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Guilt
I was very younge 13 and never really under stood much or maybe i was 15 i can't remember but my grandad who is dead now tried to touch me on my private parts. and he did touch me on my vagina, and it hurt me I remember that i kicked him with my foot to get him away hard and it hurt him made a scare. I know he loved me and i loved him. I am so guilty i wish i never did it now i keep thinking about it and everything. please i know i was wrong but i don't know how to make me forget about it please help me. im using my friends account so hurry with answers. Thanx.
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you weren't wrong to defend yourself. he was extremely wrong to touch you. it's natural to feel guilt, but he did the bad thing here, not you.
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I cant say that i know exactly how u feel but i have been through that twice! Except the second one i couldnt stop the guy was to much bigger than me and had a lot more strangth! but u werent wrong at all! You did the right thing because if you would not have stopped it, it could have gone farther than it did and it kills me to talk about this but i figured that maybe i could help you! Honestly itz not you kickin him that you cant forget its what happened to you. I know you may not want to read this because i know i didnt. This is one of those situations that no one can make a decision for you, you have to do it within your own mind! I know it will be hard but you have to acknoloedge what happened and tell your self that you didnt to anything wrong. Trust me on this one i been there twice! And i still live with it everyday!! YOU CAN DO IT IF YOU REALLY TRY AND BELIEVE!
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i have ehard this situation many times and alot of young woman say the same thing that they was their fault what has happened to them.it was not your fault wether it was your grandfather, friend boyfriend or whoever did such things to you. when someone touches a child they need help a grown man knows the diffrence between right and wrong. a child can not make a man want them, or provoke anything of that nature. i understand that you love your grandfather, and i have no doubt in my mind that he loved you as well. but that still not change the fact that what he did was wrong. the hard reality of it is you may not be the only one that he did that to. i work in the business when i deal with petafiles on a daily basis, and 9 out of 19 times they are repeat offenders. i think it would be wise to talk to a counselor about this, you are oviously in denial that anything wrong on your grandfathers part was wrong, and to blame yourself, is putting the blame in the wrong place. i know it is hard when someone you love hurts you, you would like to pretend it never happened. unfortunatly it dosent work that way which you are now finding out. if you do not fully deal with this soon it could possibly haunt and cause you to have bad relationships with men for the rest of your life. good luck to you.
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im really sorry! I know how you feel, it didnt happen to me, but i totally understand.
even though he cant get introuble for it by the law, you should still tell people, so that way you can go to counceing, and then they can help you, and you can talk about anything. its great! really!
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you shouldnt feel guilty. I know he is your granddad but that is not right! You had the right to protect yourself. When someone hurts you your body wants to protect itself so you kicked him. Maybe you should tell your parents and how you kicked him maybe that will help? When you tell someone what you did and what you are feeling personally the guilt goes away! Well I hope I helped.
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