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Normal for a guy?
16 male
So i've never had sex, never seen a vagina in real life. I have had 3 girlfriends if that makes a difference. The farthest i've gone is making out and I felt her up.
The last 2 years I have wanted to have sex really bad, of course it's cause of my hormones and stuff. But I am wondering I have always thought that some girls' vaginas looked better then others, I've watched porn before so yeah, I've noticed I don't like when a girl has really big "lips" sorry for the lack of the name for it. Is this normal for a guy? I've noticed too that i am always worried that this will effect me when i have another girl friend and we get this far.
I am straight too never had thoughts of being gay or anything like that. I am just getting worried that this will be effecting me.
Also I'm worried that i'll get like freaked out when i finger a girl too for the first time because i really don't know what to do and don't know how the vagina and stuff works. My friend told me that girl's have 2 holes there but then it confused me because obviously it can't be 2 like really big separate holes, so that has kinda had me worried too that i'll go into the wrong hole? Can someone clear this up for me?
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its normal for you to start wanting to have sex. but let me ask you this.. if the girl got pregnant, do you think you'd be old enough, mature enough, and responsible enough to take care of a baby? always think of the consequences.. so take that into consideration when you think about having sex.
As for a girls labia/lips. well its your personal taste on what you like. There's no right or wrong, pretty or ugly. Its based on what you like and don't like. Some guys like it when girls shave down there, other guys dont like it. Its whatever you like. But keep in mind, girls can't get rid of their labias.. so you just gotta deal with it. It comes with the whole package so to speak haha :)
As for fingering for the first time- its really not that difficult. If you can pick your nose, you can finger a girl haha. The only reason people think its difficult is because its really difficult to see down there and understand it. I know this may sound REALLY strange.. but take a tampon box and read the instructions. You'll understand how the vagina looks and works better. Here's just a short version, the vagina is angled. It doesn't go straight up. Its angled towards the girls lower back.
If I were you, don't do anything you'd regret. don't rush into anything. The first time I had sex was when i was 18 and i'm proud of myself for waiting that long. It was with the right guy at the right time :) yeah i wanted to do it when i was younger, but i knew that it wouldn't mean anything or be special if i did it with some random guy. So don't rush into anything just because you want "experience". In my personal opinon, i'd take a guy if he was less experienced over a guy who had tons of experience. you want to know why? because it shows that the guy with less experience wants to wait until he's with someone he loves. he respects himself and the girl, and won't want to "get it over with". a guy who has tons of experience just comes off as a player who doesn't have any respect for girls. Thats just my personal opinion though.
One more thing. sex and intimacy is a natural thing. It doesn't come with a manual. Its not rocket-science. When you're old enough and mature enough, it should come natural to you. In other words, if you have no clue what the hell you're doing, you're probably not ready yet.
Just take it slow, don't force the girl to do anything, don't force yourself, and just have fun :)
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Well, we all have our individual tastes, don't we. It will depend on the girl as to whether the size of her labia (the "technical" term, which means lips! so you were right :) ) is a dealbreaker for you or not.
Don't worry about getting the wrong hole in the front - the vagina hole is quite big and the other hole where the urine comes out is very small, just below the clit. There is no way you will get a finger or anything else up there.
As to what to do when you get there - ask! Or get her to move your hand/fingers at the beginning so you can get a feel for what she likes.
One word of caution: when you do get that far with a future girlfriend, PLEASE do not compare her body with the women you have seen in pornos. Those women are shaved, tanned, have personal trainers etc. Don't give your girl hangups because of something you have seen in a movie.
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