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I am looking for a martial arts boxing "punching bag (like a big one that stands upvor hangs) and padded gloves that you can kick and punch" but heres the catch. im low on money and cant afford anything over $27 for each. i know its not much but it will have to do. i just need a name of a store, a price, and maybey a brand name if you can provide one. thanks so much! :) (link)
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I think what you should do is go to sports stores or secondhand sporting goods stores and look at their prices. That's where you are apt to find punching bags a lot cheaper and in good condition.
There's nowhere (and I'm a kickboxing student) that I know of where you can get one for $27.00 or less. And if there were I wouldn't purchase it. The gloves however should be from $30-40 if they're EVERLAST. Some Wal-Mart's carry them at least in Canada they do.
I think what you should do is find out how much a free standing bag costs and how much the gloves go for and save up. It may take a while but it's the safest thing for you.
I take it you are a beginner and or new to kickboxing, karate or boxing. Any instructor will tell you to NEVER practice kicks on any kind of punching bag especially hanging and or stationary without them. You can get injured with kicking if not doing it right. Punches are fine.
I've enclosed a link (see below) that tells you how to pick a bag and gloves and how much they will cost and what to really look for. Best to save your money for the BEST you can get rather than buy something sketchy which you wouldn't find for the price you mentioned.
If you had a gym membership and access to their bags then perhaps what you have accumulated in funds will save you there.
http://www.cbc.ca/streetcents/guide/2004/16/s03_01.html
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I was at sea world and i met brooke shields. I took a photo with her and i want to email her or whoever answers her email to see where to send the picture to have it autographed. if you know her email or fan email or whatever PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE! let me know i checked everywhere. and it has to be official email, because i dont want to email a stranger pretending to be Brooke. thanks! (link)
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Every actor, actress, director and screenwriter has an agent or publicist that opens and responds to mail. Sheilds will send out a photo with pre-printed signature on it. She will NOT read your personal letter but rather have someone to send out a photo to whomever asks. It has a reproduction of her signature on it and is an official response.
DO NOT under any circumstance send her your photograph. You'll NEVER get it back again. The person who opens the envelope you send her is a PR person who will separate it from the envelope and only mail the photo they've been told to send and will not get your item autographed. KEEP IT DON'T MAIL IT OR YOU'LL LOSE IT.
If you just want an autographed photo that her agents send out write to the address below and enclose an SASE (Manilla Envelope). She doesn't have e-mail for any of this and if she did have an e-mail address it's personal and it's not published.
Brooke Shields
Christa Inc.
9200 Sunset Blvd.
Suite 600
Los Angeles, CA 90069
USA
Brooke Sheilds
Christa Inc.
9200 Sunset Blvd.
Suite 600
Los Angeles, CA 90069
USA
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Do guys like find it a turn off when there is hair down there. My boyfriend wants to finger me but i don't want him to think its gross or something. any advice helps.
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If he thinks it's gross than he shouldn't even be doing this. When it comes to pubic hair it's a matter of what you prefer. Hair or no hair is normal and he should accept and appreciate that. It's up to you how you prefer it to be or look.
It shouldn't be an issue for guys. If you are embarrassed than don't be as it's fine. If he says something that it proves a lack of maturity. If you really feel unsure don't do this right now with him and wait until you feel secure or right. If you feel like grooming it or being rid of it that's an option too. But hair or no hair it's normal and most guys know and accept that. It's up to you to do what you feel best for you and not based on pleasing him.
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13/F
California
I am interested in working for the OC Register newspaper that is published in Santa Ana, California. I want to be part of the press who interview/take pictures at concerts. I have already looked over California's child labor laws and it says I am eligible for a working permit only if I work in the entertainment field.
My questions are:
1. Is working in the "Show" section of a newspaper qualify you as working in the entertainment industry?
2. Are newspapers allowed to hire 13 year olds?
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Working for a newspaper writing entertainment pieces means you are working in the journalism industry. You aren't working in the entertainment industry though. It's too vastly different things.
Can newspapers hire 13-year-olds? That depends on whether you have any aptitude for writing and if you can be taught to write in the style they need. They have a lot of reporters and entertainment writers but perhaps being 13 is your angle.
Maybe they'll be interested in something from a teen's perspective especially on concerts. They may not pay you for doing it but you'll get experience.
What you should do is call the entertainment editor or managing editor of the paper. Tell them that you are 13 and want to be an entertainment reporter and was wondering if they'd let you volunteer in the newsroom and learn more about the newspaper business.
I know what I'm talking about because I started freelancing at 14. As long as you have drive, ideas, creativity and an aptitude for writing and asking intelligent, though provoking questions age doesn't matter.
It may be easier to try to write for a local paper (the ones with fliers that come to the door) than a daily as they always need pieces.
There are a lot of publications out there that use teens as reporters. Teenink.com puts out a magazine and web site totally by teens with help from professional editors. Ypress.org is limited to Indiana but if you ask an editor about options they'll point you towards them.
There's also teentalknetwork.com It's Internet radio done by a professional outlet with teen hosts on a wide range of topics. If you e-mail the owner and start talking about your ideas you may wind up with something. It's worth a shot.
Newspapers will publish people regardless of age but will not hire you to a full-time gig as you aren't an adult. They'll let you volunteer and perhaps tag along or print your material but you won't be a staff reporter. You need a degree and tons of clippings.
TV stations may allow you to tour the newsroom or go on ride alongs to scenes of different stories and see what it takes to get them on the air. You can call one and ask for the newsroom and what they can do to help a kid who one day wants to do their job.
You don't need a work permit for any of this or to have your words published by others.
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I've been really itchy lately all over my thighs, and I recently noticed these tiny white bumps on the inside of my thighs.
What is this? I was thinking it may be dry skin, or razor burn, so I apply lotion now and I actually havent shaved to see if it will go away. I've had them for about 2/4 days.
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We aren't doctors but I would have to think it's an allergic reaction. Were you using a different kind of shaving cream, lotion, scented soap with perfume or bath products? If so, that could account for the bumps. I doubt it's razor burn but I'm not a girl so I wouldn't know.
What you should do is see a doctor at a walk-in clinic or your own if you can and have them tell you what it is and the cause. In the meantime don't use any new products near the area. This could also be an allergic reaction to fabric be it pants, underwear or anything in contact with that area of your body.
Talk to your parents about it and see a doctor to be safe. It's not anything that will kill you. I've never heard of razor burn in males or females causing white bumps like you describe. That doesn't mean it can't.
Shaving cream usually causes itching, redness and soreness and blotches. It may cause bumps too. It's a problem I deal with when it comes to my face.
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My mom won't let us get a dog because she thinks were not responsible and she's alerigic so how do we get both? (link)
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There are breeds which are hypoallergenic. You just have to do your research. As far as being responsible goes you need to demonstrate that you are and not tell or insist you are. Your actions will determine what happens in the future. Lay off the pressuring as that will not get you a dog any time soon.
Do you own your own house? If not landlord/tenant agreements may mean that there are to be no pets and especially a dog. Also look at costs involved. This is not a decision to be made by her lightly. They're a lot of work and a lot of time.
Read up on dogs that are hypoallergenic and one day start talking about the breed. If she sees you investigated this on your own and know what's involved maybe you'll get your wish. Your actions speak louder than words in this instance. Accept whatever decision she makes in the future.
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I am inlove with the southwest dressing from mcdonalds, but i was wondering.. do they sell something similar to that.. like in the grocery store or something? :)
thanks for the help! (link)
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The exact dressing they use is Newman's Own Southwest Dressing. You should be able to buy it easily in the U.S. supermarket chains. All salad dressings at Mcdonald's are from that company that actor Paul Newman started. The trade off is that Mcdonald's sponsors many of his charities and his former Indycar series cars for Graham Rahal and Oriol Servia.
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Age:13
Gender:Female
So i like this guy and yes we do talk online sometimes. but at school we never talk coz i think were both too shy. he`s one year younger than me but were both in the same grade. My friend (who is friends with him) told me that he only goes out with girls because theyre "HOT". [and i also think that too sometimes]i really like him and all but i dont want to be with him. It seems like i dont know what that means but i also fantasize of being with him. I wonder if he asks me out, .. should i say yes or no? I think about him everyday and night. But im not obsessed. i Hope this doesnt sound confusing and i hope you can help. please&thank you. [: (link)
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Welcome to the confusing world of puberty ;) You'll survive! It sounds as though what you have is a crush and a physical attraction to him. You admire his looks, personality, image etc. This is normal and so are the warm butterfly feeling you get too. Even if these are sometimes embarrassing or sexual feelings it's all a part of growing up.
It's NOT love though. You don't have that until a relationship forms and builds. At 13 guys are much less mature than girls period. Girls are always ahead intellectually. Boys still want to play with action figures and vaguely understand girls and crushes etc. yet. That's why you may get hurt by him and why he only likes "HOT" people.
What you should do is HOLD BACK on the dating and become his friend. Use your online discussions as a starting point. Ask him if he would like to hang out with you and some friends at a party, a movie, bowling etc. It's not a date. You can then see if he says no or yes whether he's got genuine interest without showing your cards to anyone that you like him. This way you don't get hurt as much.
Boys don't chat with girls very long on the computer without being a little interested. As far as being shy goes he probably feels it too but doesn't show it. You just have to suck it up and go for it as that's the only way to move forward.
If he asks you out first tell him that you're "Not allowed to date yet (even if you are) and that you have to be friends first. Tell him your parents might let you only if they meet him and his parents." Why tell him this? It means that he better not try his routine "because they're hot" or hurt you if he wants to date.
I think at 13 that you should wait a year or too until the boys become more mature and you have better choice. However, if you really like him talk to your mother and father and proceed from there and do what I said about asking to be a friend first. It'll show you right there whether he's interested and or worth it.
Also, girls tend to gossip and might also be interested in him and trying to throw you and others off with rumor. Consider the source of the rumors you heard about him as they could be jealous. If it's coming from people he dated already listen up and back away from him. If you see a bad pattern don't leap.
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Hi. I've been playing soccer since I was 7. I thought that it would be something I would still want play once I got to college but when I realized I didn't, I felt it was too late..Well now here I am, a sophomore in college and I'm stuck playing soccer. I have a full scholarship so that just makes it even harder. I don't want to dissapoint my parents but I feel like this is the time where I should be doing what I want to do. Isn't college about finding yourself? so my question is what should I do? At this rate I feel like I'll do anything to get out of playing soccer. (link)
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People don't just start hating something they loved for all those decades automatically. Is the coach being too hard? Are certain player harassing you? Is something happening with the squad that's soured your view? I'm 99.9% positive that if you asked yourself that you would say yes. Are you afraid of anything?
Grapple with that first and talk to those involved in conflict or with what you're upset or even afraid over. You're suddenly disinterested in soccer which you loved for decades--hating it makes no sense. There's a problem here but it ain't the game.
You have a scholarship to protect and are earning a great education that you wouldn't have otherwise. Stick it out with soccer until you graduate. I know you don't want to but it will build character and give you an education that will lead to a great job. We all have to do something we don't like in order to do something we dreamed about.
You can tell people you dislike soccer but keep doing it as it's your ticket to higher education and your dreams. You can still find out who you are while playing soccer.
After you finish school you can do what you want but for now you've got an obligation to yourself, your parents, your team and your school. Yes it's frustrating and hard at times but you'll kick yourself for not going forward. In the end this situation will teach you more about who you are and what you're made of.
I'm in kickboxing and it's bloody difficult for beginners let alone someone who isn't an athlete and never was. I went into this 216 lbs 5 ft 10 and have dropped 50 pounds. Do you think I had a good or easy time of it? Do you think I do now?
As much as I would like to quit or am frustrated the benefits outweigh and override anything else. You've got to ask yourself if the scholarship outweighs your so-called hate of soccer.
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I'm making this movie for my mom for christmas. It's starring my dog, Moses. I don't have much filmed, I still need more. I need some ideas for my Moses Movie. I've already taken a video of my dog rolling over a lot of times plus my mom's favorite songs put together. Any ideas? Dog stunts? Free movie editting software with cool effects? Ideas to making it entertaining? I'm planning on adding my dog getting the newpaper and maybe my mom walking the dog. A lot of the best memories I have with my dog aren't recorded. So it's hard to get something good compared. Thanks (: (link)
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The best memories aren't recorded because they happen spontaneously. Set up a video camera on the dog and leave it going. See if it catches something interesting and go from there.
Your other ideas are all fine. Only you know what your mom will respond to or laugh at. She'll appreciate the gesture. You need to go with your gut and ideas that come to you.
Try finding a friend with a MAC who can put in music, edit it, add effects etc. I believe the program is called Imovie. It's designed for that and built into all MACs.
Talk to the teacher who does Year Book and the design of it with students. They would have great ideas about what you do with video and may have all the tools you need to work on it or advice. That's definitely a good source. Also try your audio/visual department or the person in charge of taping events etc. for school.
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Whenever i read zane books they make me horny..After purchasing a new one today at the local bookstore and readin it i ended up masturbating until i had an orgasm and then my period came is that normal (link)
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Yeah you're fine. As far as normal goes by all accounts you're a teenage girl. They aren't normal ;) There is NOTHING physically wrong with you at all nor should you expect there to be. There's also NOTHING at all that links masturbation and menstruation together. It's just a coincidence that it came at the same time or after. It can't make it come nor go away.
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okay hear is how it goes my father broke him back and his neck when i was younger. he also has sleep app. just this week he has fallen asleep in the kitchen 3 times and hit the floor. he hardly sleeps.. today he was just walking around house like a zombie would walk a few feet then start bending over falling asleep. i told him over and over again to please go lay down and he wouldnt. i dont know what to do. i know hes on meds. my mom divorced him and he and i moved to missouri. where we have no family. he doesnt have many friends. im pregnant and getting married on the 15th. i have been stressed out and this just doesnt help. any ideas? oh yeah and my fiance and i moved back in with my father to save some money. (link)
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I don't agree with the previous advice you received. You should call his doctor immediately and relate what you just told us. Have the physician see him for themselves. Enlist their help in finding your father an affordable caregiver trained to know how to handle his condition.
You're pregnant and just not qualified or able to handle it. None of this is his or your fault. It's part of a medical issue seriously out of control. He's headed for a crisis and by throwing your arms up and getting trained people to help you're doing all you can.
The man isn't out to be a burden to you but may find you moving in a burden on him. At any rate the only way to help him and yourself is to tell his doctor everything and get assistance. If he can't walk around normally without having an accident something isn't right with how his condition is being treated.
I don't for a second think he's addicted to anything. He may not be taking them when he should or at all or even as prescribed. The doctor needs to evaluate him further and hear the important info you know about what's happening because they aren't there.
It's unfortunate this came around your wedding but medical issues never seem to wait for anyone. It's best to see to your father's health now or pay a price later. He's in rough shape and even with this condition shouldn't be having this constantly happen split second.
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hey im 18/f and earlier today I got pulled over for failure to completely stop at a stop sign. does anybody know how much the ticket is. I live in michigan if that. I know its like 2 points on your license. how much will my insurance go up. this was my first violation of anything. I have victoria insurance/l.a. insurance. can anybody tell me how much it could go up. im going to pay the ticket tomorrow but is there anything that happens after I heard u have to go to like traffic school? thanks for all the help! (link)
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It's all on the ticket. It has to be. Check it over thoroughly as there should be a case number and instructions on when and where to appear.
When it comes to traffic tickets the cop who wrote yours needs to be in the courtroom at the same time as you do to testify against you. A lot of them are on active duty and won't be showing up unless they charged you with something. If they don't show up the ticket is void and nothing happens to your record or points.
It's a whole other ballgame when they charge you with something ie: dangerous driving but that's not the case. At either rate talk to your parents, tell them what happened and get their help in dealing with it.
You won't have to go to traffic school but reviewing the rules or taking defensive driving even if licensed fully is always a good thing. Adults do it. As long as you learned something that's the key. You can bet you'll be more careful of stop signs from here on.
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do you know any good ways for a 13 year old girl to masturbate? (link)
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Just so you know this is the kind of question we can't answer here. We can't give how-to tips. It gets us banned if we do permanently.
Having said that every female and male are different when it comes to how they experience pleasure. What one person enjoys you might not. The only way to find out what works for you is by doing so yourself.
You are the expert on what your body responds to physically through touch, sensation etc.
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13 female...ok soo i like this guy and we talk and stuff and we hav been friends since like october. i think he used to like my friend but i dont think he does now. but i dont know. he gives me little things to think about and he has called me befor and if we are at a b-ball game ill look over and he may be looking at me!! Q- how can i tell or find out if he likes me?? and how do i show him that i like him a little but not coming on to strong or making him not want to talk to me???
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Tell him that you are receiving mixed signals from him and are confused about where you stand. See what he says and go from there. You'll either wind up with a good friend or more than that.
If you suspect your friend will be crushed because of this hold off on asking him. If they show no interest in eachother just ask him where things stand. He will tell you and likely be relieved.
Guys don't spend time looking at girls like he has or on the phone even unless interested. Perhaps he's waiting for you to notice and do something about it. There's no harm in asking what he thinks and how he feels.
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okay guys, what do you think makes a good hand job/ blow job? What are things that a girl does that you enjoy? (link)
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Every single male is different. What works for one person may not for another. He's the expert on his penis and what feels right to him. You need to go directly to the source and ask him.
We can't provide tips or advice on this due to site policy and minors. Even if we could it wouldn't help you a stitch. Every guy is different and what one person responds to another won't.
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23/f
ok so i have a problem getting into the mood. i do find my fiance attractive and i love him its just that i cant get into the mood. is there a problem with me? (link)
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Have you recently started any prescription drugs most importantly anti-depressants. That will kill your sex drive, desire, enjoyment and squash all interest. If that's the case ask your doctor as sexual problems usually stem from there or a psychological block.
You can try marital aids, books for ideas, videos etc. to try to spice things up but definitely check out medical and psychological reasons for this first. Odds are if it just "dropped" bam like that and you're on medicine... That's where to start first.
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I used to be what they call a cutter. I've been good and "clean" for about 9 months now. (I was never "emo" so comments referring to this topic like that are really unnecessary.) It was a security thing, really, and after about 3 years of hiding it I realized the only way to stop would be to tell people and get professional help. I REALLY didn't want to tell anyone, so I kind of let them find out for themselves. See, instead of cutting on my thighs or my stomach, like I normally did for those past three years, I started on my wrist so people would notice. Oh, they did notice and my parents got me the help I really needed.
I got over it and found better ways to cope. I've been coping through exercise, music, and just being positive about living no matter the situation. On saturday night I got really stressed out though. I had these plans to go somewhere with some new friends, I didn't actually want to go in the first place, but I didn't want anyone telling me that I couldn't go. Well, my dad took my car keys and wouldn't let me go because he didn't know the people really well. I understood, it was better that I didn't go anyway, but I got really pissed.
So, I kept going up to my room and thinking about cutting. The first 3 or 4 times I actually stopped myself and I went back downstairs to the TV room so I wouldn't do anything I might regret later. Eventually it got to the point that I couldn't hold off and everything was building up inside. I kept thinking about the rush, satisfaction, and release that I associate with cutting myself. I picked up my old evil habit and let the frustration run out of my veins. Now, I'm so disappointed in myself that the habit seems like the only way to make myself feel better. The craving is very strong right now because I feel bad that I did it in the first place. I know that continuing this path is destructive though and I should keep fighting these urges off.
I'm seeing my shrink at the end of this week, but for now I need some words of advice. I'm just annoyed about it, and the new cuts (on my leg and torso) aren't even deep at all, thankfully. I'm just afraid I'll keep doing it and they'll get deeper like they did before. Positive thoughts? (link)
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Call your psychiatrist's office NOW rather than WAIT until next week. Let them know you aren't in good shape and have begun cutting again and need help. Let them provide it to you and be totally and completely HONEST.
They can help before it comes all consuming and a crisis. You have to see him/her anyway next week so it's best they know right now what's going on so they can stop it from escalating. They're trained to deal with it.
No matter how trivial you think something is it can always become bigger with psychiatric ailments. Deal with it now. That doctor is on call 24/7 to help people who are patients or in crisis they'll respond to what's happening.
Tell your parents what is going on and ask for help. As hard as that may be you need to be it in person or a letter and get that support and professional help. You're in trouble and potentially headed towards crisis.
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I keep hearing about Michael Jackson's doctor prescribing propofol to him before he died and that the doctor may have overdosed him. Just curious, I guess, but what in the world is propofol? Is it prescribe for pain or something since Michael Jackson had all of those facial operations? I've never heard of this drug before. (link)
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It's a drug that should never be administered outside of a hospital. It's a powerful drug that you get in an IV to knock patients out so they aren't awake or feeling anything during an operation. it has no purpose other than that and can kill in constant dosage like Jackson got.
He abused it to deal with insomnia. The doctor giving it will be up on manslaughter charges most likely and be unable to practice medicine afterwards.
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So, the guy that runs this place is DangerNerd, right? What does the guy look like? I went to his advice column and I didn't see a picture up and I'm really curious! Is DangerNerd hot? Has anybody seen him before?
...he IS a real guy, right? (link)
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This must have been posted by DangerNERD himself. Yes, he's very much REAL and does operate this place himself with help of lower and senior moderators. I've never seen his photo but he always interacts with mods and those helping him run the site. Nice guy, genuinely cares about everyone. It ain't cheap to run this site either or host it.
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