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Hi, I'm Emily. Call me Emily or Em, I prefer either. I have been a featured columnist 2 times now. After disabling my account I had about 3 years ago, a lot has happened which made me want to come back. I feel as though helping people with their problems, helps me solve mine, even if that doesn't make a lot of sense to any of you. Don't hesitate to ask me anything, I will answer fairly quickly depending on the question. If you want a hard-thought out answer, which is what I usually give, it may take a little longer- it benefits everyone in the long run.

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i have blue eyes, light but not pale skin, light/medium brown hair and i was wondering what kinds of makeup i should usee. i already wear like mascara and eyeliner (both black) but i was thinking eyeshadow? what color would make my eyes stand out the most? i was thinking silver? and i also need some kind of face makeup that will make my face look tanner but i have noo idea what to use (foundation, cream, bronzer?) and do you know any good brands? preferably non oily, i dont want pimples lol thank you!

i also have blue eyes. i like to use neutral eyeshadows. darker neutrals for my crease, then a lighter color for my eyelid, but you have to make sure to blend it with the dark one so it looks even on your eye. when i use neutral browns, i like to use brown eyeliner and mascara, it looks really good. also, sparkley silvers look really nice. light blues too.

what you want to use is foundation, but one to match your skin tone. then put bronzer on, but not too much, you dont want to look orange.

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I'm aiming to loose weight by the summer, I've started to do sit-ups and a few other things a couple of times a week. But, my mum told me that its not my diet that I need to change. Just recently I've been eating more fruit though. So, I just want someone else's opinion about my diet?
Normally for breakfast, I don't have that much time in the mornings, I have either cereal or toast with a cup of tea. For lunch I have a sandwich, crisps and a nutri-grain bar. I have a variety of things for my dinners, from pizza, pasta, chicken veg and potatoes, curry (not very often). I have an apple or a banana as soon as I come in from school and maybe some grapes later on after dinner if I get hungry.
So, is this alright? Is it just exercise I need to concentrate on? I think maybe I need to make minor changes in my diet, but I'm not too sure? :/

you sound like your on a great diet! definately start excercising, it will burn off all the food you eat, other than just eating without calories being burned. because even if itd healthy, theres still calories. the only thing i would say is dont eat too much food between mealtimes. and eat the way you are, youll be great in no time.

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hey, well we just got direct tv and i was wondering if anyone knew of any cool shows that you watch. need recomendations

my personal favorites are:
secret life of an american teenager, make it or break it, american idol, family guy, south park, greys anatomy, desperate housewives, and 90210.

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does anyone know of any reliable webistes, or stores in australia where i can buy some spongebob slippers, for my girlfriend as a joke kind of thing between us, that wont rip me off or anything like that, i need some that are like the ones off of the start of daddy day care, when the little kid gets up and puts them on,haha well she loves spongebob and said she wanted to get a pair, so im gunna try to get her some, so any help would be much appreciated,
thanks

try amazon.com. they have everything you could ever imagine, and for very little price too.

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my sister in law is having a quincera ( sweet 15 ) and we are doing a suprise dance its going to be to a regaton or hip hop song i need some advice on what outfits we should wear for the dance. thanks in advance

my costume for my hip hop dance is fish net leggings with short colorful soffee's, if you dont know what they are its just a brand of shorts, any type of shorts besides jean shorts, and then a white camisol with a half black vest over it with michael jackson type looking hats. all match, and it will look really cute.

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okay so i dyed my hair, and i wanted it my natural color, it didnt turn out that way it was more reddish.My hair was like an medium brown a level 5 for those who know hair levels. Im wondering if its possible to get my natural haircolor back and how would i go about doing that? what should i do? thanks!

ive experienced so much trouble on hairdying, i think i can help.

bring in a picture of youself with your natural color, and show the hairdresser. she can easily match it with a color that they have. dont try and fix it yourself, it could come a lot worse than you want it too.

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Okay, today I logged on to myspace and the status and activities did not show up. Instead in the box it said "No data for this module!" I turned off my laptop and logged on again but it did the exact same thing. If someone could help me fix this than that would be great, thanks!

i havent been on myspace in forever, as im on facebook now, along with the rest of the world. but, usually its just the site. the site might be down, or they be fixing the status' and they are unavailable for viewing. its usually not the person. shutting your laptop off and on wont help the problem if its the site itself. just be patient, and the problem with the site should be fixed soon.

hope i helped! xoxo

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In February, we have music this semester! Our music teacher tells us to sing alone. Individual singing. I'm really scared. I'm a girl whose very very shy too! Last year, when I sang alone, my legs were shivering and I had tears in my eyes. My voice gets stuck and I cannot bear how everyone stares at me. I need to get through this. I need to become more confident. I try everything. But I can't. I have one more month left..so please give me a good advice and I will be very thankful to you!.

what i would do is imagine everyone in your class in their underwear. it really helps, just make sure not to laugh, hehe. im sure your not the only one whose scared to do this, and a lot of kids in your class are feeling the same way. if your confident, more people will respect you. and if your a good singer, everyone will get to see how good of a singer you are. be brave! if you need anymore help, feel free to inbox me.

hope i helped! xoxo

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17/f.

to make this very short, my best friend is really jealous of me & gets jealous of anything i say & do, she makes up lies and always tries to one up me. its getting on my nerves so much. its getting worse & worse. i tried to confront her about it, and she gets better for a few weeks, and then its back to her old ways. i just don't know what to do.

i dont blame you for getting annoyed. it seems like when you confront her, she wants to change, but once you've taken her back, she just does the same thing to you over and over again, which isnt what a real 'best friend' does. i would try doing the same thing she does to you, to her, just maybe less extreme, and see how she likes it. sit down and have a serious conference with her. a quick talk and "makeup" session wont work. you need to tell her exactly whats bothering you and what you want her to do to change.

hope i helped! xoxo

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how do you pronounce 3OH!3

three oh three ...

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okay, so ive been having this for quite a while now.
im only 12. and almost every morning i wake up, i find this yellowish dry stuff in my underwear. is this bad? should i get it checked? & i still am flatchested. i feel so young compared to everyone else in my grade :( when are my boobs gonna actually grow? but it hurts soooo bad if i acidently hit my chest area! is this a sign? and maybe the yellowish stuff means my period is coming soon? please help! :)

hey there.
the yellowish stuff is called discharge. its totally normal, and it happens to every girl, even after puberty. it doesnt necessarily mean that you're getting your period. i never had that when i got mine, but its different for all girls. just keep a close watch. the average age for a girl to get her period is 13, dont worry about not having it yet, when you do have it, you wish you didnt. dont rush it. it all depends on genes. whatever age your mom got it is the age your period will most likely surprise you, but thats not always the case. ask your mom when she got it, so you can base it off of there. some girls dont even get it until they're 15, 16, and even 17. your breasts are tender, which means they are growing.

hope i helped! xoxo

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why didn't ever work out in my love life I always screw up. Last year I liked this guy and to get to the point he didn't like me back and that broke my heart. :( This year I liked this guy and he liked me. He then told me he liked my friend. I wasn't going to tell him I liked him so I was stupid enough to tell him to go for it. :( Now him and my friend are going out and I feel sooooo bad. I feel like a faluire. I mean come on I like my friends boyfriend I don't know what to do.please don't tell me to stay away from him because I am doing that right now but I feel terrible. I always fall for the wrong guys. Help me is it me? I mean barely any guys ask me out and there are guys I know like me but with out knowing It I somehow manage to push them away :( help what can I do to get I a good relationship.

i dont know you, but, dont call yourself a failure or stupid. thats lowering your self-esteem and that makes it even harder to get into a good relationship. lets see if i can break this down.

its okay if guys dont like you back, your still young, from what im assuming, and you have your whole life ahead of you. the right guy will come along someday. and the guys in your life now, you wont marry, i can guarantee you.

you should be happy for your friend, dont bring her down. but, maybe you need to talk to her about your feelings, cause it seems like its really hurting you. you dont need to stay away from him, be friends with him, be friends with both of them, theres no harm in that.

its not that you fall for the wrong guys, you just dont know how to handle the situation when a guy comes into play. play it cool. act girly, guys love girls who act girly. dress to impress and guys will notice you. but, the main thing is, you need to have confidence, dont let what your feeling about boys show. be yourself and dont try to be anyone your not comfortable being. everything will work out fine, i promise.

hope i helped! xoxo

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What are some meaningful gifts i can give to my boyfriend? I have already given him a scrap book of us for our 6 month anniversary, and our one year is coming up in 3 weeks, ive given him many things dealing with his interests and ive given him clothes. he doesnt like jewelry...any ideas?

who said you had to buy something? you can make soemthing and it can be just as good. guys like anything from their girlfriend. heres an idea:

look through magazines and cut out anything that has to do with your relationship. it could be like a picture of a rollercoaster if you guys went to an amusement park together or something. its good to get creative, and he'll really appreciate that you remembered everything you guys did together this year. make all the pictures into a collage. and if you have enough, you can put it on a poster board and write him a letter on the back of it.

hope i helped! xoxo

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I don't know but...

My dad was accused a few weeks ago of harassing someone. He didn't, just to be clear. The woman who accused him is a lazy person who made up this rumor because she was tired of being told what to do by my dad.

My dad is her boss.
See? She's not too bright. I really hate her.

Her story is false too, and doesn't make sense because she claims that he grabbed her arm and forcibly pushed her into her office to get back to work, when what actually happened was he was nowhere near her, he said "Please leave the room, I have work to do. You get back to work." He didn't walk up to her or anything. But she wanted to lash out at him because I don't even know so she claimed he follows her around and calls her names and physically touches her.

Just so you all know, by "physically touches her" I do not mean sexually. And by "harassing" I do not mean sexually.


The company has to do this investigation on it, because they have to take things like this seriously. I'm just asking...how serious is this? Could he lose his job just because some lazy little bitch was bored??

I'm really scared for him, and he's been mopey for the last few weeks because he's scared too.

What do you guys think? And is there anything I can do to comfort him?

first off, im sorry your father got put into this situation. i know how it feels to have a parent loose their job.

the lady who accused your father obviously didnt like being told what to do. thats a normal feeling that anyone has. i know i dont like being told what to do. she didnt like the fact that he snapped at her, so she took it into her own hands and thought that if she got him fired, maybe she could be in charge now and she'd be doing all the bossing when he was gone. im sure your faher didnt physically touch her or call her names because any logical person would realize that they would loose their job if that was what they were doing in a business-like environment. if your father knows he didnt do it, he'll be fine and he can proove himself inocent, its not difficult.

as far as comforting him, just be a great kid and help him out around the house and be extra nice to him. do things without him having to ask you more than once, or even without him asking you.

i hope everything works out for you. if you ever need anything else, feel free to message me for further help.

hope i helped! xoxo

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i asked a few questions without ever havin my own, but if i make one now will it show that it was me ? thanks !

if your talking about advicenators, (you didnt make it too clear, hehe) then no, all questions you and other people ask are anonymous. if you choose to state your name or username, you can do so, but i recommend you not doing that.

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ok so this is wierd as hell, a few days ago i met this girl who is one of my freinds best freinds (i think :S) but shes just sooo bubbley and has a really nice smile. i have no idea why my feelings have placed them selves on her, i dont know her, i dunno what i find intesting about her its all just a big mush of lonelyness and needy-ness.

My gf moved for university about 3-4 months ago now and now im finnaly gettin over her not being around my mind lands another good load of "heres who your probably never gonna get"
i wanna get to know her a bit better, but from just what i heard from my freind today i dont know whats going on with them both. she apparently sleeps round his all the time but they'r not going out and i dooont think they'r having sex (from what im guessing but they have allready apparently) my mate matt suggested we all go away to this big sort of theme parky thing in a few months he wants me to go and he wants to ask rach to go along as well, i want to go but i dont want somthing to happen which will put me back in my bad mood (say if i find out that rach and matt are more than they let on to be)

what the hell do i do? iv been in wierd situations before but damn this is confusing.

i cant explain it any better than that

well from being a girl, i think i can help you.

girls like guys who act first. girls like guys who invite them places. so, go for it and ask her. you wont know what their relationship status is unless you go straight to the source. talk to your friend about it first, if you talk to the girl, she may think your accusing her. girls' like guys who give them attention. maybe your friend is giving her a lot of attention and you need to step up to the plate and give her some too. they may have had the sex when they both had feelings for eachother, if they ever did. i say go for it and invite her. just make sure matt isnt asking you to ask rachel for him. let it be for you.

hope i helped, xoxo.

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I love singing but i don't think I'm all that great at it. haha I want to be though..anyways that can help me without spending thousands to get voice lessons? Plus i have no clue how to get them where i live. So any ideas?
thanks in advance

that used to be me too, and my mom wouldnt spend the $$ on voice lessons. if you have comcast, or probably any cable service for that matter, go to the "on demand" section. if you go to music, you'll see something there that says something like "voice lessons" or something along those lines. randy and paula from american idol coach you and teach you all the different skills you need to learn. ive asked people, and they've said its helped them quite a bit, and its the perfect option if you dont want to spend lots of $$ on lessons. also, if you have a wii, you can buy singit!, its usually only $20-$30, which is a lot less than what you'd be spending on lessns, and they have lessons that you can do before you start the game and you can go back to them whenever you want, and do them over and over.

hope i helped! xoxo

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im 17/f
i wanna get my belly button pierced, but my boyfriend of 2 years told me i could do whatever i want, he just doesnt like them. idk if i should get it or not bc his opinion matters a lot to me. what would you do?

i say, if its your body, then you should go for it if its something you really want to do. but, if his opinion matters a lot to you, talk to him about it. ask him why he doesnt like it and would he be mad if you got it done. maybe you could offer for him to come with you and hold your hand while you get it done. thats what my boyfriend did and he felt a little more comfortable with it. dont let people control you. its your body and you can do whatever you choose.

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hey there is a couple of girls in my school that dont like me.. i seriously dont know why,today i whent with my friend to get a lunch and they were just starring at me..but i didnt stare at them back..i pretended i didnt see them ...it really bothers me when people dont like me because i never done anything bad to them ,and this girl when i pass by her she stares at me,,and no i dont have the guts to go up to her and confront er about this because i know this would just start a fight and am not up for this..so can you please tell me what to do ? thannks

thats right, girls are girls. girls are mean people. even when they arent trying.

girls in my school hate me too, all for stupid reasons. we cant really control it unless you talk to them about it face to face. try to sort it out, whats the worst that could happen? if you catch them staring at you, make a funny face at them or do something funny so that they'll stop. if they see your staring at them, they'll stop. girls like drama, they like getting in drama and starting fights with other girls. if you stick up for youself, they'll know not to mess with you again. if you dont want to talk to them face-to-face, try facebooking/ myspace, whatever it is that you use. although its not good to hide behind technology, if it makes you less scared and you can get what you need to say out, say it, and dont regret it.

hope i helped! xoxo

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when i go go upload photos from my laptop on to facebook i always have to use the simple uploder and it will only let me upload 5 at a time and its really annoying, how can i upload more than 5 at a time ?

you need to download the downloader called ActiveX downloader. a box should pop up at the top of the screen and its usually yellow. you click it and it will say 'Download File', click yes. that should download the ActiveX downloader. if it doesnt pop up, contact facebook, they should be able to help you figure it out more than i can, im just giving you the basics. i know how much of a pain in the neck it is to only be downloading 5 photos at a time!

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