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Hi, I am Jennifer
I am Korean- Japanese and proud.
I am a clingy person, so I need people who don't mind cling people.
I try very hard not to be judgemental.
I suck at waking up.
I have a two second attention span.
I laugh at the most corniest jokes and make them myself.
I have a lot of Jennifer moments. You have been warned.
I love being tan, so please get that suntan lotion away from me. :)
I can make a party animal look like a party pooper. :p
So, yeah, I'm just your average kind of girl... with a more than needed bit of craving for chocolate maybe? Yup... ♥

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Well as I said there's this boy and my sister, my best friend, and another girl all say he likes me and i like him. We annoy each other constantly and he doesn't say he hates me but i say i hate him and he well i don't know... what do you think.

Do you like him? If you do, stop saying you hate him, first of all. Because liars will be constantly that their pants are on fire. =) I'm not really sure if he likes you. Guys are really... weird. Believe me. What girls see as flirting, may just be fooling around in a guy's view. Like, if a guy hugs you, most girls think of it as, "Oh, gosh, he hugged me! *squeals hysterically*" But you don't think your friend is lesbian if she hugs you, right? Just because they're the opposite gender and they show signs of affection or whatever to you, doesn't mean they're really flirting.
Just because a lot of people tell you something, it doesn't really mean it's true. With rumors and gossip... you can never really believe something until you directly hear it from the subject.. which is this guy, right? Maybe get your friend to ask him if he likes you or something. He'll most likely deny it, but somen gutsy guys will admit it. Try it.
Do you hate him? Then just... leave him alone. Maybe he takes you annoying him as some kind of flirt. Tell him to stop seriously if he annoys you. Then he'll myabe get the fact that you don't like him.

Hope I've helped...
-Jenny C

i am 13/f and i have never kissed a guy and i really want to i really like my ex-boyfriend but we only went out for three days and we didnt kiss and somtimes he plays around like he would say if you take my money and buy me somthing from the consession stand i'll give you a kiss and i would say somthing i'd rather die but now i want to kiss him and i dont know if i should do it..... I WANT 2 KISS SOME1

It depends on why you guys broke up for, really. If you dumped him, then maybe he's saying he wants to go out with you again, by flirting with you. If he dumped you, then maybe he's just playing around with you. Either way though, I think it's kind of wrong to kiss someone in that way unless you're planning to go out with him. If you want to go out with him, then... flirt with him. Don't directly ask, "Wanna go out?" Just show with affectionate actions that you want to. If he shows signs of annoyance, just stop flirting and leave him alone.

-Jenny C

today at school me and my two friends were in a group and my ex-boyfriend kevin came over there and i was looking for curtis and kevin said look at her she likes curtis now i said no i dont i need 2 ask him somthing and the my friend jahmisha said oooooooo didnt yall two ummmm go 2 geter and kevin said yes and i said no now i feel guilty and crazy i dont know what to say to him i plan on avoiding him i need help

I don't think you should take this as a major problem. Kevin might have not taken it seriously. If he talks to you about it, just tell him you were sorry and that you didn't want to hurt his feelings, but you just didn't like the memory of you two going out or whatever reason you denied it for. But only say this when he asks you about it. Don't be rude to him.
Also tell your friend Jahmisha that you didn't appreciate her for bringing up tension like that. Tell her not to bring up you and Kevin once being together. Tell her to just leave that topic alone.

Good luck with that
-Jenny C

I stumbled across this site by accident. I seriously doubt many of you have the qualifications to give real people proper advice. After reading some of your responses to people's inquiries i was quite astonished as to how teenagers find they are able to give quality advice and information to real people in need with such little life experience. If you ask me you are not in a place to give your "personal opinion" when people truly believe you are giving them the right answer simply because you claim "people think i give really good advice". (eg. i am still at a loss as to how a 17 year old girl thinks she can give advice to someone regarding conceiving a child) I know you try to come across as a "godsend" to poeple who are in some sort of personal crisis and need a fast easy answer but the truth is, in the cases where it really counts, there rarely is one; at least not from you.

Okay, so we are a bunch of inexperienced people that don't have real advices... so, what's your point in telling us that?
Do you maybe believe that we'll stop giving advice? Did you think you'll get a life in trying? Are you trying to seem smart? If so, you failed at all three. But keep on trying. I'm sure you'll succeed. Heh heh.
You shouldn't diss people who have problems. =) It's not nice.
Tell me, Ms. Critic, did I give you good advice? Oh well

Hope I've helped
-Jenny C

Theres a boy who liked me and then I went out with a boy and i still liked him I broke up with him but not for the boy I like just because I didn't really like him anymore and this boy I like tells me he found someone else after he was ignoring my texts so I stopped and he always stares at me still like he still really does like me but he feels awkward and i don't think he found someone else he probably just thought nothing was happening between me and him and he didn't even know I broke up with my bf. but then he texted me two weeks after and I texted back but then again i got nothing.

10 minutes ago I told him.
"I'm not obsessed but I don't like being ignored and if you really don't want to talk to me anymore then please tell me"
I said I wasn't obsessed because sometimes I say hey to him just to see if he would reply back hahah.
I'm not waiting for him and I never will but I really like him and I just don't want to feel this awkwardness around eachother anymore.

He hasn't replied back yet but do you think it was a good idea to tell him that or no. cause I'm feeling kinda weird about sending it.

It's a good thing you didn't curse him out or anything like that. I think what you sent him is totally a good way to start solving this.
First, ask him about this "someone else" he found, face-to-face or in an e-mail or whatever. Tell him you hope everything goes with him and her (even thought you and I both know that there is no 'someone else').
Tell this guy that you want to be friends. Tell him you think he's cool and all (don't get carried away on complimenting him) but you want to know why he's not talking to you. Ask him, "What did I do to you that was so wrong?" Get an answer out of him.
If he continues to ignore you, then tell him, "Okay. Keep ignoring me. I'm sorry for whatever I did... I guess you just don't like me anymore." Try to make him feel guilty for ignoring you, and everything.

Hope I've helped
-Jenny C

Ok, summary. I'm 23 years old, smart, mature, grounded, and I think I'm pretty and have a great sense of humor. The problem is I have such a hard time attracting guys. I could be thinner...but what I don't understand is, I have a friend who's younger than me by a couple of years and it's like she jumps from one guy to the next.

We're a lot alike, except I'm not really into the partying scene anymore and I don't have a lot of baggage as far as my past goes. It's pretty clean, cut, 2 serious boyfriends and that's it. She has a lot of baggage. Am I doing something wrong?

She's my friend and I think she's great, but I'm just confused as to what she's got that I don't. I personally (and I'm not the only one) don't think she's prettier than I am. I know she's got more confidence than I do. But I'm not the kind of person to just walk in and be all up in someone's face, I'm very down-to-earth and laid back. She's still in the partying scene, while I'm getting out of that and I'm wanting to find a relationship that's not all about partying. Am I lacking an important relationship quality?

I'm in college, work full-time (Monday-Friday), go to church, outgoing, friendly, good sense of humor...
Someone help me because I'm really beginning to second guess myself.

Well, maybe you are pretty, but you know, looks aren't everything. Sounds like you look really good, but that's not all that guys look for. I personally don't think it's the baggage that got the guys hooked on her, but her spicy personality. Your friend is a wild party animal, so it's easy for guys to spot her.
I'm not saying, "You should be like her! What are you doing with your butt in front of the computer?! Start partying like you've never partied before!" No. What I'm saying is, maybe you should start approaching the guys. Do something to get their attention, but don't lose your personality. I think guys would like going out with girls like you. The problem is, they don't see you. Show off your beauty without being slutty. Show off your humor without looking like a clown.

Hope I've helped
-Jenny C

Ok well my friend just got a new chocolate phone (green), and today at lunch she said- do you want to see my new phone, I said- I don't care about your fucking phone, she got mad at me. and I knew she just wanted to show it to me to rub it in my face. She knew I wanted one. She's that kind of a person. ok so now she's pissed off at me because of that, stupid I know. Ok do I appologize or what I would like to do is punch her in the face. (I will to) what should I do.

Oh. My. Gosh. That is SO like this girl I know. She loves to show off and thinks she's SO cool (when people thinks she's idiotic). She's a pain in the butt.
So this friend of yours. I would LOVE to punch her in the face... but I don't think you should. I don't think I should either. Because, if you think about it, it's pretty dumb to get in a physical fight over showing off a phone. This friend of yours can get really hurt. Not that we care, right? But you could get in trouble for that.
What you do is ignore her whenever she shows off something. Or act like you could careless. Like if she goes, "Hey, look at my new skirt! Isn't cute?" Just look at it and say, in a bored tone, "I guess it's cute... but I like the one Stephanie or whoever has better," or maybe, "What cute skirt? Where is it?" Act like you don't like whatever she has without seeming too bitchy. It worked for my friend.

Hope I've helped
-Jenny C

okay well my friend is 12 andshe just start4ed going out with this kid whos 16 he turns 17 in junee... is there something wrong with that?? or is that allright?

Everyone nowadays is saying that those things aren't wrong, but in truth, it really is. If he's 16, he probably has a lot more experience with girls, so he'll be pushing your 12 year old friend to do stuff that she might not be ready for, if you know what I mean. Yes, like sex. He might take her to wild clubs and everything. Things could get a little uncomfortable.
Your friend shouldn't be going too far with this relationship. For now, let her be with him, but if he starts pressuring her to do stuff, tell her that she shouldn't go 'there'. If the guy really cares about your friend, he'd understand that she's too young but go out with her anyway.

Hope I've helped
-Jenny C

i herd my bf kissed another girl so i went and kissed a guy i don't no and i found out the girl he kissed was...........ME.I don't no how to tell him and our relationship is going realy great what am i 2 do?

Oh, gosh, that's really bad. Well, first of all, I'm going to act like an annoying, scolding Mommy and tell you how you shouldn't have overreacted over hearing stuff about your boyfriend kissing someone else. Because most of the time, gossip and rumors are untrue. They're just made-up words, usually exxagerated versions of what really happened. People actually do it for fun, isn't that sad??
Back to the main problem though: If your relationship is going really great, then it would still be as great if you admit that to him. Insult yourself and tell him that you really weren't thinking and you had no idea what you were doing to kiss another guy. Apologize until he's sick of hearing "sorry". =)
If he asks, "WHY did you believe that? Don't you trust me?" Tell him you do and apologize again. Tell him how much he means to you, and how your relationship is nessacary for you to be able to breathe. Tell him that you didn't want to admit because you were afraid of him hating you, but you really didn't want to keep it a secret because you think it's wrong. Tell him that if you really didn't care about him, you wouldn't be here with him, telling him all about it. If you didn't care, you'd be off with that other guy.
Most importantly, tell him you LOVE him. Like crazy. Hugs will prove it. Kisses too. =)

Hope I've helped
-Jenny C

im not sure if this is in the right catagorie or not.. sorry.. well i just recently got a tatoo and i was just wondering, what do i do if people start talking about it because im worried they will because of what it is.. ((its a playboy bunny and its on the back of my shoulder..))

Well..., I'm against tattoos in the first place, but it's your decision. If people start talking bad stuff about it, so what? Your friends and your family will know you for who you are. And they're the ones that you care about the most, right? So what's the worry?
But if you really do care about what they think about it and if they start talking about you, then whatever. Gossips and rumors stop really fast, because I'm sure there's a LOT more going on at your school than a girl getting a playboy bunny tattoo. Just try not to start anything over it, because then people will be thinking of you as an even worse person. People who matter know you're not a bad person.

-Jenny C **

Okay , this is the thing.
I have this boyfrind we've been dating for almost a year- we're pretty close. His bestfriend hits on me ! Not just a little flirt but a lot. He always has his hands on me... and gets me in trouble durning class. HE also tickeles me , sometimes and makes me laugh a LOT ! AND WAIT FOR IT.. WAIT FOR IT.. He's dating MY BESTFRIEND ! ITs all a big mess, you see i would never leave my boyfriend for his friend.. its just i dont know how to approah this situation. My boyfriend deffinetly suspects something. How can i settle this without runing my relationship and my bestfriends?? Thanks in advance. xoxo

Tell your best friend. It'll be hard. She might not believe it. A similar thing happened to my friend and my other friend. It was so twisted up, but if she was really your best friend, she'd believe you. It's up to your best friend what to do with her ever so 'loyal' boyfriend. Leave her alone with that problem.
Before you talk to your friend about this, though, show this annoying boyfriend's friend that you really don't like whatever he's doing: flirting or playing or whatever. Whenever he tickles you, tell him to STOP. Show him your annoyed by pushing him away and rolling your eyes. In front of him, act extra affectionate to your boyfriend. You have to show that guy that you're only sticking to one person and you're not going to levae your boyfriend or betray your best friend.

-Jenny C ♥

13/f

1. please give me a good website for a color chart for myspace.
2. a background code.
3. background images.
4. how to add a table [like music, television, movies, etc.]

thanks!

Good sites to go would be:
myspacescripts.com
coshed.com
myspacenow.com
toxxic.net

I don't know what you mean by adding a table. Go to Myspace, and next to your default pic would be, in blue letters, Edit Profile. Click on that, and there would beyour tables..

well like a month ago, me & my ex were arguing reallly bad , he was cursing & i was cursing back at him & he told me i was fucking stupid & that he was done with me & he dont need all my bullshit & he's happy in his relationship & he wants me to take my ass & leave & get out of his life so im like watevver i dnt need him ... & after awhile i miisssed himmm like craziii but i aint trynna begg him to be my friend soo a month went by & on my birthday which was yesterday he IMed me & said happy birthday rena! & we had a lil convo. but im confusedd! why he hurt me & yell at me then is all nice!! is he pretending to like me. his gf which is my close friend told me that he told her that he was gunna tell me happy birthday. i dont kno what i should doo. cz im gettin mixed feelings from him & dat makes me get mixed feelings for him..

Most likely when you guys were fighting, you were both so taken over by anger that you guys believed that you hated each other and just said anything that your rage made you say. But after you guys were apart, and cooled down, you guys realized that maybe you two should at least be friends again. Start with just a smile at him as you pass in the hallways. If he responds with a grin, move on to waving to him and saying, "Hey, what's up?" If he responds negatively, like he rolls his eyes or looks away from you or something, just avoid him for a while. Maybe he needs more time away from you to know he's missing out on something good. ;)

Hope I've helped
-Jenny C ♥

ok so i need a new aim sn. and i have no imaginationn =]]

a little aboutt me:
my name is sam/sammy/ect.
i dont mind x's or o's.
my fav. color is pink.
no: chick, girl, star, gurl.ect.
do: songs [[ lyrics ]], X3

You sound like you would go good with an sn like "xoSugarnSpicexo" or something. Maybe "LipGlossGlitter" or "xoPucker-Upxo"...
I tried. =) Hope I've helped!!

-Jenny ♥

Yeah, help me please!!!! My boyfriend used to smoke, drink, and chew. He told me he has quit all of them just 4 me, but I don't know if I should believe him. He's a really good boyfriend and a good person, but I mean, I don't know if he quit or not. I love him so freekin much, but If he does that stuff I don't want to be with him. Wa should I do?

You can usually tell if he's smoking, drinking, or chewing by smelling his breath. Simple, really. Mints can't really cover it up, because alcohol and tobacco and stuff are stronger, so he won't be able to hide it. If you go to his bedroom, you can tell by the smell of the atmosphere there as well.
If you find that he does smoke, drink, or chew, talk to him about it. Plead him not to deny it, and explain how you care about his health. Tell him you really like him. Understand how hard it is for him to stop any of the three. Something really hard may be going on with his life, so ask about it. Tell him to trust you about his troubles. If he likes you enough to lie to you about not doing drugs and stuff to keep you, he really likes you. He wants to keep you, so he'll try hard. If he doesn't even try to, break up with him. Your boyfriend doesn't care for you enough to stop doing drugs, then tell him how upset you are of how you can't stop risking your life on these harmful substances.

-Jenny ♥

Okay, i like this boy and we used to be friends and all but now hes a total jerk and hes mean to me but i still like him ALOT, like i dream about him every night etc.
But he stares at me and tries to get my attention.
Theres this other guy, that everyone says id look good with and he likes me , and hes nice and all but i dont like him that much.
Supposedly hes going to ask me out sometime, and i dont know what to do.Becuase i dont wanna go out with someone and be in love with someone else.
Help!
14/f

It'll be wrong to go out with someone and like someone else. So I suggest talking to this boy.
If he's such a jerk, though, why do you like him? And why does he be mean to you, yet try to get your attention? There's some kind of weird connection between you, and you have to find out more about it. Talk to this guy and ask him what's going on. If he's being a jerk, it's usually for a reason. Ask him about how his life is going, or maybe one of his friends.
Treat him nicely. He probably needs it, especially from you.

-Jenny ♥

To start im 13 and im a girl.

Ok well I was really good friends with this guy. We will call him C. So he was like my best friend, then I started to like him a little. so after i startedto like him I was determinded I was not going to go out with him cause it would ruin our friendship. But he was always playing with my hair and flirting with me then one day he wrote me a really sweet note about how he had always like me because Im nice and Im easy to talk to and stuff like that. The next day when we were on thanks giving break he asked me out over text message so I said yes.

Then later it was so weird going out with my bestfriend that i dumped him after only a week by writing him a note. It made him mad that I didnt say it to his face even though he asked me out by text msg. Well I moved on and forgot about him, but it has been a month since we broke up and he is still writing things about me on his myspace about how he only went out with me to make someone jealous and how im annoying. He wont talk to me anymore either.

what does this mean? what should i do?

It depends on your feelings about this guy.
Do you still want to be his friend (as in, just a friend)? If you do, tell him you were sorry but you just didn't feel any sparks between you and him. He's just hurt about how you dumped him. Tell him you like him, but just as a best friend, which lasts longer than being a boyfriend. Tell him being a best friend is better than being a boyfriend, because it is.
Do you hate this guy? Then don't be sorry, if you really can't stand it any more. It's not your fault that your heart didn't beat for him in that way. Tell him that you want him to stop and if he hadn't overreacted about the situation, you two could've stayed as friends. Tell him how he should move on, and go out with that "girl he was trying to make jealous." Ask him why he's acting like this if you're so "annoying". You're not much of a loss if you're annoying, right? Obviously he's upset over losing you. He's just trying to get over it. Don't be too harsh. Try to be understanding, but be firm and to the point.

Anytime there's a project that I'm working on for school, I get so stressed out about it until I'm done. It takes me longer than usual to go to sleep, the littlest things irritate me, I get in horrible moods, if I mess up just a little bit I feel like I'm about to cry, and things along the lines of that. If I'm asleep and I suddenly remember that I forgot to do something (It can be anything! It doens't matter.), I can't sleep for the rest of the night because I'm worrying about it. It's just things like that and I get very stressed out about it. Is there something that you can do to hadle it or something you can take to relieve stress?

Take warm, soothing showers, eat a lot of fruit, drink something weet to comfort you. Go outside and take a deep breath If you think you're going to freak out. If you feel like crying, just let the tears fall. It'll be more stress to hold the tears in. Write down all your emotions in something like a diary. Punch a pillow, scream in a pillow, and then close your eyes and stay still to let the anger fly out of you. Maybe listen to music while you're doing so. If you want to stay awake to finish a project, don't drink coffee. I've heard apples actually work better, and they're a lot healthier too. I've had stress a lot, and those things really helped me when I was about to explode.

-Jenny =)

okay. well me & ALOT of girls in my grade [& i mean it when i say alot, i mean the majority of the girls] think our science teacher is a total perv. he tries to touch our asses all the time & calls us things like "babe" or "hun". one time he even said "the only time ill get excited is when you have to give me CPR". he also coaches the girls basketball team & we think its only because he likes the girls. one of my friends said he was trying to look down her shirt [which was very low-cut & you could see alot if you know what i mean] once. he always makes remarks in ways where you can tell he is referring to our boobs or our asses. well, one of my friends went to the guidance counciler about this & told her all of what i told you. she said we needed evidence. so now the principle is getting involved. i really dont want to see him fired because he is really funny & he lets us listen to music in study hall but i think its best that he doesnt work at our school anymore. im also afraid that if i get into this & talk to the guidance counciler too, that he will hunt me down & rape me. im being totally serious. a couple of my friends think we are totally crazy & think we should drop this whole thing. we are trying to make them see what we are saying & its kind of working. did we do the right thing by telling the guidance counciler? i feel reallybad about the whole thing & i dont know if we should continue this.

You did do the right thing about telling the guidance counselor. If your teacher has crazy hormones and a nasty mind, that's really wrong. It's not right when you don't feel secure in a class like that. If you're really bothered like that, then it's totally the right thing to do.
If you think he's going to possibly rape you, tell the guidance counseler about that too. People can help you with that problem. The police might get involved, but it's really for the best.
Think about how things could go for the better. You will have a teacher that's more serious about science and teaching and less about girls. You'll stop feeling as if you're being molested.

Hope I've helped
-Jenny

13/f, a boy a year older than me reallly likes me ALOT. i like him too but we go to different schools like 45 min away.now he wants to hookup with me and stuff, but he said if i don't want to its fine, but i want to. i know he has hookuped tons of times and said he had a lot of girlfiends but 'doesn't like commitments'. i saw his myspace/facebook and he has a million friends that are girls and they all comment saying 'i love youu!' or 'the movies were so much fun' and like i think hes a player or a manwhore.
but i really like him, so what should i do? just let him go? is he worth it?

It really is your decision, based on your emotions and everything... but I'd say, "I'm sorry, but no." It probably won't affect him much, because he has a lot of other options.
Think:
If he goes to another school, he'll probably be going out with somebody there, while he's hitting on you there.
If he's a year older than you, more reasons to say NO. He's probably interested in girls his age, so he's probably playing around with you.
I'm not sure of how your relationship would work out... but I'm sure of one thing: he will not be worth it. If you go out with him, and if he breaks up with you or cheats on you, don't break your heart over him. You're better than him, because you're not a slut that goes around with tons of girlfriends. You're a girl that cares about people, who'll probably get much better guys than that player. Remember that.

Hope I've helped
-Jenny

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