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"There's no other love like the love for a brother. There's no other love like the love from a brother." A lot has changed since I was in High-school and first created my column - almost 8 years ago!!!! I now have two gorgeous Boys who mean the World to me; Brody, who is 3 and a half years old, and Brayden, who will be a year in November. I live my life for these two Boys. They make every second worth it. xxoo ♥ ♥

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does anyone know a website that gives you the latest songs and artists / artists knew singles?

or anything kinda like that

thanks a bunch!!!!

http://www.billboard.com/bbcom/index.jsp is a great place for new music.

If anyone gets a chance, check out my advice column and tell me what you think. I am new at this so take it easy on me. Thanks.
-AskBadger

I think you give awesome advice, so keep up the great work. It's great to see more guys on this site that actually give advice. MOST of the guys on here are just giving people rude advice. So it's great to see you're here to help people. Keep it up. :)

I searched the Advicenators FAQ's and I haven't been able to locate anything about forums. How do I get one on my advice column?

Go to your column and click on "Ask A Question." Once you're on that page, you'll see a link in the tool bar above. After the "U=" there should be numbers; these are your numbers for your personal forum.

http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutme.php?userboard_id=15647ard_id=15647

Then, just take the last numbers in the link and replace it with your numbers.

do blind people have dreams??

I'm pretty sure they dream. Since everyone dreams, why couldn't they? Although I'm not sure if they can actually see their dreams, they can probably only hear them. It depends on if they were born blind or they only became blind after they got older. If they were blind since they were born, I don't think they're able to see their dreams. If they just became blind, I'm sure they'll still be able to see their dreams since they remember what things in life look like. However, you never know. Since you and I are both not blind, we wouldn't know the answer(s).

I have been moved from school to school in the last five years. It has put alot of emotional stress on me, trying to cope with new surroundings, friends, etc. We finally found a school that is okay and have settled there. My "friends" only accepted me after using me a bit (tell her i said this etc.) and only like how I am kinda funny. They told me for a while now I'm obnoxious and they don't care when I'm sad or mad. They just kinda push me off to the side. Let's say I'm not the prettiest girl at school. I'm super thin and most people think I'm anerix (sp?) but I'm not, I eat whatever I want. These friends never actually include me and usually when I want to talk to them they tell me to go away, or I want a restraining order and It kinda annoys me. No one takes me seriously and If I say something I thinks cool thay shrug it off.

They have made me feel really bad. So bad I was thinking of suicide (which I stopped because I made myself realize what I have to live for) Everyday it just get's worse and worse. I can't really meet anyone else because theirs no "outcasts" and everyone else is in a clique and I am shy. Then after all this stress a girl who picked on me all last year, made fun of my voice (I later found out I had a beautiful voice, or so everyone says, I used to not want to sing for the fear of being made fun of) She is really annoying. I have told my friends about this but they love her so they tell me to deal with it.Everyone else talks about how they did this or that and mostly on weekends I do nothing because my friends don't want to do anything. I constantly told I need to be normal not outgoing, and I just don't know who I am now. I want to just tell myself I'm a cheater a liar and a no good person. I am the youngest in my class because I have a late birthday and most people make fun of me that I'm so young.

What should I do about this? How can I handle this? I just am getting to the point where I don't see any reason to live. I don't want to talk to an adult because whenever I do they just yell at me back and tell me to stop acting so dramatic, but I just have such a short temper. HELP!!!!

These people that you're calling your friends, aren't your friends at all. Friends are supposed to be there for you no matter the circumstances. They're always there to support you, whether good or bad. They're the ones that help your through the bad times and enjoy the good times with you. No real friend is going to put you down like that and not care how you're feeling. They're going to be there to listen to what you have to say and help you out with your problems. These "friends" are the total opposite. They don't help you out, they're always putting you down and they never include you in weekend activities. These people don't even deserve to have you in their lives. I'm sure you're way better than that.

As for you not being the prettiest or skinniest girl, no one should ever think about himself or herself that way. If you think that way about yourself, others are going to think the same. Try to boost your confidence. I'm sure you're a beautiful girl, inside and out. I'm sure you have an amazing personality and you're really fun to hangout with. Some people may not realize that, but that is truly their lost. I'm sure you have a lot to offer in a friendship and no one should be taking you for granted. If people don't realize what you have to offer, that is seriously their problem. They're just missing out on a great person. Just be happy with yourself. You're the only one that matters the most.

Now, you ending your life because of them and this, one word: DON'T. You shouldn't end your life because some girls are being bitches to you. You have so much more to live for, finding real friends, having a boyfriend, being in love, getting married, having kids, watching your kids grow up, becoming a grandmother, etc. Do you really want to give all that wonderful and amazing stuff away because of some bitchy girls? No! Ignore them, seriously. Don't let them get to you. You don't need any of them in your life. All they do is get you more and more depressed, which isn't good since this might lead you to ending your life. I suggest just moving on and getting some new friends to hangout with. Obviously these friends aren't working out for you. You need friends that will be there for you and will want to do things with you on the weekend. Maybe you should try joining some clubs or groups at your school? That might get you into a better circle of friends. You could also try going to some fun after school programs. Maybe join a spots team, if you enjoy doing sports. Anything that will help you make better friends.

Since you're not able to talk to any adults, are you able to talk to any close family members that wouldn't yell at you? Anyone you're comfortable with and can trust? If so, talk to him or her. I'm sure they will help you out and will be 100% supportive. If not, I'm sure you have a school councilor at your school. Try getting an appointment and talking with him or her. Councilors are there to help, so they'll try to understand your problem(s) and will help you the best they can. If you're too shy to do this or you just don't feel comfortable, I'm always here to talk and help you out. So if you need anymore help or you just want someone to listen, drop one in my inbox and I'll get back to you as soon as I can.

Saturday nights are getting boring for me. I usually hang out with friends, go to movies with them, and go bowling with them. Those are pretty much the only things to do around here (I live in a small town where there's not much to do.).

Any ideas of what to do? I was thinking of having an "Apples to Apples" party at my house (if you've never played that game - definitely play it!) but I can't have too many people over.

By the way - most of my friends are guys, so the makeover thing etc. is out of the question =P

If you can answer this by this evening that would be great - otherwise, it's still good to know for weekends to come. Thanks a lot =D

-Adri

Tell me about it, I feel your pain. I live in a really small town and there's never anything to do around here. What's an "Apples To Apples" party? What kind of game is it? Do tell me, I'd love to know what it is. :)

Here are some fun things you might like to do:

-- Movie nights.
-- Go to the mall.
-- Go bowling.
-- Snowboarding.
-- Skiing.
-- Sliding.
-- Skating.
-- Take crazy pictures.
-- Make a movie (if you have a video camera.)
-- Go for walks.
-- Go for a drive (if you have your license.)
-- Listen to music.
-- Play games.
-- Have a scavenger hunt around your town.
-- Do make overs, even on the guys. (Ones who will let you.)

i dont know if im ready to lost it. but i just wanted to know when do you bleed and how badly does it hurt? like do you bleed after, or while its going on? someone please tell me!!!

It honestly depends on the girl. Since every girl is different their first time is going to be different. Some girls bleed a lot, while others bleed only a little, then the rest don't even bleed at all. I wouldn't worry about this too much, though. If your partner knows you're virgin, he'll know that you might bleed. Most guys really don't care all that must, especially if they know it's going to be your first time. It shouldn't hurt all that much if you relax and he fingers you/gets you wet before you have sex. It'll loosen you up and it'll be much easier and lest painful. Just make sure you relax and you aren't too nervous.

Now, about you being ready or not. I think if you're asking this question, you aren't ready. If you're going back and forth from thinking you're ready than thinking you aren't, I think it would be best to wait. Don't feel pressured into something you aren't sure about. Make sure it's someone you love and someone who you're comfortable with. Don't just do it for the sake of doing it. Make sure you're 100% ready and you really, honestly want to have sex.

damn man I'm embarassed...my partner wishes me to have a larger penis, but hey...I don't want any pills for it...so does anybody have any natural at home techniques one can do to enlarge a penis???

help would be apprecaited

I watched an episode on "Bullshit" once about penis enlargement pills and toys. They did an experiment with three men and they had to test out the penis pump and the penis enlargement pills. Neatness to say, none of them worked. One guy was on the pills for quite sometime and his penis was the same size as it was before he started taking the pills. I wouldn't waste your money or time on trying to get these pills; they're not worth it. Just because the bottle says "100% all natural" doesn't mean anything. Taking hormonal pills can be dangerous, so I wouldn't suggest anything along those lines. The only way to actually have a larger penis is to get plastic surgery. Other than that, none of these penis enlargement stuff is going to work.

If you're insecure about your size, don't be. Just because you aren't bigger doesn't mean you can't please your partner. Most people can get off by just a guy's hand(s), finger(s) and/or mouth, tongue, etc. It doesn't matter about the size, it's how you work it; it's all about the "motion in the ocean." But don't worry about it too much. When you find the right partner, he'll/she'll love you all the same.

Hi!!! First of all you`re beautiful =) && secondly, I wanted to know how long you && your boyfriend have been together? The thing you wrote about him on your column is soooo adoreable!! You should put up a picture of you && him on your column sometime. =) I'm sure you guys are too cute together!!! Wish you all the best with your relationship with him && keep up the awesome advice, sweets.
xxo♥

Thank you so much, you're too kind. Me and Jeremy have been together for almost a year. It'll be a year on the first of February. I'll for sure put a picture of us up sometime. I'm going to have to get some new pictures of us, though. And thanks again! :)

I have been going out with this wounderful guy for about 1 month(T). I have known him 3yrs and I already know I love him. I know it's kind of hard to belive but I think I love another guy, I have known him 8yrs(J). I have loved (J) longer than (T) but, (J) and I have never gone out. I know (J) likes me and has for a long time. We spend alot of time together during school (we see each other between periods and we eat lunch together) but not outside of school unless it is school related. Now I have been having dreams about (J) where I'm dating him and there is no (T). I don't know if that is a sign or what it is. Should I break up with (T) and go out with (J) or talk to (T) about it and see what he thinks?

I think you should do what your heart is telling you to do. Obviously this is a very confusing thing for you and I can't really tell you who to go out with. This is your feelings and your thoughts. I think you should just try to figure out your feelings for both boys. See which one you have more feelings for than take it from there. Follow what your heart is saying, but be sure to take your brain with you; it'll lead you to the right decision.

I have been going out with this wounderful guy for about 1 month(T). I have known him 3yrs and I already know I love him. I know it's kind of hard to belive but I think I love another guy, I have known him 8yrs(J). I have loved (J) longer than (T) but, (J) and I have never gone out. I know (J) likes me and has for a long time. We spend alot of time together during school (we see each other between periods and we eat lunch together) but not outside of school unless it is school related. Now I have been having dreams about (J) where I'm dating him and there is no (T). I don't know if that is a sign or what it is. Should I break up with (T) and go out with (J) or talk to (T) about it and see what he thinks?

I think you should do what your heart is telling you to do. Obviously this is a very confusing thing for you and I can't really tell you who to go out with. This is your feelings and your thoughts. I think you should just try to figure out your feelings for both boys. See which one you have more feelings for than take it from there. Follow what your heart is saying, but be sure to take your brain with you; it'll lead you to the right decision.

I heard the OC is gonna be over in february. Like forever, as in not comming back. Is that true!?

Yes, this is true, sadly. I wish it wasn't, though. The OC is my favorite show.

hey i was just wondering if there were people out there (or here on advicinator) that think that what hitler did was ethical and support him?
Because i totally dont and i was wondering what were there reasons for thinking so

In my eyes Hitler was an evil person. Some may even say he's the devil and I agree with them 100%. I definitely don't support what he did or who he was. People who support and/or like him are obviously sick people to begin with and have major problems.

what does "(sp?)" means :S sorry i just don't seem to get it lol

When people are unsure or don't know how to spell a word they put (sp?) next to it, just to show that they might be spelling the word wrong. "(Sp?)" is just an abbreviation, for spelling.

hey does anyone know if One Tree Hill's season is over? its not on on wednesday nights anymore and i'm wondering if it ended or what? maybe changed time?

It'll be back on in another two weeks; season premier.

sorry if this has been asked alot, but i dont know how to insert heart symbols into messages and captions and other things on myspace... i read an answered question on this before and it said to insert a code like " &hearts"...i tried it and it didnt work :(

so if you know, your advice would be much appriciated :)

many thanks :)

You're doing it wrong, that's probably why it hasn't been working for you. This is the code:

& hearts ;

But, be sure to take out the spaces.

how do you make out? haha

I know you're going to think you can't make out with anyone and your going to be a bad kisser, but really, that's all in your head. Everyone thinks that when it comes to making out and kissing. They all think they're going to suck at it.

I know this is probably not much help, but kissing really does come naturally. Just go with the flow, it'll come naturally, I promise.

Here's a site that you might want to look at, if you feel like you need a little more information: http://teenadvice.about.com/od/kissing

(dont know if this is in the right category)

does anyone know any toothpaste or anything that will make teeth really white? thanks.

You know what does wonders? Banking soda and salt! All you do is you get a little bottle and fill it with 1/2 banking soda and 1/2 salt. Then, shake it so everything is mixed together. After you're done brushing your teeth (with regular toothpaste), just put a little bit of banking soda/salt on your tooth brush and finish up with that. It works great and it REALLY does make your teeth whiter. You should see a difference.

EDIT: I think my mom saw it on T.V. or something, I'm not too sure. She's the one who told me about it, though. :)

i dont see why when we give people advice that they dont want to hear, they rate us low. i think that we deserve better than that because we took time out of our lives to try to help them. why give us 1's for fairly good answers that arnt what you expected? does anyone have an opinion on this?!

-WoahThereBabe ♥

I totally agree with you on this. I hate people who rate others low just because the advice isn't what they wanted to hear. Sometimes people ask for advice when they already know the answer. Then when people give their point-of-view on the subject you get a 1 because it isn't want they wanted to hear. Most just want you to tell them things will be okay, when sometimes they won't. If you get an unfair rating, just report it and the Mod's will change your rating to a fair one.

Before sex, im going to start to take off his pants and stuff and get him hard and then im going to stop and change the subject completely for a few minutes.
Just to make him want me more, is that a good idea? Or what?
I need some help

thank you

Oh no, hun. Don't do this. I don't think this would go over well if you decided to "tease" him like this. It's just really mean and cruel. This kind of teasing never goes over well. If you were to do this to your partner he's likely to get up and leave or freak out.

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