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hey,i'm Nicole. I'm 23 years young. I'm from New York...i do the best i can on giving advice on this site.drop one in my inbox n i'll get to it as soon as i can.i like spending time with friends, shopping,and playing soccer. my interests are music, singing and dancing.

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i had a question. besides the risk of stds and pregnancy why are adults so against teen sex? like parents make a huge deal out of it and i dont see why if you use male/ female condoms and are on birth control. i mean there is always still of risk of those things but they arent the end of the world.

parents have a hard time letting go. it's like their child is losing their innocence and they think that their kids should be older to do that kind of stuff. i think they're wrong cuz they might've had sex when they were teens too. most parents are just over protective ((and i think it's ridiculous))

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alright guys. well. tonight i think i'm going to the movies with my boyfriend. and he wants to see into the blue. you know the one with jessica alba and the REALLY hott guy with the nice 6pack abs? alright. well the problem is that if we go i know the whole time he'll be like in his head thinking goddamn she's so fine blahblah about jessica alba. but i'm not like that when i'm with him. and i bet that later on he'd tell me how hot she looked in different sceens and stuff. so i'm like... well i'll see if i can go to that one even though i really don't want to.

i really don't think thats a "couples" movie.
thats like. horny guy alone. do you agree?

and if like you were me (if you're a girl) would it bother you that like he'll talk about that stuff after the movie, when he know's that you wont talk about how hot the guys is?

please help as soon as you can.

well...i would say that it's wrong for him to say that she's hot and all that sincce you ARE his girlfriend. he shouldn't be saying that kind of stuff around you. just tell him that you want to see a different movie. hope i helped

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I am in the 10th grade and I have been thinking about what I want to be when I leave college. I now have discovered that I might look into being a psychologist. Can anyone help me find like websites that will help me research more about this. Thank you

your school should have a college and career center that helps with this kind of stuff. i dont have any websites for you, but your school can be pretty useful for this kind of stuff. hope i helped

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out of the blue 2 guys like me at the same time. i chose the one that i knew the most. we have been going out for a day and hes saying he loves me and i just feel confused and i want to tell him that. but then this other guy is so sweet and says he would never cheat on me and stuff because the guy im going with is what you would call a rebel. i really dont know what to do please help me

just because the guy you're going with right now is a rebel doesn't mean he'll cheat on you and stuff like that. sometimes the rebels are the more trustworthy ones. i say stay with the one you're with now unless his past is cheating on people. you chose him for a reason, right? hope i helped

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heyy well heres the thing .. i'm getting old and i haven't started to shave my legs yet. with winter coming up i can wear long pants but in gym, we have to change into uniforms that are shorts. all the popular and good looking guys are in my gym class and i don't want them to get any wrong impressions .. i want to bring this up with my mom but it really gets uncomfortable talking about puberty and such .. i really need some help! thanks ahead of time !

you dont have to get into talking about puberty with your mom. just be like "mom can we go to the store and buy some razors? my legs are really kinda icky and i want to start shaving them" ((even if u dont think they're icky)). hope helped

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how long should a tampon be in ur body? like if i am at school from 7:00 to 3:10 which would be 9 hrs!!! du i need to change my tampon in skool...probably but i am not sure! pleese help i rate high!

oxo * oxo

a tampon should only be in your body for 8 hours at the most. if you have a tampon in for more than 8 hours, you're risking getting TSS (Toxic Shock Syndrom). hope i helped!!

XOXO **Nicole** XOXO

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13/f

Is 31A cup normal for my age?

just curious

yeah its normal. not everyone grows at the same rate.

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I recently found out that my bestfriend cheated on his gf. And it wasn't just a make out with another girl type of cheating. He lost his virginity to this other girl. And he has no intention of breaking up with his real gf or even telling her. She lives about 2 hours away from here so unless someone tells her, she wont find out. She's also a good friend of mine so i'm questioning if I should tell her. I know if my bf was cheating on me and she knew, I'd want her to tell me. I'm not speaking to my bestfriend right now becasue of the fact. So should I tell his gf?

i know it might kill you not to tell his gf, but it's not your business and i think that you should NOT meddle. what he did behind his gf's back is really really wrong and if she finds out she'll never forgive him or speak to him again. the best you can do is wait and see what happens. if she finds out and she's really depressed, just be there for her. all i can do is give my advice, but it's up to you what path you take. good luck & hope i helped!!

XOXO **Nicole** XOXO

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I'm sixteen and I've never made out with a guy (or anything above that...and I only kissed once) is that a huge turnoff for a guy? I havent really had any boyfriends, but now I'm interested and I'm wondering will this scare guys off?

it wont scare them off. if a guy really cares, then it wont matter to him if you havent done any of that stuff w/ guys yet. the right time for you will come along. hope i helped!

XOXO **Nicole** XOXO

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I had a girlfriend for 1 1/2 years. we got into it some night and I hit her. CAN SOME ONE PLEASE HELP ME GET HER BACK????!!!

well since you were drinking, she had a right to slap you. you probably did something inappropriate and she tried to fight you off. and i doubt you'll get her back because once you hit your girlfriend, things arent ever going to go back to the way they were. sorry.

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What are some healthy snacks I could take in my lunch each day? I have yogurt and carrot sticks, apple slices down, but those don't fill me up.
Any ideas- i rate 5's if you give me good advice and not anything like "eat food."

you can try saltine crackers with sliced cheddar cheese. try drinking orange juice...its really good for your body. a peanut butter and jelly sandwich is even healthy...or just peanut butter if you like. hope i helped!!

XOXO **Nicole** XOXO

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i really want to go because i haven't gone before but i have no date and no guys wanna dance with me so i'm a loner..i can't ask anyone to go with me..i'd probably be rejected..if i do go, i will feel sad during the slow dances and shy with the fast dances..all my friends go there to dance and hang out..i can't just hang out..everyone has a date except for me..i'm sad and im confused..i don't know what to do..:( people make fun of me..esp. the guys

a lot of people go to homecoming dance without dates. it's kind of better to go without a date and just with friends so that you aren't attached to one person. just have fun with your friends and guys will see you and think that you're a fun person and will most likely ask you to dance. good luck & hope i helped!!!

XOXO **Nicole** XOXO

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i've decided to start scrunching my hair, but see..my hairs really really curly, so if i let it dry naturally it juss poofs & i can't seem to get the 'wet look' & i'm not totally sure what to do, so if anyone has any tips er anything to help, its an easy 5 =)

thanks!

use garnier fructis "wet look" gel. it has the yellow bar on it in the green tube. my hairs the same way, so i would know...and that's what i use. hope i helped.

XOXO~*~*Nicole Lynn*~*~XOXO

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Why are people so obsessed with being trendy? Why does everyone feel the need to wear the latest clothes, or listen to the latest music(Rap usually). What happened to people being individuals, and being happy with who they are? This isnt really a good question, but it gets on my nerves how people act sometimes.

alot of people are really insecure, want to fit in, and are afraid to be who they truly are. it gets on everyone's nerves...you're not alone. some people are fake...they have fake personalties and everything about them is fake... just be glad you're not one of them :-D

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OK well i think i might be annorexic. I'm about 4'9 and only like 86 pounds. That never seems to be thing enough for me. I'm always trying to lose weight some how or another. Now i don't know what to do...i don't want to tell my mom b/c i'm not sure if i am or not and i don't want to worry her. I'm just scared that i'm getting myself into trouble with this stuff...does anyone have ne suggestions for me? I'm scared...i dont want to end up in the hospital b/c of this...thanks in advance!

if you're anorexic, that means you dont eat food because you feel the need to be thinner and thinner. if this is you, its serious and you need to get help. you will destroy your body and your social life and people will think really bad things of you if you are anorexic. if you eat and stuff and you're still only 86 pounds, you should go to the doctor and ask why your growth is under everyone elses. but dont take this too far. weight has nothing to do with looks. good luck, hope i helped, & if ya need anythin else, drop one in my inbox!!

XOXO~*~*Nicole Lynn*~*~XOXO

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ok well, im going out with this guy named james and i really like him. but lately whenever we talk on the phone its really boring and he is really prude so it sucks. so these two guys like me named john and nick. and they think i should break up with him becasue they dont think he is going to change and they think i desurve more. so john asked me if i thought going to a dance with someone im not going out with would be considered cheating. and i said no so he asked me to the dance. and i said yes. so now i dont know if my bf will be mad at me or not. should i break up with him? should i tell him about the dance? what should i do? PLEASE HELP ME!

the first thing in a relationship is honesty, so yes, you should tell your boyfriend about the dance. dont lie about it or keep it from him. you need to come right out and tell him, even if you think he'll get mad. if he treats you like dirt and gets mad that you went to a dance with another guy when your own boyfriend didnt even ask you, then break up with him and go out with John. good luck with your decision!

XOXO~*~*Nicole Lynn*~*~XOXO

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For along time now I have had scary thoughts. Thoughts that someone is going to kill me in my sleep. I always have thoughts of my sister or family member doing this. I also have thoughts of killing myself, I even go through the cabinets and pour some pills into ziploc bags and hide them in my room just in case I feel the need to overdose. Sometimes I get in crazy moods and can't control them and I am afraid I am going to do something I know I normally wouldn't do. I am like a different person when I am depressed and in a different mood. It's like I have a split personality or something. I don't know what is wrong with me, and I have this urge to always pull my eyebrows out. It feels so good to feel the hair slip from my skin. I get into a trance and can't stop pulling, afterwards I feel so guilty but while I am doing i its all I am focused on. Each hair I feel represents a problem in my life. And when they come out it feels for a moment I am free of worries. Is it strange to feel this way, to love to feel pain?

you might be bipolar. that's when there's a chemical imbalance in your brain which causes you to change moods randomly. like you could be perfectly happy one moment, then punching somebody's lights out the next. a split personality is a schizophreniac. that's where you are two different people but you wouldnt be able to remember the other one and you would be one good person and one bad person and there would be times you couldnt remember where you were or what you were doing. if you love to feel pain and are depressed, then you might want to go to the doctor, because then you may be diagnosed with depression. it personally sounds to me like you have some sort of chemical imbalance, but i hope you get better! hope i helped!

XOXO~*~*Nicole Lynn*~*~XOXO

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We have mice, ants and rats in our house! My mommy just screamed because she saw a mouse in her closet! I'm deathly afaraid of mice and ants. Is there any way to ger rid of them? We've tried mouse traps and spray to kill ants but they keep coming back! What attracts an ant to a place? Sorry its kinda long but i need help and i rate!!!

try vaccuuming your house to get the crumbs up. thats what ants are attracted to. and if the mice dont go along w/ the ants, you'll probably have to have an exterminator come for each of them. you might need one exterminator for the rodents and another for the ants, but it'll most likely get rid of them. hope i helped!

XOXO~*~*Nicole Lynn*~*~XOXO

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I'm thinking about getting my cartilage pierced.. but im afraid its gonna hurt a lot. Does it? How much does it hurt? (How much more than getting ur lobe pierced?)

it twinges for a couple seconds and then it goes numb. it will be red for about 30 minutes at first right after you get it done. when you're sleeping, try not to sleep on the side that you get it done on and it wont hurt. the only time it kmight hurt after you get it pierced is if you lay on it, pull on it, or get it caught on something. hope i helped! (and i have mine done too!)

XOXO~*~*Nicole Lynn*~*~XOXO

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I am 13/f and am in the 8th grade. Im not really skinny but medium. I have never been asked out by a guy and I dont really want a bf but I want to be liked. I play sports and am kind uf tomboyish. Also usually I panick if I find out I guy just likes me a little and say something mean. How should I handle a guy that like me w/o bursting on him, is it bad ive never had a bf or been asked out, and should I be more girlish?

you probably are liked by someone, but the probably dont have the nerve to come out and say it. they're guys, they have high egos! :-p!! anyways, it doesnt matter that you've never had a boyfriend or been asked out. and the fact of being more girlish is up to you. don't change for anyone else, if you want to be more girlish, do it because you want to. if you tend to burst on guys that you find out like you, just be friendly with them, think "i dont like you anyways, so i'm not going to be mean, i'm just going to be friends w/ u"

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