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Bullying..
Well this is what happens:
[PLEASE READ RATE 5 ***** BIT LONG LOL]
Me and my mates say to our mate Hannah, your voice sounds like a mans voice, we say it in a kind of nice way, jokey if you get what i mean. Then the head of year comes intoday to our form room while in PSE and calls my name out and a group of my friends the 5 of us including the head of year go down to the inclussion zone, where the bad kids go and miss there lunch/break etc. We went in and she accsorted us to sit down they have a desk and a chair then a blue screening where you stick posters/displays on, then another desk and chair and a screen its like that so you have no comunication with any1. She called us in to a little room 1 by 1 and asked us about the name calling thing. I went in and told her that we were joking about and stuff but ovboiusly she took it seriously.. i felt so let down by one of my OWN friends. Also this other girl called grace ive apparently been "bullying" just by saying, "look at your selfs before you critizize others," becuase she and her mate elli were taking the piss out of my chubby mate sal calling her fat and ugly n stuff. So that is 2 reports in the last 24 hours so it got put on my system "BULLY" hannah was ment to be my friend but dobbed me in our group joke. im not sure weather to be her friend after this? I mean if i be or get reported again then it gets even seriouser, and i could do this by ignoring her, touching her, giving her dirt looks like evils and stuff. But im pissed off with her so of course im going to do that and grace and elli do it to me so im not gonna let them so i stick up for myself.. but then i get told off badly again. So yeah my so called friend dobbed me in our joke.. should i trust her again?
SORRY ITS LONG RATE 5 *****
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i'd say,deal with her,i wouldnt like her either after that, maybe ask her why she did it,or just be cool with her. Make it so your friendship JUST started agian..like your not that close anymore. But dont be mean,cause shes a tatal tale!!! ,my advice --
Be cool with her....just remind her [[not in words,in reactions]] that she lost most or some of your ttrust for a wwhhiillee!!
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I don't think I would. :)
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Even though you were only joking with your friend, you could have still hurt her feelings. I mean think about it, if someone told you that you sounded like a man, would you laugh? Second thing, talk to her and apologize. Try hard not to dirty look the other girl or whatever and talk to them. Good luck.
-Brianna
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Dear Bullying,
First things first, you may not have felt you were being mean to your friend, however, that is the way she took it. You said something to her that she took offense to. And you say you did not say it in a mean-spirited sort of way, but how did you expect her to take it? It may not have been outrightly aggressive, but, it was passive aggressive. I am not saying that you are a bully or a mean person in any way. I just want you to see how another person may feel when you say things that aren't complimentary. If your friend is a girl, and you are saying she has a man's voice, I mean, think about it. How should she take that? There's really no way for her to defend herself and if she jokes about it with you, she is tacitly condoning the remark. (And she may be particularly sensitive about that.) As far as your second situation, I believe this was an error made by your teachers. You were actually standing up for your chubby mate by saying what you did. You were standing up to the bully. I think the first girl was over-reacting to your remark. Try to forgive her for that. You sound like a very caring, good friend and other than a slightly mean remark, you are not guilty of bullying as far as I can see. But, some people are quite sensitive to remarks from their friends and can't handle teasing very well. I would suggest you just be kinder to her and let her know that you are sorry you said that but you don't think badly of her. I would also suggest that you speak to one of your teachers so they know that this is not something you are taking lightly, and you did make a remark, but you are sorry for that and you do not condone bullying. Perhaps, if they see that you are sincere, they may reconsider their reports.
Good luck. Linda
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ofcourse its your decision but i think you should talk to her. explain that you were just joking. obviously you hurt her feelings. somtimes you have to watch what you say around certain people things can get taken the wrong way or you can hurt someones feelings with no intentions of doing this at all. ofcourse hannah could have went about this in a different way then telling on you, but if you care about your friendship with her you need to talk to her about it and tell her your sorry.
hope i could help.
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well if you want to trust her again go ahead but if it turns out she wants you to trust her again tell her in order to do that she needs to earn your trust back
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