Hi everyone... I've got a Psychology degree so I like to think that i know a bit about how people think and why they do the things they do- maybe i don't know a thing, make up your own minds! Also i work with a youth group of girls aged 10-14 so that helps too! Anyway ask me anything no problem too big or too small and I'll do my best...
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Hi, you may call me prude ignorant or stupid but I don't care. In other answers people talk about 'feeling someone up'. What is that?? I rate based on effort!! Thank you in advance for cling me in! (link)
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Its basically just touching peoples sexual parts so if a male feels a female up he might touch her breasts and inside her knickers and similarly if a female touches a male up! Hope that helps a bit!
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there is this kid who sits next to me he is really annoying and ugly and has a staring problem...hes lookin at me right now while im typing this and he wont leave me alone what should i do? (link)
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Maybe you should just try and ignore him he'll soon get bored of doing it! The other option is to ask him politely if he'll stop staring at you but you might embarrass him especially as it sounds like he might have a thing for you! On the other hand if you dont care whether you embarrass him then just come right out and ask him to stop!
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Why do guys get angry when you have only been dating two months and they tell you they love, but if you don't feel comfortable saying it back they all the sudden don't love you? Especially the only reason you don't want to say it is because that is when people start getting hurt! (link)
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Because they're guys and their pride has been hurt!! They dont want to be the one to look all needy which they would see themselves looking if you hadnt said you loved him back. Therefore he pretends he's changed his mind so that he looks good again (or so he thinks!) You were right not to just say you loved him just because he said it to you so its just him being male really!
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Does anyone know what I could use to clean my laptop screen without damaging it? (link)
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Yeah what i do is just spray REALLY lightly some sort of standard cleaning spray for work surfaces or something on a dry clean cloth and then wipe it over the screen. Its not damaging at all and works a treat!
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When does the "cycle" usually become regular?!?! Mine keeps coming at random times and now, it's not coming at all! The last time I got it was February 24??? (link)
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It's not a problem this is perfectly normal and it happens to everyone! Basically it'll take about 2 years after starting your period for your cycle to become regular, possibly up to three years which is a bit of a drag! So dont worry it sucks but it'll be fine in the end!
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i wash my face twice a day (once in the morning, once at night) but after i was my face it gets really shiny. and its really noticable (a few people have asked me why my face is so shiny...which is really embarrasing.)....is there any product that wont clog my pores but will make my face less shiny?
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Ive seen those wipes advertised that you can take around with you that mops up excess oil on your face. Im not sure of the brand but i think they're quite popular so quite a few places probably do them i think they'd be quite easy to find. Then you could just pop into the toilet every now and again and use them. Also have you thought bout altering your face wash? Maybe using one for oily skin (if you dont already) and exfoliating regularly? Good luck!
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ok, so a guy i know and love is stareing at me now that i have boobs... but what if thats all he likes me for? i want to love him , but i dont want him to break my heart. (link)
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Well you dont know until you try it out! Its guys hormones- even if they're really nice guys they will still look at your boobs cos thay're guys! Be flattered and dont worry- chances are he's a great catch especially as you have feelings for him anyway! Good luck
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ok well i hope you can answer ouestions well mine are about sex and well my body #1 the first time tou have sex does it hurt #2 do you still feel it when you wear a condom #3 ok well is it normal for me to feel wet when well im excited #4 is it normal to be scared. and well people call me prude because well im 16-17 and the only thing ive done was kiss please help (link)
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Ok 1) the first time you have sex it might hurt a little bit but not for long its really not as bad as everyone makes out! 2) Sex with a condom is very similar to sex without if thats what you mean (i didnt really understand the question so let me know if i've misunderstood you!) 3) it is perfectly normal for you to feel wet when you are excited and 4) everyone is scared about the whole sex thing even if they say they're not- but when you find the person you want to have sex with its likely you wont feel as scared as you think as you'll be in it together- believe me! Being 16/17 and only kissed is not something you need to worry about at all- there are loads of people in your position its just that no one ever admits it- I bet half the people that call you a prude are virgins themselves they're jsut lying about it. Ignore them next time they say anything like this just ignore them they'll soon get bored! Dont worry you're perfectly normal!
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ok well ive never had birth control and ive never had sex but well do they have to do somekind of exxame and well i dont like docters but if they have to do an externly exame will they break through your maiden head (link)
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No they definitely wont give you an examination internally or externally just for going on the pill. They may ask you a few questions about your health and probably take your blood pressure and weigh you but no you wont be given an examination so dont worry!!
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my long time boyfriend is starting to rush me. i am growing in to a very "big boobed babe" as he says, like last night, after we ate at my house he started to kiss me every where. when he went down to the chest kiss, he started to unbutten my shirt, when i told him to stop he told me to just stop talking. when i yelled stop he got up and left my house slaming the door so hard he broke the glass, i have dated a lot of guys, but i am drawn to this one, he wont talk to me and i want him back.... what should i do? (link)
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Are you really really sure you want him back? He was forcing you into doing things that you told him you werent happy about and yet he still carried on. It also seems as if he has an anger problem as this was a complete over reation to what happened. What if next time this anger is taken out on you? I know that maybe this sounds harsh but im just offering a different perspective on stuff. Just think really hard about whether he deserves you because it really doesnt sound as if he's worth it. Hope it all goes ok x
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I was great friends with this lad ages ago, but then he moved stage school so I don't get to see him a lot, only when hes in shows and my parents don't let me stay after to wait to see him. I also found his number the other day but you know people they change phones so I don't know if it is his number or not!
Please help!
Becky
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Well if you were great friends with him you should just go for it and try the number! Yeah it might be a little embarrassing if its not his number but if it isnt just say im sorry ive got the wrong number and they'll be fine about it. But if it is the right number he'll be really pleased to hear from you and who knows you could meet up again! That has to be a better option than a couple of seconds of possible embarrassment! Good luck.
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Ive been going out with my boyfriend for about 8 months. We're really close and i love him soo much. We hold hands.. hug.. stuff like that but weve never kissed. Hes told me he wants to kiss me and ive told him i want to kiss him.. only we never do. Im waiting for him to make the move but he gets nervous really easily. Im starting to wonder if theres more to it than nerves. Let me know what you think... Should i just go ahead and kiss him even tho id feel weird? Thanks! (link)
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Yeah just go for it! It sounds like he's really shy and i bet he'd really appreciate it if you made the first move! good luck
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I was just wondering..... Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 4 months now and i know that may not seem like a long time but i really and truely love him. And it may sound weird but i feel like god is telling me that he is the one i am supposed to spend my life with. Can he be the one? Is it true that i can find someone in my junior year of high school? (link)
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Yeah of course its possible that he could be the one! However dont rush into anything just because you think this- this maybe how you feel now but who knows whats going to happen in the future? But for now sure if you think he's the one then thats great!
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Im 17 and i know ill be losing my virginity this summer. But apart of me still thinks HE is too good for me. And that im not that beautiful and skinny enough to have sex. Has anyone ever felt this way? How should i get over these feelings? (link)
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I bet that he thinks that you're too good for him! Theres absolutely no way that he would be with you if he thought you werent good enough for him! You just need to remember this whenever you feel your self confidence needs a little boost. Once you've lost your virginity you'll wonder why you ever felt like this i promise! good luck!
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ok there's this guy who i'm really good friends with (i'm 17, he's 16). he's kinda like a lil bro figure to me, but lately things have been getting more non-brotherish. we both like each other, and both know it, but we also know that nothing can develop since i'm leaving for college in the summer and he's still a sophomore (his parents made him stay back in like preschool). we've made out a couple times and i just can't stop thinking about him. my only problem - should i keep this going if we know it's not going anywhere? we agreed not to go out or anything, but i mean, should we be like friends with benefits or would that ruin our friendship? thanks so much in advance! i rate :) (link)
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If you both have strong feelings for each other then why not give it a go? Im in a long distance relationship and it does work if the relationship is strong enough. And if it doesnt work out then atleast you've tried it out rather than regretting it! However if you really dont see it lasting then you could do the whole friends with benefits thing but would you then both feel hurt when you leave for college? I think you either need to decide to definitely continue things or stop everything altogether otherwise your friendship might be on the rocks! Hope everything works out.
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This boy asked me out the other day for this friday. I really, really like him. But the thing is, I'm afraid I might say something. I don't want to give away his name...he's actually "famous" or w/e (my dad's a prop manager for the show he's on).
So we're supposed to go out this friday and its going to be hard. I know he's a normal guy...and so far I've treated him normal, when I see him for like 2 minutes at a time... and thats just on the set. Whats it going to be like out in the public with other girls everywhere?? And what do we talk about? Should I bring up the fact that he's on tv? That my friends want to meet him? IDK!!!!
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Ok basically i think you should act as normal as you possibly can! i dont think you should necessarily bring up the fact that he's on tv or anything like that but if he does mention it- join in as it obviously means he wants to talk about it! If other girls look at him and you with him just smile about it and act yourself. Thats why he wants to go out with you! Have a great time!
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is there anyway you can dely your period but in a healthy way? cuz im goin on a trip next weekend and my period is planned to come around then! how can i cope with this? (link)
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The only way that you can delay your period is by being on the pill but its a bit late to do that if its next weekend! Theres not much you can do unless you're really lucky and it comes a bit late!! sorry!
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I like the stuff EBAY sells but my mom doesn't want to give her credit card number..do they take checks?What is PAYPAL? (link)
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It all depends on who the seller is. Some sellers take cheques but most like paypal. PAYPAL is an independent organisation that is totally safe and in effect the buyer pays paypal and then paypal pays the seller so you are not actually giving the seller you're credit card details. It says all about this on ebay's help pages if you're still confused!
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I have a date with a guy tonight. He's somewhat shy. I am a fairly outgoing person. I'm actualy the one who asked him to go on a date with me. I want to kiss him, but would it be alright for me to make the first move? Would that be too forward of me? Should I just wait for him to make a move on me? (link)
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The guy making the first move is totally over rated! If it feels right go for it! Just be aware that as he isnt as confident as you you need to be in tune with what hes feeling, so dont be too forward. Fit in with his body language and if he looks like he wants to kiss you give him a helping hand and kiss him yourself! good luck!
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Ok well theirs to boys.. The one ive been on and off with since last february.. And we've been threw everything you can image together.. He was my first serious boyfriend and we did everything for each other.. But one day he cheated on me.. And its been about 2 months and every since then he's been denying it .. But i know he did and i know he just didnt want me to know but for the past 2months he;s been telling me he loves me and is sorry for everything.. Last night we went for a walk on the beach :) And he told me he loved me and cared about me and i know he wasnt lying.. And one of my xbfs Dan likes me again dont get me wrong i still care about him and what not but dan is taking me to prom and i didnt tell the other one.. and he said if i ever get back with dan he is never talking to me again.. But im deff. going to prom but i dont want to hurt dan because last time i left him for my other boyfriend.. which is the first guy i was talking about.. Should i just tell the first one im going to prom with dan and see how he reacts.. and see what happends from then on?! please help... (link)
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I think honesty is the best policy here because if this guy finds out that you're going to the prom with dan from someone else this is going to make him even more upset. I'm assuming that dan asked you to the prom before you and the first guy started to get back together? If this is the case you need to explain this to the first guy and explain that you dont know what to do because you feel like whatever you do you're going to upset someone. However, you must take it into account that it is going to be very difficult for this other guy to accept that you're going to the prom with dan if you and the other guy are getting back together. Therefore, see what this guy's reaction is when you tell him about going to the prom with dan. If he's ok about it, he's an amazing guy and everything will be ok but i doubt he'll be ok with it to be honest with men and their pride and everything! So it might come to it that you need to decide whether you'd rather it be that you upset dan and start afresh with the other guy, or forget the other guy and go to the prom with dan. From what you've said it sounds like you'd rather be with the other guy so it looks as if you're going to have to let dan down. This is a no win situation and someone is going to get hurt it sucks! But if it does come down to you letting dan down just tell him the complete truth and apologise but say that you have no choice because of this other guy but you really value his friendship. Sorry if I've got the wrong idea of what you were trying to say- let me know if you need anymore help! Good luck!
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