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first of all i am a freshman and the guy is a sophmore who i like and my evil friends told him that and he told them,
"in a few years."
what the hell does that mean? can i have some insight on this please and please help!!!!!!!!!!

I think he means, that maybe in a few years, when you are older? He may see you the way you see him? Its complete weirdness, I mean in a few years your both going to be older, its not like your going to catch up with him in age. Its only a years difference, not that big of a deal. So dont worry about it, he's probably just thinking he's too old. But its only a year.

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13/m ok i like this girl. I have a strong felling she likes me , but im not sure. is there any way of knowing without having to say anything to her. it sounds like im shy but im not i just dont want to mess anything up 'cause weve been friends for about 4 years. and that friendship is really important to me.thanx alot in advance.

Well sweetheart, you're 13,
and thats still super young!
Rejection is in your future,
for everyone, and you cant be afraid of that!
There really isnt anyway to know if she likes you without saying anything to her, unless you have a friend ask her, but thats always awkward, and it puts pressure on the girl , to make a decision, so she would most likely say no, even when she doesnt mean it. Just if you think she may like you, take a chance, but either way if you ask her out, and she says yes, you're most likley going to break up because you both are so young, and it will be awkward afterwords anyways. I dont meant to be the bearer of badnews or anything, just trying to say it as I see it. But go for it, good luck.

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Okay lets sayy the guy i like is named Yogurt well we've talked online alot and we go to the same school but the problem is i know him like how he looks and he wants to see who i am. but if i show him who i am i'm scared it'll blow a chance with being with him i mean i really like him and all but people say he goes for the slutty mini skirt blond chicks but i ain't like those girls i more like jeans a sweater brunette chick.i want some wayy to get his attention make him go up to me say hi and then tell who i am. i want him to notice me but how? he's a year older then me... Help please

- Thxx

Oh like the Cinderella story?
Be confident, put on your best smile, and meet him, or show him your picture. I'm sure he will think you are beautiful. :) Just because you've herad people say he likes sluts, doesnt mean he actually does. People are a lot of talk. And if you guys are talking and getting a long that way, it should be just fine, if he likes your personality he';s bound to like the way you look? Hopefully he's not that shallow.
take care!

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hey everyone ok im a 15/f and i have a crush on this guy at my school... i juz met him last week and we talk and stuff.. and hug well sometimes i dunno what to say to him! so what should i say to him and does anyone have any flirty tips? cuz i really like him.. so please help me!

Ask him what he likes to do,
if hes into sports? fishing? what types of music he really likes, favorite foods, vacation spots, talk about whatever pops in mind, be carefree, and be yourself. Always look at him in the eyes and smile. Communicate your signs clearly no need to be cruel with mixed signals.

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Well my first language is spanish!!!but is the only class that im having problems with!!.I got all A's in every other class except from spanish! I got 2 B and a D and im really really stress about it!cause im a straight A student!and I dont want my grades to go lower!.What can I do !should I get tutoring! or just study harder!.I got a test this thursday!and I want a 100 A!so my %of the class get higher!.

Spanish is a hard class for anyone, but they have times usually where you can participate and get points to keep your grade high, atleast at my school they do. I'm not sure about yours. Tell your teacher about how worried you are about your grade, she/he will appreciate your concern and your strive to do good, and maybe they can give you some tips or show you what excatly to study for :)

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My bf is the owner and chef of a small cafe in town. I've been hearing stories from two of the waitresses that work for him that he is a complete jerk to work for. One of them told me that once he threw something and yelled "how many times do I have to show you"! He will scream and holler at them in front of all the customers if they screw up an order when it's busy. One time I went in to talk to one of the waitresses and he yelled "no talking while your working"! I was so embarrassed for her that I left. I heard he also said once "I would fire you if I wasnt' friends with you" to another worker. My concern is if he has this much anger at his work that he could turn it on me. Should I get out?

Yes. This anger at work, could turn to you. If you are his girlfriend, and those are his friends, he sounds like he could easily treat you that way as well. If you are uncomfortable with that risk, get out of the relationship right now.

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First off, I'm very sick. I've had stomach problems for 7 months. Today, I almost passed out many times. I went to the doctor and it turns out that my hemoglobin levels are down from 14 to 12.3. But my question.. When I got my finger pricked at the doctor, I bled everywhere and it was hard to stop it. Now, my finger is black where it was pricked and it hurts really bad. It's weird. Could it have something to do with my hemoglobin level being down, or should I be worried about that too?

I'm so sorry you are sick!
Its absolutely horrible, feel better SOON.
Well I'm not sure about your hemoglobin level, I dont know much about that at all.
But the blood thing, you could have to do with it, I know a girl who has a blood problem, that she has to be really careful with, if she cuts her self or trips and starts bleeding, its hard to stop because her blood is so thin, so it wont clot, and she also bruises extreamley easily because it. I cant recall the name, but thats something you should bring up to the doctor if you didnt already. Feel better!

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I have a huge crush and he doesnt feel the same but I really want to be closer friends anyway. He doesnt like going places where he's the only guy so it has to be a group thing. What do you think we should do? I always thought of me having a holiday party and having a sevcret santa and "secretly" giving him me.He also loves the jets so I thought a couple of friends and I could go to the game. I really want something fun that can show him that i'm a fun, cute, sweet girl. Any suggestions? Movies, Jet Game, ANYTHING? Also tips on how to act when we're together so I'm not annoying but I'm cute...

Well if he doesnt like you in the way you like him, its almost impossible for you to be just friends with him, because you wont act like you normally do with friends. Its impossible, when someone is attracted to someone else, you act differently, sometimes not even noticing that you are doing so. You can have a party invite him, or just hang out with him one on one, as friends, get to actually KNOW him know him you know? But if you do anything with him, dont keep trying to impress him, dont invite him to do stuff with you, just because you want to make him like you ilke you said 'show him i'm a fun, cute, sweet girl" just act how you normally would with your other guy friends, if you have some you know? Going downtown, just hanging out, playing video games, you shoudlnt have to ask me how to act when you are together, just be yourself. If you are annoying, so be it, he will eithe racccept you for that or he wont. you know?

Never change for a guy.


Good luck.

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This is a question for all you girls who know "the rules" to how to get THE guy.
To all you who know how to flirt, play hard to get, and keep the dude exactly where you want him.

Here it goes..

This guy and I live in different countries.
We've met twice (through friends and relatives)
We've been e-mailing for a while. Flirting somewhat.
I've been told this is where you start paying hard to get! after getting his attention!

So.. I havn't replaied to his last e-mail (sent two weeks ago)

so where do i go from here?

I can't just keep playing hard to get, cause then we'll lose touch.

So when do i make my move? and what is my move?
juts out of the blue sending him an email non-related to the last one?

or what?

thhxx!
ps. 15/fm

There arent "rules" to getting a guy.
Playing hard to get, in emails, or online, isnt a good idea, its stupid.
No offence, dont get tall angry at me for saying thats stupid. But if you like a guy and he likes you back, dont make him chase you around, a lot of guys say that hate that.

Playing "hard to get" isnt great anyways, it shows either he thinks you are just being rude, or lazy, or just not interested in him. So unless they guy you are intersted in REALLY likes you, he may not get that you are trying to play hard to get.

Just reply to his emails,
set up times to meet up or something,
and since you are only fifteen,
I'm assuming this boy you like is around the same age, and he is most likely imature, and of course trying to play hard to get with someone that age, will have no idea what you are doing?

You know?

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15/f
hey
i did the hole bf/gf thing and i didnt really get along with it. now i just kindof feel like messing around and having fun instead of trying to figure out everything. meaning, i dont want to have a boyfriend, but i dont want to miss out on all the sexy-licious fun things having a highschool bf gives you. the only problum is, the rumors are spreading, and im starting to sound like a slut, and thats really not it at all. i have my limits, and if someone cant respect that i ditch them. besides that, i dont know what to do to keep the respect of other peoples. can someone help me out? just because i have fun doesnt make me a slut, and i dont know how to make other people understand that.

You want friends with benefits?
Maybe not, but thats what it sounds like,
if you feel like "messing around"
I wouldnt consider making out with random boys, or doing 'stuff' even though you know your limits. Because in the end, its still using yourself and the guy.

To keep respect, you must give respect. And if what you are saying/doing isnt respectable thats why people are being stupid.

& there is a huge difference between having good fun, and having 'fun' you know?
You are either having the slut fun, and thats why they are calling you a slut, because its sleezy to do.


Just contemplate what you are trying to accomplish you know?

And ignore the other people, dont act like it bugs you.


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What is the ideal weight for a 14 year old that is about 5'11" and what are some good ways to loose weight fast?

Theres no average.
Everyone's bodies are different :]

And we all have our own imperfections..
but if you would like some good ways
to lose weight, try googling it.

:]

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I am like nearly bestfriends with this girl at my school. We hang out at school, and on occasion at her house or mine. But when she is with a huge group of friends I feel left out. Like she is busy talking to her other friends and does not pay attention to me, and her friends that she hangs out with always look at me all weird like I don't belong with the group. And ever since school started she barely talks to me because she is busy with her other friends. Although I do walk up to her and say hi but since she is always with other friends she doesn't talk much to me.

How can I get more attention from her, and get our old friendship back?

Although I would like to be closer friends with her, and hang out more without her losing her other friends. I totally respect her other friends. Also, sometimes I prefer just hanging out with her alone, so how can I get that to happen? She is never available because she is busy hanging out with other friends and I would like to hang out with her as well.

I apoligize for asking so many questions, but please answer as many as you can, and just give polite suggestions and tips, please.

Thank you for your time into reading this.

She is being a friend.
Its normal, for relationships,friendships, to drift apart, but if you still wish to be friends, you will make it work. If you want to still be friends with her, I would go tell her, and try to talk to her. Make effort, let her know your friendship means something.
You shouldnt have to try to get attention from her either, friends dont need to try.
Try making friends with her friends, of course it will be awkward at first, but if you are friends with them too, it will be easier for you all to hang out together yaknow?


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see i have a dance comeing up and i really like him and i worried if it all works out because i also like my friends boy friend and he is going to bump he and we made a dael that if i brake up with my date to the dance and when he bumps my friend we would go out

sincerliy
ashley
age 14
female

I'm not quite sure what you mean by "bumps" but I'll try to answer this to the best of my ability.
I wouldnt worry about the dance, if you like a boy, go for him, and if he likes you back, Great! I hope it works out.

Except! if he is dating your best friend, stay away with him. Even if he is planning on breaking up with her, its just something you dont do. You never date your best friends ex.

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Right. There's a girl and I've known her since the summer, and we basically hit it off really well at camp. We're both into theatre, we're both very philosophical, and we both have warped senses of humor :) (The best kind). It took us a while to go from being "good friends" to an official relationship, but a couple weeks ago, we did. It feels amazing.

Since camp, we've talked on the phone for about two hours straight every single night. Some of our conversations are deep and meaningful, some are silly and random, but there's never been one I haven't enjoyed. The largest issues with this whole deal is that she live about an hour away from me. We see each other every other weekend, though, and sometimes more often than that.... We're both happy with the way it's working out.

Anyway.
She makes me feel happy. She makes me feel very, very comfortable, like I could tell her anything. When I'm with her, I get the "warm, fuzzy" feeling that people talk about. I always look forward to our calls at the end of the day, and I get the feeling she does too. Sometimes it can feel very difficult to be an hour away from here, but other times I'm just so happy to know her in the first place.

So... How do I tell if it's love? I'm partly afraid it's just infatuation, which is something I've experienced many times.

Hrm... Any insights would be highly appreciated.

Its easy to tell when you are in love.
You just enjoy being with that person,
even watching tv together, or staring at each other, when you can have in depth conversations, and connect on that level. Its way more than that, and kinda impossible to describe, but you really just know.
I'm sorry that may not have been too helpful,
but I guess the ways you know its love, is just knowing. You love her imperfections :)

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I have tried to find this song ever since last night. I used google and that didn't help. Here are some lyrics:

..she screams she screams my name

..I'd rather give up and leave it all behind

..she got her lips so shut she's not making a sound

..don't you see you're never going to catch me at that speed, you're moving way to slow

Does any one know what this song is called and who sings it?

Give up to give in - A Heartwell ending

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Is it appropriate for my 12 year old 7th grade sister to wear a little makeup for when she cheerleads at football games. If so, what kind?

Yes its absolutely fine I think.
As long as its not like drag queen red hot lipstick type stuff.

A little shadow and gloss wouldnt hurt anyone.

:]

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i like this guy, and i kno he likes me too, because well... he told me. but hes kinda shy and hes two years older than me, so we dont really talk alot. he gave me his phone number, and he has my number too, but idk if i should call him, would that seem too forward? hes kinda shy so i dont kno if hes gonna call me..so wat should i do?

If he gave you his number,
dont wait for him to call,
just call him, start up a conversation,
he will be glad you started the conversation first :]

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This guy asked me out and hes older than me(nick) so i dont see him in any of my classes. But theres this other guy in all my classes(james) and i guess i kind of flirt with him, but we'r just friends. so would it be bad if the nick saw me with james, like would it seem like i liked james instead of nick?

Well that is kind of complicated,
but if you are just friends with James,
Nick shouldnt care. I mean he may get jealous, but everyone does unless they are reallly good at controlling it. But if you decide to go out with Nick, dont flirt with James anymore.

But if you arent going out and he sees you with him and he gets defensive, just say we arent going out yet, or whatever, so you have the right.

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how do I perform the heinrich manuver

http://www.heimlichinstitute.org/howtodo.html

Go there,
that website,
has all the information you need.

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Hey my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and i've been chatting in this christian chatroom called church usa and i've been talking to this really cute guy named clark he sent me his picture over the computer yesterday when we met and the whole time while we were talking in the chatroom I kept smiling and laughing and giggling and i kept typing in smiles and lol ever few minutes and we exchanged emails and asked me to send him a flirty email so i sent him one after I seen his picture i told him he looked pretty cute and he was really sexy and i really thought that what's going on here and while I was talking to him he asked me out of the blue if I had a boyfriend and i said no what's going on here do you think i have feelings for him and does he have feelings for me thanks for all of your help please help me.

Be careful.

The internet CAN be very dangerous,
I'm sure you know that.


Just make sure his picture is legit,
because a lot of people [paedophiles,pervs,etc]
use fake pictures of some guy, and etc to trick others into meeting them or something.

I dont think you can have feelings for someone over the internet, well I mean YES you can, but you cant really get to know somebody over the internet as good as you can in real life.
I'm not saying meet him, I highly dont suggest doing that, but yeah I guess what I would like to emphasize is be careful!!

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