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Boyfriend's good friend is a girl
Im 20. My bf is 23. Weve been dating a little over 7 months. One of his good friends is a girl and I can't stand it. I hate when I call him and he's talking to heron the other line or if Im online talking to him and hes talking to her also. She not just any girl either. About two years ago he really liked her alot. And they use to be more like friends with benefits. Plus the first times they slept together she was pregnant and married!.. I just find it disgusting. My boyfriend tells me that havent done anything in like a year or 2 but I still dont like it knowing their past. He doesnt hang out with her anymore because he knows I dont like that and understands. He barely answers her texts and calls and I dont make him do this, but I am afraid that they will get together or she likes him or something. Do you think I should be worrying about them talking?
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You are jealous and overbearing. You justify it with lies like "I dont make him do this" when hes sitting there knowing that if he defies you it turns into a monumental fight or unending guilt trip until you get your way, which is as good as forcing him and is probably the only reason he doesnt see her.
Unless you can relax or he has zero spine hes probably going to walk eventually regardless of wheather he gets with her or not.
I would advise backing off a bit and realizing that the fact that you find it disgusting makes you the one with the problem, and you should work hard to not burden him with what is essentially your jealous issue. Everyone has emotions. Learning to control them is what makes us adults.
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You either need to stop your jealous and insecure behavior, or end the relationship.
Yes, they have behaved badly in the past. They made a very bad decision, but their friendship now is none of your business and you shouldn't be laying the guilt on him about it at all. He is speaking to her less and not seeing her because of your negative feelings. If that doesn�t solve this problem for you, nothing will.
If his past behavior with her causes you to have so little trust and faith in him that you feel something inappropriate will happen again you should seriously re-evaluate if you trust him enough to be with him.
When it comes to being with someone we must trust them, or realize that we can't trust them, and end it.
If you can't take a deep breath and accept his choice to maintain a friendship with this girl and trust him to behave properly you should listen to that feeling and get out of this relationship.
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