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Q: sometimes i feel like i feel things to much. not physically, emotionally. i feel like some things have bigger inpacts on me than they do on others. i dont know. it really bothers me sometimes. i just want to know if this is normal, and if it happens with other certain people. you've probably guessed it, but im sensitive. i mean i don cry all the time, but you know sometimes i will. like maybe one every 4 or 5 months. at least recently things have been good for me so it has been a long time. i dont know i think i sound like im coming off as something im not. i have a bunch of friends, and i think it might sound like im a weak im not today i had a soccer game i play dirty i dont really care i tripped to or 3 different people and i can do it in a way i dont get called for it. so im not i guess you would call it the classic nerd. so am i normal or what? im not going to rate you. if you really care about the advice, you wont care about it if i give you a 5 or a 1

Why dont you say that your not a girl because were mistaking you for one...its nice to know your age and sex...cuz then we can help u more..and dont worry guys cry too!

Q: does anyone know how to get music on your xanga? if you can tell me ill give you a 5

Go to the bottom of your "look and feel" page and copy/paste a URL. If you dont have urls go here for lots of em www.xanga.com/xanga_music. if you find a song you like, right click it and go to properties and you'll find the URL.

Q: sorry if its long!! ok. there is this gurl umm lets call her jenn* i used to like her, but when i got with my boyfriend, i found out some stuff that they did like umm..have sex in his truck. (this was back like 2 years ago and i have been with my boyfriend for 8 months now and havent done anything with him) ((she broke his glove compartment door by the way when they were doin it.lol)) ok well..everytime i think about it, i get sooo jealous/mad! i mean he dont like her or anything and always calls her a whore, which she does do a lot of ppl. well anyways..but i just dont know how to stop being so worried and stuff about it. ya see.. i saw her last night at the fair and we got on the same ride. she was 2 seats down from me. i didnt know she saw me. but obviously she did because she called my baby adam today and told him she saw me there. she asked him if he wanted to come over and go swimming and he told her naw. i asked him why he didnt go and he said because he wouldnt want me to go to a guys house and go swimmin and plus he just didnt feel like it. but do you know anyways just to keep from gettin so mad/jealous when i think about it? PLEASE HELP!

Dont be mad if that was over 2 years ago. If she does everyone & anyone, that means your boyfriend was just horny at the time and wanted to get some. So dont worry about it, hes with you now!:)

Q: ok I have very thick hair a few inches past my shoulder..and I am starting to wash it alot more so it won't be frizzy..soo now I always have to do something to it or it will be REALLY big and poofy..well I can't blow dry my hair straight..it takes forever and it never works..so I got all those straightening poducts..but they're all for when you blow dry your hair straight..when you don't..it just makes it not frizzy ya know? I straighten it alot but to make it look good it takes SOOO long and I dont have the time and it's really bad for your hair..can't get it chemically cuz thats bad too and I got it once and it messed up..so any tips to help?

get biosilk, apply some on your hair before and after you straighten it..it works great! You could also go to a salon and ask them what kinda products you could buy. Because the sylists work with all types of hair and they'll help you.

Q: I know this is really early, But What should I do for my 16th Birthday party? Its in July, The readon im asking this so early is so I can save up money for all this stuff. Some things I like are..The color pink,The beach. Im a girlie girl I guess you can say. Dont suggest a Hotel party, I already asked and they said no. We only have a limited amount of money. And a really small house. We may be moving sometime before my party though. So yea anything fun you guys have done for your 16th birthday that was fun and no one will forget please post. Thanks

A nice dinner at a reastraunt would be cool. Its not that expensive and not that creative. But everyone loves food and everyone loves hanging out with people. After dinner you could go bowling, movies, or you can hang out at your house for cake & presents and all that good stuff. Or since you like the beach have a beach party/picnic. That would be fun:)

Q: on the first day of school i met this kid and he complimented me on a couple things because we have alot in common. every time we passed eachother in the halls he'd wave, smile, or say hi, and everyone said he def. liked me. well the past week he hasnt been even looking at me so i was getting upset, then i learned from other people that he has a gf who he's been with for a long time. well yesterday at church he sat behind me and he's like "YOU... YOU... i jerked off to you last night" and hes like "and you were the girl from my dream..." and i was like oh cool! and we started talking, and he was like "how come you never say hi to me in the halls anymore?"... so im confused i think he likes me but i dunno about his gf. what do you think?

Maybe he's shy but if he has a girlfriend just wait till they break up..then go out with him

Q: ok my hair is like right below my brests and i am just wearing smackers lipgloss and basic stuff like that but its not really giving me the responce i am looking for. please thanks your so nice

Well I have the same hair color, hair length and eye color as you so hopefully I can help you out. Try eeyliner use black to bring out your eyes. Go to target and just pick any eye liner thats black. A good brand would be Loreal or Wet N Wild. For lip gloss colors that look good are a light shade of pink, clear, or a mocha/chocolate kinda color. Use blush too! Get some foundation to even out your skin and hide pimples or whatever. Get the right foundation for your skin color though. If you want good makeup that really works try going to a Mac store. Do you even have Mac?? if so go there and they'll help you out with everything. Its pretty expensive but the makeup looks great! Check out their site at www.maccosmetics.com !! For hair straighten it using a flat iron (u can buy one anywhere) Or when your hair is wet(but not damp) add lots and lots of moose to your hair and scrunch your hair and when your hair drys it becomes curly. Hope I helped! More questions? ask:)

Q: Well, last year I liked this guy alot alot alot . He became popular and he'd pay me less attention by the day but he'd stop paying attention when I stop paying him attention . Well now we only have two classes and that'll soon change because, we're coming to a new semester soon . At first in these classes I felt insecure around him . I used and still tell myself that," he isn't man enough to except me and to hell with him . If he can't be man enough to seek what his heart desire is, then he really isn't a man . Forget him " . And it's been working because, I've been interested in three other guys and two or three guys have asked me out but I rejected for some reasons - but not for him . My friend think I should continue this game but I'm tired of the game . Two years and he hasn't owned up to it becuase, two people told me he liked me and he blushed seriously . That was two years ago , but he continues looking at me as though he likes me and did I mention I'm getting tired of tis. What do you think ? I think I really should move on . Why do you think he's doing this . Am I right about him not being man enough . Should I stay or move on . If this helps he was a jock last year and is onw this year . Thanks and by.

I think he still likes you but doesnt wanna be with you cuz hes "popular" now...So yep just forget about him and go out with another guy.

Q: Well... last night I was at a football game with my best friends. We ran into one of their ex-boyfriends. She has been trying to set me up with him.. but I had never met him before that.
Him and I really hit it off. One of my best friends went to watch the game (his ex) so I walked around with my other friend.
The guy and I were first talking.. and then he gave me a hug and we were walking around with our arms around each other. My best friend left with some other girls to talk to someone.. and left me alone with this guy. While she was gone, he kissed me... Well.. we were kissing when she came back.. and she got mad. I went to find out why she was mad... she said i could do better than a guy like him.

Before I left the game.. I asked him if he wanted to go to our school's homecoming dance with me. He said yes to me.
During the car ride home.. my friend told me I shouldnt go with him because he is white trash. She probably knows him better than I do.. but I really like him. Should I listen to her and tell him I dont want to go to the dance. or go with him and get to know him better?

Maybe its jealousy. Even though she was trying to set you up I bet she didnt actually think it was going to happen. So shes just mad. It'll take a while but she'll get over it.

Q: Hi. I'm in the seventh grade and am terrified about what I might get as a result on my reprot card. I never got off the honor role in my life of being in school. I get all A's and 1 B, and other times just all A's. I'm not trying to boast or brag or anything. I got 3 zeros in science, 1 D, and maybe I think 3 A's. My grade's shouldn't be going down like this because I know I can do better than that. The 1st quarter ends on October 20. Is there anyway I can improve my grade to an A by then. If so, please respond to this question. Thanx!

You should talk to your teacher(s) because we wont know. But just study for tests & do all your work and pay attention in class..Just ask the teachers what you need to do to get an A! Good luck:)

Q: ok im having trouble attracting boys, i have brown hair brown eyes and glasses, my skin is a light tan, im not sure what kind of makup and hair styles to use but what im doing now is not working. do anyof you have ideas on attracting guys? please help thanks a lot
**hailey**
oh ya im 14/f

How long is your hair? What kinda makeup are you wearing right now? If you leave a message in my inbox I'll help you..

Q: Ok my boyfriend and I just recently started having sex a couple of weeks ago, and everything went fine. This may be an over share but we took every precaution, using spermicidal condoms and having him "pull out". So this is why i don't understand why my period is late. Not by too much but by a few days. Then yesterday he fingered me and there was signs of blood about a half hour later. (and he had already popped me before that so its not that)I'm freakin out... you don't think i could be pregnant do you? Help me and ill do anything you ask... PLEASE

You wont be sure until a few weeks because everyone is off by their period by a few days sometimes. So wait 2-3 weeks and see what happens. Good luck.

Q: I went to a football game last night with my friend Mary. We met up with her friend Anurag and then Drew [my homecoming date]. We were all having fun talking and laughing when we went to go sit down. Drew left for a bit behind the bleachers because he said that "He had to check on something", so we let him. It grew like an hour and he STILL hadnt come back. So me and Mary went to go find him. We went behind the bleachers and found Drew with another girl. Her hands were in his pockets with his in as well. She was practically up on him, really close anways. I asked him what was up with that. And he's like "Oh well i was just warming her up". I couldn't believe he had just done it right in front of me...it seemed like he tore my heart out and ripped it in half. He was my FIRST love, and i was his first too. I can't just let him go no matter what! My heart says no, but my mind says yes. I need some advice on what to do about all of this. I can't stop thinking about it..=( I rate high as well! Thanks for your help

You believe the "warming her up" thing? Wow..just forget him obviously he didnt love you if he was doing that with a girl and who knows he could have done it w/ other girls before..forget him you deserve better..

Q: so theres this person who i met online. and hes the sweetest thing ever. and i know hes not some crazy stalker whos 76 yet he always says he loves me and he wants to go out and everything. im freaked out that like..he says that. i mean i told him i wanted to get to know him and everything. but sometimes like..i forget about him. blah im just wondering what to say to him..

having internet boyfriends is so stupid! I think its for desperate people.. dont go out w/ him but u still talk to him:) How long has he known you? I dont think he really loves you..No offense! But some internet guys just say that..

Q: Please dont delete

I need a slogan bcuz im running for vice president of student council which is a very important club, i was thinking of one like 'Voice For Me So I Can Be Your Next VP' but i wud like sumthin more unique or i dunno.. just good n nothin common. please help soon thanks david

You can do a rap slogan! I'll make up raps if you want I just need your last name cuz idk anything that ryhmes with david haha so leave 1 in my inbox and I'll make raps for u cuz i love doing them.. lol and hopefuly you'll like one haha!

Q: Okay .. well I basically Just Started Cutting Myself! + Now i cant Stop.. It like takes controll over me! I dont and wont tell mY Parents and i dont wanna get help or tell anyone* Not even Friends.. but i think they might know.. I dont know what to do ? Im only 13! Should i continue?

Sign
CUTTER!

Should you continue cutting yourslef? No. But its not that easy, so if you really cant stop yourself from doing it your gonna have to tell an adult/close friend that could help you.

Q: Well maybe about 2 - 3 years ago I met this boy, he lives in california and i live in everett washington. Hes in 11th grade and im in 10th. He came up a few months ago and visited me for about 2 weeks and then left. I really love him and we talk online everyday through email because his computers messed up and wont let him download aim or anything. He's always like " Whats up baby " and " I love you too ". Were not going out but I really wanna go out with him. I know he would never cheat on me because hes real. He doesnt make things up If hes busy he'll say " Oh ill email you later im busy ". Hes so sweet to me. But yesterday I went on my sister screen name and she sent him a email that told him that I want to go out with him and that I was scared to ask because he might have a girlfriend or he might say no. And he wrote back saying something like " Tell her I dont have a girl and I would never say no to her and I really love her. " Then she wrote back saying " She wants to know why you love her." And something else. And he said " Tell her to ask me why I love her but she should know." Im not that mad at her for doing to because I kind of knew. But anyways lol my question is should I go out with him? I mean we live far away and probably wouldnt be able to see eachother. But we really love eachother. Drop your thoughts or whatever.

Dont do it, because you or him could find a girl/boy in your town that you really like. its also not worth it just emailing him all the time its not even "going out" but sure online relationships dont work out..no matter what..

Q: ok...i've been acepted into the american school of ballet..and like i go to new york like everyday n e way...but im doing way to many things latley! like im play feild hovkey..ice hockey...7 chorases(training) dance...and windsurfing in da summer....i dont wanna quit n e thing and i dont wanna turn down the chance! what do i do!

p.s (13/f) and i have to get all a's

Hmm, the only thing you can do is give up 1 or 2 things..Dont give it up for good you can always go back to it, but when you have time...so choose one you can live without..

Q: Ok, Im turning 15 soon can you guys give me some things i can do for a birthday party. That will be fun and not major expensive. Thanks so much! Btw, please dont delete

How about having a limo pick you guys up at school, or your house and drop you off at a nice reastraunt..or just go to a reastraunt w/o the limo..then go to your house for cake and presents and yea have fun..

Q: Recently, i found my dad constantly going to chatrooms and talking to random ppl like he likes them better than my mom. every day he would be doing this but once my mom got home, he would close out of them. i dont know what to do. my brother knows about it too, but i dont know if i should tell my mom. please help....:(