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Phone Crisis
My bf is at uni. Hes nearly finished his first yr. This uni is about 2hr drive away from me.
We used to call EACHOTHER everyday but didnt talk for long. We were both happy in our situation. He then started saying that I called him nearly every 2min, but I didnt. I backed off anyway. I think he said it because he had his own friends and he always hung out with them.
But now he doesnt hang out with them as much. I don't know why. I dont think he told me everything. Anyway now when I call him up we talk for like 2 hrs coz he has nothing else to do. But its wearing me out coz I have other stuff to do. I go to bed late coz we talk for ages and Im always tired at college. I understand he's bored and has nothing to do. I dont want him to be bored. I enjoy talking to him but its getting too much. Ive tried telling him to hang out with them again but he says he has nothing in common with them. I don't get so much work done anymore. Im behind with deadlines.
I hope he isnt using me. He isnt is he? We're in a long term relationship. Im scared if I say something I'll offend him or make him angry.
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The sad pattern in this world is that boys are comfortable saying what they want, and many girls aren't. Think about it. When your boyfriend didn't have as much time to talk to you on the phone, he didn't hesitate to let you know.
You're in the exact same situation now, and you have every right to tell him so. You have very valid reasons - your college work is falling behind, your free time is being eaten up, and you're not sleeping as much as you should. None of those are healthy things for you to be doing, and an understanding boyfriend would understand your reasons.
You loved him enough to give him space when he needed it. You should not expect any less.
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Just pick a more appropriate time for him to call and tell him to call then. Expalin that you have to have time to do your work. He wouldn't takl to you for 2 hrs. if he didn't care for you. But you need to have a talk about when you'll get youor work done!
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just when your tired say "hey im guna go to bed i'll talk to you tomarrow though" or if your catching up on some things,say "sorry i got to go catch up on my work talk to you later though" its not bad,he should understand that you have responsibilitys [[sp?]] and you cant always talk.Maybe when your caught up with work you could spend some time together :) [[movies,dinner...yeah]]
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well, the only thing you can really do is tell him the truth, I mean, thats what he would want, right? & ya'll can still talk & stuff, I'm sure he'll understand!
hope I helped, good luck!
-Cameron
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just kinda do what he did to you, just say i gotta go when you get tired, you life shouldnt revolve around him, his didnt revolve around you when he had friends
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