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So lets say your guy leaves you and gets with someone else. He didn't even bother telling you he left you FOR someone else, he just said that things aren't working out and I don't think we should see each other. Now, here's the catch. You think the whole time he left you because he actually liked the other girl, but in reality he never liked her like that. They were just friends with benefits. You've already taken him back but this was before you knew of the friends with benefits relationship. Now you're pissed and you don't know how to bring it up with him but you want answers and in the past, he's told you that his past is his business and only if he chooses to tell you, then he will. What would you do? (link)
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Well I would talk to him. I wouldn't care if he said that it's his past and only his business. Yeah, he has a choice to tell you or not but if it his bothering you, you guys need to talk about it. If he refuses to at least talk to you about it then you're just gonna be left wondering and it's going to bother you right? You don't want to be in a relationship with a guy who won't even be honest and talk to you about it. So if he chooses not to, don't stay with him. You're just gonna end up hurting yourself and over thinking things. You don't want that. Good luck!
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There's this guy that I really like & I've been having dreams about him & he's the only thing I can think about. School let out & I was in the band room & his best friend, we'll call him Bob, & my crush, we'll call him Nate, are in there getting their instruments & Bob comes up to me & is like: Nate wants to know if you wanted to go out with him. I told Bob yes & he told Nate & Nate doesn't say anything. He just leaves! What is this? (link)
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Boys are so confusing right?
There could be so many reasons why he left. If you have any way to get a hold of him or his friend then try to do that because since school is out you won't see him right? Well other than talking to them, there isn't much you can do about this situation. If you can't talk to them then you're just gonna have to wait till school starts again. Good luck!
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We have been rather close friends for a long time. Always fun and silly and perhaps flirtatious, but always just friends. I rarely get to talk to him this year because we dont have classes together, he doesnt have a cell phone, nd his parents are fairly strict. But I like him now and how do I tell him indiscretly how i feel for him now? And if i asked him to hang, since we are friends, would that be to desperate? And i dont want to lose him as a friend help me please! (link)
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Since you guys are friends there wouldn't be anything wrong with asking him to hang out. But maybe to make it less awkward you should have a group of your friends go somewhere and ask him to come along. Maybe a movie or something he'd be interested in going to. If you guys do that enough and he seems happy and you two get along then you guys should make plans to hang out, just you two. Be like, "It was so much fun doing this, ect. We should go/do this Saturday" Tell him he's fun to hang out with, ect. Then see where things go from there. Good luck!
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so it just hit me that its SO hard for me to say no when it comes to making out and being fingered. i have absolutely no problem saying no to people that i've only hung out with a few times and don't really know. but looking back on my last 3 hook-ups, they were all with my really close guy friends. at first i didn't want to do anything with them but once you start making out with them it just all goes from there. i feel so bad because they all leaned into me to kiss me and they're such sweet guys so i felt too bad if i pulled away. how can i fix this problem? :/
also, these 3 guys aren't just guy friends, they're guys i've known for years and i trust. but they're so sweet to me i'd never want to hurt their feelings. (link)
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Well I think that if you get into that situation again then just don't do it. I know, easier said than done but you don't want to make out with these guys right? So you just need to stand firm in that. First, I think is that you should try to not be in those situations where you they can kiss you. If somehow you get caught in that again you just need to show them you don't want to be like that. They're sweet guys right? I get that you don't want them to be offended or hurt if you don't kiss back but if they are guys that are sweet and nice and all that, they should at least understand that you don't want that anymore. Just stand strong and don't let them do that anymore. I don't think there is any more you can do. Good luck!
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i have been seeing this guy for a month or so..and we are very serious about our relashionship..we both love each other a lot..and the guy has proved to me time and again that he is always gonna love me..and be there for me..i think am ready to take the next step..and go all the way and have sex but the problem is the age thing comes in..i am just about to turn 16..so i dont know if i should do it right now or not?! is it the right time?! is it too early? my guy has left the decision upto me saying that he can wait until the time i dont want to do it .. HELP!!!!! (link)
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If you are having doubts about it, you should wait. I think being 16 is young to have sex. I mean, yeah, a lot of people our age are having sex but it's not really the smartest thing to do. If something goes wrong, you could get pregnant or have some kind of disease. Nobody our age wants to have a kid unless they're crazy and don't know what they're talking about. My ex boyfriend and I, who I thought was going to be my forever and we were so serious about each other almost had sex. I feel so stupid about it now. We never did it but we were close to it and did other things instead because I told him I didn't want something to go wrong. Well, turns out he really couldn't control himself and almost raped me. He didn't mean it but I mean, who does that? I'm not saying that will happen to you but things happen right? Anything can happen. Just some things to think about..
But I don't think it is the right time to have sex. Your guy is a good guy saying he'll wait. You guys have been together for a couple months. Even though it may be serious, it's way too soon. I was with my boyfriend for 10 months and it still felt too soon. I was 15 during that time though, turning 16 like a month later.
Well right now, I completely regret ever doing anything with him. I feel so sick about it lol. Just don't put yourself in a position you might regret later. Good luck!
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you answered a question of mine rather harshly but it was exactly what I needed. Those friends that I would have gotten drunk with respect me immensly for not drinking, or having sex and I want to be there example. i am however going to remain theyre friends no matter what because i do not believe in judging and they have never pressured me. The only question I have is that you called me a fake christian. What you do doesnt mean youre not a christian just not a strong one and if you feel that then what am I now? (link)
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I totally agree that you shouldn't judge your friends because I also have friends who do some things that do some stupid things too.
I must have chosen my words wrong. I know that what you do and don't do doesn't make you a Christian. Your beliefs have all to do with that. I don't think you are a fake Christian. It's just that when you consider yourself a Christian, they have stronger morals and beliefs right? People would consider you a fake. I'm not saying you are, I'm showing what other people who aren't Christians see you as. You already know that though, that was all I was trying to say.
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i have been unintentionally sluttying it out this past month.
i get with a lot of boys who are all close friends and im usually drunk but im so sick of being treated like worthless ass.
i know i sound stupid but to them i prob seem as though i have zero reespect for myself and enough is enough!
how to i change my reputation?
how do i stop being percieved as the slut and start being taken seriously?
i know the first step is too stop drinking and stop gettign with byos obviously...
thanks agian (link)
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Well you are doing good so far. You're actually really wanting to change. The advice below me is completely correct. Don't go around telling people you're going to change because people won't take you seriously anyway. Just show them by the way you're acting. So yeah, pretty much don't get drink and getting with a lot of guys. Set standards for yourself. Eventually you're gonna want someone who loves you for you and not your body right? No guy is gonna want a serious relationship with a girl who has been with so many guys. So you change it now before it's too late. Just set these standards for yourself and show them you're not gonna be treated like that, that you're done with it all.
So even if they say anything to you about it, ignore it. You are worth so much more than any of it.
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My parents would not care, and i would be smart about how i did it. No boys around, with close friends that i trust, and no driving!
But so many people know that i am a christian and that is bad way to be an example, not that id tell people. I would feel like i couldnt tell anyone and by hidin g it i would be fake. But in the same sense i wnt to have fun nd stop bieng the good girl always. (link)
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Well you don't want to be a fake in being a Christian right? Why do it? I mean you can do whatever you want but being a good girl isn't a bad thing.
If anyone else found out, yeah, it would be a bad example for a Christian. I see it all the time and it shows people, "Oh, so much of a Christian she is."
You can do whatever you like but just think about it. You also know that if you decide to drink now it could escalate into going to parties and getting drunk because you're starting to feel comfortable with it.
Well, like I said before, do whatever you would like but where do you set your standards? Good luck!
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October 16th 2010 My wonderful boyfriend and I started dating. Ever since, I have been the happiest. He has made me happy everyday and I am so thankful to have met someone who finally picked me up from being so down. When I'm with him, the world stops. I forget everything and I'm just so happy. I always get this feeling in the back of my chest that burns in a good way, when I'm with him or just think about him. I just want the wrest of my life to be this way. I want to feel this way forever.. We were really good friends before we even started dating. Our relationship has strengthened immensely, I can't picture my life without him. We truly do believe God made us for each other. I really do love him, and I know I'm young. I will be 16 this year.. He just turned 18. I wish our age wasn't such a difference. I'm a sophomore girl and he's a senior boy. But I trust him with all of my heart and he trusts me. We don't feel any age difference so it doesn't matter to us.. But his mom always warns him how it is illegal and how if we had sex someday it would be illegal and all of this stuff. It really scared him... and me too. Even if we ever had sex... we'd be making love. we wouldn't be fucking.. we'd be making love. We don't get to pick our ages or when we're born. it just happens. & we certainly do not choose the people we love. it just happens... you know? Age should not matter in this world. It's the love that counts in the end... Do you think it's wrong that I date my 18 year old boyfriend? my parents are absolutely fine with it they love him. His parents and sister love me. It's just the age difference which bothers some people. I don't think it's huge.. I think it could be worse. It's just the fact that he's 18. And guys, please give me this advice truthfully.. I respect that. I really do love him you guys, I really do. More than anything. (link)
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Well I'm 16 and I was involved with an 18 year old. I really liked him and we were good friends before too. I don't see anything wrong with it.
It is true that he can get charged for rape if you guys ever did have sex. If you don't want to put him in that situation and are willing to wait then you guys shouldn't have much of a problem. If you guys wanted to have sex then he could get charged for rape. Think about the consequences. You can't change the law.
But other than that, the age difference is totally fine. You love who you love right? Two years isn't that big of a deal. Almost 3 years difference for you? It isn't much of an age difference. Plus both the parents are fine with it so it really isn't a problem. Just hopefully you guys are willing to wait to have sex.
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how old were you when you had your first "french kiss"? (link)
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I was 15 and a sophomore in high school.
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My brother has broken up with his gf, all my family love her. She's really pretty, really sweet, has a really good job and she's got a great sense of humour. She did a lot for my brother n he broke up with her. She's really upset n she still talks to me about him, its really uncomfortable cos I don't wanna side with my brother but he's being an ass! He hasn't given her a real reason to why they broke up, why do you think he did it? I know I should stay out of it but they're so good together (link)
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Well I think you should stay out of it. It's between them. You and her may never know what the real reason why they broke up. If you're friends with her, just be there for her and it's kind of an awkward place for you but just try to stay out of it. If you really want to know I think you should talk to him. He might not give you a good enough reason but that's probably the most you could do to find out. Good luck!
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when did you have your first kiss?
where?
with you?
was it good?
did it come naturally? (link)
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I had my first kiss last year when I was a sophomore. It was at school with the boyfriend I had at the same. It was a normal quick kiss and I didn't really expect it.
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is it ok to go out with a guy after my best friend did?plz answer need help fast!! i rate high! (link)
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You should first talk to your best friend. She might say that she won't care if you go out with him but she might actually care. So have a serious talk with her about it. Make sure you know if she's being serious or not. You don't want to lose a good friend over a guy.
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hey
one o my friends asked me why i self harm and i didnt kno how to answer her. so it got me thinking, why would someone self harm? and what are the signs of someone self harming. Also, i self harm the same as suicide? if not then can you answer the same for suicide.
thans :) xxx (link)
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I have hurt myself so the majority of people who do self harm are usually ways to cope with whatever they are going through. I am trying to stop, I haven't done it in awhile. We all know it's not a good way to cope with it. What everyone says it's because when someone hurts themselves, they'd rather feel that pain to make them forget about their actual problems.
Suicide is not the same as self harm. People who commit suicide sometimes hurt themselves but not everyone who self harm is suicidal.
Suicide is actually killing yourself. Not all people who hurt themselves want to die.
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So i've had a thing for this guy since we hooked up awhile ago. we didnt talk much but we met again at another party.. we ended up hooking up a few times all weekend. and talked about how much we liked eachother. all this.. then monday comes and we're sober. He says he doesn't know how he feels.. that he feels different when he's drunk rather than sober.. what do I do? I really like him.. (link)
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Well usually when people are drunk they are thinking differently or not thinking at all. Ask him if he likes you, if he says no, then it's time to find someone better. If he says yes, then you don't really have much of a problem. If he says he doesn't know, then give him time. But don't focus all your time and energy on this guy. He might not be worth it. Good luck!
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Ok so tonight i might be getting my first kiss but omg im so nervous like i get a stomach ache thinking about it. what if i'm not good AHH hellp im having like a panic attack thinking about it!! (link)
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Everyone gets nervous for their first kiss. Don't worry about it though, it makes you more nervous. Just follow what they do and you'll be fine. It comes naturally, I figured that out. Just move slow with it. Good luck!
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ok to start off im 14 and my gf is 13.shes my first girlfreind and im her first boyfreind.so i can sorta get y she i shy when it comes to saying i love you and other couple stuff but we have been dating 4 three months and we havent held hands,kissed, or even hugged but we have said i love you but she gets sorta uncertain about sayin but says it and means it.i just wanna get her out of her shell and dont get me wrong im pretty shy too but im trying to do these things but just havent been able to though but we still have a really good relationship i just want to take it to the next level so please help me any way you can (link)
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Well since this is both your first relationship then you both should be nervous so don't worry about that. Saying I love you is kinda awkward for only going out for 3 months and you guys are 13 and 14 but I think you should wait on that so it won't be as awkward and you both truly mean it. The first step is hard with holding hands and hugging.
Since she's a girl, and I'm just gonna assume she's like most girls when it comes to this, that she doesn't want to make the first move. So you should be the first to hug her and all that. Then try holding her hand once you guys get comfortable. My first boyfriend never did that either so I just assumed he didn't like me. Maybe that's why she's uncertain about saying I love you because you guys don't show it towards each other.
So if you want to put some effort into the relationship, I suggest you be the first to take these steps and just hug her and hold her hand. Good luck!
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its my senior year, it would have been our one year on october 13th... (hes 18 graduated last year) basically he left me for another girl this september.. & she didnt want him. he came back to me, and i am deeply in love with him.. took him back. things are just different, we got into a deep conversation the other day, he said "were not going to last when you go to college anyways" .. i said "what am i doing with us then?" and he said "were just having a good time untill then" like are you kidding me.. at that moment i ended it. HONESTly i love this boy but am i right or am i wrong. Its hard cause my mind says im right but my heart screams his name and it echos inside me (link)
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You made the right choice. This guy isn't worth your time. It will be really hard to get over him but sometimes things need to happen. If you wanted something more from him and he didn't want that, he is a big waste of your time. You need to find someone better. I hope everything works out for you. Good luck!
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Ok, so me and this guy, we'll call him Bob, have become pretty close. He hasn't asked me to officially be his yet, but it's at that point where we might as well be. Well, the other night, I got kinda drunk, and I ended up kissing a long-time friend who's been crushin on me the whole time we've known each other. Actually, it was more like make-out. Afterwards, I felt really guilty, and he reminded me that I am still technically single. When I told my best friend, she yelled at me and told me that I did cheat. Now, I feel kind of guilty and kind of not. I don't wanna tell Bob, but I also don't wanna screw up a potentially really good relationship. Advice on what I should do? (link)
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You didn't cheat. You guys are not together. He hasn't asked you yet, that's his fault. You don't have to tell him, it's not something he needs to know because you guys aren't dating right? You can tell him, he probably will be upset, but you can't say you cheated. You didn't.
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Ok so I have a boyfriend who i been dating for a month and is nice but my dad thinks hes sneaky and my dads pinion counts
then i have a guy frend that we have been hanging out all the tie and is amazing and my dad really likes him but what should i do i no he likes me and i no he is thinking of asking me out but should i stay with my guy or try something new (link)
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Well I lean towards the guy you're starting to like. Your dads opinion should count, that's really good. Usually parents have good judge for what's good for you. If the guy your with isn't really making you happy and you think maybe this other guy would be better and on top of that your dad likes him then I think you should try it out. It's all up to you though. Good luck!
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