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Is it normal that I don't have a super-close best friend? I used to, but she got into drugs. Long story short- we went our own ways.
My mom likes to remind me all the time that I don't have a best friend. But, honestly, people just let me down a lot so I've learned not to depend on them.
Is it weird, that a 16 year old girl, doesn't have a close friend?
Hi there =]
Nope! Not at all.. I don't have a close best friend either... I only have friends and acquaintances... It's pretty normal.
Uniq =]
So sometimes when I see ANY boy I know that I see outside of school (or even just when I make eye contact) my heart flutters. Even if it's like the nerdiest, ugliest, weirdest (etc...) boy from my school, my heart still skips a beat. It's so weird and annoying! I don't know why this happens! I know I can't exactly stop it from happening, but can someone at least explain why this happens?? Thank you very much!
Hey =]
Well, maybe there's a couple reasons..
Do you wear uniform to school? If you do, maybe because these guys are seeing you in different clothes..
Maybe because you guys aren't in a school environment so they get to see you doing an activity other than writing and learning.. vice versa as well.
Maybe you wanna get to know em more OUTSIDE of school?
Hope I helped!
Uniq =]
My girlfriend of 6 months just recently started tickling my best friend and acting goofy around him. We love each other and I don't think she would ever cheat on me, but I think she's doing it for my attention as I talk to her friends sometimes but never physically touch them. It just makes me uneasy seeing my girlfriend giggling with my best friend, but I don't want to act jealous because I don't want to start any drama as she probably doesn't mean anything by it...
How should I handle the situation (because this is making me really uncomfortable)?
Hey!
I totally understand... There's nothing wrong in the way that you're feeling, it's only natural. The only way I can see you tackling this situation is if you let her know.. Just talk to her and tell her that it makes you uneasy whenever you comes into physical contact with your best friend... I don't think she would like if you were tickling and giggling with her best friend.. And if she wouldn't have a problem with it, just tell her gently to please stop. If she cares, she will. Good luck!
=] Uniq
So me and this guy have only been dating for a little while and well me and him started to make-out last night and I told him I wanted to take things slow. I don't like to just jump into things you know? Thats not who I am. But he kept pushing and pushing to have sex and I kept telling him no. Well he just started kissing me again and I thought he understood that I wasn't going to have sex but then before I knew it he was pulling my pants off and started having sex with me even though I told him no. I didn't know what to do. I pretty much just shut down.... I feel completely horrible now. After that happened last night I can't stop thinking about what happened and I don't know what to think or what to do. I feel completely used and ashamed..... I don't know what to do now. I feel like it's my fault.
Hi =]
Well wow I'm so sorry that happened.. Guys can be such animals and jerks sometimes =/ It's his fault he didn't take no for an answer... Did you speak in a loud tone? Without giggles or smiles... You MUST take charge and say NO even if you yell at him and seem like a b**ch... What he did can be considered rape if you press charges, It was against your will.. and if he's over 18 and you're under thats even worse.. =/ don't feel ashamed hun.. it isn't your fault. I totally understand where you;re coming from... But listen love... over time wounds heal... I promise you.. you will be strong... and although you might not forget it completely you will move on, and find a good man who can take care of you unlike this jerk.. Be careful who you're alone with =/ stay safe
Uniq =]
Do u know any of the self help lines?
I hope this answers your Q =]
http://www.pamf.org/teen/hotlines.html#drugs
Good luck!!
Uniq :)
how do you pick up a really good guy who wont hurt you?
Hi there =]
There's no right answer lol... If I were you, I would meet new people, guy friends mostly... And if you find a good guy friend who isn't taken.. and you have analyzed his moves, his personality, etc. You can make a move... My motto is, my lover must be my best friend too... We have to be able to goof around like 2 good friends.. talk about things.. etc. Good luck! Just meet new people :D
Uniq =]
http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewProfile&friendID=436738672
I wouldnt know.. but I doubt it.. why would her myspace be private if its basically for fans? I wouldnt add her o.0 but if you want more friends go right ahead.
Uniq =]
first off i think im sad now well i know i am but its because i like this girl but i cant tell her because i dont really know how to . if that makes sense its like i know i like her but at the same time i wouldnt begin to know how to not be a total goof ball around her and make her find me charming or want to be with me . im totally uncoordinated when it comes to girls and i know this may be considered rambling but i hope it makes sense can anyone help
Hi =]
Well to start off, it's okay to get nervous around girls when you like em... If the girl isn't a total snob... she won't criticize your nervousness. Thats the first issue, if she's making fun of you, putting you down, obviously she doesn't deserve you. Now,being a total gooofball isn't all that bad lol! You can try and make her laugh... I would suggest building a friendship with her first before telling her you like her. That way, she can get to know you as a friend, and she can see the cool guy you may be. After or IF you guys are already friends, just ask her out. Ask her if she wants to go out bowling, go to the movies, hang out, anything! If she accepts, then great! :) good luck
Uniq
i went on vaca, fell for a guy, came home, and lost feelings for my bf of 6 months. weve been fighting, and i wanted to b/u with him cuz i still like the other guy. my bf clearly has much more feelings for me then i do for him. im too scared to break up with him. i tried and the words didnt come out. i ended up saying something else. i dont know how to gather up the courage to do it. we stopped fighting, and unless we start fighting agiain, i dont think i could just say what i want to say out of nowhere. will i know when the right moment is or will i keep putting it off until he breaks up w. me?
i just need some support here lol im very stressed and i have no clue what to do. thanks
Hi there =]
I know you said you wanna break up with him, but can I set a couple questions to ask yourself, maybe think things over.. So you met this new guy while on vacay and fell for him... do you think long distance relationships will work for ya'll two? In my opinion, all couples fight and say and make up... has your bf been there for you through everything? Accept you for who you are and loves you truly? Does he try to make you happy and stay faithful? I don't think it's quite right to throw your boyfriend away just because you have developed feelings for a new stranger, you know? Perhaps make a list of pros and cons about both guys... And check who comes out on top.. Im pretty sure your bf will... BUT, if you don't wanna be committed, simply explain you think it's better to be friends because you're not ready to be in a committed relationship.. don't lead him on... good luck hun!
Uniq =]
so when you are at a party and dancing with dudes, it feels really awkward after dancing and you don't say anything to each other, what are things you can say after or before or something...do you give them a hug or what are things you do and say?
Hey =]
Well in my opinion, it depends on whether you're looking to start new friendships or relationships. Perhaps if you have finished dancing you can give a flirtatious smile and tell em how much of a good dancer they are, etc etc.. this is bound to start a convo and jokes would help a lot if you guys end up talking. It's all about relaxing the other person, so they can feel good around you. Good luck
Uniq =]
So the thing is ive been going out with this guy for about 4 months this saturday. He was my friend before we started going out so i knew he had a "past". He really isnt a bad guy i just may be paranoid. Yah, lets just say that i was paranoid to the point that i look in his phone and found txt messages from another girl. When i confronted him he just said that his friend played around with him like that...Two days later he said that he told the girl todo that because he new that i would look through his phone. Well hes a flirt and it just hurts to see him talking to other girls he does it even when im around, he may not notice it but he does flirt. Well ive tried to stick this relationship out i really love him. He walked me home in the dead of winter at midnight because my bestfrinds mom wouldnt let me sleep over her house,He was suppose to be home by that time. He does care but only shows it when everything is calm. What should i do?
Hi =]
I can understand your paranoia... You really like this guy, so you want all to go well with the relationship between you two. I must warn you though (you probably already know) jealousy and paranoia can drive a guy insane, as it would drive us insane. It all depends on the status of you guys' relationship. Depending on what the text message said, you most likely had a small percentage of a right to look into his phone.. If it said something inappropriate or weird like 'hey baby'.. then you found a reason TO look into his phone...either way, you didn't like what this friend wrote, and he should respect that because he is you boyfriend. What you should do is talk. Communication is the key. Spill out your feelings! 4 months is enough to start opening up... and if he's serious, he will consider your feelings and opinions on what makes you mad, jealous, etc. Set boundaries... it's one thing to be nice to a girl, but it's another to be so nice, people would mistake her as your girlfriend... you know? It's all about letting him know how you feel... Be careful, it may be paranoia, or it may be your womanly instinct.. Just try not to accuse him of anything unless you have solid proof.. and do the best you can in the relationship, if he cheats then he's missed out on a good thing, and you find yourself a man, not a little boy ;) good luck
Uniq =]
im gay and have a crush on my best friend melissa brother robert and he is straight but wishes that i was a girl because we have all the same exact qualities that we look for in eachother. Please Help
P.S. ive never been in love before so I really want this .
Hey =]
This is quite confusing... He is straight but wishes you were a girl, because you have the qualities he wants in a girl... does he know you're gay? Because if he said this after knowing, it might be a hint (?)you never know... If he doesn't know, then maybe he was just trying to say you're really cool... I can't suggest letting him know you have a crush because that might be coming off too strong, and worst case scenario, he'll be uncomfortable and push you away... All I can suggest is leave it alone if he's straight.. and 100% SURE he is not bi-curious.. BUT, if he is, have a talk, but don't come on too strong. Good luck!
Uniq =]
im going away for a cheerleading competition next weekend
im leaving my boyfriend home that weekend
hes been telling me he loves me so much but when hes not with me he thinks about doing stupid things
im really scared hes going to. ill be gone from thursday night till tuseday.
what should i do. please help me.
Hi there =]
Well, if your boyfriend is mature, understanding, and truly in love with you (or at least really liking you) , he won't do anything inappropriate. WHY would he ruin a relationship with someone he truly likes or loves? You can't keep an eye on him 24/7, just explain to him that you like/love him... that you'll be back soon.. etc...
Think about it, would YOU do anything stupid if he were gone? How would he like it? If he does do anything, then obviously he isn't grown enough to control his hormones and be in a deep relationship. good luck!
uniq
Ok abouta year ago this guy messaged me on myspace. I went to his page and decided that I didn't know him so I just told him that I didn't know him and then ignored him.
A year passes by and about a half of a month ago he messaged me again. He said "I like it to write to u because u had my old url and I thought that maybe we could be friends". So I did some research on him.
I looked on his myspace and learned that it was a musician's account. He is a musician and he lives in Germany.(I listened to some of his songs and they really aren't that bad. I especially liked travelogue and hard to be a girl).
I can hear the german in his voice (for some reason he likes to sing in english better?) and so I'm pretty sure that he is actually not a 40 yr old rapist from Alabama that is putting on a show. I went to his youtube account and looked at his pictures, everything seems legit.
But here's the catch. I'm 16 and my myspace says that. He is 26, which I learned from his youtube account. That is a 10 year difference. While I don't believe that he is a rapist, I also can't imagine why he would be talking to me. He keeps starting conversations and asking about my interests and stuff. My pictures on myspace aren't like the hottest pictures ever or anything and he doesn't hint at anything like that. I'm actually pretty bitchy to him because I still don't trust him.
So my question is, what are his motives? I'm pretty sure he isn't a rapist so don't suggest it. I still have it as a possibility so don't worry. Maybe he just wants a fanbase? I have no idea. If anyone could help me figure out why he is bothering to talk to me then please it would be extremely helpful. I have been racking my brain and I still can not figure him out.
If you want to help me look into it, his myspace is www.myspace.com/edwardstockton
You can see for yourself that he seems harmless. Also he's extremely nice and sweet in his messages. He calls me "fraulein" and he always wonders about how I am doing and stuff.
So in conclusion, what do you think is driving him to talk to me? Tell me if you need more information.
Hey =]
Well, sometimes, people are naturally friendly.. Can easily trust people, and so on.. Yes, I tend to be one of those people sometimes as well... It's great that you mention he might be a rapist, because it shows you aren't naive or anything. Just don't give TOO much info out to him.. don't have too much info on your myspace.. you'd be amazed at the things people go through just to stalk someone lol... be careful... his motives can be either just wanting to add a new friend and fan into his life... or maybe malicious intentions.. only you must go with your gut feeling. good luck!
uniq
15/f
Okay well me and my boyfriend have been dating for a month. He says he would never lie to me and never hurt me and all that. Well i caught him lying to me one time and he admitted that he was lying and he said he was sorry and was begging me not to break up with me because he liked me so much. I forgave him because he admitted lying and then promised he would never do that again. But right now i am acared that he will lie again. Some guys learn their lesson and don't do it again and some are "once a liar, always a liar." So i don't know which he is. he told me he wouldnt do it again but i cant stop thinking about if he will or not. What should i do?
Hey =]
I agree, it does depend on what kind of lie it was... but a lie IS a lie...
If he's promising that he won't lie to you anymore, make sure he doesn't. That means, if you ever find out he has lied to you, ask him WHY did he do it? Ask him why was he scared to tell you the truth? Why didn't he keep his promise... If you let him get away with it, he'll do it again... good luck! =]
Uniq
This is specifically for people who have dyed their hair (preferably at a salon).
I AM A HAIR DYE VIRGIN!!!! who has always wanted to dye her hair
But my boyfriends mom just informed me that her hairdresser (who did hair for contestants in the miss usa pageant!!!!) does her hair for free (she does his taxes or something) and that he could do mine for free also!
So the question is;
Did it KILL your hair? If you only did it once. Like, how does your hair feel? I don't want my hair to be stringy. How long does it take?
Any advice is appreciated! (FROM PEOPLE WHO HAVE DYED THEIR HAIR!)
Hey =]
Well, Before I dyed my hair, it was extremely curly... But after a while, I wanted a new look and got red on the tips of my hair.. Then I got Red highlights... Then I dyed my hair black.. and now I can't get rid of the orangy color due to the highlights.. and my hair is all dead looking.. not at the roots, but definitely towards the bottom... BUT I also straighten my hair at the salon every so often... Dying your hair may take a while so be prepared to stay there for hours lol. Good luck!
Uniq =]
Well basically my junior prom is on March 28, and out of the blue one of my good friends (who I happen to have a huge crush on!) asked me to prom. I was SOOOOOOOOOO Excited but then his friend named Sarah got really jealous of me because he asked me and he did not tell her that he would, so she was crying and shiznits... Sarah was my friend as well but now she is acting really fake and Mike (the guy who asked me) is fed up with her because she is trying to own him and she tells everyone about the conflict she made and tries to make me look bad. She still has a crush on him even though they had been friends for since 6th grade. Now she is spreading rumors that I'm a whore and Mike just wants to use me and stuff. First of all, I haven't even kissed a guy before (I know its sad...) and Mike is the sweetest guy in the WORLD!!! She is the one who tries to control him. I do not know what to do. He tries to assure me that he will handle it but I'm right about to curse a B out if she does not stop. Should I let him handle it or should I "handle it" by the way-- she doesn't know that he asked me to his girlfriend today so what should I do???
You're right about the jealousy part, gosh she's infected lol... Well, I would say you handle it, but not in a bad manner. Sit down and tell her what is up with her attitude.. You know why, but maybe she'll pour her feelings out and will feel better.. If push comes to shove, just leave her be.. don't even waste your breath.. and if Mike doesn't succeed in handling it she obviously isn't a good enough friend to be happy for you two.. good luck!
Uniq =]
me n my boyfrend have been dating for 5 months. i am so in love with him and he is in love with me too. everything was going fine n we were having the same problems as usual but they never really got us down that much n we worked on them. our biggest problem was that he had alot of insecurities which made him have trouble believing me when i saidd that i love him. a few days ago he texted me that we needed to talk. i met him in the hallway and he sed that we needed a break. i was dumbfounded and didnt even know where this came from. he sed he wanted me to get with other guys and see if i still loved him after. he just never thought i was serious when i sed i was in love with him. so i ws like ok and i didnt know what to say. we didnt talk in two days which is definateely not like us since we text 24/7 and he didnt seem to care at all. finally i texted him that we needed to talk. we fought and said alot of mean things. he said he needed a break from me. i said ok but we kept texting. we just talked about our day and nothing about our relationship. then, he asked how i was and i told him how upset i was about the whole break thing. he was really rude about it and said for Gods sake im not divorcing u. i was really hurt but he didnt seem to care at all. he sed he needed a break from all the compliments and i loves yous. i was astounded and very hurt. this came out of nowhere. he said he needed a break of not talking at all. i was sad because we hang out everyday and i missed him. we started texting a little and then he just started giving me one word answers. i said do u even want to talk to me? he said no. so i said well ok? he said well ill let you go then. i said you mean ull let yourself go. n he said yep bye. we havnt talked since that conversation yesterday. I am so hurt that this is so easy for him not to talk to me and that i am so upset about it. he doesnt even seem to care at all. i dont know why all of a sudden he is saying he needs his space and we cant talk. i feel like he doesnt love me anymore but i guess i have to give him his space. he says we will be on this break till he has an epiphany. but what if he never has one and this turns into a permanent break? i dont know what to do , i love him so much and cant lose him. thank you for any help
Hey =]
Well you mentioned insecurities, which is a big relationship killer =/
I would say one of these three things, or maybe all, is happening:
1)His pride is all he has left.. I call it manly ego lol..
2)He;s egotistical because you're pretty or a nice catch and thinks that other guys wanna get with you..
3)Or he's simply self loathing... and being mean because of the first two...
I'm sorry to hear this is happening... All I can suggest is to call him up.. if he doesn't pick up, leave a message asking him to meet up with you somewhere, because it's really important.. If he calls you back doing or texts you saying ok, then take up the opportunity and express how you feel, not over doing the I Love You's or compliments, and get down to the point. Ask him what's really going on... No guy just says go out with other people for now unless he's doing something of his own that you don't know of.. or he's feeling one of the three suggestions I gave in the beginning. If it's 2 or 3... You need to help him out.. Sometimes assurance isn't enough, and persistence may annoy... But you can achieve these things slowly and over time... If you know what makes him feel insecure, like you talking about your guy friends or what not, cut it down... Sometimes anger problems can get the best of a guy and girl... It's really hard to explain.. Because there can be so much to it.. He's the lock.. and you have half the key.. because he's holding the other half and closing up =/ good luck!
Flirty
im so confused.
this is kinda long.
im stuck between two guys and the thing is, i cant decide who i'd rather be with.
ok so guy number 1 i have liked on an off since last year. The thing about him is, there will be times when he talks to me, hints that he likes me, and goes and ignores me for a while. This had been happening on and off until a couple of weeks ago. I dont know how it happened, but he ended up telling me that he liked me. And then we pretty much totally opened up to each other. He told me all this stuff, for example
"Your pretty nice and attractice i think your gorgeous and you have a nice body"
he also said some other stuff like that 2.
however it seems like hes a totally different person while texting. in school he will sometimes walk right past me without saying hey and he doesnt seem like he is interested in me in when i see him. this was a week or 2 ago. then we started not texting as much and it seems like the whole cycle is starting over again....
except i will catch him staring at me sometimes and he will come up and talk to me again just when i convince myself hes not interested.
guy #2
ive been best friends with him for a couple years. only this year i started to actually like like him. i feel really comfortable when im around him not kinda awkward like i do with guy #1. and he is a great guy, and has an AMAZING body (not that that matters that much but still) i went over his house and we like flirted the whole time and it really seems like he likes me. PROBLEM, one of my best friends also likes him and they had a thing a while ago and she broke it off not him so im not sure if he would like her again. but it really seems like he likes me only i dont know for sure if he does. but he does text me a lot and wants to hang out again. and i have a feeling he does. only, i cant stop the feeling i have for guy 1. and i have a feeling if i went out with guy 2 then he would be really mad even though he doesnt make it seem like he's interested.
i really like guy 2 but i cant stop thinking about guy 1. and theres the whole thing with him and my friend
what should i do?!?!
Hey =]
Guy number one seems like a fake, no offense lol... If I were you, I'd go with number 2. But before you go with number 2.. talk to your friend. I know there's a girls rule of never dating a friend's ex.. but just ask her for her opinion, on whether she still likes him.. spill it all... and see how it goes. Good luck =]
flirty
What does I'm Nobody! Who are you? by Emily Dickinson mean. tha last 2 lines confuse me
Hey there =]
I hope this helps hun
http://www.beyondbooks.com/lit71/1f.asp
You can always go on google and search it.. I typed in "I'm nobody! Who are you?" and that link was one of the first. Good luck!
Flirty=]