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I have recently purchased a used boat from a private seller and found out after the sale there is major engine problem. I had the boat taken to a well known company that has its own marine department and is an authorized Mercury Boat Motor service center. I paid them to check and inspect the boat and motor and to change and inspect the motor lower end gear lube prior to my purchasing the boat. The results of the inspection indicated only minor problems with the boat and that the gear lube was dirty. The oil was changed in the lower end at that time. I purchased the boat five days later and took it home and put it in my garage to do some of the minor repairs. Within 15 minutes I noticed an oil leak coming from the prop area in the lower end. I took it back to the shop and they found major damage to the lower end costing several thousands of dollars to repair. This is the reason I took the boat in to this shop in the first place to protect my self from this situation.
Do I have any recourse against the seller or the shop that inspected the boat? I have not had the boat in the water or even started the motor since I purchased the boat.
Thanks for any advice you can give me.
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I would speak to a Lawyer, however in private sales often times depending on the state and local laws, it can be buyer beware.
Your best bet is to contact a local business attourney and pay for a consult. Its possible you could seek recourse on the seller, but because you took it to a shop and had it checked out, it can be said that the seller allowed reasonable opportunity to check out the boat. As to what recourse against the shop for negligence, no clue. You said you picked the place to get it checked out, and they screwed up.
Depends. How much is your time worth? Is recovering a few thousand dollars worth the time in small claims court? Thats the other thing you should ask the local attourney, what are your chances of actually recovering damages and what will it cost in time and money to prosecute (remember that if you don't win you are responsible for any court costs incurred)
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My boyfriend and I go to different schools. I've never cheated on him, I don't flirt with other boys. But the other day he heard from a few people that go to school with me that I was all over his best friend Freddie.
Fred and I are really close, but he's going out with my really close friend. I would never do anything with him; I see him more as a cousin or brother or something. All that happened was at lunch we were insulting each other helluv, but really just kidding around. Then I made fun of his hair and he started fake pouting, so I ran behind him and hugged him (he was sitting down). Apparently everyone that was there thought it was really weird. His girlfriend got freaked out and thought that I was doing it to piss her off.
So my boyfriend hears about all of this later and gets really upset with me.
I really don't know what to do
I talked to my boyfriend about it but it didn't really solve anything. i told him that all I was doing was screwing around, but he seemed hurt and basically said he was thinking about breaking up with me. I really don't get how something so meaningless turned into something this big. I wasn't even thinking when I did it... I definitely didn't expect it to blow up and piss everyone off.
I apologized to Fred for making him uncomfortable. I apologized to his girlfriend, but she said it wasn't a big deal because she shouldn't have gotten so worried in the first place. i felt really bad though.. and I hope things are actually okay between me and them.
I honestly am not the type of person that would do something so horrible on purpose. I didn't mean it the way it looked.
I don't know what to do. Is everyone overreacting? ..or did I really screw up that badly?
How am I supposed to fix this.
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Hes insecure.
He goes to a different school, he doesnt know who you're around or how you interact with them, he doesnt know if (and is apparently worried that) there might be guys you want more than him that you just havent gone out with, etc.
Its completely innocent, but your boyfriend needs and wants reassurance about that. Yes, he is overreacting a little bit. He is overreacting because, as I said, he is insecure in himself. He probably isnt sure what you see in him.
Sit him down, and tell him he shouldnt break up with you. Tell him it was completely innocent and that he has nothing to worry about. Explain your relationship with Fred and then explain the reasons you are with him and like him.
Just be patient. Its his own lack of confidence thats causing this, so sit him down and see if you can't give him a few reasons to be more confident about your relationship.
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do guys prefer "down there" shaved or not shaved while fingering? i know ure going to say some guys like this and others like that, but which is more prefered?
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I wouldnt recommend shaving. Its only pleasant for about 6 hours until stubble comes back.
Trimmed is usually a good idea. Most guys either don't want the au naturale look, or dont mind either way, so trimmed is a safe bet. Just find yourself a beard trimmer (like 15 bucks at CVS) and keep it short and you generally can't go wrong. Its a good idea because it keeps the hair short enough to not come out easily or get in the way or look bad, but completely avoids things like razorburn and ingrown hairs.
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is it weird that I dont' think sex is a big deal like I want to just give it away to get rid of me being a virgin is that normal (link)
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Its a little odd.
There are always those who differ from the norm. Generally speaking most people are far too nervous about sex to want to "just get it over with" and react by shying away from sex.
Its not really a smart way to approach sex. Virginity really ISNT a big deal, but you should be picky with all your sex partners, not just your first.
Id say virginity was a bigger deal to you than it should be, if you're wanting to much to "get rid of it". Just relax a little and focus on finding a guy you like, rather than a guy you can give it to as fast as possible.
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does it show or effect a pregnancy test?
and how long until its out of your system and youd be tested negitive for it (link)
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I have never heard anyone with any information about ecstasy affecting a pregnancy test. To be honest, I have no clue, but I don't think that anyone has actually done research into that.
As far as out of your system, its detectable in urine up to a week later.
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okay,so way before i even knew what it was i was attracted to girls.ive been attracted to guys,but a lot more girls.So i was pretty sure i was bi-sexual.But i had sex and done everything with a guy,and didn't get any enjoyment whatsoever.not because it was my first time,because even after that.i just am not attracted to a penis.touching it grosses me out unless im drunk or something.but i still think a lot of guys are hott and thought i was like in love with one.but its just so wierd now,cause when i did everything with a girl it just seemed right and everything(of ocurse the first time was kinda awkward tho)
but yeah so now im really confused (link)
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Dont worry so much about finding a label for yourself.
I mean, seriously, theres not a problem here. You might like girls more than guys. You might find you just need the right guy to like guys alot too, who knows. The only way you're going to figure it out is by dating more.
So date more, and worry about what you are in a few years.
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I know someone that is from Canada, living in the States, and a company hired them to work, a huge company. They don't have real social security numbers, the company provided them "a way around". Can I turn the company in or have anything done about it? (link)
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Turning in the company (if it actually generated any results) would lead to an investigation of the hired employees, which would lead to the person being let go to limit liability.
Which would screw with this persons job.
Don't meddle, regardless.
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Why in Gods name is this even your business?
Why would you be so petty and sad of a person to turn someone in who is working and screw with someone's job?
Heres a life lesson for you. This person, is working. Working helps them support themselves. Its possible you are wrong, and they are working legally, in which case you are just a petty human being. Its also possible you are right, and they are working illegally, in which case you have absolutely no business interfering with someone else's job.
Do not screw with someones life, especially someone's job. I dont care if you think you have a good reason. THERE ARE NO GOOD REASONS FOR MESSING WITH SOMEONE ELSE'S LIVELIHOOD! It makes you a terrible person.
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I'm seventeen years old.
So I don't consider myself too young to be having sex,the thing is I just am apprehensive to go all the way. Two reasons.
1. My mom who is very domineering would absolutely flip out, she'd go crazy.
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2. I don't want to tell my doctor, because I don't want a pap test (she said after I was sexualy active I had to.) I just don't want her to think I'm skanky, even though she can't tell my mom it makes me nervous that she'll have to let it slip.
Physicaly though, I'm ready, I could easily get my head around the idea of sex.
I've been fingered and such.
Like today my boyfriend and I were 'fooling around', and he was like "i don't want to presure you but when you're ready I have condoms."
I just laughed. I'd actualy like to have sex with him, he means a lot to me. (link)
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If you are worried about your doctor thinking you're "skanky" because you are 17 and have had sex then you arent ready to have it yet.
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On The spongebob squarepants atlantis squarepantis game for ps2 how do you beat the 3rd and 4th parts of the second level. If you dont know what im talking about please dont answer. (link)
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www.gamefaqs.com
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ok... I live with my boyfriend who I've almost been with for 2 years (I've only lived with him for like 6 months and this has panned out because of a family breakdown with my family) and we've gone through alot together. Theres an age difference I'm 17 and he's 19 but that doesn't really bother me or him.
He has always been a person who can get angry easily and his moods can change quickly. Its like he doesn't know how to control his emotions, even he says that he can't control his actions when he is angry. He knows and has accepted that he needs help and has made an appointment and everything but its not til March which is a little over a month away and he is worried about that cause he needs help quicker than that.
I get annoyed because he spends alot of time to himself and he doesn't open really talk to me alot about whats going on with him which hurts me cause I tell him everything (he knows this but says that he doesn't tell me cause he wants to tell someone that can really help) things get so heated between us that we'll sometimes get physical even though we both know its wrong.
It tears me up inside that I can see he doesn't mean to do the things he does, Its not his personality and you can just see a look in his eye. His father has bipola so I'm not sure if thats heridetary?
He asks me to give him space if he's angry but I feel as though I need to help him but when I try things just get worse and I feel inside me that I can't just walk away and leave him.
I need some ways on how to deal with it myself, so that I don't get down about it and I need some stratergies to just be able to walk away and let him cool down.
ANY HELP IS GREAT!!!
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Well, I don't have anger problems, but I AM just like him in the "If I'm pissed I need personal space to cool off"
If he asks for space, respect that. Its him trying to keep himself under control. Let him. As far as strategies, you don't really need any. Just back off and stop trying to talk to him for a bit. Then just ask him if he's ready to talk every 10-15 minutes. At some point he will come back and you can talk.
Instead of feeding the fires between you, you need to work on stepping back and saying "Hey, I love this guy, and I don't want to fight with him" and look at him and tell him that.
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Well awhile ago before me and my girlfriend were going out, we were talking about sex and our sex lives and whatnot. Well i told her i had sex with 2 girls before, when i'm actually a virgin. I guess i didn't want to feel like a loser or something and she might not have believed that i was a virgin anyway. Well me and my girlfriend haven't had sex but we've fooled around quite a bit. And now that we are going out we might get into an argument or something and she'll bring up "how i had sex with two girls before." And i'll be like whatever, but i'll feel bad because i really haven't been with those girls and she doesn't know the truth. I mean i want to be able to tell her but i dont want her to get mad at me for lying to her in the first place. Also, she probably won't believe me on top of it because one time i was like and i'm a virgin and she was like "lol yeah right." so i dont know what to do about it. i feel like if i were honest everything might get a little wierder because i'm a virgin and she's not. Because i sometimes come off as a horny sex freak sometimes lol. Please help me and give me some suggestions of what i should do. Btw, i'm 16/M and my girlfriend is 15/F. (link)
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Most young, insecure guys lie about that at SOME point to someone. The fact that it was your girlfriend kinda sucks.
If you're going to tell her, sit her down and explain how nervous you were and you knew she wasnt so you didnt want to seem inexperienced. Be serious and she will believe you.
Usually it takes less than 30 seconds of
"I dont believe you!"
"Its true."
"I really don't believe you!"
"Its true."
"That cant be true!"
"Its true"
"I dont... really? Is it true?"
"Yes, its true."
"Wow..."
So on and so forth.
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My boyfriend is the cutest, smartest, sweetest boy i ever met. I was head over heels for him and told him how i feel. He said he feels the same. We were together 6 months now. Well, he just turned 18, and i am going to be 17 soon. My family disapproves because hes 18, but our age difference is pretty small. He is going to college, yale, and i live in california. Hes going to be so far away. Well he told me that he loves, me and i love him. Ever since i agreed that i loved him back, hes been trying to tell me that sex is good when you love someone. He has been buying nightgowns and lingerie for me like every month. I dont want to do it yet, and i want to wait longer, and he says we can wait but next month, here comes lingerie...idk what to do, hes not like physically, but like everyone thinks i should, i talked to my sister, and she called me prude, and i dont want to be and i want to do it with him, but i am afraid. I know i should wait, but by now i just want to get it over with. What should i do? (link)
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You should not have sex for reasons like "he really wants it and I don't want to be a prude"
I'd tell him that the lingeree is just a bit too pushy. Its not a huge deal, but he really shouldnt be sending you that stuff all the time if you've told him you aren't ready.
Ask yourself a question?
Is he going to be the first? I mean, at some point, is he pretty much certain to be the first guy you sleep with?
If so, then start working yourself up to it at your own pace. If not, tell him to stop with the pushing.
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this one girl at my school is horrible. she harrases other girls and she broke onto my screen name some how and pretended she was me. the police have been to her house once when she was in 5th grade but she always gets out of things and blames other people. everyone, even boys, are scared of her. how can I stop this girl?
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You get bonus points if you can name the reference.
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First, you must find the Mystic Sasashrala. He is near the Eastern Temple. He will explain about the Three Pendants you need in order to retrieve the Sword of Evil's Bane.
First, in the Eastern Temple, you must recover the Pendant of Courage from the Armos Knights.
Then you must Journey West to the Pendant of Power, past the desert sands, and the vicious Lanmola that guard it.
Finally, you must venture North. There you find the pendant of Wisdom, the moon pearl, and one pissed off Moldorm.
Once recovered, you must venture into the forest, past the mists, twists, and bandits. You will find there the master sword, driven into stone and awaiting a hero worthy of its might.
Draw out the sword, it will recognize you as its master. Take it with you to school. She will be waiting for you.
When you walk into the classroom, the girl will attack. She will either launch a large blue-yellow ball of energy, a hexagonal fireball spread projectile, or lightning. If she moves to the top of the classroom run to the side, as its always lightning.
Use the master sword to reflect the blue yellow projectiles. Avoid the fireball hexagons, and after 6 reflected magic missile's she will fall.
(Special Note: If you happen to have a bug net in your backpack, that too will reflect the projectiles. No specific kind of bug net required, any will do.)
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is it weird for a 10 year old girl to be so interested in biolagy and health because my sister is 10 and she is a huge tomboy and all she does on the computer is look up stuff about brain surgery and other stuff that has long names and is hard to pronounce is that weird should i be worried for any reason i mean she is always talking like a retierd doctor all sientificly or whatever is that weird for a girl her age thanks in advance to whoever takes there time to read this PPPPEEEAACCEEE (link)
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It means your parents should start early financial planning so they can afford Ivy League in about 8 years.
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Ok. Why is like 90% of the male population completely obsessed with the movie fight club? I mean its a good movie, i like it, but it seems like some people are almost obsessed with it to a point where its just rediculous. answers from anybody but mostly guys appreciated! (link)
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Because its a movie about lower class male empowerment and alot of the younger more immature males identify with the desire to break the establishment that leads them to being classified as low class.
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My boyfriend and I have been together for seven months. This last month has been really rocky, because we've just been arguing on a daily basis.
The 23rd was his ex girlfriend's birthday and that day he kept saying, "You know I'm going to call her and wish her a happy birthday." They never talk, ever. She was so rude to me when we first started dating, she'd always message me saying stupid things, and at one point, she had his little sister completely HATING me.
So, yesterday I had brought it up and I said I knew he had called her because she had told his little sister over Myspace. He kept denying it, and then today I get on his myspace and there's a message that says, "I know it's you who called me, and I wanted to let you know it made me feel really great." I hate this girl. I really do.
I'm so pissed at him. I really feel like this is making me want to end the relationship. Am I blowing this out of porportion? (link)
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The fact that you hate her and he doesnt, does not give you the right to be pissed at him. And thats where the majority of it is coming from.
You should be pissed that he lied, but you should realize that he lied because of your tendency to blow things out of proportion, so you have to talk to him and say "bad us, we need to work on it" and both let it go.
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Im 20. My bf is 23. Weve been dating a little over 7 months. One of his good friends is a girl and I can't stand it. I hate when I call him and he's talking to heron the other line or if Im online talking to him and hes talking to her also. She not just any girl either. About two years ago he really liked her alot. And they use to be more like friends with benefits. Plus the first times they slept together she was pregnant and married!.. I just find it disgusting. My boyfriend tells me that havent done anything in like a year or 2 but I still dont like it knowing their past. He doesnt hang out with her anymore because he knows I dont like that and understands. He barely answers her texts and calls and I dont make him do this, but I am afraid that they will get together or she likes him or something. Do you think I should be worrying about them talking? (link)
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You are jealous and overbearing. You justify it with lies like "I dont make him do this" when hes sitting there knowing that if he defies you it turns into a monumental fight or unending guilt trip until you get your way, which is as good as forcing him and is probably the only reason he doesnt see her.
Unless you can relax or he has zero spine hes probably going to walk eventually regardless of wheather he gets with her or not.
I would advise backing off a bit and realizing that the fact that you find it disgusting makes you the one with the problem, and you should work hard to not burden him with what is essentially your jealous issue. Everyone has emotions. Learning to control them is what makes us adults.
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I'm dating this guy and we've been together for about 2 weeks but known eachother for a long time. We had sex and we talk a lot. We've told eachother we loved eachother, but he never calls me anything sweet like baby or etc. Does that mean he doesn't really love me all to much??
SOrry if its long. (link)
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We don't know him. We don't know what it means. There is no way to answer this.
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Me and my boyfriend live together. He has a desktop computer and I have a laptop. He has DSL or whatever, but I can use my wireless on my laptop and use the internet.
This is the second time now, that he's supposedly looked at my messages on my Myspace account. So my question is, is that even possible? Like, can he see what I'm doing on the internet, on MY computer?
I always log off my computer and it's password protected, and I know he doesn't know it.
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If hes accessing your account its because he has your password.
It is entirely possible to intercept wireless signals, but it requires equipment thats somewhat specialized, expensive, and difficult to get ahold of if you don't have a legitimate reason to want to intercept wireless signals.
In other words, I can guarantee that hes not doing it that way.
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Well to start off i'm 17/M and my girlfriend is 16/F
About 6 months ago we met online and we liked each other from the start. Around four months later we figured out a way to meet..Which was really hard because I live in Virginia and she lives in Connecticut. So we met at a hockey game for her birthday..Well we really loved each other in person so we decided to go out and figure out a way to make this work for us. Around a month later, during Christmas break, my dad let me take a train to CT to spend a few days with her. Her family liked me and we had the best time ever. The problem is..I had hopes of going to college in CT so I could be closer to her and the distance would no longer be a problem. Well my dad says he wants me to go to a community college down here for a year or two then transfer to a 4-year college, and he said that is the only way he would help me pay for it. Well I would do anything to be closer to her and go to college in CT but my dad said i would have to pay for room-and-board, the out of state tuition, and food, and all the other expenses i would have. I'm not sure how i would be able to do all that on my own..but i would do anything for this girl because i love her so much. And she says she doesn't think she would be able to handle a long distance relationship for another year. Please help me..I don't know what to do and i can't lose her, we're so perfect together and I've never loved anyone like i love her. (link)
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Listen to your father. Don't choose a college based on a girl you are dating right now.
Seriously man, I'm sure shes fun and all, but you're 17. School is your first priority. If you and her don't work out then you will have plenty of opportunities for other things.
Don't do something stupid and especially don't burn your bridges with your parents over a girl who you've met in person... twice by my count?
Your father is setting these limits on you in hopes that you realize that trying to move to CT for her is a stupid, stereotypical teenaged move. Be smarter than that for everyone's sake.
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