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Bestfriends boyfriend, being a creep
Basically, I have had a facebook stalker for a good 4 months. This person would send me flirty messages, and bother me. Finally, last night they are on chat. I begin mind fucking them into telling me who it is. Things like, im so excited to know, etc. He says -
Me:do you like me or whats going on
9 hours agoPete Psa i do like you but dont wnt a relationship im more for friendly encounters i thought maybe you would want to have some fun online thought maybe you get bored sometimes
9 hours ago ME wow thats not thinking very highly of me
thats just a tiny fragment.
It continues until I find out just who it is. It is my best friend's boyfriend of three years/ one of my very good friends/ my ex's best friend. I asked him how long he has felt like this, he said he cant put a number on it. Long story short, I already lost one of our homies after he came on to me in the backseat of the car my boy at the time was driving, so I told "pete" that im not interested, and if he thinks so highly of me he should have a little respect and say something instead of jump to the busisness. I told him I am not trash, and am not sure if I will be keeping this from my bestfriend.
i have known him much longer than his girlfriend, but i am very great friends with her. ive already lied for him once. she has helped me through SO much in the passed year, i mean really this has been a very rough time lately and she is ALWAYS there. she is the only person i can count on, and i dont think i can look at her again if i keep this secret.
but i also really would rather not hurt her, they are like a married couple and have been together for 3 years and he really is the perfect guy in a sense. i just dont know whats more important, her being happy with him or her knowing how he feels about me.
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Dear "Bestfriends boyfriend, being a creep",
You have gotten great advice so far. If he is flirting with you, and involved with another woman, he is not perfect, or in love with the other woman.
If he does this to her, he will do this to others. I was with a man for ten years, then I found out about his 'online adventures' that eventually led to hook-ups.
Save her now, before she spends another 7 years of her life on him and ends up having children with him. Children do not need a dad like him. He does not respect her, and he has disrespected you.
He is relying on you to keep quiet. You have once before. So he figures his girlfriend will never know since you can keep his secrets.
Be honest with everyone involved. Yourself included. Always treat those around you the way you would want to be treated. What would you have one of your girls do if the shoe was on the other foot?
Good Luck!
Doktor Tammy
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girl, they are NOT the perfect couple if he has feelings for another girl...
When you hear perfect couple.. I think 2 people who are madly in love with EACH OTHER. he's not in love with her if he's feeling this way about you..
I say tell your friend what he's been doing behind her back. She deserves to know the truth. This guy is a creep, make him pay haha. Meaning, teach him a lesson. Do it and tell him never to do it again. This is the consequence he has to pay for what he has done.
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I honestly think that you need to tell her, show her the message so she doesnt think you are lying... If it were me I would want to know. If he is doing this with you he may be doing it with other people... tell her or when she finds out you know you will lose her
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