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I'm just an average person. I love to help people out :) it makes me feel better about myself. I've been in a lot of situations so I can most likely relate to a lot of your problems. I know what it feels like to not have anyone to talk to about your problems, which is why i'm an advicenator. I'm ready to help people and be there for everyone who needs advice or just a companion to speak out to. I'm always here if you need me, don't hesitate to drop a question or even just a vent/rant note about a problem to my advice column inbox. I respond to all of them regardless of the topic. I'm upfront and abrupt about my answers and never sugarcoat. Take my advice or not, but i'm just doing my job :)Played volleyball for over 10 years, also a coach. I love to try new things. Currently I'm trying the new sport of tennis and learning about my passion of photography.
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How do you stop yourself from having a mental breakdown, All i want to do is cry. How do i harden up and deal with it. I can't do anything!!Please help. Thanks
when you have a mental breakdown, your body is raging with anger, fear, sadness, or whatever emotions you have. your heart rate is racing and your adrenaline starts pumping.
The first thing to know is self-control. you have to control yourself. First control your breathing. breath slow, in and out. After a while, count your heart rate for a minute. then try breathing slowly and deeply and try to get your heart rate down.
you have to control your mind. close your eyes and instead of thinking negatively and being a pessimist, think about all of the good things in your life. Think of the things that make you happy. For me- its the small things in life. being with family, friends, going on bike rides, photography, laughing and smiling. those are the things that make me happy. when I think of those things, I become happy.
then you have to control your body. Instead of slouching on the couch being angry at yourself, or on the bathroom floor crying.. you need to pick yourself off your feet and control your body. Go outside and ride your bike. or even just sit at the dinner table with a good posture and eat. Instead of folding your arms at your chest (which is a sign of closure) try keeping your arms at your sides. when you see someone you know, instead of leaning on 1 hip, stand up and give them a hug.
I know all of this stuff because someone I know has a hard time with controlling themselves and they always throw temper-tantrums and have mental breakdowns all the time. you need to control yourself. have respect for yourself and be happy :)
16 male
So i've never had sex, never seen a vagina in real life. I have had 3 girlfriends if that makes a difference. The farthest i've gone is making out and I felt her up.
The last 2 years I have wanted to have sex really bad, of course it's cause of my hormones and stuff. But I am wondering I have always thought that some girls' vaginas looked better then others, I've watched porn before so yeah, I've noticed I don't like when a girl has really big "lips" sorry for the lack of the name for it. Is this normal for a guy? I've noticed too that i am always worried that this will effect me when i have another girl friend and we get this far.
I am straight too never had thoughts of being gay or anything like that. I am just getting worried that this will be effecting me.
Also I'm worried that i'll get like freaked out when i finger a girl too for the first time because i really don't know what to do and don't know how the vagina and stuff works. My friend told me that girl's have 2 holes there but then it confused me because obviously it can't be 2 like really big separate holes, so that has kinda had me worried too that i'll go into the wrong hole? Can someone clear this up for me?
its normal for you to start wanting to have sex. but let me ask you this.. if the girl got pregnant, do you think you'd be old enough, mature enough, and responsible enough to take care of a baby? always think of the consequences.. so take that into consideration when you think about having sex.
As for a girls labia/lips. well its your personal taste on what you like. There's no right or wrong, pretty or ugly. Its based on what you like and don't like. Some guys like it when girls shave down there, other guys dont like it. Its whatever you like. But keep in mind, girls can't get rid of their labias.. so you just gotta deal with it. It comes with the whole package so to speak haha :)
As for fingering for the first time- its really not that difficult. If you can pick your nose, you can finger a girl haha. The only reason people think its difficult is because its really difficult to see down there and understand it. I know this may sound REALLY strange.. but take a tampon box and read the instructions. You'll understand how the vagina looks and works better. Here's just a short version, the vagina is angled. It doesn't go straight up. Its angled towards the girls lower back.
If I were you, don't do anything you'd regret. don't rush into anything. The first time I had sex was when i was 18 and i'm proud of myself for waiting that long. It was with the right guy at the right time :) yeah i wanted to do it when i was younger, but i knew that it wouldn't mean anything or be special if i did it with some random guy. So don't rush into anything just because you want "experience". In my personal opinon, i'd take a guy if he was less experienced over a guy who had tons of experience. you want to know why? because it shows that the guy with less experience wants to wait until he's with someone he loves. he respects himself and the girl, and won't want to "get it over with". a guy who has tons of experience just comes off as a player who doesn't have any respect for girls. Thats just my personal opinion though.
One more thing. sex and intimacy is a natural thing. It doesn't come with a manual. Its not rocket-science. When you're old enough and mature enough, it should come natural to you. In other words, if you have no clue what the hell you're doing, you're probably not ready yet.
Just take it slow, don't force the girl to do anything, don't force yourself, and just have fun :)
17/F
I'm a very restless sleeper and it takes me at least an hour or two for me to actually get sleepy when I lie down in bed. I try and clear my mind, taking calm breathes, but it just doesn't work! I end up rolling around, flailing, even having trouble breathing. I normally sleep with light, classical music. Nothing hard core or with any singing. Just basic, gentle music, but I still can't sleep. I tried no music, it made it worse because I'm naturally a paranoid person. Every little noise, scratch or tap I hear in my room and I freak out, especially now that it's summer vacation and spiders seem to show up a lot in my room and I'm deathly terrified of them. I already know I have a nervous personality, I can't help it! Is there any natural way I can try and calm myself down so I can sleep? Does tea really work? (Also, I'm lactose intolerant, so warm milk wouldn't be very helpful...)
yes tea helps. try chamomile :) its my favorite and really calms me down.
have you thought about changing your mattress?? I used to have a mattress that was at least 10 years old and it was kind of lumpy. I had also suffered with some pretty bad back aches. I went to the chiropractor to fix my back, and he said I should change my mattress. We bought a new one for me, and I slept like a baby :) So maybe try getting a different mattress, maybe some new pillows and sheets?
Are you using any technology before you go to sleep? researchers say that electronics with bright LED lights make you more awake. So don't use the computer or cell phone before you sleep. Dim the lights in your room or even turn them all off and just have a night light.
Try aromatherapy. I'm not a great expert at it, but Lavender is a great scent that makes you sleepy :) Do some research and find out which scents will make you relaxed and sleepy. There's these things called scent diffusers. You buy the scents are oil, then you put a few drops on the diffuser and it diffuses the scent through your room.
Good luck! and sleep tight..zZz.... :)
well today my boyfriend was on facebook so i msgd him n was like hey n all tht stuff and then we started talkn n it was teken him like 20 mins to msg me back so i was telln him about me gettn my belly button pierced and i got a hello kitty ring n he was like WOOOOOW THATS gay and he was bein really mean can somone give me advise (:
what time was it when you messaged him?
If it was late at night, was he with some friends? sometimes guy's friends will talk to their guy's girlfriend and say stupid stuff like that. So it could have been one of his friends, especially since its over facebook chat, you don't know if it was truly him or someone else on his account. And if it took him 20 minutes to respond, that could be another reason that he was with friends and was probably just busy.
If you're convinced it really was your boyfriend talking to you, then he's probably just being honest. He's just expressing how he feels about you getting a belly button ring. Honestly, I'm assuming you're pretty young, considering your bad grammar and a hello kitty belly ring. If you're a young girl and getting a belly button ring, that comes off skanky, slutty, trashy, and vulnerable. Yeah it looks fine on older women, but on a young girl it just comes off in the wrong way. Thats my personal opinion and your boyfriend could possibly be thinking the same thing. The only way to know for sure is to talk to him about it and ask him why he was acting so rude towards you.
Honestly, there's probably hundreds of excuses that he could have as to why he was acting that way. Maybe he was in a fight with his parents and was in a bad mood to begin with and took his anger out on you. The only way to REALLY know the truth is to talk to him and find out yourself.
Okay, so my parents are insanely overprotective and it's driving me nuts. My mom literally won't let me do anything. She gives me no freedom. I'm 14 and she still won't let me have a facebook even though EVERYONE I know has one, she won't let me go shopping with friends, see movies with friends, or walk or bike anywhere without her. It's embarrassing when my friends ask me to do something fun and I have to explain that my mom won't let me do it. I live in a wealthy, safe neighborhood where nothing ever happens. I'm so sick of following her rules and don't see how I can handle another four years before college with her. Also, her overprotectiveness is backfiring. It's making me rebellious. Little does she know I have ridden bikes all over town with a friend, seen a movie at a mall with a friend, created a facebook and done countless other things she would never allow me to do. I'm not ashamed of any of these things, in fact those times of freedom were the most fun i've ever had. They would be more fun, however, if I didn't have the fear of being caught and killed. How can I get my mom to be less overprotective? I've sat down and talked to her about it, told her everyone gets freedom, and nothing will change her! I'm going insane! Help!
ahh.. i remember when my parents were like this too. Unfortunately, it comes with growing up. about 70% of parents will act this way towards their children as they grow up. and about 20-30% of those children act in an inappropriate way and rebel. That is why so many families have issues, because they misunderstand each other and don't communicate with one another or try to understand each other and compromise.
My parents were the same way. Every time I wanted to do something fun, they would always be so worried and say no. For example, I literally live 2 minutes away from my Middle School. When I was about your age, I asked my parents if I could walk/bike to school since we lived so close. But no. they made me take the bus because it was "safer". Safer than what??? we live in the middle of no where hahaha. They were so worried someone would kidnap me and rape me or something. I had to take the bus and sit all alone :( but I got over it.
I know you're only 14 and it seems like the end of the world. But trust me, you'll get your freedom sooner or later. You're not missing anything really. I'm 18 and I'm still doing the stuff you're doing- going to movies, biking around with friends, sleepovers etc. So don't worry, you have the rest of your life to enjoy those things :) Yeah i know it sucks, but you should realize. Your parents are only doing this to protect you and because they love you and just want you to be safe.
wow.. i just sounded like my mom. haha. But it's true. When you get older and more mature, you'll realize that they love you and only want you to be a healthy good kid.
You can, however, try to change the situation a little bit. Try talking with your mother again and this time, ask to compromise. Tell her something like- I'll do extra chores this week, if you let me go to a movie with some friends. That way, its a win-win situation. Both of you get what you want. If she still says no, try upping the anty and give in a little more. Like doing extra chores AND coming home before curfew or something.
If she still says no, here's the trick- do extra chores or help out your mom, even if she doesn't ask for it. I know it kinda sucks... but i've done it and it pays off BIG time :). she will wonder why you're doing all this for her, and then thats when you let her know- well i was doing all of this because I love you and I was hoping you'd let me go out with friends this weekend or whatever. Your mother will appreciate all the things you've done to help, and she will eventually give in and let you have some rewards. But don't get upset if its not exactly what you want. At first, my parents would give me money for doing extra chores. Then I told them "well whats the point in having money if I can't even go out and spend it?" haha so they finally said I could go out.
A part of growing up is understanding how other people feel. You need to understand how your parents feel, and your parents need to understand how you feel. Communication and Compromise :) thats the key :)
Good luck and inbox me if you have any more questions :)
well today i started talkn to my ex and i realized that i love him and want him back but i have a bf and i had waited for nmy bf for 3 months to finally come around what should i do!!!
its really up to you... whichever one you love the most.
but let me tell you this- sometimes its not the person you miss.. its the memories you've had with them that you miss. So maybe you don't miss your ex, maybe you just miss the stuff you've done with him and all the memories that you 2 shared.
Personally, i'd just stay with your current boyfriend. My past experiences, there was always some kind of drama. To be truthful, i'm sick of drama now. I'm all about staying away from drama and difficult situations. It just causes stress and troubles, which I don't want. In this particular situation, I would stay with my current bf because if I got back with my ex, it would just be more drama. your boyfriend would get jealous and then start fights. You and your ex may not get along like you used to. You still might have feelings for your bf etc.etc. see what I mean? it's just adding to your problems if you go back to your ex. Just keep it safe and simple, stick with your boyfriend if you're happy with it :)
However, if you're not happy with your boyfriend, then by all means dump him. There's no point in staying in a relationship if you're not having fun. If you feel like you'd have more fun with your ex, then go for him.
But just remember what I said- you could just be missing the memories, not him. And try to stay away from drama as much as possible, otherwise it will literally make you go crazy haha. Unless you're a wannabe drama queen..
Ill be 18 in august/f, 24/m.
Im out of highschool.
I thought I posted this question but it never showed up, so if it posts twice Im sorry.
Just to get things out of the way, maturity is not an issue. Most of the people I chill with are his age or older, and I usually date guys 22+. My parents are okay with this as well. He doesnt care about my age, he just thought I was a lot older.
Ive chilled with this guy a few times in the passed month or two, and I met him through a mutual friend. The first night I met him we were at a show, and we just danced together, talked a bit, and exchanged numbers. I sent a mass text about a week or two after about an event, and he replied 'is this my sexy dance partner?' And we just texted back and forth for a little. Then a few weeks later I saw him at a party and we just chatted for a bit. Then, we hung out with 3 other people a few weeks ago, and after everyone went to sleep or left, we stayed up until 5am talking and we found out we had a lot in common, and I realized I had feelings for him.
I havent chilled with him since just from having different plans or hes out of town. He texts me and we have day long conversations just about whatever, but he never is actually like 'hey what are you doing this weekend?' I know he thinks im attractive and funny.. but I want to get to know each other.
My question is, should I just text him saying 'hey! Lets hang out this weekend! :)' or just wait for him to ask me? My personality is the kind where Id usually ask myself, but I dont want to seem pushy or eager, but I also dont want to play it too cool to where he thinks Im not interested. What should I doooo? Its thursday and I really want to see him!
Thanks :)
ask him :) He's probably just waiting for you to make the first move. You never really know unless you try!
If he says no, well that sucks. Thats life. Just keep on talking to him. There's nothing wrong with just being close friends if it doesn't work out.
PS: guys like when girls are brave and confident. He will think that if you make the first move, especially since you're younger than him. He won't expect it and it'll surprise him :)
I just got done with 8th grade, and it's summer. I decided to join the marching band. It is a very good marching band, so my parents had to pay a lot for me to go in it, and it goes from 1-8 pm every Wednesday, plus practicing on my own for like an hour a day. The point is that I can't get out of it. I think it's cool, and think i enjoy it, but their is always that constant reminder that I have too wake up early on Wednesday to play my instrument and march. I feel like It's ruining my summer even though it's pretty fun. What helps you when you are feeling like your in such a tight situation?
it really helps if you have some friends with you because then when you wake up, you're excited to see and hang out with your friends :) so try meeting some friends in your marching band and ask them to hang out and maybe even practice together :) Just have fun!
17/F
Recently, my friend was rushed to the emergency room due to something that we thought was an asthema attack. However, the doctors are saying they can't find anything wrong, even though she's in lots of pain, can't eat, and has trouble breathing. She says she has a piercing pain in the left side of her chest, as well as her stomach and heart. Her eyelids are pale, she's very weak, and she says she's starving, but whenever she thinks about eating, it makes her sick. She says she's dizzy and she has difficulties breathing. They took blood tests, but it didn't show any signs of pneumonia or anemia, so they're assuming it's an asthma attack, but she's still in the hospital even as I write this. I'm extremely worried about her. I know I can't get a professional diagnosis here, but I really want help to try and find a reason to suggest to the doctors as to what might be wrong! If it's not pneumonia, not anemia, and not an astham attack, what other illnesses do her symptoms match up with? She thinks she might have Myelodysplastic anaemia is what she texted to me recently...
I'm no doctor.. but i have a little idea. It could be Mononucleosis. Also known as Mono or the "kissing disease". It affects the spleen which is located on the left side. If someone has it, and moves around a lot/lots of physical activity, it could rupture the spleen and cause a high fever and nausea. it could also be fatal. So try asking the doctor about Mono. Another sign of mono is if her lymph nodes are swollen, and if she's feeling very tired/fatigued.
Another thing it could be is a Esophagus Spasm/Attack. your esophagus is in your throat and when this happens, your throat swells up and its hard to breath. Ask about that.
But like i said, i'm not a doctor so I may very well be wrong about these. If i were you, let the doctors handle it. They're more experienced than you and I. All you can really do is sit and wait and be there for your friend. Bring her some flowers and a cute picture frame of you 2.
I'm very sorry to hear about your friend. She is in my prayers. I wish you and her well. Good luck and inbox me if you have any questions.
I think I might be pregnant. My periods are very screwy (I have one about every 4 to 6 months) and I just recently went to my gyno so she could put me on birth control to straighten them out. I have been taking the pill for 3 weeks now and I have been feeling sick all the time and my breasts have been sore. I have no idea whats going on. we've had a history of breast cancer in my family too but I don't think thats it because I'm only 16 years old. I know that the pill makes you sick the first month or so you take it, but theres a possibility I could be pregnant.
yeah birth control makes you nauseous the first 3 months.
If you want to know an exact answer if you're prego or not.. just take a pregnancy test.
For about 2 months i have been lifting weights 2 hours every other day and playing alot of basketball. I have a slow metabolism but is till do cardio. I have a layer of fat about 1/4 inch over my entire mid section its prolly about half that on my arms if any.
When i jump up and down not flexing my pecks shake quite a bit like jelly. but when i flex theres only a mi nute jiggle. i don't care much because i know theres muscle there. just from a girls pov is it unattractive or attractive?
everyone has fat, deal with it.
if a girl doesn't like it, then just turn around and walk the other way. why do you care what people think anyways? honestly, if a girl likes it, then be friends with her and maybe more than friends. If a girl doesn't like it, then leave her alone. she's not the one anyways. you can tell if a girl truly likes you, if she loves everything about you, even fat. Fat is normal for everyone, regardless of how buff they are or skinny they are. everyone's got it.
Basically, I have had a facebook stalker for a good 4 months. This person would send me flirty messages, and bother me. Finally, last night they are on chat. I begin mind fucking them into telling me who it is. Things like, im so excited to know, etc. He says -
Me:do you like me or whats going on
9 hours agoPete Psa i do like you but dont wnt a relationship im more for friendly encounters i thought maybe you would want to have some fun online thought maybe you get bored sometimes
9 hours ago ME wow thats not thinking very highly of me
thats just a tiny fragment.
It continues until I find out just who it is. It is my best friend's boyfriend of three years/ one of my very good friends/ my ex's best friend. I asked him how long he has felt like this, he said he cant put a number on it. Long story short, I already lost one of our homies after he came on to me in the backseat of the car my boy at the time was driving, so I told "pete" that im not interested, and if he thinks so highly of me he should have a little respect and say something instead of jump to the busisness. I told him I am not trash, and am not sure if I will be keeping this from my bestfriend.
i have known him much longer than his girlfriend, but i am very great friends with her. ive already lied for him once. she has helped me through SO much in the passed year, i mean really this has been a very rough time lately and she is ALWAYS there. she is the only person i can count on, and i dont think i can look at her again if i keep this secret.
but i also really would rather not hurt her, they are like a married couple and have been together for 3 years and he really is the perfect guy in a sense. i just dont know whats more important, her being happy with him or her knowing how he feels about me.
girl, they are NOT the perfect couple if he has feelings for another girl...
When you hear perfect couple.. I think 2 people who are madly in love with EACH OTHER. he's not in love with her if he's feeling this way about you..
I say tell your friend what he's been doing behind her back. She deserves to know the truth. This guy is a creep, make him pay haha. Meaning, teach him a lesson. Do it and tell him never to do it again. This is the consequence he has to pay for what he has done.
So, my spring semester as a freshman in college, I took intro to stats 1. I failed the class. I thought it was a combination of things, like it being my first year and the class was too hard, not prepared enough for the class, couldn't understand the teacher's accent. So, I let it go. Took it again and used a forgiveness policy we have. I got back the grade for the first test and it was like a 50 something. So I said, I BETTER drop it so I don't fail again. So, I decided to take it now over the summer so I would do better. It's the only class I'm taking. So, I felt SUPER confident about the test. I knew I had passed. I looked at my grade and I saw 75. Like, I know I passed. But, I thought I was going to get a 90, at least. I feel so stupid. I just want to pass this class with AT LEAST a B. I'm not expecting to get an A by any means. But, I need to take this class for my major and I'm just worried. Right now I have an 81% because we had a quiz earlier on and that's my grade in the class. I'd like to keep it that way. I'm just really worried. So, I have 2 questions:
1) can you give me any tips as to doing good in stats. I know, study. obviously. but, anything else? I am going to tutoring and all of that. Just anything you think might be useful. Not looking for anything in particular.
2) I have to take stats II as a pre-requisite for 2 other classes (that don't have to do with statistics, really. They have to do more with conducting experiments. So, you need the BASIC knowledge of stats, but you don't need to be a super stats genius. Do you think I should take stats II in the Fall, now that it is fresh in my mind? Or do you think I should take it in the Spring, and take a breather from it?
Thoughts and opinions are appreciated. Thank you xoxo
go to this website
http://www.khanacademy.org/
its a tutoring website and its absolutely wonderful. It has a lot of subjects on it. I've used it and the guy who created this is literally a genius. It really helps :)
I would take stats 2 right away since its fresh in your mind and you'll know more, as opposed to taking it later and forgetting nearly everything.
I also find it helps when you study for like 30 minutes and then take a 10 minute break, then study again, then break for 10 min. Make sure you get enough sleep, don't cram study at 3am at night.. Make notecards/flashcards, study at random periods like when you go to the bathroom or grocery shopping, it helps you remember stuff easier haha. Ask someone to quiz you and then when you make a mistake, look it over and retake the quiz.
good luck!!
Is there such thing as pre-cum
yep. just FYI- there's sperm in pre-cum. it can get a girl pregnant if there's no form of birth control.
so me and my bf decided we r gunna get crazy and get dwn (have sex) and he starts to put his .... inside me and i strt bleeding while he is inside me i thnk he popped my cherry but cld that get me pregnant????
well are you guys using any birth control?? birth control can be the pill, condoms, the patch, the shot etc. if you didn't use any birth control.. then yes there's a big risk, even if there wasn't any sperm. *remember there's always pre-cum which still has sperm in it*
If you were using a form of birth control, then you should be fine. just be careful.. If anything, you can buy Plan B which is available over the counter at pharmacies. they cost about 40 dollars a pack.
Honestly, if you're not old enough to take care of your own baby... then you shouldn't be having sex.
Even with the top birth control forms, there's ALWAYS a chance to get pregnant. The only way 100% to not get pregnant is to not have sex.
I know I have posted a lot of questions about my situation, but I need help...
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a month now, and we get along great. We have a strong trust and intense, good chemistry. We get along extremely well and have the same quirky crazy personalities.
Thursday, my boyfriend did not answer me all day. Because I am a huge worry wart, I worried about him. I texted him about four times and called after waiting three hours for him to answer. He turned out to be drinking with friends and turned off his phone, but I was concerned that he didn't tell me what he was up to so I didn't have to blow up his phone and worry like I did. He complained I was clingy and we argued for about three days until I asked if we could stop fighting over it because I was tired of doing so. He agreed and we decided to move on and learn from it. I have been giving him space and learning to relax.
Today we hung out, and it was good. We had a lot of fun, but still, I felt weird as well. I don't know what it was. We chilled like we always do. When I first entered his room I told him I missed him, but he said, "It's only been two weeks." I felt hurt and told him that's pretty long in my book but he just laughed. The day went on and we were fine. Later on he complained when I noticed someone had duct-taped their bumper to their car. He asked, "Why are you in other people's business? Why do you pay attention to that stuff?" I simply told him I was being observant and I'm just curious like that, and he was complaining. He knew I was hurt when we were walking to the store and cracked jokes about certain things, but I stared into space and tried to smile. I felt hurt. He never ever complains when we hang out. I guess he thinks he has the liberty to complain now that he got that I'm clingy off his chest. He asked me what was the matter later on when he was having a smoke and I told him I was just being off. He held me close and kissed my head and we continued on with the day.
I finally told him what was wrong, that I am scared to do or say certain things because I don't want to come off as clingy, but he told me it was fine and continued kissing me while we hung out in his room. I have had extreme doubts these past two days and this day decreased them. I know he really likes me now. It's just me acting weird, that's all. Everything is fine between us, it's just me....
Still, I keep thinking. He's going to the Navy in December. I know he doesn't want me to get crazy attached too fast since he's leaving and we'll have to have long distance, but still. After we were dating for about three weeks he told me he wanted to marry me!!! And he calls me clingy?! I'm so confused...
I like him a lot and I am going to continue dating him, I just need a way to get over the things he complains about and straighten out my doubts and weird feelings.... I need any advice you have, please help...
alright. i'm just gonna be straight up honest with you. He is not the one for you.
Honestly.. if a guy were treating me like that, i'd dump him within a second. Girl, you have to understand that in a relationship there's trust, loyalty, and RESPECT. He does not respect you.. its clear because of the way he's been acting. No true boyfriend will just ignore their girlfriend for 2 weeks and give her crap for being too clingy. Honestly, I don't know whats worse.. the fact that he's treating you this way, or the fact that you're allowing him to treat you this way. Girl.. just walk the other way. You do not deserve to be treated this way by him.. Don't you want a boyfriend who will miss you after 2 weeks of not talking?? Don't you want a boyfriend who adores you and WANTS to talk to you? It seems like your boyfriend right now feels like he's forced to talk to you. Enough is enough.. just dump him and find another guy who will respect you. I know you said you and your boyfriend have the same personalities.. but it doesn't seem like it to me. I think all he wants is just a girl to have fun with and not get involved with anything serious. And then it seems like you want a relationship more on the serious side. Do you see where i'm getting at? both of you want different things, hence not working out. You can find a guy WAYY better than him :) You'll never know unless you try.
Good luck and inbox me if you have more questions.
I am a 13 year old girl and I'm about 5'2 or 5'3 and I weigh about 119 pounds. it may not seem bad but I think my thighs are fat or on the larger size. Does anyone know how to get thinner thighs or ones with more muscle? and is my body weight proportional to my height and age and everything? all help is good! :) thanks.
your weight is good for your age and height. Just like the other person said, bike, walk, swim, run, all of those things tones your legs especially thighs.
and 1 more thing to add- considering you're 13, you're just starting puberty. As you may already know, girls get wider hips when they go through puberty. So when you look in the mirror, you may think you have big thighs.. but know the difference between big thighs and big hips. sometimes big hips creates the illusion of big thighs.
Hey guys! I just have a really quick question. I gave my boyfriend handjobs and after he came we both washed our hands with soap and water (sometimes twice.) Afterwards he fingered me + there was no wet sperm on the bed. Even I know theres no way this can happen but what are the chances of getting pregnant like this?
the chance would probably be less than .05% haha. you're safe. as long as no sperm gets inside of you, then you'll be fine. If you guys wash your hands, thats the best because its just washing away the sperm.
if i were you, i would get on the pill or some other form of birth control because you're sexually active already and trust me its so much less of a worry and you'll be able to enjoy your experiences more without the stress and worries of being pregnant.
So, I dyed the TIPS of my hair purple, and I used the bleach first, and when the bleach was done, it was an awful auburnish color,so then I put the purple in and it came out okay in the end, not exactly what i wanted. I only let it stay in for the minimum time period because I only want it for a few weeks of summer. My question is, will it wash out by itself and the bleach and purple both fade back to my natural hair color? or will it fade to the bleached color and will I have to dye my hair to my natural color again? I dont want to get a haircut because I'd be cutting a lot off. Please Help! :)
it will fade to the bleached color.
unfortunately, when you bleach hair, not only does it completely fry your hair.. but it stays that way for a long time. that's why so many people don't recommend bleaching hair by yourself. if you absolutely must bleach hair, do it at a salon because its less damaging and they know what they're doing. You think you might know what you're doing... but all hell could break loose and everything turn out horrible. i've had it happen to myself haha. Thats why i only go to salon's now. yeah they're expensive.. but you have to ask yourself.. is it really worth it?
is babysitting at 13 too young??xxx
it depends on how mature this 13 year old is.
When i think of a babysitter, the first thing that comes to my mind is "would they be able to save a child's life if it were in danger?"
So if you think a 13 year old is capable of saving a child's life if it were in danger, then i guess your answer is that they aren't too young. I myself would personally want someone older, around 16 or 17 because at that age, you're taught how to save lives and you're more mature at that age.