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I'm danika :) i'm 17 and i've been an advice columnist for almost 2 years i'm not on here a lot anymore but feel free to leave me and inbox and i'll get back to you asap

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what does it mean when your with someone boyfriend/girlfriend wise and you feel completely safe like nothing can hurt you. you get major butterflys in your stomoch and feel all nervous around them. you think about them alot and when you kiss them it puts the biggest smile on your face. you want to see them all the time and it makes you sad when you cant. what does this mean? does this mean im in love? do i love them? i know i love this feeling but i dont know. is this what in love feels like?

no brainer. your falling in love babess :) love can't be explained in words. because there is no words to explain it. it's crazy i know ;] i love the feeling too; it's amazing

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how do i get glue off skin

use rubbing alcohol

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On a scale of 1 to 10 how much does sex hurt a virgin? Specially if they havn't even used a tampon yet? Or even had ANYTHING up there at all? Be COMPLETELY HONEST please! I really need to know. Thanks.

it all depends on likee how big it is. but since your probably really tight it's going to hurt bad but it won't be like unbearable. i would say aroundddd a 7 or 8

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ive noticed a lot of people on myspace leave comments saying 'i'd tap that' can someone tell me what that means coz i feel so dumb not knowing!!

thanks :]

it means your would 'do the nasty' with them.. likee have sex. they say it jokingly usuallyyy ;]

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15/f
ive had my period for about a year and a half and normally i just get cramps but for about 3 days now my boobs have been hurting alot. everytime i move or walk they hurt. i still havent gotten my period either and it should have been here around 3 to 5 days ago. im not sexually active but i masturbated the other day and i havent in a while so could that have affected it, and sore boobs a sign of pms or is it something else?

perfectly normal.. it has nothing to do with masturbation.. your in puberty and your boobs are growing; so their going to hurt once in a while as much as it sucks. :)

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can someone please explain to me why guys are so obsessed with ?

okay guys are so obsessed with sex because it feels really good to them.. if sex was the thing you were refering to...

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what do u do when your friends tell you that you have changed alot ever since u got with your boyfriend??
the other day my sister told me that i've been alot more bitchier ever since i got with my boyfriend kyle which was almost a month ago.
and then my best friend just told me that everyone has noticed it.
she said that i act like im better than everyone and im alot more bitchier and everything.
i just dont know what i am supose to do about that. should i break up with my boyfriend or just ignore everyone else??

everything changes when you get a boyfriend because all of your time you want to be spending with them. but i would just listen to things that your saying. maybe you are being a little bitchier and in that case i would think about things when you say them. don't break up with him but don't ignore them either. just think about things before you say them. of course your going to change but don't change for the worse :)

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Okay, I'm 17/m and have a beautiful girlfriend that I've even promised to merry(sp?). Anyways, I have a friend that I was talking to, 15/f, and we got into a discussion. This discussion was about sex, we were talking and she asked me what I was thinking about. This was kind of weird because she usually can assume what it is. She kept wanting to know and then she asked me to email her my fantasies that I have about her. I hate to say this but I do have fantasies about her as well as my gf and sometimes all three of us. I know most of you think thats sick but were all young and young people do stupid things. Anyways, I'm scared and don't know what to do. Should I give into temptation and reveal my fantasies or keep them to myself? Is this feeling unnatural? PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!! I'm sooooooo confused!
Thank you.

P.S. Me and my gf are perfectly happy with each other. We never fight, we love each other to death. We've been going out for 1 year.

it's not unnatural. it's just as natural as fanatisizing about a famous movie star or singer. i would just keep them to yourself because if your girlfriend finds out she will probably be really upset and she might loose trust in you and then it would be all UPHILL from there... the fights will start, the yelling screaming, assuming etc. dont' do it. just tell the girl that you don't have fantasies about her because your madly head over heels in love with your girlfriend

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I'm 16/f. My best guy friend is 16/m. He recently told me that he really liked me in december, and was even going to ask me out. Then he changed the subject, and I realized I'm a dumbass for asking him why he didn't ask me out.

Recently he's been treating me shitty. We don't hang out at all really, while during december we hung out almost every day. I have hung out with him once in January. Why do you think hes acting this way? Does it seem to you he gave up trying to be my friend because maybe he doesnt like me anymore? He still could, I dont know I didnt ask. But I truly feel he doesnt care for me at all anymore and it really hurts, he used to be the most carng person. I have talked to him about it, all he says is that he cares.

i think he thinks that you think of him differently now that he spilled his heart out to you.. i think he does like you but he's just starting to give up because he doesn't know if you feel the same way.. talk to him about it again.. that's the only way things could be better. tell him you don't want things to be any different than they were before

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okayy im 13/f and i reallllyyy want to get my belly button pierced but of corse my mom wont let me. so i was wondering is the anyway i could do it on my own?

you could because there are not any health risks like for examp, my friend pierced hers herself. i got mine done professionally and that's the way to go. because it hurts pretty freaken bad .. and you might not want to go through with it. you might also do it crooked professional is the way to go. if your mom doesn't want to let you get it there is probably a good reason. maybe write her a paper on why you should. maybe that will help or make a deal with her like for you to get it for like your 15th birthday or something?

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I am going to be 20 in march and Im a female. I've had a man for 3 years this july. He's in the military so its like im livin two lives. Neways, I went out with my friend and I met this boy. He is so sweet and we hit it off pretty good. I've ended up stayin at his house hangin out, talkin to him, gettin to know him better for the last week or two. I love my boyfriend, but i got feelings for this other one. I dont know if i should tell my boyfriend that we need some space. Should i see what its like with this other guy? Take the chance? Is it true that if i realize i messed up by lettin him go, we will find our way back to eachother again?

i think the only reason you have feelings for this other kid is because he gives you attention and is there 24/7 unlike your boyfriend in the military. after he gets out of the military you are going to go crazy, no lie, because you love him and the distance shouldn't interfere with your compassion for him. i think that you shoudl forget about the other guy because your boyfriend is fighting for his country and that would be messed up if you left him for the other guy. but that's just my outlook on things. actually i think if you let him go he's going to be really angry and i dont' think he woudl take you back, but i don't know the guy so i coudlnt' say. but i hope everything works out and make sure you think it through.

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okay i'm making a cd for my boyfriend for valentines day.

what are some cute/romantic/loves songs i could put on there?

im looking for 10-20 songs possibly.

thanks =]

-beautiful as you (all for one)
-beauty in the breakdown ( the scene aesthentic
-what beautiful is (aaron rothe)
-truly madly deeply (savage garden)
-be without you (mary j.)
-miles apart (yellowcard)
-only one (yellowcard)
-hurricane (something corporate)
-hey there deliah (plain white t's)
-i knew i loved you (savage garden)
-one wish (ray j)
-far away (nickleback)
-semi charmed life (third eye blind)
-i wanna love somebody like you (keith urban)
-back at one (boys 2 men)
-emily (from first to last)
-iris (goo goo dolls)
-what i've been looking for (high school musical)
-save room (JOHN LEGEND!)
-bring it on home (little big town)
-Existentialism on Prom Night (straylight run)
-down (something coporate)
-want to (sugarland)
-meet virginia (train)
-i caught fire (the used)

hope that's gooodd :)

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I just got rid of my best guy friend. I'm a female. I don't know what to do, he's the only one who listened and seemed to care. Lately he seemed like he didn't care at all, he hasn't even been talking to me. So I'm avoiding him now, and it feels like I've basically lost him.

How can I not be so hurt? I'm sinking into depression and it's horrible. Are there any things I can do to not be this terribly upset? Thank you.

baby if he's all of a sudden acting like nothign matters. than maybe soemthing is wrong with him, and he just maybe can't deal with other peoples problems right now because he has his own to try and deal with.. so you should try and talk to him and not avoid him because you never know he might be going through a rough time as well.

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This question is mainly for guys but if your a girl and you have an opionion thats welcomed to:)

Do guys think belly button peircings are hot?

P.S- i'm blonde 5'8 120 pounds and have told i should be a modle many times oh and i'm 14. If those help any

Thanks soo much

my boyfriends says:
EyesWideShut17o (11:51:05 PM): they are
EyesWideShut17o (11:51:05 PM): no lie

my best guy friend says:
LifeAmongRuins (11:51:14 PM): and on some girls yea
LifeAmongRuins (11:51:18 PM): u gotta have the body for it


and since you sound like you got a body of a model right? go for it girlfriend.

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does anyone know what is on the permit test for driving, good things to study/know, good sites for online practice tests and things to know.
thanks.

know all the signs. and stuff if you type in good '(your state name) drivers manual' there should be a state website and there are quizes on there ;] well at least there should be.

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hello
If you were to get high/smoke pot about 2 times, how would a doctor be able to tell?

I heard you just pee in a cup and they can tell from that. How long should you wait until you're all clear? and does smoking 2 times have any affect on that?

pot stays in your system for about a month.. even if you pee in a cup and you did it a week or two before; they will still know

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So everytime i like a guy, and they start to like me, i stop liking them like the second after, and i have no idea why, it makes me mad, and i feel horrible about the boy. I don't have commitment problems, and i know i'm actually a pretty good girlfriend, i just, don't know what to do. And its not because i'm immature or not ready, i've had serious ralationships before. Am i afraid of being hurt, ugh, i don't even know.

my best friend just sent me this question because i was EXACTLY like this since may of last year. i would like a guy and then when they would start to like me i would back off and stopp likeing them. i didn't know what was wrong either. but it's because you are afraid of getting hurt because you've been hurt times before and you don't want to go through the pain again. what you have to do is usually when your caught up in the moment your force yourself to say yes if they ask you out. the next day you will feel like a retart. but after that it will get better; and you'll be really happy and proud of yourself. but if you need anything else just let me know because i know what it feels like since i was the EXACT same way

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where can i buy cute black flatts? (any kind) thats not a lot? link please :]. thanks !

hot topic.

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ok to get to the point i am a cutter and i don't cut because i am depressed i cut because it gives me a nice rush i think i might be bipolar because i looked it up on wikipedia and it said that people who are bipolar do that and ilike the feeling of getting body piercings so can someone please tell me if i am.

well; i like body piercings too; and anything with pain. but i'm not bipolar. my friend is bipolar and what it is simpily is one second your completely normal and then in 1/2 of a second you start flipping out going crazy for NO reason at all.

example: if your going down the hall all happy and then you look up and just start flipping out on some random guy = bipolar

if your going down the hall happy and some random guy bumps into you and you start flipping out = doenst' mean your bipolar

if you think your bipolar talk to an adult and see a doctor. but when people cut it doens't mean their bipolar because it gives them a rush. if you need anything else ask :)

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i know this is kind of gross but im sure some girls do it. Is it normal do have sex while your on your period? I know its okay when your pregnant but what about while on your period?

yeah some girls do; but most don't because there is a better chance to get pregant when you have sex with your period. it's just extremely messy

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