Hey everyone! The names Melissa and I'm just dying to help everyone out.
Sometimes i might be brutally honest but that's what people need!
If you need some help or have a question feel free to send me a message I would be more than happy to help!
Gender: Female
Location: Pennsylvania
Occupation: Sales Associate
Age: 21
MSN: missy_meliss@live.com
Member Since: February 18, 2010
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Hi :) well am kind of coonfused so if you can help me i would appreciate it. ;)
here is my story. i just moved to a new house and the house owner is a man that is handsome. he is not that cute but the first time i saw him he grabed my attention. i dont know what it is that he has but he just seems to be stuck in my head. :( he lives with his wife and has kids i know this is disrespectful. am only 18 and he is 29. everytime i go outside he stares at me, i dont know if he likes me but its just something about him that grabs my attention and makes me like me. & the weird thing is that he looks at me alot :) can you guy please help me out here because am confused ;( (link)
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This man is married. He has children. Even if you have an attraction to him, you need to get over it. How would you feel if you were his wife, and he had an affair? Whether or not he's staring at you shouldn't matter. Be friendly, but don't cross any lines. Its just wrong
If its true than why did you give me a three?
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Uh, I want to try smoking weed. Just once, it's just something everybody wants to try, ya know? Maybe I'm alone in that but idk what to expect when I do try it. I know most people don't get high on their first time or they aren't as bad. Please tell me about you're first time? Thanks!
Don't say to not do it because I'm not going to try it once and become a huge pot head, I value things in my life and watching what has been happening to my brother's friends (which is whom I will probably try it with) I just want to do it once. once. once.
Thanks! (link)
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You probably wont get high. On peoples first time, they don't know how to smoke. They don't know how to inhale, or that you have to suck it into your lungs after pulling on the blunt/joint/or glass.
On the off chance you do get high, good luck with that "once" decision. That's exactly what i said. And i'm definitely not a "pothead" but i wont turn a J down either.
But seriously, go ahead and try it. Its not bad, its not going to make you die or sick or anything. Just make sure your in a safe environment, with people you trust
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I use to have a bestfriend we got really close cause of soccer and we have been unseperable since. Well My senior year i met this guy (which is my boyfriend now) he was already in a relationship with someone while we started talking, we both liked each other but he couldnt breakup with his girlfriend. My Best friend thought it was a bad idea and on soccer tournaments her and one of my other good friends would say rude things while i was on the phone with him, and they would constantly talk about him rude to me. We eventually got together and of course we went to lunch everyday together and my best friend didnt like that. As our relationship grew i would hardly talk to my friends about him or be around them as much, well during these 4 and a 1/2 months we've broken up 4 or 5xs and the 4th time i went to my friends for comfort but they hardly said or did anything to make me feel better.. I cried alot well he asked me for another chance and of course i said yes because i really do love him. I didnt tell my friends we got back together, the next day at school we were together and my best friend saw us and she yelled that i was stupid we got into a huggee argument and she said i only talk to them when we break up and he treats me like crap and he cheats on me etc, i was tired of hearing it so we both decided to not be friends anymore, later on i found out my "bestfriend" was talking to my boyfriends ex-which i dont like cause we fought. I havent tlked to my"bestfriend" since its been a few months if that. I neeedd adviceeee! Was she even really a friend? Did i just over react?? (link)
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To answer your question, yes you over reacted. Friends are always supposed to come first. Because friends will be there for you. You pushed your friends away, by dating a guy who is obviously a jerk. They wouldn't dislike him if he wasn't. And it seems like you do only talk to her when he breaks up with you.
If I were her i wouldn't try to console you either. You need to make a decision, is this guy who cheats on you worth it? Or is someone who you've been close to for a long time worth it?
Only you can decide that.
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hey im a 23 year old girl ive been with my husband for 8 years we've been married for 2years. we have a beautiful son together. I love my husband sooo much . but for the last 2-3 years ive been having sexual feelings towards women . i thought it was just a phase at first or a fantasy but still to this day i feel the same. i only seem to get arroused when i see or think off women in a sexual conent . am i bi? or lesbian or do u think its just a fantasy of mine (link)
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Alot of women get turned on when they think about women. Its completely normal.
The only way your going to know if your bi or a lesbian is if you experiment with other girls. You could always approach your husband about this and ask him if hes comfortable with having a threesome? As long as you include him it probably wouldn't upset him. If anything, he'd probably be pretty excited about it.
If you don't want to do that, then your out of luck, unless your willing to cheat on your husband, which I don't think you would want to do.
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okay so im really close with my friend kylie (shes les/emo)
kylie cutt her self, and just a couple of days ago cut really bad whilst we were in school and came rushing to me for help. so instead of going to science i spent last period with her in the bathroom trying to understand why she did it and if she was ok. ( i know its wrong to ditch class so please no lectures on that please)
so we started talking and she admitted she had a thing for me. and kept hugging me.
i addimitted i had feelings for a female friend of mine (amy, we have kissed befor) even though im still not sure if im bi. and know shes REALLY close with me, and now everyone thinks im les. i have been thinking about it lately and im think im straight . what should i do i dont want people thinking im les. (link)
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Person below me, she said shes not a Lesbian.
Secondly, people are going to talk hun. Its unavoidable. You just have to be the better person and ignore it. I promise, in a month or so its going to be old news and no one is going to care anymore.
If you want to get over those rumors faster, find a boyfriend. If your with a guy then your obviously not a lesbian, right?
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Okay so it all started about a year and a half ago! I had just gotten suspended from school for the rest of the year because of fighting. My friend Mariah had ran from her group home and I joined her. After our first night on the run, we were introduced to a couple people, one of them being the boy I would fall in love with, Jason! I can replay the first moment I seen him with perfection, as if it just happened. Here came this loud, adorable boy in his dickies! It was an instant attraction! That night me and mariah stayed at his house and me and him stayed up all night.(justkissing) Did I mention we were EXTREMELY drunk?! Well the next day when I woke up laying next to him, I pretended like that night never happened, even though I had major hickies. He tried so many times to talk to me and until I was again drunk that night I blew him off! Then once I was drunk we were more 2gether, it was crazy! THEN this guy we call "blackboy" came and I found him extremely attractive, and considering how drunk I was I was completely open about that feeling! That night I had sex with him in jasons room! Long story short:: next day Jason was pissed at me but then we talked ALOT and made up and I had sex with him that night, and the next day I left and didnt see him again for a while!!!!! ......About A Month Later..... So i was no longer on the run and my birthday was coming up. And without saying I wanted to see him I was determined to make sure I spent my birthday with him, and I did. That night is the best mmemory of my life, and the night I fell in love!(July10th2009♥). We did not have sex that night but we went on a super long walk together, and spent an AMAZING night 2gether>>WITHOUT SEX!! ..The next day i went home!! .....2WeeksLater.... So I was going to hang out with my friend mario and his homeboys and we were gonna drink! well I got drunk and had sex with 2boys that night! they were cousins, and Jasons good friends, and he showed up the next day. He freaked out on me then left, and about an hour later came back and wanted 2 "talk" and spend the day with me.We had sex that night. If i went on in detail about it would take me a century to write about it BUT our relationship mainly consisted of me sleeping with his friend, him cheating on girlfriends with me, fighting, sex, alot of great memories, and in the end him hating me!!
Now here's my dilema! I put myself in rehab for three months FOR HIM! I cant deal with him hating me. We havent talked in almost 4months. Ive been working so hard to turn my life around for him. AND today I find out he's going to be doing 6 to 8 years jail time for being a look out for a shooting. I LOVE HIM!! My anxiety litterally is hurting me! Please dont give me advice on how, "I dont know what love is" or "What we had wasnt love" or "how to get over him" I NEED advice on how I can work things out with him if i write him or I need to know hotline numbers to talk to someone about this kind of thing.
When you give me advice just consider that i am an EXTREMELY determined girl who is in love and not even slightly considering giving up!!! (link)
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Im really sorry, but I just cant keep quiet on this one.
This sounds like a very un healthy relationship, your talking about how much you like him, but at the same time your screwing a bunch of other people. And so is he?
Its just not healthy. You do realize you can get stds right?
He has every right to hate you you slept with 2 guys in his bedroom, its just disgusting.
Its good that you went to rehab, because you def sound like you need it. Maybe when your over whatever addictions you have, you can try to talk to him, but if he doesn't want to talk to you don't be surprised.
Sorry this is so harsh, and you can rate me a 1, but its the truth.
Make sure you use condoms.
Did you ever think that maybe he's using you? Think about it, he dates other girls but comes back to you to sleep together. Why wont he date you if hes willing to date other people?
If you really want to date him hes going to need to trust you, its that simple. Sure you guys can fuck all you want, but that doesn't mean love. You might love him but you have to make sure that he feels the same way..
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17/f
So, me and this guy have been talking for quite awhile now. We hang out and act just like couples do. The problem is, he never texts me. Sometimes we go all day without texting and it urks me so bad! I text him and he will write back maybe once or twice and thats it, unless he askes me to hang out.I just hate how he dosent text me that much. I know we don't have to talk 24/7 but i dont wanna go all day without talking to him. Ive mentioned it to him 3 times and all he says is "im sorry." I really really like him but i dont know what to do. :/ Help! Should i text him first, not text until he texts me or what? (link)
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My boyfriend and i have been dating for 7 months now, and He never texts me. At first it annoyed me, but you have to realize that its just how some people are. Maybe he doesn't like to text? Or maybe he doesn't have an unlimited texting plan and doesn't want to tell you.
Its not something to stress out about. I know it sucks but eventually you'll get over it. If you like the guy then dont stress out about something this little.
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The Short Second Life of Bree Tanner by Stephenie Meyer came out recently (or so I heard). I looked in the local book shop for it but I didn't see it. Now, the place isn't like a Barnes and Noble so I don't know if I need to go to a larger bookstore or if they lied to me about it already being out on the shelves in some stores.
Where can I find this book and read it? And does it cost a lot? Because I've been saving my money up for something else and I can't spend a lot on this book right now but I totally want to read it because I loved all of the Twilight books by her too. (Team Edward!)
THANKS 2 YOU (link)
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you can read this novella online for free at www.breetanner.com :D If you really want to buy it it was realeased on June 5th, and it costs 13.99 with 1 dollar of every book going to a foundation she supports.
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Why do all the weird not very attractive girls get boyfriends? I'm in high school and it seems like all the guys like are these annoying girls. They are not even pretty. I just don't understand it. I feel like I'd I have to act differently to get a guy. Seriously, why is this? (link)
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Maybe these guys actually like these girls for who they are and aren't being jerks. Your taste is good, stop trying to be perfect and maybe they'll start to like you to
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Can sperm travel? Like if my boyfriend came on my leg by my vaginal area can i get pregnant, can it travel towards it? We always have unprotected sex and i was just wondering because he has came in my stomach or once even right next to my vaginal area and i was scared but it was a moment of passion but none got in that area, but i was just wondering if it can? (link)
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No, sperm cannot travel from your stomach to your vagina. Or your leg to your vagina. If he cums next to your vagina, say on the lips or something of the sort, there is a slight chance some may enter your vagina and impregnate you.
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I need the real answer to this and not some sugar coated lie. If a girl gives a guy a blowjob (head, oral sex, sucking, whatever you wanna call it) and he finishes up in her mouth then can she get pregnant if she swallows it?
My friend just got a blow job and the girl spit it out. She told him that she does that so she doesn't get pregnant. Is she lying or telling the truth? (link)
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no, thats completely impossible. sperm needs to get in your vagina.
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Okay, so my boyfriend came over and we were making out on the bed. it got a little hot and heavy and he got an erection. He was wearing gym shorts and underwear and i myself was wearing shorts, underwear and a pad. but i am not on my period it was just in case something would come out. so there was a wet spot on his shorts and i think the semen went through his pants so i backed off a bit and didn't even touch my loweerr body to his. My underwear feels a little wet and when he left i went to the bathroom and my pee was alot darker then usual i feel a little queasy but i think that is just from how nervous i am. my tummy is doing some irregular rumbling and i pooped but i think it's doing that because i might be pregnant. White jelly like substances are coming out of my vagina and everytime i think of the wholee situation and what we did my underwear gets a little wet. I washed my blankets and now i feel like im pregnant. He told me it was not possible but im not so sure. It is possible for me to be pregnant? Im not feeling nausaus or throwing up or anything like that im not really in the mood to eat so are those signs of pregnancy? by the way im 13. && i have never been sexually active the closest i have ever got to being sexually active was doing this with my boyfriend. Please help mee!!! im so scared! (link)
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Your not pregnant.
Your underwear was wet because you got aroused. Girls get wet.
If he has clothes, and you have clothes your fine.
Darker pee is a sign of being dehydrated. Drink some water before doing something like exercising.
So dont worry about it.
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17/F
I currently have one lobe piercing on each ear and would like to get two more lobe piercings on each ear. I was wondering if it was okay to get them done at the same time or if I needed to space out the piercings.
Just fyi, my first piercing was never infected and I hardly ever cleaned it.
Thanks :) (link)
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Well, I got four piercings done at once, and i passed out. But i believe this was because they were piercing through scar tissue not cartilage. I guess in theory you could do 4 in the same day, but its going to put your body into a mild form of shock. Just because it SHOULDN'T hurt that bad doesn't mean it wont. Your body is registering that something is happening to it that shouldn't be happening.
Its all up to you, i would suggest researching the place your going to go to first though.
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okay im 15/f and i think i love this boy but hes turning 13 and im fixing to be 16 im not sure how to handle the age difference and all. how do i know if hes to young and/or if i love him? (link)
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First things first, Love is something you know. Its something you feel inside of you. You don't THINK your in love, you know your in love. Secondly, i wish i could say that age doesn't matter like everyone else on this site, but unfortunately it does. You can go ahead and get in a relationship with this boy, but you have to take into account what his family is going to think, and what your family is going to think. Is it worth all of the drama? Your about to be 16 years old. Your probably in your 10th or 11th year of high school soon. Wouldn't you want to date someone you can take with you to the dances and go see movies with and everything? Like i said, if you like him, go ahead and try it. But hes going to be MUCH more immature than you are in the long run!
Good luck!
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is it strange for a girl's stomach to have hair on it? i'm not sure if i should shave it because then it will grow back darker right? (link)
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Humans are animals just like anything else, we all have hair all over us. Having hair on your stomach is fine. If it really bothers you, you could always get it waxed, but then you'd have to continue doing that.
DO NOT SHAVE IT!!!!! It'll grow back like the hair on your legs!
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Over the past six years or so, I've lived as a recluse. I have virtually no human contact other than what is required. In an average day, I probably say about 100 words aloud. I had a small group of 3-6 "friends" in elementary school, but I very rarely did anything outside of school with them.
Unlike most people with this problem, mine is entirely self-inflicted. I was never bullied, and I've had no "bad relationships" of any kind. I simply do not enjoy multi-person activities (including conversation). Since I viewed friendship as useless in the past, I didn't pursue it, and I am now completely incapable of participating in any kind of social interaction due to lack of experience.
Recently, over the past 2-3 years, this state has increasingly been bothering me for the following reasons:
* Having no social network of any kind puts me at an enormous disadvantage in gathering and spreading information.
* I have not a single person I can really trust with anything.
* Not having any human contact makes me depressed/lonely from time to time. Even though I don't consciously *want* human contact, I clearly need it in order to fix this.
So I eventually want to have like five friends (preferably online) who I can trust. It's no good just to have five contacts sitting in my instant messaging program; I need actual friends with whom I have real understanding.
How do I do this? Keep in mind that I have less social understanding than the average 3-year-old, and I am completely useless in a conversation. I also don't particularly enjoy conversation.
Don't tell me to "go out and talk to people". That's what all the websites say, and it does me exactly no good because I don't know the first thing about having a conversation. In all cases that I've tried to randomly participate in a conversation (_many_ times, online and off), I say virtually nothing because everything moves too fast for me and I can't think of anything to say.
I've posted this stuff to one other site, and despite talking to several of the people there, nothing good came of it. I will therefore be reluctant to contact anyone offering to "be my friend" in their response.
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www.conqueronline.com This is a website for an internet game i Play. Its an online RPG and its alot of fun! The style is kind of old school, but you dont talk verbally to anyone. Its all about leveling up, and killing each other (haha). Ive been playing for about...Id say 8 years now, and i've made alot of friends on it. Not to mention that it definitely brought me out of my shell as a shy and quiet person. Though I wasnt to the point you are obviously.
Im not saying you have to play THAT game, but any internet game will do the same thing. Its something that is a common ground that you can relate easily to other people about, and talk about.
Its a bit hard to begin with to make friends, because most people are very strong all ready, but if you work hard you should have friends in no time.
I also play perfect world international. And if your willing to spend the money WoW is always a good choice.
But the first two games i mentioned are free so that's why I play them.
Good luck!!! Hope to see you on the game. If you feel like talking im on the server Celebrities, then Hebby, and my characters name is Lillum.
GOOD LUCK :D
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I'm a college student, and I lost my virginity while at college. I lost it at the beginning of the school year, and I kind of slept around a lot (I used sex as a way to feel better about myself) the first half of the year. Now I've changed, but my past comes back to haunt me, because it is a small school, and a small isolated town, and a lot of people know about my past. How do I move on from that? It seems like no one will ever forget and move on with their own lives. I've made that my past, I'm not like that anymore, but others still haven't. And to be honest it wasn't even that bad, I haven't really been with that many guys (many girls here have twice that number, easy, and yet they don't seem to have that reputation).
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People are going to think and say whatever they want. You just have to be the bigger person and ignore them. If you know that your not acting like the same person anymore, than whatever they say is meaningless.
Move on with your life. As long as your living differently people will eventually begin to realize that your not the same person anymore and they'll forget about it.
I hope everything works out!
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So my gf of a year left me 3 months ago for her ex who treated her like crap. Well I guess she realized things in tried commin back to me...so after a month I figured wed try again. Well we drink a lot well I would get scared/worried/upset and talk or bring up the past or her ex and we started kinda fighting/having spats a lot. Well saturday night out of the blue she said she was down in the dumps and just wanted to be alone. I scared me because I thought something bad was happening. She said no its not you have nothin to worry about. Well when I am home I get this gut feeling so I head back over to her apartment and she calls saying shes at her ex's because one of there friends is going into the army. She said she walked but she didnt she said our relationship is going down the drain. She said she wants to be single but has ben staying over there at her exs. I kno its hard and some of you will think its crazy but I do love her and want her back but what do I do? She couldnt even look at me sunday when I got my things from her place and still wont give me an explaination of why she did what she did. help please! (link)
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Im so sorry, but you need to move on. I know its probably not what you want to hear hun, but she is probably back with her ex. If shes staying over there, and broke up with you after being around him, than its probably what is going on. I know you love her, but someone better will come along. If she left you for her ex after being with you for a year, shes obviously a very indecisive person.
My advice, find someone new. Someone who isnt going to leave you over and over again for someone who treats her badly.
I hope everything works out!
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is bella and edward are dating in real life ? (link)
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Yes, Kristen and Robert are dating in real life. Hence the kiss on live television.
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soo i was doing some facebook stalking of a good friend of mine. and she has alot of pictures with this one guy, so they're good friends. he is the most attractive guy i've ever seen haha. i added him as a friend and sent him a message like a week ago but he didn't say anything back:/ not to be cocky but i'm a pretty goodlooking girl. should i tell my friend i want to meet him? or would that just be creepy? anyy advice? (link)
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Errr, why did you randomly add someone you dont know? Isn't facebook all about being friends with people that you know, and its super obsessive about security and such?
Maybe he didn't talk to you because he didn't know you? Sometimes i add someone, thinking i know them, and then i check them out go "oh wow i dont know this person" and i ignore them and eventually delete them.
You could ask your friend to hang out with him, but don't you think he'd put 2 and 2 together and be like hey isn't this that girl that just added me on facebook. It might make you look a little bit stalkerish.
I think you should just let it go. Its a bit creepy.
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