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selfish boyfriend?
19/f
So my boyfriend and I have been dating for over 7 months now. I've given him oral sex many times, but he's never done it for me. So when I asked him last night, he said he thought it was gross. I asked what part was gross, and he said the er..fluids that come out i guess. Then he went on to say that he wasn't ready, "just not yet". Which made no sense to me. How is this fair? What should I do about it?
I was really offended like I gross him out. Or that he doesn't want to make me happy. Because I do it for him, and it's not like my favorite thing in the world, but I enjoy making him happy.
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yea i would just stop giving him anything it will make him angry and give you what u want haha. just tease him and make him hard then be like well u never do anything to me,
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When me and my bf started dating he would do the deed for me but i wouldnt him. I didnt think it was gross i was scared i would stink at it. It may be more he is nervouse then he thinks it is gross but he doesnt want to show his weakness. And if he thinks its gross then tell him you decided his was gross to. some guys are just rude and dont want to but i would throw it to him be scared he will stink at it.
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You put him on the spot. Lucy is right, it's time for conversations about what you both want out of sex to start, and to do so outside of a "we're about to have sex" environment where the pressure is off.
Talk to him about it. Get him used to the idea. He should be willing to at least try it once, and once he tries it he should figure out that it's really not a big deal in the least as long as you're hygienic and have showered sometime relatively recently.
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This isn't about grossing him out..
Despite how long you two have been dating, Let me ask a question...How often do you two discuss your sexual desires? This is one subject that should have some attention considering you are both adults and you are sexually active.
Asking him last night, You might have caught him off guard rather than if you two had gradually began discussing your needs at an earlier time. Giving oral sex is a big step for some people and for others sometimes it isn't always about satisfaction for their partner it's about them thinking it's gross etc. I would give him time to think about it, I might go another root in the meantime maybe giving him a hand job rather than performing oral sex. If he brings up the subjects and ask about it then that would be a good time to say to him I thought I would hold off until you have decided about oral sex, Either that or you two could sit down and discuss it together.
It's not really being selfish, It's more like maybe he needs time to think about it.
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Lol, stick your ground. Tell him that you won't give him oral if he won't give you any.
Don't let him tell you what he is or isn' going to do. You should be in control. :)
Good luck!
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offer to try 69 with him, and don't give him any more bjs
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