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He's talked to his ex girlfriend.
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven months. This last month has been really rocky, because we've just been arguing on a daily basis.
The 23rd was his ex girlfriend's birthday and that day he kept saying, "You know I'm going to call her and wish her a happy birthday." They never talk, ever. She was so rude to me when we first started dating, she'd always message me saying stupid things, and at one point, she had his little sister completely HATING me.
So, yesterday I had brought it up and I said I knew he had called her because she had told his little sister over Myspace. He kept denying it, and then today I get on his myspace and there's a message that says, "I know it's you who called me, and I wanted to let you know it made me feel really great." I hate this girl. I really do.
I'm so pissed at him. I really feel like this is making me want to end the relationship. Am I blowing this out of porportion?
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that would tick me too! it's your nature to get mad! I SAY give him one more chance! then if he's still making you mad dump him cuz he's not good enough 4 u
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The fact that you hate her and he doesnt, does not give you the right to be pissed at him. And thats where the majority of it is coming from.
You should be pissed that he lied, but you should realize that he lied because of your tendency to blow things out of proportion, so you have to talk to him and say "bad us, we need to work on it" and both let it go.
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in a way you are kinda making it seem like a bigger dal than it is. if you trust your boyfriend and he truly loves you, he wont cheat. yes, girls can try to tempt him but if he does love u and care he wouldnt try anything. dont end the relationship, b/c it might be a big mistake. talk to him bout how u feel first. let him know and be open with him. hope it helps
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He told you in advance he was going to call her, and then he did.
It's not as though he went behind your back or lied to you. He was upfront, he wanted to do something, he gave you fair warning, and then he did.
You are blowing this WAY out of purportion, but frankly, if you are this unhappy and insecure in your relationship, maybe you should end it.
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Sweetheart, if he's calling his ex girlfriend to wish her a happy birthday, it really shoudn't be a big deal. Just as long as he's not getting too comfortable with her, you shouldn't worry at all. You're not going to like this, but if you've been together for that long and you've been fighting a lot, it could be that the both of you have a few insecurities you need to take care of and clean up. Relatioinships should be honest and open, you shouldn't have to feel uneasy or worried at all about the other person's private business. He's with you, correct? He shouldn't want to be with his ex. That's why she is his ex, dont you think? I know some exceptions apply to that, but honey, you really shouldn't worry at all. I still wish my ex boyfriends happy birthday and merry christmas and stuff.
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As long as he isn't getting too close with her again, don't make a big deal out of it. I'll be bothered by it too but if you bring something up, it will cause more fights. Just pay attention to his behavior and you could always check his myspace.. to read his responses. If something he says.. is a bit suspicious.. like hanging out alone [when the girl may be somewhat flirty]. I wouldn't ask him about it because it will cause more drama. From my experience and from my friends, confronting just opens up something new. More fights, denial and pain. you should probably end the relationship if he's taking it too far with his ex. that's just asking for old feelings to resurface, you know? He should mention you as his girlfriend in his messages and he shouldn't cancel plans with you for her. It's just wrong in my opinion. He may deny things so you don't get jealous, hurt or angry.
But I say just wait it out and see how things go from here. He seems okay since he actually told you what he was doing. Don't show him your anger or anything though. Try your best to keep it to your self and think nothing of it. If he hangs out with her or calls her.. tell him it makes you feel uncomfortable because she's an ex. He SHOULD take your feelings into consideration and make a choice upon that. If he's doing these things behind your back then I honestly wouldn't deal with it.
I think it's alright for guys to be friends with their ex's. but not a spur of the moment..
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