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Hey ask me for advice any time!! Im good at giving style advice!! :) :) But i also know many other things as well! Drop a question in my inbox ANY time and i'll give you an answer almost right away!! advice
Hey, I am 16 and a female. I really want to get a tan (since I live in FL). I am afraid about skin cancer and aging skin. Is it safe to tan out for about 10 min at a time? I have very fair skin and I don't want to mess up my skin. Has anyone ever tried natural glow by jergens, does it work?
i've tryed something like natral glow,it dosent really tan you skin that much,but just enough,its good for me at least,so i dont look like a pale person. Well tanning,i'd say do something active in the sun for 45 mins. Thats what works for me,i have fair skin as well.
hi there people really bother me in school, i dont have much friends and they all tease me. boys call me a mutt and a dog and disguting pig, im not fat though and im not reallly ugly. girls bark and moo at me and push me and im sick of it, i have 2 bestfriends but they dont stick up for me. if these people knew what i been through like, my dad died when i was 6 and my bothers friggen a crack head, ligit and my sisters a big whore who doesnt talk to the whole fam.. i dont have anyone and im sick of it, what should i do?
it must take a pretty strong person to deal with that!!! Which is what you are! Your beautiful and indipendant,maybe try out for a sport,or join a club. If your life is TOTALLY in the dumps,and you dont care if you move away,maybe you could move to a better town,but that might not be a good suggestion at all. What is your age? Any popular girls in your class? sit near them maybe...and sit @ there lunch table...get to no them! I know this might sound stupid but what i did was take a step @ a time and make people notice you in a good way. Any talents? thats good to! You really only need 2 or 3 good friends than 15 bad back-stabbing friends!! People target you because you dont have many friends. [[personally i'd ask to move away...but thats just me and you dont have to ask!!]]
ok so we have an 8th grade formal comming up and i wanna know some cute wasys to do my hair could anyone give me any web sites to look at the "formal" hair styles or cute oes that dont look to old for a 14 year old??
I will rate!
simply curling it is cute! its also hot to have layerd hair,then curl it slightly and the ends,like ciara's hair.
Ok,sorry if this is long. I moved away from my city,call it A to a town/suburb call it B. If i might say,i was friends with almost everyone(in my grade in elementry school] in my home city, A.But when i moved to B,everything changed. People in B judge you by how you look and they hate you even when they never met you. I have friends,yes,but im not all that pretty and i know people dont like me,people that i dont even no hate me. I hate it,i dont hate anyone or talk about people behind there backs. People in A are so much nicer but ever since i moved,i get sadder and sadder every day. I know its stupid but i really cant handle it! I know at least some people will hate you were ever you go but im just not used to this change. Im not all that outgoing,but could anyone give me advice for my situation please?
elementy and middle school,sorry.
well thanks for your advice but i have other friends that i hang out with when they make other plans but its just so hard. They are the coolest people and i cant let go .. not matter how hard i try.. i dont know what to do anymorea?
ok,i felt the same way,this is hard but what i did was make plans with them,so i know i wouldnt feel left out.If they say they cant hang out with you,then make plans befor,maybe you could bring your friends that you hang out with and your other friends so they will be a big group/ You dont have to let go! well i hope i helped
Well this is what happens:
[PLEASE READ RATE 5 ***** BIT LONG LOL]
Me and my mates say to our mate Hannah, your voice sounds like a mans voice, we say it in a kind of nice way, jokey if you get what i mean. Then the head of year comes intoday to our form room while in PSE and calls my name out and a group of my friends the 5 of us including the head of year go down to the inclussion zone, where the bad kids go and miss there lunch/break etc. We went in and she accsorted us to sit down they have a desk and a chair then a blue screening where you stick posters/displays on, then another desk and chair and a screen its like that so you have no comunication with any1. She called us in to a little room 1 by 1 and asked us about the name calling thing. I went in and told her that we were joking about and stuff but ovboiusly she took it seriously.. i felt so let down by one of my OWN friends. Also this other girl called grace ive apparently been "bullying" just by saying, "look at your selfs before you critizize others," becuase she and her mate elli were taking the piss out of my chubby mate sal calling her fat and ugly n stuff. So that is 2 reports in the last 24 hours so it got put on my system "BULLY" hannah was ment to be my friend but dobbed me in our group joke. im not sure weather to be her friend after this? I mean if i be or get reported again then it gets even seriouser, and i could do this by ignoring her, touching her, giving her dirt looks like evils and stuff. But im pissed off with her so of course im going to do that and grace and elli do it to me so im not gonna let them so i stick up for myself.. but then i get told off badly again. So yeah my so called friend dobbed me in our joke.. should i trust her again?
SORRY ITS LONG RATE 5 *****
xx lush meh xx
its not that long,anyways
i'd say,deal with her,i wouldnt like her either after that, maybe ask her why she did it,or just be cool with her. Make it so your friendship JUST started agian..like your not that close anymore. But dont be mean,cause shes a tatal tale!!! ,my advice --
Be cool with her....just remind her [[not in words,in reactions]] that she lost most or some of your ttrust for a wwhhiillee!!
I've realized how alot of girls are asking how to loose weight and such. Everyone wants a flat, toned tummy, and it really bothers me because we think we have to be like all of these models and stars so guys will like us. Guys, honestly, do you want a stick for a girlfriend or a little cusion for the pushin? I mean back in the 70s and 80s people werent so judgmental and didn't look at someone and say, "your fat". I mean can i get an AMEN! Im sick of people saying they are fat, and saying they need to loose weight when they dont. Think about it! Leave comments and explain why you want to be a stick.
amen!
people think being skinny makes them a beautiful person,which builds confidence,me myself,im skinny,but i eat...a LOT. Sometimes people are just skinny because there body. My friend thinks shes that fattest person ever,and shes a 0 in jeans!!! How could you get skinnyer?
okay. well i have been best friends with the same three people for 4 years now and we do everything together and i love them to death but now they have new friends and they will talk about plans right in my face and not invite me and so i do other things with my other friends but i cant help but get jelous. its like sometimes i dont want them to be happy unless there with me. I hate feeling this way. I hate being jelous, but i cant help it. Things have changed and i cant take it. I try to take my mind off it and do other things but none of my other friends are as close as they are. i cant just give up on out friendship. How do i stop the jelousy? and Should i tell them how i feel? cause they would probbaly laugh and get mad at me...
sincerely,
Sojelous
same here hun! Well,what i did is try to jump in with the gang!! Or find other people meet some,keep some,but still be friends with them! They'll like that you meet people,and arent a bug to them! You'll have more fun to! Just shake it off, let them have fun,they'll be obbsesing over you [[maybe ]] soon. And if not then,well you'll have other friends !! [[thats the EXACT same thing that happend to me,but im friends with both of them now,and im meeting more and more people!!]] It also helps if your a fun and outgoing person :)
ok so my birthday was like a month ago..i started planning my sweet 16 but couldnt do it the date i wanted because one of my good friends is having hers that day. I was ok with that and decided to wait until June because my aunt who works there said i can get a deal this one weekend. I checked with everyone to make sure i didnt interfere..my one good friend is having hers the day after mine..im having mine on a friday. Today she asked me if i can change mine because she was talking to her mom and her mom doesnt like the idea because she said it will be hard for people to go to to parties in one weekend. She asked me to change mine because she cant change hers. I was like WHTA? her dad works at the firehouse (thats where shes havin hers) and i know she could probably change it if she feels that way. Every weekend there seems to be a sweet 16..i have to wait 2 1/2 months after my actual bday to have my party..so i think ive sacrificed enough. I dont mean to sound stubborn or anything..its just im sick of accomadating others...plus i can get a good deal on the catering that friday night..and i have double header softball games on saturdays..between everyone elses parties,plays for the schools,and talent shows,this is my open date and i dont wanna change! do you agree? how should i say this to her
dont change it. Tell her about the discount and how its good for you.
ok so my boyfriend and me have been going out for about a month and a half or so.. he goes to a different school and hes 16, im 13.. i loved him sooo much! last night i was talking to him online and i asked if he was gonna come and meet me at the ice skating rink (where i always meet him) and he said "maybe, i might go to the mall with some friends instead but if we dont go then ill come see you." i felt kind of offended by this that he wanted to go see his friends instead of me. i can only see him on friday nights so if he didnt come i wouldnt see him till next friday (if he decided to come) and so i was like oh, alright i guess. then later that night i was talking to one of his friends... (not a very good friend tho) i only met him last weekend when my boyfriend wasnt at the ice skating rink... we talked for like 5 minutes... then when we were talking online last night he asked if i was goin ice skating.. i said probably not, he asked why and i told him about me being kinda mad about john not going. so then i ask what jake has said about me to him. chris, (the guy im talkin to online) says he wont tell me what john said about me because he doesnt want to hurt me. i finally get him to tell me what jake does on the nights when he doesnt go to the rink with me. he tells me that john has been seeing another girl and goes to hook up with her and only comes and sees me if shes not availiable. im so upset when i hear this... but i think his friend likes me so i dont know if hes telling the truth... but john never tells me where he goes when he doesnt come.. it all makes sence... both stories do... i dont know what to do...
ahh!! this is a mess!ok,break up with john,if he wasnt @ the rink i think he would have invited you to the mall! then,i think you should find this girl and tell her about what he did to you! then he'll have no one because hes loser! and for chris,if you like him,you should hook up,because he was truth ful.If Chris was lying,and you broke up with John,then tell john what chris said.In my opinion it looks like chris is tell the truth :) i hope i helped
Ok, so I went out with this guy, let's say in like November. Well we broke up after about 2 weeks and it was squashed, didn't talk much, started dating other people rather quickly and such. We've been hanging out recently and have had sex, but he has a girlfriend, and yes, I do feel used, but the way he acts and talks towards me, really sends me mixed signals and I'm not sure as to what to do. Any advice?
Signed,
Second Thoughts?
you wouldnt want someone who is cheating on there girlfriend in the first place!! Put your self in his g/f's position!! I would forget him,find a new crush!! ps-yes you ARE being used...
I have a friend i call a best friend. She doesnt feel like a best friend to me. Its hard to be friendz with her n stuff becuz shes kind of spreading my lil secrets like how i talk about ppls behind their bak, n mi favs. I hate that but shes a litto bit powerful than me and im only a weak person. Iuno wat to do...
ok,i have a friend like this. Is she in all your subjects? mine is. I say you should hang around her and some other people,get into activities and things like that,but also tell her how you feel. If she were my friend,i wouldnt tell her secrets that much or talk about people behind there backs. [[talking about people behind there backs...its mean,why would ppl do that...]]
ok i need help yesterday 4/14/05 i was baby sitting my best friends little 4 year old brother because she went on vacation and we were playing hide and seek in my woods and after a few minets i could not finde him then i herd him scream!! i finally found him crying and screming on the ground a stick got poked rite in his eye im not sure how far back it got i pulled it out but half of the stick broke off into his eye he is getting very sick and i can't get any thing done with out his parents permission and they don't even kno their coming back on 4/19/05 in 5 day and i don't kno wut to do HELP ME PLEAS!!!
OMG!! U HAVE TO TELL HER/HIS PARENTS!! say "hi [[name??]] had an accident,we were playing hide and seek,when i was looking for him and i found him,he had a sick in his eye.I dont no if its THAT bad,but i think we should see a doctor for it ASAP" be calm though. Go to the hospital immeditaly!!
he could get a lot of diseases [[sp]] so u have to bring him to the doctor!
ok well you see.. it all started about a month ago and i told me friend that i liked this kid.. and she told me that she liked my friend JJ that im kinda colse to.. anyway welll the kid i liked decided to shave his head and get his tounge pierced.. so i don't like him anymore.. but when i talk to my friend JJ i get the feeling that i like him and i don't know how to tell her.. and what if he would ask me out or somthin would i say yes or be a good friend and say no b/c my friend likes you and i don't want her to be mad at me... please help
in my opinion,i would still like the tounge pirced guy!! but anyways...i think u shouldnt go out with him,in the end u might get hurt and your friend wouldnt be there!! Also if you do,and you break up,you & JJ might not be friends anymore!!I WOULD hook JJ and your friend up thogh,but thats just what I would do!!
Well i really like this guy (mason) but of course he has a girlfriend. He flirts with me ALOT and is always hangn around with me, but then this girl seyd "She wants you to break up with yur g/f so yuu can go out with her" AND I NEVR SEYD THAT .. im so mad, he wont talk to me anymore! =[ **-- I rate 5s --**
well,oh course tell him you never said that,but i think you should tell mason's g/f that he was flirting with you,but you werent flirting back,or yeah....who needs him!!
I just got an MP3 player. Is there any way I can go to a website and download free music for it? Thanks!
its illegal,i no someone who had to pay 20$ for all the music she downloaded,theres a high risk in getting viruses to :(
My bf is at uni. Hes nearly finished his first yr. This uni is about 2hr drive away from me.
We used to call EACHOTHER everyday but didnt talk for long. We were both happy in our situation. He then started saying that I called him nearly every 2min, but I didnt. I backed off anyway. I think he said it because he had his own friends and he always hung out with them.
But now he doesnt hang out with them as much. I don't know why. I dont think he told me everything. Anyway now when I call him up we talk for like 2 hrs coz he has nothing else to do. But its wearing me out coz I have other stuff to do. I go to bed late coz we talk for ages and Im always tired at college. I understand he's bored and has nothing to do. I dont want him to be bored. I enjoy talking to him but its getting too much. Ive tried telling him to hang out with them again but he says he has nothing in common with them. I don't get so much work done anymore. Im behind with deadlines.
I hope he isnt using me. He isnt is he? We're in a long term relationship. Im scared if I say something I'll offend him or make him angry.
just when your tired say "hey im guna go to bed i'll talk to you tomarrow though" or if your catching up on some things,say "sorry i got to go catch up on my work talk to you later though" its not bad,he should understand that you have responsibilitys [[sp?]] and you cant always talk.Maybe when your caught up with work you could spend some time together :) [[movies,dinner...yeah]]
it is me again i have another problem um last night i cheated on my boyfriend and now i am scared to tell him i have known this dude for a while now and we were only just friends and then last night i cheated and my best friend hooked us up and she was wanting him to meet me but i think she is mad really i do but why should she be mad when she told us about each other and i just meet him last night but i have talked to him on the phone for a few months now what should i do and he wants to meet me again tonight and i feel really bad about me cheating and i dont want my best friend to be mad at me can someone plz help again?
you shouldnt have cheated on him in the first place.do not see this boy you are cheating with anymore.tell your boyfriend the truth.if u cant accept it just accept the fact that he dosent accpet it. its your fault. sorry. he diserves to no the truth. as for your friend,she wont be mad anymore tell her your sorry.
my b/f is such a jerk he only cares about himself. He calls me names and screams at me. He used to push me around. I can never be mad im always the wrong one. He allways says the meanest things. I go through so much at home and he dont care he still calls me names and says he hates me.
duuhhh dump him!!..hes a jerk ...its not that hard...i dont think you needed advice for that!!
I rolled over in bed last night & kind of hit my cat... & she wasn't 2 happy so she crached my face all up & the worst 1 is on my nose... & it dosen't hurt, but its really bad & gross looking & all this Neosporin smells bad... & my dad didn't want me 2 go 2 school 2day cos it might get enfected or something might go wrong & its really bad looking... & so whats the best way 2 make it look better as fast as possibul & it dosen't have 2 heal, but just look good? & I'm not gonna try make up, cos I'm a guy
im sorry, but i dont no anything to cover it up though :(.BUT~hey a its like "what happend?" "i got in a fight and i won!!" try to make the best of it! you could say "im scarface" if people say "haha look @ ur face!!" so what?!