. What does this mean? Does he like me or not? Will he ever talk to me?
Hi,
I think he may like you. Why didn't he talk to you? There could be many reasons for that, such as: he is shy, he didn't know what to say, or yes.. he could have been nervous. It may seem silly for an older guy to be nervous to talk to a girl, but we are all human and guys get nervous and speechless when they are around a girl.. expecially someone they like :) Just as you might get nervous around a guy you like.. If he hasn't talked to you, this could mean: he knows you heard him talking about you so he shyed away, he is to nervous to approach you, or he doesn't know what to do now. He probably likes you. The only way to know for sure though, is if you talk to him.
Whenever you see him, say hi, smile, look him in the eyes and even sit by him or ask him if he would like to be your partner for an assignment. Find some way to talk to him. See what he likes doing and then ask if he will hang out with you after school. It seems as if he wants you to make the first move. Compliment something that you like about him and start a convo that way. Once you open up to him, I am positive he will open up to you
We are keeping my daughter's birthday low-key this year. I told her she could take a friend out to dinner and she managed to convince me to allow three friends to go out for dinner. She had already chosen two friends (and had told them about it...) and was trying to decide on the third. We live on a street where she plays with two of the neighbor girls a good bit, but when she asked if she could invite one of the girls, I said she couldn't invite one without inviting the other and at this point, don't want this to turn into a birthday 'party' but rather just a way to celebrate her, so I don't want a bunch of girls out to dinner. So my dilemma is - do I need to mention it to the two moms on the street? I don't want their daughter's feelings to be hurt and wonder if I should just say nothing at all?
Hi,
I think you should have your daughters friends over only for a few hours. Just tell the mothers that there was a change in plans and you would still like them to come over, but only for a while. That way, your daughter will have time with her friends on her birthday and you will still be able to celebrate Her day the way you wanted. This also guarantees your daughter will be happy and you won't be frustrated trying to figure more things out. If you say nothing, things will happen the way your daughter wants/already told people. Having a few friends over doesn't mean its a "party" for se. I can see how if you invite one girl, the other has to be invited too... thats how my life went with friends. Have them over for a few hours, then spend the rest of the day as you wanted. It should work out for the best
ok my bf is 2 years older than me and probably alot more expirienced...and he keeps asking me weird questions and it sounds like he is trying to hint at sex and i dont want to yet..wat do i do?
Hi,
He could just be asking weird questions about sex to see how much you know about that topic..? If he is hinting at having sex with you though and you aren't ready for it, tell him you aren't ready. Never give in to sex if you don't want to do it; just keep saying no. Talk to your boyfriend and tell him you will let him know when you are willing to take that step. If he loves you, he will understand and wait to have sex when you are ready too
its from first response, an in-home thing. how accurate is it? thanks
Hey there,
As I have read on the internet: First response, after having studies done on it, is 80% accurate if you take it the first one or two days after your missed period. Also, the best time to take a fertility test is not in the first few days, but one week after your missed period. If you take a fertility test one week after your missed period, you then have a 90%-99% accuracy
Hello.
So my dream is to become a vet or vet tech.But I hear you have to have a 90 % average in almost everything ! ( especally math and science) And I am really good at science, but not smart at math,.. AT ALL. And I am wondering,.. do I give up my dream and go for something more relistic or go with it ?! I'm not even really old enough to be stressing but.. i am sadly. And I really need help! And if you also have any tips for me about how to be better in math, PLEASE HELP ME!
Hey there,
I don't believe your marks always have to be in the 90's to be a vet or vet technician. My mom is a vet technician right now and she had marks ranging from 70%'s to 90%'s. I don't think she has had much training to be a vet assistant either. Origionally she wanted to be a chef, so I'm sure she is better trained in that area, but that doesn't mean she wasn't fit to be a vet or vet assistant at the time. My mom is very knowledgable in the animal area (she may have taken one vet course) and that is likely why they hired her. She has a passion for it and I'm sure it showed. In order to be a vet, she would need more training, but anyhow... It isn't always about your marks; sure they are a guideline.. but say if your marks are average, I'm sure they will consider you as long as you have the passion, knowledge, some training, and the drive to do it.
Never, Ever, give up on a dream! If you think that good marks matter: work your hardest and get the grades you are capable of. Doing YOUR best and working YOUR hardest will get you where you wish to be. If you are having trouble with math, find a tutor to help you and take the time to learn. It is all about practicing. Has anyone ever told you "practice makes perfect?". This saying is so true. The more you practise at something (math), the sooner you will get better, and the more you will learn. If you have the determination, you can do anything... and if you work hard, you will get there
my bf and I have been together for 6 months he is 18 and in the army and I am 17 still in school. I ended up pregnant and was about 2 months [mind you I got pregnant off our first time having sex so it was kinda hard on us] then I ended up in the hospital for stomach pains and found out I miss carried. Now I am in a deep depression for the last week [that's when we found out] and he has been depressed to. We haven't seen each other since the weekend before i found out and only my mom knows out of our parents I miss carried. We have been fighting a lot and I spend most of my time crying and we haven't been talking as much as we use to. How long will this take and how can I help the process so we stay close and don't brake up but at the same time morn for our baby?
Hi,
I'm sorry about your baby. There is no way in knowing how long this will take. Everybody and every situation is different. To help the process, you have to communicate with your boyfriend on a regular basis. Let him know that you love him and that you will both be able to love your baby even if he/she is in a better place. If you concentrate on the future and not so much on the past, you will be able to work things out easier. To mourn for your baby, you could plant a special tree in its memory. Then water it and visit it as you would with your child. Remember your baby through it and watch it grow. If you are strong for your boyfriend, he will have strength in you and you both will make it through. Never lose hope
17 f
So this year my life has changed a lot. I lost a lot of weight and kind of grew into my body. Not to be cocky or anything but I got a lot more pretty and just over all matured. From this I've gotten a lot more attention and my social life has boomed. I go out practically every night and am always doing something with people. But now I'm starting to notice that I don't like being alone. I use to not care at all and in fact actually liked just chilling by myself. But now I can't stand it. I feel so bored and worthless when I'm just sitting at home alone. And its kind of making me sad cause I feel like I might be losing myself. Idk I now have everything on the outside going exactly the way I want it, but now I feel empty on the inside. I guess I'm just looking for some advice on how to feel better.
Any advice would be great!
Hey,
Know that you have to love yourself before others will love you. To feel that sense of greatness, you have to do the things you love. So if you've been wanting to get your hair done, do it. If you want to soak in a bubble bath, do it. If you want to go swimming, buy a new pair of shoes, take care of a pet, dance around in your room, listen to your music kind of loud, bake cookies, paint your nails with polka dots, sing, laugh, visit a friend, make new friends.. nows the time to do it! Its boring because you aren't keeping yourself occupied. Find the things that spark your interest and get out there! Go for a walk in the park, go rollerblading, throw rocks at a lake/pond, check out a gym, get active, read a new book, visit a new place, see something different, reach for the stars, accomplish your goals.
I felt like you until I noticed, we cause our own sadness. Put a smile on your face, think positive, talk to people, and always be true to yourself. Only you can discover what makes you happy inside, start searching now :)
thanks for the advice :) but the only problem is I can't ask him out for a drink he lives about 6 hours away... is there anything else I can do apart from asking him if he likes me I've had experience with this in the past and it never goes well.
Thanks again.
You said you had him on skype, so use that whenever possible to keep in contact. The more you talk to him (it doesn't have to be about his band, just his life in general) the more he will see that you care. Personally, I think you should never ask a guy straight up if he likes you... You just have to take an interest in his interests and then a connection will build up from there, trust me
Ok so this guy is in a band a well known band like semi famous, I talk to him now and again via email/ facebook but anyway yeah I went to their show and I said "Hi I'm the girl that annoys you with all the emails" he looked confused until I said my name then he grinned and said "Oh! Right I like your song, and I'm not saying you're annoying I just know who you are."
We talked for a while but then he had to get back to the other fans, then after the show I asked for a hug he put his arms out and made me go to him then he started stroking my hair saying "shhh it's alright now" I had to go after that though because I was gonna miss my bus.
Then I went to their gig in a different city I stuck around after the show and at first he didn't see me because he was taking pictures and signing things, he wasn't really talking to the girls or looking at them though, and when he saw me he smiled and said "Hi!" keeping eye contact "you remember me then?" "yeah of course was this show as good as the other one?" "it was better, I've got to go catch the coach back, but can I have a hug?" "yeah" he hugged me then said "bye" still smiling still keeping eye contact.
Also recently we've been talking about a movie that we both like and my new song (which is written about him) and now he's letting me add him on skype which I was shocked about because normally musicans that are quite popular keep private.
My friends seem to think he likes me, I'm not sure though, there's an age gap of like 4 and a half years, so idk if he just see's me as a little kid.
But judging by the infomation I've put here... does he like me??
Hey,
Theres no for sure way to tell if he does by the info you put here, but I think he does like you. It sounds like he a friendly guy. I don't think musicians keep to themselves, they have to have a life as well. I think when he allowed you to access his skype, he wanted a part of you in his life. Him making the eye contact is a sign that he is confident and that he was a bit attracted to you. I think he may like you. The only way to know for sure is to ask him if he would like to go for a drink sometime with you and see how he responds. He must be fairly busy with his band though, so don't expect him to say yes right away.
He may have been being nice because it is part of him/his job and another sign that he may really like you, is when he stroked your hair. Not many guys will just do this. Maybe its natural for him or he felt a connection, I don't know. Just tell him you think he is a great guy, that you would like to get together, then see where it goes from there. I'm sure he will say something such as "I will give it a good thought" or "Yes". If he smiles, you know he is thinking positive about you
when did you have your first kiss?
where?
with you?
was it good?
did it come naturally?
Hi,
I had my first kiss a few months after graduating from high school. It happened in my bedroom, with a good guy friend of mine. Of course it was good, it was the first (of many) and yes, it came naturally :)
i wrote her a poem telling her how i fell is that wired
I don't expect you soon to love me,
Nor are my own feelings clear.
Passion is the ornate entrance
To a world we crave and fear.
We cannot know where this will take us,
Nor whether we will ride for long,
But pleasure is the overture
That flows into the larger song.
So come with me with open mind
And heart, and we the time will prove
With laughter and with joy unfettered,
And, perhaps, someday with love.
Hi,
I don't think it would be wierd if you sent her a poem. Just tell her that you think she is cute (compliment her) and then hand it to her. If she has an open mind, she will consider it and get back to you. Most girls find it attractive and/or like when a guy puts their effort into making them something. It is not wierd, it is worth a very good try
So I've been with the same guy now for about 2 years. We're happy together. The only problem is that my family hates him. He's never done anything to anyone, he's been nothing but polite and cordial. Their hate is based completely off his looks. They are all mad because they think I can do better. But I don't care what he looks like. How do I tell them to mind their own business, and come to me with their problems?
Hi,
Your family is being very judgemental. Let them know that you should love a person for who they are and not by how they look or what they do. Obviously they don't know him well or just aren't taking the time to.
To get them to back off, tell them exactly what you wrote here: that they should mind their own business and come to you with their problems. As you said, if he has done nothing wrong to them or you, you should be allowed to be with him. Tell them you don't want better, because right now he is the best. I don't think your parents judged eachother when they got together. Let your family know that until he does something bad, you don't want to hear any arguments from them again. They shouldn't be upset that he is treating everyone well. Let them know you love him and as long as you do... they should too
I am in a gay relationship with a guy who is 37 and i am nineteen. He's a great guy, and I really like him a lot. We have been dating for only three months but I knew him for over a year now. He gave me the key to his house. Is this too soon? When is the normal time to know that you love someone?
Hi,
As long as you know him and know that you can trust him, I believe it is alright for him to give you a key. There is no real time limit that lets you know if this is too soon (as long as its not at the first meeting, kind of thing).
Everybody is different, so the measurement of when you love someone can be infinate. I say: it takes a year to really know someone, but only an instant to know that it's love. You have already known this guy for a year. Everyone will give you a different answer on how long it takes to love someone, the answer always varies... in the end, it is ultimately up to you. Your instincts will let you know