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so i've been dating this guy for a couple months and he seems to have this "friendship" with this girl. she always writes on his facebook and she texts him ALOT. like whenwe're hanging out he'll get a text from her but he'll just ignore it. idk though cause she writes things to him like "sorry for falling asleep on you last night" so like they text at night and idk do you think i'm over reacting or would you be concerned if it was your bf too? like i have my guy friends that i text too but not like late at night..should i bring it up? i don't wanna sound crazy and stuff (link)
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I'm not saying he is, Lets jump straight to the cheating flags...
Is he hiding things from you? Talking about HER a lot? Maybe quick to change the subject on certain things? I think it's rather odd that he would only text this girl late at night..
It's one thing to have a friend that is a female, but it's another story when it gets too far. If it is getting out of hand, I would talk to him about it and let him know how it makes you feel and you don't like the fact that he is always texting her when he spends time with you.
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you have this person whom you know by name only in high school. he migrated to London after high school.. and then you met years later during an event.. constant communication formed after he left... is it possible to fall in love for this guy even though your a thousand miles apart? i mean, by the way he writes his post.. his blogs.. his pictures.. is it possible? because there's something pulling me towards him.. i've done a lot of things to avoid thinking about him.. but my feelings for him got deeper as we talked online.. :| (link)
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It's possible to develop feelings sure, However at a thousand miles apart...The chances of actually having a relationship are almost impossible.
If it wasn't meant to be, Then it wasn't meant to be :/
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k so there's this guy that i've liked since 8th grade(i'm going into 10th).He's been going out with one of my good friends for about 11 months. She went out of town for 2 weeks and the other night, i snuck out to meet this guy at his house and we got drunk. One thing led to another and we ended up having sex.He and his girlfriend havent even had sex yet. We haven't mentioned it to each other since. Do you think he was using me for pussy? because we've been like bestfriends for awhile now. should i feel guilty? because i feel bad for what HE did to her not for what I did to her...please answer this-i really need advice (link)
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You were both wrong, It wasn't just his mistake.
You have control of how much alcohol intake you put into your body, Nobody forced the alcohol down. Did he use you as a booty call? Well, I wouldn't be surprised if he didn't have sex in mind as you both were not responsible.
You have caused your friend a sore spot by sleeping with her boyfriend, You and him have put the relationship in jeopardy. It takes a sour friend and a sour boyfriend to do something like that to someone. Assuming that you and her boyfriend are not going to tell her what happened...I think you should rethink about what the meaning of a true friend is. A friend does NOT go out of their way to hurt someone. You were wrong for sneaking out of the house to meet up with him, You were wrong to get drunk and you were wrong again for blaming him when it was just as much as your fault as it is his.
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I've been having troubles with making friends. I had a lot before. But now they've all turned on me since I started going out with this one guy. They call me a #### ... and they think I "sleep around" .. Which I most certainley dont. And I can't seem to understand why they would say all of these mean things to me. I just want it to all end. What should I do?
Sincerly,
Truly Confused. (link)
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True friends don't call each other names, You are looking in the wrong places.
A true friend, Will except you for who you are and will never judge you. As the user below me said you need to start standing up for yourself NOT in a mean way but ignoring others rude comments will show them that you are mature enough to handle yourself. If you like this guy and he treats you the way you should be treated then that is all that should matter. Happiness in a relationship is not about what your friends think or what others have to say it is about you and that one person. Keep trying and don't give up, There are many people who I'm sure would love to be your friend you just have to find the right ones.
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do all girls masturbate and some just dont admit it? or do many really not do it? (link)
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Most woman will not admit they masturbate because it is personal and it is embarrassing to them. Yes, females do masturbate.
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so im having a little party/get together with about 5 dudes and 5 chicks, probably gna drink, smoke, etc... but what else should we do? like its not gna be a party wher ur throwin back beers and shit, just like probably some pong, but what else is there to do for the night, cept just chill? (link)
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Well if ya'll gonna do the smoking thing then why not set the mood in for a some of the more fun exciting stuff?
Buy a black light, You can get one for about 5 bucks at a Newbury Comics?
Music, Definitely got to have the music
Go to a market and buy a couple pizzas where there is a party ya gotta have food..
This should do the trick lots of food, music and some fun black light stuff
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17/F
I have been officially dating my boyfriend for about 14 months, and we kind of saw eachother for a month before that.
Lately, things have heated up alot and I can't help but think about sex. The thing is, my mother is extremely religious and for my entire life has talked to me about how having sex will do nothing but ruin my life.
I am not planning to have sex anytime soon, just maybe within the next year or two, but I would like a few opinions first.
I really do love my boyfriend, as stereotypical as that sounds and I am more than ok with him being my first. Do you believe that a year or two of dating makes it a bit more liable? I just dont want to end up being considered a horrible person if I do have sex with him before marraige. He has had sex once before, but has been amazing to me and is perfectly fine with waiting however long I want to, it has never been an issue.
Also, my parents always tell me that anyone they know that has been on birth control has ended up having problems with getting pregnant later. I have tried researching this, but many websites have different ideas on the matter. I was wondering if anyone knew for sure if this would be a huge issue. When I do have sex, whenever it is, I want to be able to use birth control pills, condoms and spermicide, just to be extra safe.
However, once again, I have alwasy been taught sex before marraige is one of the greatest sins that can be committed. I dont really believe that, but it does bother me. If anyone has their own viewpoints on this, it would be great to hear.
Anyways, thank you alot for taking the time to read and hopefully answer this. :) (link)
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You are not a horrible person and even if you two decided to have sex now it still doesn't make you a horrible person.
I give you the hands up for waiting 14 months, Not many folks even wait a month these days. That alone means you hold your head high and you aren't one of the dumb ones. On the other plus side, You are 17 years old and that is another thing I applaud you for. A year from now doesn't make having sex any more right or wrong then if you two were to have sex now the only thing that makes a difference is you waited a little bit longer. The only thing I will tell you is you should use protection, Yes the truth is birth control can cause some woman to have complications with pregnancy but the chances of that happening are down right slim. It is just one of those things the gynecologist will tell you just like doctors would tell their patients what the possible side effects are for taking prescription medications. There is always a possibility but I will tell you from experience I had the Mirena IUD inserted in 2007 and had it removed earlier this year and I never ever had an issue with pregnancy as I sit here now 3 months along expecting my first child as I mind as well add that I was also on the Depo Provera shot and that also didn't cause me no harm in conceiving. Lets look at the truth, Most religious people are against sex before marriage and some will even tell you anything to prevent you from having sex until then. If you were to have sex with your boyfriend of 14 months NO, That does not mean you will go to hell. NO, That does not make you a terrible person. You waited over a year and you also waited until the age of 17 give yourself that much respect.
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I love my boyfriend but how long in a relationship do u think u should wait to have sex? (link)
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This is a tough question
In my opinion I don't think anyone who is young should be having sex period and young meaning 13-17 years old. Sex is something that should wait until you are truly ready, You trust your partner and most of all you have been together for longer than a good 6 months. You may get a variety of different answers but this is mine.
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do all black guys have big private parts
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No, Every guy is different despite their race.
African American men tend to have big ego's and they talk the talk but not all of them really walk the walk ;)
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I stretched my ears to 0g and put in double flared 2g glass plugs. About five days later my ear holes had healed to the size in the middle, making it impossible for me to remove them because the ends were too big. Well I tried tying floss to the one in the right ear to see if the weight would help it fall out. All that has happened is that the plug has gotten the majority of the way out, and is now infected. The back has been scabbing and closing up while the front leaks puss and is so sore I can't sleep on it. My ear hole is still too small to remove it and I really don't want to/can't afford to go to the doctor. I have been soaking it in Epsom salt and water mixed every day and,cleaning it with rubbing alcohol. I have no idea what else to do. Help me Please! (link)
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See the doctor, Or go to a piercing parlor.
Piercings are not for everyone, I've had my lip pierced, My nose, My eyebrows etc.
Sorry Kiddo...but the plugs just don't agree with ya
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My boobs are different sizes, ones a b and ones a d, WHAT DO I DO? i can never find a good bra and i look lop-sided in all shirts! (link)
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Hun,
The truth is no woman is perfectly shaped unless they had breast implantation done. Every woman has one breast that is a little off, It's normal. :)
There are exercise you can do to firm up your breast, You can put your two hands together and squeeze the palm of your hands together. Also push ups do the trick too.
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Ok i'm going to be 18 on July 10th and there is this dude named Jason who I like and he likes me too...he says that I have all the qualities he wants and in a girl and he just makes me feel real good...but there's a huge problem...He is 27!!!! ahhh I don't know wut to do!! I think when ur 18 ur legal, but still is it bad gettin involved w/him? I'm real confused! (link)
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Hold off until you turn 18, Trust me you will be better off as then you will be legally an adult and free to date whoever you wish.
On the other hand, There is a big age gap. This guy is 27, He is probably in his settling down stage. No matter what he will always have a few more years in and he is in the next level in life. While assuming you are still in high in school and soon to graduate. You are still young, Are you ready to commit yourself to someone?...
Some people will say, It's healthy to date different people to see what is out there, As it's not healthy to just date one person and fully commit at such a young age. However, My point of view date whoever makes you happy.. but just wait until you are legal first.
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I somehow doubt age matters, but 22/f if it does.
I woke up today with the worst neckache I've had since I had whiplash in 2006. It hurts to the point that it's making me queasy, and I have a 13-hour work day ahead of me.
I didn't do anything to my neck, I don't think I slept in any weird positions - the only difference is that I didn't sleep on the heating pad I usually do because my boyfriend and I have been fighting about it. I tossed it in the closet because I was just so sick of the arguing...Anyway.
I have painkillers for a different problem, and they're helping a little, but I still feel stiff and sick.
Anyone know any good remedies? (link)
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I don't any remedies, but you might want to pay the doctor a visit if it doesn't ease up. It could be a thyroid problem.
You could of pulled a muscle, Maybe you DID sleep on it the wrong way? It also could be stress related..It could be a number of things.
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My boyfriend thinks I'm dirty and weird, cos I like porn films and magazines. He thinks it's just for men. Am I dirty and weird, or is he being a prude? (link)
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It is not dirty or weird for females to watch porn, In fact it's very normal and there are a lot of females who watch it.
He is being a prude
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okay heres the deal.
im currently dating this guy named matt. Hes sweet but we dont talk much.. its kinda awkward. the WHOLE school is against us dating.. (there making beats. the lot.) He talks him self up alot says he does drugs and stuff but deep down hes had it ruff and is a big softy. i dont do drugs or want anything to do with them.
idk if i like him i mean we dont got much in common and we barley talk.what should i do....
and at the same time i think my feelings for my ex are still there even though he likes another girl. should i stay with matt or dump him??? tell my ex or stick with matt and give him a chance (link)
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Without communication I can almost promise you any relationship isn't going to work out. If you two don't talk much and don't have much in common...Then I can't help but ask where is the commitment part of this relationship?..
If you don't talk nor have anything in common..Then should you dump him? ..Honestly, I think you made up your mind on what you want to do. However, For the future it is not about what other people think and how many are against you dating someone. Is about the happiness between you and your partner. NOT the happiness between you, your partner and the entire school. It isn't about what other people think.
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19/f
So my boyfriend and I have been dating for over 7 months now. I've given him oral sex many times, but he's never done it for me. So when I asked him last night, he said he thought it was gross. I asked what part was gross, and he said the er..fluids that come out i guess. Then he went on to say that he wasn't ready, "just not yet". Which made no sense to me. How is this fair? What should I do about it?
I was really offended like I gross him out. Or that he doesn't want to make me happy. Because I do it for him, and it's not like my favorite thing in the world, but I enjoy making him happy. (link)
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This isn't about grossing him out..
Despite how long you two have been dating, Let me ask a question...How often do you two discuss your sexual desires? This is one subject that should have some attention considering you are both adults and you are sexually active.
Asking him last night, You might have caught him off guard rather than if you two had gradually began discussing your needs at an earlier time. Giving oral sex is a big step for some people and for others sometimes it isn't always about satisfaction for their partner it's about them thinking it's gross etc. I would give him time to think about it, I might go another root in the meantime maybe giving him a hand job rather than performing oral sex. If he brings up the subjects and ask about it then that would be a good time to say to him I thought I would hold off until you have decided about oral sex, Either that or you two could sit down and discuss it together.
It's not really being selfish, It's more like maybe he needs time to think about it.
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Hey, i am getting two yellow lab pupies in about a week, we have a few names picked out we really like and need help deciding on which ones are best. can you help me pleaseee!!!???
Ace
Axle
Bently
Ozzy
Luke
Sonny
can you pick two of the cutest ones? i really need your help ASAP!also if you have any other names that would be cute please suggest!!!! Thanks!!!
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Out of the list you have chosen I really like
Bently and Axel
Depending on the genders of the dogs you are getting here are some suggestions
Female: Aimee, Amber, Jasmine, Chelsea,
Male: Bently, Axel, Sammy, Charlie
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I am almost 14 and i really want 2 babysit. im not sure how much i should charge per hour or what not. can you help me with how much i should charge people depending on how old kids are, how many kids, how long...etc. Also what are some tips?
Thanks!!!
~kaya
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Depends on the family
When I used to babysit I would get 8 dollars and hour.
8 dollars an hour is a decent amount of money and it's not being too picky. It is slightly more than minimum wage
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can u get birth control without ur parents knowing? (link)
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Yes and No
If you are over the age of 18, Legally you are an adult and you are entitled to your privacy.
If you are under the age of 18, You can go to planned parent hood but when you go for doctor check ups eventually it will show up. There is no way to fully hide a birth, Once you give birth with the right doctor you can figure it out.
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waht are puppymills? becasue i read a sign in a petstore that sayd they dont buy from them :\ (link)
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A puppy mill is a place that breeds dogs, You can have poodle dog and that poodle dog will breed more poodle dogs and then the babies of that poodle dogs breed more poodle dogs etc. However, Puppy mills can be a variety of dogs. They say it's bad to buy puppies from mills because many of them could be sick and it is supporting puppy breeding. Puppy mills can also be known as Puppy farms, Which tend to be overloaded with dogs most of the time and not all of them are guaranteed homes.
This is from Wiki
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Puppy_mill
It's sad, There are so many dogs out there that need homes and they keep breeding more dogs
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