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I'm danika :) i'm 17 and i've been an advice columnist for almost 2 years i'm not on here a lot anymore but feel free to leave me and inbox and i'll get back to you asap

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16/f okay so there is this guy that i really like and we were supposed to hang out this weekend and it was his idea andhe never returned any of my calls i called late at night and early in the morning or texts does this mean he just wasnt awake or does he not like me? help me please

if it was his idea than maybe he just forgot.. i used to be crazy about this one boy who would had a really bad memory i would tell him that we were hanging out like 5 days before and call him the day that we were hanging out and his mom said that he wasn't there. and than woudl call me back and tell me he was sorry that he forgot. soo you'll have to ask him what happened and why you didn't chill i 'm sure he has a good explaination.. and if he ignores you for a while than well.. you'll get the hint =/

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ok so i see like a hot guy on tv and ill be like "oh he's hot i wanna have sex with him". Like ryan seacrest for example...or simon cowell....or a couple guys at my school....is this normal?

this is called 'lust' perfectly normal.

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ok iv really like this guy for a while, and hes the first guy that iv actually reaaaally been interested in. wev kissed and stuff befor but wev never gone out. During the summer i kno he liked me because he was really protective and stuff.but now he wants to do like sexual stuff with me , and i kind of want to but im not sure if hes using me or not. Also i dont want to seem cheap, but its kind of hard because i do wanna do that stuff and i really liek him. usually i lose interest in guys pretty quickly but this ones got me crazy haha. so what should i do? how do i find out if hes using me?

if he's not using you than he will wait. you shouldn't have sex or do sexual stuff with him unless your perfectly sure that you want to do it and loose it to him.. make sure he's the one you would want to loose it to because once it's gone you can never get it back and if he's using you than your screwed. i would say don't do it. andddd wait until you two are dating to do sexual stuff; becauseee than you know forsure that he actually likes you. but he might still be using you; so make him wait. ebcause if he likes you he'll respect you and wait

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Hey. I'm 14, and I masturbate once every couple of days. Is this bad? Does this have any effect on my health?

nopeee perfectly normal. and it doesn't effect your health

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whats the difference between algorithms and opposites?

well absolute value is somethign that will ALWAYS be positive. for example the absolute value of 7-9 is 2 even though the answer is -2 it's always positive so it woudl just be 2 =)

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see i like this guys and i have for a very long time, well me and him have kissed and done stuff, but i dotn know if hes using me or not. i mean hes kinda got another girl and he hasnt said anything about gettin rid of her so i think he might be using me but he tells me all this stuff about how he has feelings for me and how hes falling for me and stuff, adn he even told me he loved me. i mean weve had sex, but i dont know if i want to continue having sex or doing stuff with him (sexually) until the other girl is gone, becuase i feel kinda bad for doing stuff when i know the other girl doesnt know about me and i dont wanna feel like awhore. But, i also really really REALLY really like him!!! a LOT!! and i dont wanna lose what we actually do have=] im really confused and i would love some advice. Please HELP ME!!

hun. as much as you want to continue having sex with him because you think it will get him to like you more.. and to pick you over the other girl DON'T. it's not something to just do. i mean.. if he is using you your going to be more hurt than you woudl be if you two continue to do what your doing.. what i woudl do is tell him straight out; if you want me. than the other girl shouldn't be in the picture. because since your doing stuff with him he's not going to let her go.. but if you stop than he will rather leave the girl.. or you. and even though you REALLY REALLY REALLY like him.. it would be better for the both of you.

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i was kind of raped. i knew the guy but he came over and we were sitting on my bed. he pulled down my pants and without a condom he starting to like you know what i mean. i tried to stop him but hes bigger than me soo yeah and he pulled out then he came. im worried about being pregnant. i normally get my period from the 9th - 16th todays the 8th. i have been getting cramps like period cramps but no period yet. does it sound like im pregnant ? p.s im only 14! what should i do

if you told him no and for him to stop you NEED to report him;; or else he might be walking around raping other girls and hurting them. even though he pulled it out before he came there is pre-cum that comes out right before that he won't feel because it's not as thick.. so theres always a change that you could be pregant. just play it off til the 16th and if you odn't get it thenn.. than take a pregancy test

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sorry, this is gonna be long. so i like two boys. lets call them a and b.

ive known a longer. hes kissed me before, but told me he didnt have feelings for me. but that was a while ago. he kissed me again two weeks ago, but we havent talked about it because im kinda scared about what hes gonna say. hes one of the cutest guys in school, and a lot of girls like him. hes also kind of a "manwhore". not really, just kind of. but hes real sweet when im with him and gives me butterflies and makes me smile like no other person. he flirts with me a lot too. but we kinda have had an on and off relationship since ive known him.

okay, now b. ive also had an on and off relationship with him, cuz i rarely see him and stuff. hes really nice though. everyone knows him as the nice guy. and hes cute. i met him through my "big brother". me, "my bro" and our friends all do bad shit. they all smoke and drink and we do shit like that, but he doesnt. hes always like the designated driver and stuff cuz hes straight edge and stuff. hes more shy though. he doesnt really flirt with me that much, not in the way a does anyways. a flirts with me like.. more in actions. b flirts with me more just like joking around. we joke around and make fun of each other. hes sweet too and also makes me smile and stuff, but hes off to college next year.

so who should i go after more? or who would be a better choice?

in my eyes b would be the better choice because. he seems more commited and would be a better boyfriend than a just from what you told me;; i think that a would just try to take advantage of you;; but b would not. even though he's off to college next year.. if you two are serious about eachother than it will work out. and i think he shows more of an interest in you than a does =] hope everything works outt ;]

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okay, so theres this guy i like. i have no clue if he likes me back, in fact, i doubt it, cuz he's really cute and usually goes for the gorgeous popular type, which i am not. but we have snuck out together before, and he has kissed me, but i still don't think he really likes me, as i said before. it's because after he kissed me, he told me it was just spur of the moment and stuff. so what should i do? should i ask him to be my valentine? or should i wait until valentines day and see what happens? sadies is coming up soon too. so i don't know what i should do.. HELP!!

i would NOT ask him to be your valentine. but i would ask him to the sadies dance =)then see where it goes from there

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someone posted "you fail at life" as a youtube comment to a video of my funny math teacher dancing. its really dumb of them because it really was funny and hes a cool teacher.. most people dont think negatively of him, really.. well kids for that matter, lol. how can i respond to this? should i say "no you fail" or "you know what? your mom" or anything else that will tell this kid off? lol thanks

lol yeah say that. or you could say something like "well; you suck at life" :)

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I met this boy, and we flirt somewhat, and I don't know how to get him to like me. I understand that if he likes me for me, he'll know it, but I feel like I'm never myself around him because I'm trying to impress him or am too nervous. What should I do?

just let loose. calm down; because it's goign to freak him out if your really weird and push him away... and if your trying to impress him stop. honestly. because if he doesn't like you for you and likes you as the perosn you are trying to be than the relationship will be a big joke. just be yourself. flirt.. and look him in the eyes; and smile at him. he'll get the hint :)

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okay well my and my boyfriend were wanting to go to my house for valentine's day but we have church that night and so my dad probably wouldnt be able to pick him up, but i was thinking that he could ditch 4-7th period that day and walk to my school and then we could hang out and then go to my house on the bus.
but the thing is, i really want to make him dinner.
and i thought i could make him chicken and pealoaf because he really likes it but i also was thinking [if i had time], i could make him spaghetti. and he loves italian food too. i just dont know which one to make him.
do anyone have any other suggestions or which one i should make him?

thanks. =]

you could make him tortalini it's like a pasta but in between the noodles are like cheese and stuff. their goood. :) than add a little sauce anddd i guess meatballs and you'll be set.

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iv'e been going out with this guy since x-mas. we're going out for valentines day but i seriously have no clue what to get him........he has lots of aftershave already so i didn't want to get him that i really don't want to get him clothes either.... i'm soooo stuck on what to get him.. his style is kind of gay because he knows what he likes... is there anything mutual that any guy would like that i could get him....

please reply soon so i can get it thanks so much

well;; you could get him a gift certificate for one of his favorite stores. OH AND there's this really cute singing i think it's a lion at hallmark it says some really funny things. so theres that too. :)

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hi well my boyfriend and i have bin togteher for more then a year now and i would like to make this valentines day special because last year he was teriblly sick and it was not such a great valentines day, i am short on cash but i will manage anyone have any tips?

i would sayy. since your short on cash. make him a cute cd with a whole bunch of your favorite songs & maybe a photo album with pictures of you two together.. and you could also make him candle light dinner haha good luck hun

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if you have been fingered more then once can the docotr tell?
and if you have been "eaten out" more then once can a docotr tell?
o yea and i never had sex
thanx

their not goign to be able to tell because it could easily be that your wearing a tampon. unless you have a urinary infection.. then they would probably guess that it had somethign to do with thatt. but the doctor isn't going to be able to tell unless they look down there anyway :) no they can't tell if you've been snacked on either (another term for being eaten out)

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ok so this week im going to florida. and i found out the guy im going wiht is also!!! and his room is liek right next door to me!!! what do i do to get his attention?? with out like walking outside in my bra? lmao.

lmao. haha okay well first off you have to be yourself.. because the person he should fall for should be YOU and not someone your pretending to be :) okay soo with that said. give him quick glances when you walk by eachother and smile. (never fails =] ) than just gradually start talking to him. since you have the attraction first you need to make the first move to talk. ask him if we wants to take a walk down to the beach or somewhere close to where your staying. need anythign else just askkk love :)

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alright. i've been told that i'm pretty by guys and i do have a good personality, but the thing is; i haven't had a boyfriend since 7th grade. which was 2 years ago. what's wrong with me? i don't want to throw myself at a guy because that would freak him out. i'm just worried about being jealous of couples holding hands and being all lovey for the rest of highschool. should i just wait it out & see what happens?
(which will be nothing at the rate i'm going:p)

lol awh hunny.. well. you need to first find a guy that you like. because maybe guys think that your not interested in them. so you have to let them know that you are.. you shouldnt' be jealous of couples holding hands etc. because you'll get your time. so anyway if you like a boyyy. and want to hook up eventually start talking to him. but dont' push him away or come off like a stalker... play hard to get. likeee if he has a screen name don't always im him first. let him im you becausee you could start to get annoying (but my boyfriend says that he likes when i im him first because it makes him feels 'special') but i wouldn't start iming him a lot until you know he's into you ;] if you need anythign else let me know

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I've recently just taken up guitar, so I'm a beginner, so what are some good songs that are easy to start out with?

emily- by from first to last the intro i found was really easy. and twinkle twinkle litte star.. as gay as it sounds lol it's very easy

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heyy! are there any websites/chatrooms/anything where you can just talk to random people thats anonymous or you can make up a name or somthing? thank you!

yahoo.com make up a name and when you play games etc. you can join 'rooms' and chat to random people ;] and play games with them

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What does it mean when someone uses the phrase "This is boreing, but the bottom line is it's important." What does "bottom line" mean?

'bottom line' means for example that the truth of the matter is... so it's saying like even though it's boring you have to deal with it anyway because it's important :)

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