Hi everyone... I've got a Psychology degree so I like to think that i know a bit about how people think and why they do the things they do- maybe i don't know a thing, make up your own minds! Also i work with a youth group of girls aged 10-14 so that helps too! Anyway ask me anything no problem too big or too small and I'll do my best...
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My mom and I never get along or even talk. She's just not someone I can go up to and tell things to. Well im 17 and this summer im pretty sure im going to lose my virginity when im on vacation to visit my friends. Im ready, i love him and hes the right guy, i know more than most people know, im aware of the consequences and precautions i need to take. I just dont trust condoms alone, so id like to get on the pill before becoming sexually active. I would like to tell my mom so we can set up an appointment with the gyno, but im scared that i could ever have the courage to ask her or even talk to her about sex. She's told me tons of times "If you ever have sex, use protection. And tell me." My parents trust me already, but a part of me feels like..if i told them im going to start having sex..that they may take my freedom away from me and wont let me go on vacation. I was thinking about just going to Planned Parenthood behind their backs and getting it, but because of several reasons, theres no way i can actually get away with it and do it. (Long story, but its seriously impossible at this moment.) I was also thinking about just asking to go to the gyno because of period problems. (Ive actually had problems for the past year or two that my mom knows about) But she still refuses to give me medical attention no matter what the situation is. My parents know im cautious and responsible, unlike my sister. (She lost her virginity at 13 and they could care less.) So my question is - if you were in my position and never really talked to your mom..would you talk to her about becoming sexually active and getting on the pill? I guess the only thing holding me back is not knowing how she will react. Or should i just be careful and use a condom only...and when i come back from vacation..tell her im sexually active and need to be on the pill? (link)
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OK this is pretty much exactly what happened to me at 17 so maybe I can be of some help here! I was with my boyfriend and decided that I wanted to have sex with him but i was sure that my mum would never be happy about this because of what she said in the past. So i went to the doctors on my own and was put on the pill. Then a few weeks later my mum said to me that she thought i should start thinking about contraception so i had to tell her the truth. She was soooooo upset that i hadnt told her about going on the pill and things werent the same between us for months afterwards. Therefore i really think you should talk to your mum about this especially as she has said in the past that she wants you to talk about it. It will be hard cos i know exactly how you feel but really it'll be best in the long run just to get it all out in the open! Good luck!
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so last month my bf fingered me and i gave him a handjob..he cummed and i wasnt sure if he had some on his fingers then fingered me...anyways i got my period the LAST day of february and i was totally relieved. well i havent got my period for this month...but i havent done ANYTHING what so ever this month...so yea i dont know whats up? could i be pregnant? (link)
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No dont worry- if you've had a period since that happened you wont be pregnant you're just a bit late this month. Probably because you're worrying about it! good luck
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Hey,
I have horrible frizzy, thick hair and i like it best when its straight. I.ve tried a range of products (straightening serums, shampoos, conditioners, sprays..) but nothing seems to work at all. i have one of those 'wet to straight' straighteners (£80) and if you use it when its wet it frazzles your hair and i think it ruins it (its says it locks in moisture but im not too sure it does). I've tried Sunsilk straight and sleek, Frizz ease, shockwaves extreme straightener..etc..and im going to try that Hot Straight from the advert that stars Beyonce. My bathroom is filling up with half used hair products and i want to find one that works.
Also i dont even know how to apply all of these products so they could be exactly what im looking for but i just do it wrong.
I want smooth, sleek and straight hair where it seems every hair strand is individual and soft . I want it to be dead straightand shiny so if i had it in bunched and took it out it would bounce back into straightness
If you know anything that will make this happen or ave any advice please help me..:-)
LuV
Rachel (link)
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i've got similar hair to you by the sounds of it! Ive got wet 2 straight straigheners and I believe that they keep my hair in better condition than normal straighteners. Tresemme is great- i use their conditioner to really moisturise and it keeps it smooth. The secret ingredient is Tresemme heat protection spray which smooths and protects against heat. This is what I do and it works really well but maybe if this didn't you could consider getting a hair cut which really thins out your hair. This is would then make it far more manageable.
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Kay... well there is this guy and he and I started talking about 3 weeks ago at a track meet and now we flirt a bunch at the track meets.. he is in some of my classes and like yeah I always catch him looking at me and then he always like brags about how good he is at trfack and how much i suck in a JOKEING way... but Iono if he lieks me or what.. and I am really confused plese HELP! (link)
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He's teasing you and showing off in front of you? yep id say he's well into you! as for him saying you 're hot but he's not sure if he likes you this is either the truth or maybe he's fibbing to your friends to save his blushes! Id flirt with him and make it clear you're into him and i reckon everything will fall into place!! good luck
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Umm..is it normal for your kidneys to hurt when your on your period? if not, please tell me what can i do about it. (link)
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It is normal for girls to get back pain during their period and this is not your kidneys hurting. Is this what you're mistaking the pain for dya think? However if you're pretty sure it is your kidneys or you just want some reassurance a trip to the doctors wouldn't hurt. Good luck
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Is it okay to fall for someone if they complement you and make you feel amazing when ever your feeling down and make you laugh all the time?
What if they were 6 years older than you?
Please help... (link)
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Sounds like a pretty good reason to fall for someone if you ask me so thats no problem! as for the age difference ir doesnt really matter if you've simply fallen for them. However if you are interested in starting something with them the age difference may be a problem depending on how old you are. Say if you're 12 or 13 going out with someone who is 18 or 19 may not work, but if you're say 17 or 18 it wouldnt necessarily be a problem. You also need to take into account depending on your age how interested this person would be in starting a relationship with someone who is 6 years younger than themselves. However if its just a casual crush theres no problem at all!
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Hi, I like the group ICP and my girlfriend doesn't, she doesn't like it because it has killing in it, she hates it. Should I stop liking it or just keep listening to it, I just wanna make her happy, what should I do?? (link)
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Couples in relationships obviously have different tastes otherwise it's be really boring! I dont think that you should stop listening to ICP if you enjoy it. However, if it is making you unhappy that it is making your girlfriend unhappy then maybe you should stop listening to them otherwise you'll be miserable! You haven't mentioned whether your girlfriend wants you to stop listening to them- maybe if shes only bothered about you playing ICP when shes around, just listen to them without her. Ultimately just do what makes you happy!
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I am a thirteen year old girl and I have a close male friend. We usually get on quite well and we are always talking and hugging. We used to be attracted to each other and he on/off still is to me but I don't feel that way about him. Everyone says we act like we're a couple and that we should get together but I honestly don't want to. We are very close but are we too close? I admit I hug him more than my other friends but I don't have any feelings for him. So is it wrong to be this close to him if we're not in a relationship? (link)
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If you have made it clear to him that you are not intersted in having a relationship with him and he knows this and you know that he definitely knows it there isnt really any harm that i can see! However if you think that he has feelings for you then maybe you shouldn't be hugging him all the time as he wont know where he stands. If it turns out that you're both just good friends and thats all theres no harm in being physically close to each other even if everyone says that you should be a couple!
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im 14 and my sister is 17. she has a boyfriend that shes really close with and a just got a car. shes supposed to come every other weekend but since she got her car she never comes. shes always at her boyfriends and if she does come she just leaves anyways. i really love spending time with her and i miss her a lot cause i never see her anymore. i know that shes older and doesnt want to spend time with her family, but i still do. what should i do? i dont know if i could really talk to her. (link)
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She probably doesnt realise that you feel like this. I bet if she did know she'd make the effort to see you more. You just need to tell her. If you don't feel like you could talk to her could you write her a letter explaining how you feel? Good luck
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So i met this guy, and by his looks he is definitely not my type. Infact, i dont go for guys out of my race. (He's still half white though). But he has an amazing personalility, all the qualities of a guy im looking for; he's beyond perfect. I want to ask him out, but the looks are bothering me. I know looks have nothing to do with anything, but even though i like him, i dont think i could do anything physical with him like kissing. Do you think its just because its in my head? And do you think a relationship can last even though you arent sexually attracted to them? Do you think i should just be friends or go for something more? (link)
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I do think you need to be sexually attracted to someone to have a relationship with them so you probably shouldn't enter a relationship unless you feel this way about them. However, it might just be that you're not used to thinking about guys from another race in that way. Perhaps if you got to know him a bit better you'd start to have stronger feelings for him, especially as he seems so perfect for you! Good luck
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I like this boy called Daniel, but I don’t know what to do! Today in PE my friends were saying, "Let’s call Lauren's (my) crush Daz, as a code name. As in Daniel" (they have these sad code names for the boys they fancy, like carrot and cabbage). I didn't tell them that I fancied him, but they must know, and plus in art, one of them asked if I fancied Dan. I shook my head but I was smiling a bit so I guess they knew =( I'm really scared they'll tell him! he said he liked my drawing in art, and that it was better than his, and he kept touching my foot with his foot under the desk too. and my friend was making fun of me, and he stuck up for me, then he said "I'm only defending Lauren" when my mate asked why. that was a few days ago, and now he's just ignoring me (I think he was looking at me, but I was scared I would start blushing if I looked at him, so I guess I'm ignoring him too) I'm real shy + ugly lol so I don’t know what to do! I'd love to go out with him but I'm scared my friends would laugh because they always fancy popular, 'hard' boys who get into fights. Dan is really sweet and mature. and plus he probably doesn’t even like me =/ any easy tips on flirting for SHY people? 'Cos I’m not good at flirting lol =\ please help? Thanks =) (link)
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Ah bless you! OK just start off small- give him little smiles every so often, and if you feel him looking at you, don't look down (I know its hard!) but loook at him even if its really quickly. Hopefully he'll notice this body language and will start up a conversation which you should definitely join in with. If you feel yourself blushing DONT WORRY just carry on i bet he'll think its really sweet! As for what your friends think who cares?? You sound loads more mature than they are anyway- they'll soon grow out of the whole i love hard boys phase. Also it sounds to me as if Dan does quite like you- stop being so down on yourself!! hope it goes well.
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OK so my BFF's little brother is completely discusting!!! He acts very preverted even to me! It's sooo gross. He does things that are well REALLY inapropriate! Oh man when ever my friend and I try to tell him to stop, he will just ignore us and tell me I am sexy. Ya it's that weird for peet sakes hes only nine! How do I get him to stop?! (link)
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Just completely ignore him! I bet he's only doing it because he's getting a reaction from you. The next time he does it turn away and do something else- he'll soon get bored!
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Ive waxed before but only on my face. Im tired of shaving everything below my chin!!!!! What is safe to wax. I mean what areas. Should I go to a pro for it????? (link)
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You can wax anything you like pretty much! although i don't think you can under your arms. You could go to a pro- they'd probably do a better job although it is very expensive. As you've had experience with waxing in the past you could probably just give it a go yourself!
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Okay, so I'm 14 f. About a year ago my breasts had a growth spurt and now I have stretch marks! I can't wear anything slightly low cut or you see ugly red lines. I'm not a slut or anything, but going to the beach I need to show a little... anybody know what to do? (link)
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This happened to me a couple of years ago but mine completely disappeared around the time i turned 16. I read somewhere that if you moisturise daily this gets the circulation going and it means that they disappear quicker than normal and this is what i did. For the time being though theres nothing you can do really unless you use a foundation or something. But don't worry they're probably loads less noticeable than you think!
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so today i asked a guy i really like to be my b/f and he said yes after keeping me in suspence for a few hours during the school day. hes really shy all the time so i asked him out. im afraid this relationship isnt gonna work out cuz he wont call or talk to me... should i give it some time to get comfy (if yes, how should i help him) or just tell him to forget it? (link)
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You definitely need to give it some more time! all relationships start off like that he just needs to get a bit more confidence. You can help him with this by calling him and approaching him so that he can get to know you a bit better. That way he will then start calling you and his confidence will be improved. Obviously if things are still like this in say a week or ten days its probably not worth it as it may mean you both are quite different. Hope it works out
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Well over the weekend I'm stuck with a huge project over the weekend and...its a group project and two of the guys in the group goof off all the time and are failing the class and the other guy is a cute,nice,funny guy I flirt and joke around with sometimes. He's into the project but he's not into getting everything together. I've got this amazingly funny and fun idea for the project, and the only way I'm gonna get it done is if I do it all by myself. So my question is, do people hate it if you do all the work? Does doing all the work piss people off? Will the guy not like me anymore if I do it by myself?
Thanks so much for helping! :-) (link)
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If you're happy doing it by yourself it seems unfair on you but go for it! The others really won't mind in fact they'll probably be really pleased! Just make sure they don't think they can take advantage of you another time. Hope it goes well with the cute guy!
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okay well i used to like this kid matt, and he found out but we didnt make a big deal out of it. it was around christmas. now its like 3 months later and im starting to like him again. he doesnt know.. but it seems like he wants to be with me alot more. he is always volunteering me for things in school, like today in math we did this thing with judges ((dont ask)) and he was like.. she would be good at it!! and i was like.. but i dont like to talk.. and he was like.. shut up you love to talk you talk to me all the time.. and then at lunch he kept looking at me and whenever our eyes met he would smile at me. im not sure if i should tell him or not. (link)
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It sounds to me like he probably likes you! But just to be on the safe side try to spend a bit more time with him- gradually talk to him a bit more and invite him places that you're going with a group of people already. That way you can work out if he feels the same way without the embarassment of asking him! hope it all works out
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My mom is the biggest blabbermouth of all time. She can't keep her secrets to herself. She can't keep MY secrets to herself. She tells everyone the details about my life. She humiliates me infront of everyone. She makes up lies to exaggerate the truth. I really don't know what to do. Should I just stop telling her things? I can't stand the way my life is out there and availible to anyone that wants to hear about it. (link)
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It's important to have your mum there for you to talk to so i don't think it's an option to stop telling her things and it would probably upset her as well if you did this. Therefore you need to sit her down and explain to her how embarassing you find it when she tells everyone your secrets. She probably doesn't realise you feel this way! just be honest- shes your mum and she'll care if shes making you feel uncomfortable. It'll be tricky but worth it.
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Okay, so! I'm 15/female and I met this guy last week and he seems pretty cool. He likes me and all, and I like him too. It's just that, I dont like him like boyfriend/girlfriend. He's a great person and all, and I'd be happy with being friends but other than that, I'm confused. See.. I'm not hott or anything, I'm average, but he sees me as beautiful. And I desperatley want a boyfriend because I havent had one in over a year and I'm getting lonely. But I dont want to go out with this guy for the wrong reasons. Should I go out with him once and see what happens or what? (link)
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No that wouldn't really be fair on the guy if you went out with him for the sake of it. It's really easy to say but the right guy will come along at some point but it's true! You wouldn't be happy if you went out with this guy cos you know yourself that it would be for the wrong reasons. good luck
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ok well whenever i go to the bathroom, i look at my underwear and theres this like clear slimy gooey discharge and i havent gotten my period yet ... what is this ? im 13/f HELP! (link)
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This is just normal discharge- don't worry! It probably means that your period is going to start pretty soon. If you're really concerned just go to the doc so he can put your mind at rest.
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