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there really isn't much you can say to shock me. i've seen and heard a lot, so if you need help, don't be afraid to ask anything. i'm amazing at answering anything to do with sex.. so ask away =)

oh and yes.. that is ME in the picture. it's my halloween costume: a mile high captain!

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ok, i just made out with my boyfriend for about an hour and now i have a little bump on my lower lip...its not red, but it hurts a little because my teeth are right by it... is because of us kissing for so long...(he was sucking, biting softly etc.) or something else maybe? hes a virgin still, hes only fingered a girl once...will rate 5's thnx!

your teeth probably irritated it from moving your mouth. kind of like a kanker-sore. you might have bit the inside of your lip, or rubbed it raw with one of your teeth from making out so long.

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how do you give a guy a hand job?

http://www.sexuality.org/l/sex/manstim.html

there's so much info i had to give you a link.
hope i helped, sweetie! :)

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okay.. so me and my boyfriend went out for almost 3 years.. we broke up on september 23rd.. and like ive been upset ever since then.. like i just wanted to take a break .. and he got all mad.. and we broke up..., and he had 2 GIRLFRIENDS since then.. and we broke up on a friday and he went out with one girl the next.. i was so upset.. like maybe he didnt love me.. seems like it right? well he was my everything.. and i cant get him off my mind.. he was so sweet but now hes a total jerk.. i mean he use to cry over me how cute is that.. can you please give me some advice i need some real bad.. i know i didnt exactly have a question but can you tell me how i should take care of this and stop being so upset..!! THANKS SO MUCH!!!

he's probably on the rebound. he's an asshole if he's had 2 girlfriends since then, so that should be initiative enough to start getting over him. 3 years is a long time, so you still have feelings for him, of course. this guy doesn't deserve you if he's dating other girls.

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Whenever I try to put in a tampon, it won't work because there seems to be this flap of skin just past the opening. Even if I use the smallest size. What do I do?

if it's just past the opening, that's not your hymen. you don't have to break your hymen to use a tampon. try reading the directions on the paper in the tampon box.. because you're definitely not putting it in at the right angle.

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So I am going to start taking BC Pills and I was just wondering...
1. Will I gain or lose any weight or will my appetite increase/decrease? Is there any chance of that?
2. My friend was really PMSy when she started her pills. Was it because of the pills?
3. Can I get pregnant in the first week/two weeks of taking BCP?

i just started taking yasmin, the birth control pill. there is a chance you can gain weight, but usually they have a low hormone level in them so it doesn't effect you THAT much. you may notice you getting moodier, but that's just because your hormones are fluctuating but after a little while your body gets used to it.

you have to take the pill around the same time of day, each day, though. i set my cellphone to remind me at 4 in the afternoon, because i don't want to sleep in and forget it in the morning, and if i'm out somewhere at night, i might forget.

in the first month of taking them, use a condom for sex. this is just an extra precaution though, to make sure there are no accidents!

if you start on the first day of your period, you should be protected after the first day you take it. but if you start on the first sunday during your period, then you need to wait a week at least to be covered. hope i helped :)

if you have any more questions just ask me in my column.

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My Best Friend Likes Me... i dont know what to do i mean hes a cutie and i love his personality and everything i guess im just afrid to like him because hes like my best friend and i mean i guess we flirt like he will tickle me and carry my books some times. Im Just scared if i say no im afrid he will be upset and if i say yes and we break up our friendship will be ruined. Please Give Me Some Advice

explain all of that to him. let him down easy, and then you guys can get back to your friendship. it might be hard on him, though, to be around you and just be friends when he wants more. just try to explain how you feel but take into consideration what he says. say that you'd love to keep being best friends with him, but you're worried that you might not be friends again if you guys break up. :) hope i helped.

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Has anyone on here had the surgery for scoliosis? if you have can you tell me what its like and how it went with you?
thanks

my friend had the surgery for it, and she was on pain killers and couldn't go swimming or do anything for a couple months. she got it done over the summer so she wouldn't miss school though. she has 2 poles on the sides of her spine to keep it straight, so she has really good posture. also she has scars, but they aren't that noticable. help i helped..

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Hello! My name is Steven, and I have a small issue. I have realised that I have OCD.
While I don't wash my hands for 3 hours or make sure everything is perfect, I am finding that I have a lot of tendancies to do such things. One thing that I find doing is trying to make sure that everything is even. My socks must be all the way up, and at the same level, or they must be adjusted. My books must be at the same angle to the floor... My Music stand must always be closer to the window than my bookbag, etc.
It wasn't until last Friday that I realised I might have it. I was in Gym, and we did some weird hand motion thingy. It involved banging hands on the seats, and it had about 3 more left hand slams than right hand slams. So, I slammed my hand down 3 times to even it out. This girl looked at me strangely, and I was shocked that she did not find that normal. I asked if she ever got that, and she was jokingly like "Steve, that's called OCD."
I had been suggested with having it before. I have had urges to jump off high places or run into trafic, yet not to die. Just to try it. And I was suggested to seek a doctor's medical attention as I may have OCD. So, I told this girl about this. Her guy friend asks if I have tendancies to want everything perfect, even though I obviously make no attempt to, which is true. So I said "yes". Immediately, they both said "You have OCD."
I took a few tests online. Out of 40, I scored 25 points. 12 points and above say that you most likely have OCD, see a doctor.
I cannot see a doctor, however, as my parents will not bring me to one. It took them 6 months to believe that I had tendinitis in my knee when it obviously was visable.
My question is how do I deal with this? Is there a type of home treatment I can do to deal with it? Or am I stuck?
Thank You. I love you all.
Steven

That sounds like acute OCD. Since you're not paranoid about every little detail, it's only acute. If your parents aren't going to listen to you about it, then you need to take it into your own hands.

Try distracting yourself from it. Whenever you have an urge, do something with your hands. Keep yourself busy, and slowly those urges will fade away, and then it won't be as bad.

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I was very younge 13 and never really under stood much or maybe i was 15 i can't remember but my grandad who is dead now tried to touch me on my private parts. and he did touch me on my vagina, and it hurt me I remember that i kicked him with my foot to get him away hard and it hurt him made a scare. I know he loved me and i loved him. I am so guilty i wish i never did it now i keep thinking about it and everything. please i know i was wrong but i don't know how to make me forget about it please help me. im using my friends account so hurry with answers. Thanx.

you weren't wrong to defend yourself. he was extremely wrong to touch you. it's natural to feel guilt, but he did the bad thing here, not you.

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I saw your answer to another person's question about head. How do you do it?!

Start out slowly, touch the penis, stroke, gently grip it in your hand, slowly moving up and down the shaft, getting faster as he becomes aroused. He may be producing lubrication (pre-cum). Don't be alarmed, it's going to happen reguardless.

Then kiss, lick and start to suck on the head of the penis. Flick your tongue on the head, then up and down the shaft of the penis. You can also kiss, lick, and suck his testicles while stroking his penis. At the same time, you stimulate the shaft with your hand. Go slowly at first, then much faster, still being very gentle because the penis is very sensitive. You can also ask him how fast he would like you to go, and how hard he wants it. All guys have different tastes, just remember that if you're using your hand and gripping his shaft, you can push up towards your mouth on it but don't push down because that might hurt your guy.

We all have a gag reflex at the back of our throat, so if you take his whole penis into your mouth, you will hit your gag reflex and feel like barfing. So, here's the secret, only take the head into your mouth, co-ordinate hand and head movement into a smooth rhythmic movement.

If you don't want the guy to ejaculate in your mouth; tell him before hand so that he can warn you. You can't get pregnant by swallowing ejaculate, but it tastes pretty gross.

Behind your guys testicles(balls) is the prostate gland, so if you play with them while you give him head, and rub the area directly behind (no further than that or you'll probably be touching his anus.) because it makes his orgasm so much better. if you have anymore questions just ask me :)

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where do you people download music for free and that doesnt cause viruses and is for zen micros..... thanks

i use Ares.

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Our homecoming is coming up and i have my eyes on someone that i want to ask me. but one of my best guy friends likes me and keeps hinting that he is going to ask me, but i don't want to go with him cause i see us as just friends. What should i do?

tell your guy friend that you'd really like to keep it strictly friends. then you should make the first move on the guy you want; before he's taken!

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I broke up with this guy that i really liked and its been about a week now. Friday I went to the football game and i saw him there. He waved and so did i. But i have another boyfriend now and he saw me with him. He has a girfriend too. Today i called him and he told his mom he didnt want to talk to me. So i had my friend call him and halfway when she was talking he hung up on her. I have been crying my eyes out all day. What can i do??
I rate high!!

you have a new boyfriend. he has a new girlfriend. you guys are over. especially if he doesn't want to talk to you over the phone. he sounds pretty immature; so you should probably just move on.

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Is it wrong that I'm happy over the fact my ex-girlfriend just got cheated on by her most recent boyfriend?

no. it's kind of like revenge. what goes around comes around, and she just got what was coming.

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Ok. So i am 16 and a girl, and for some strange reason, i havent been able to get in the mood latly. My boy is great and all and trys hard but i cant see to turn on. y is this? and is there anything i can do? thanks.

you might be depressed. or you could always be bored with your usual routine of things between you and your boyfriend. is there something bothering you about it? or is there something outside of the bedroom that is stressing you out? you definitely can't be turned on if your head is elsewhere. that might be it, because my friend had this issue and it turns out she was just stressed about stuff. if you have any more questions don't be afraid to send me a question in my advice column. :)

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I'm a 14/f and i would like to give my boyfriend head, but i'm scared because i dont want to hurt him because of my braces or rip the condom or anything. what should i do?

-Lost-n-confoosed

i gave my boyfriend head when i had braces. except i knew he didn't have an STD or whatever so i didn't use a condom. you should definitely use one, though.

it's your choice for what age you decide to give oral sex; so don't listen to "oh you're too young, don't do this".

i hope you know how to do it; but if you don't, you can always ask me on my advice column and i'd be so happy to give you a shitload of pointers.

anyways; your lips will most likely be covering your braces when you give him head. so, just don't bite, and you'll be good.

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Ok i never did this but if you masturbate can your vagina tear??

sure. if you accidentally cut yourself with a sex toy or your fingernail. for your vagina to tear you would probably be having to shove something WAYYY too big in it. this can happen when you have a baby.. but i haven't heard of it happening just from masturbating.

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ok well i run cross country and during the season i don't get my period. i don't get it because during the season i'm pushing my body really hard and i don't get it. well i know that i don't get it but i was wondering if an egg was still released or if it just stays in my ovaries. i think it might not get released but i'm not sure. this thing also happens to people who are annorexic. thanks in advance!

this happens to people who's BMI (body mass index) is under normal. the normal BMI is 18.5 - 24.9% body fat. this just means that you are probably underweight and maybe have some malnutritions. you can talk to your doctor about it. it's okay that you don't get your period. your body can only menstruate when it's got everything it needs. such as vitamins and stuff.

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My apartment is really dust. I'll vacume and dust my coffee table, and 10 minutes later there is a thin layer of dust again. I don't like the idea of breating all that in.

I am thinking of getting a hepa filter but I know little about them. Does anyone have any experiance with one or any other tips to rid myself of this dust?

the ionic breeze filters aren't loud and work well. but you should probably change your filter for your air conditioning; because it's most likely circulating all the dust. my family owns an air conditioning business and a lot of people have the same problem. your AC filter is probably really gross and not doing it's job. another thing would be to dust the tops of your ceiling fans.

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i brush my retainer every day. it still ends up smelling like crap somehow.. my mom called my ortho, and they said to use the stuff that you put dentures in.. i did that, and it still smells bad! does anyone know something good that will get the nasty smell away from my retainer?

soak it in mouthwash overnight. the really strong minty kind that burns your mouth.. which means it has alcohol in it. try listerine.

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