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me and my boyfriend and his friend derek were watching t.v one time and when my boyfriend got up to go to the bathroom derek sat on me and took off my shirt and pants and started licking and fingering me and i tried fighting him off but hes alot bigger than i am. i started screaming and my boyfriend came and laughed and joined him. i forgave them and we still hang out and they onyl did it three times after that. so i guess im over it and im still with my boyfriend. but i dont know how to move on. help please. thanks
That's disgusting & completely unacceptable. I can't believe your boyfriend would laugh at that & allow that to happen. Not to mention - I can't believe you are making the dumb decision to still be with him. They are took advantage of you & sexually abused you. If you keep allowing it or just shrugging it off, who knows where this could lead! Goodness, stand up for yourself, leave your boyfriend & put a restraining order on him & his friend. The reason guys take advantage of girls (& continue to do so) these days is because girls allow it to happen. Don't give them the power to do that to you or ANYONE else. It should not be that hard to move on considering the things he has done to you.
16/f.
i liked this guy and he liked me. me n him go to the same school.
we both live "out of zone" for our school and should be going elsewhere.
well, he called me recently and told me that he didnt want a relationship with me because of lacrosse and his grades.
but come to find out, he lied to me and hes going out with one of my friends that goes to the school that we should be going to.
i really liked him and i spent my sweet 16 depressed over him. should i confront him about it? call him and tell him we need to talk? or should i just let it be, seeing as he's been ignoring me lately?
Don't be typical. If he lied to you about not wanting a relationship, he obviously does not care about you or your feelings. At your age, you should not get depressed over ANYONE; they aren't worth getting upset about. You don't need to confront him or give him the time of your day; you'll only look desperate. Accept it & move on to someone who pays attention.
ok so im like thinking of switching schools. i have friends but im just not happy at my school now. im depressed all the time. all the girls are all stuck up and the guys don't like me. but i have a feeling if i switch this next school year i will be a lot happier. what should i do? o plus the school is a 3A high school. and the high school i would go to next year is a 4A. somebody please help.
I was in your position my junior year. I had to switch schools in another state & I hated it. Everyone where I moved was stuck up, I didn't have nearly as many friends as I did at my other school & I honestly thought it was the end of the world. You just have to realize that switching schools won't really solve everything. Yes, it'll make you happier to be with your friends. But the truth is, half of those friends won't even talk to you after high school. You might as well stick with the school you are at. You're at that school to get an education, not to socialize with all your friends - save your social life for after school & on the weekends. If you want to be happy, all you need to do is change your attitude & outlook. Be optimistic about meeting some new people & make some kind of effort. Not everyone at your school is stuck up & hates you. I promise you there are atleast a few people who are willing to be your friend. Moping around & dragging yourself to school with an ugly frown isn't going to get you anywhere. Suck it up, get good grades & make something of yourself there. After high school, you'll realize none of it even mattered & how dumb it was to get so depressed about something so little.
13/f
in my grade im like in the middle in popularity. this year i started becoming really close friends with a girl in a popular group. her birthday is coming up and she invited me to her party with her and just her group. there are 6 of them and including her, i'm friends/aquaintances with 4 of them. she said she would understand because it would be awkward. i'm not sure if i want to go. should i go and risk it being awkward? and what are some ways to make it less awkward and uncomfortable for me?
help is appreciated!!
Whether she's "popular" or not, shouldn't mean anything. No one talks like that or classifies anyone in the REAL world. You might as well quit categorizing people & creating situations in where you would feel "awkward." If you're friends with her, go to her party & have fun. Who cares about stereotypes & whether or not you are going to be awkward with people YOU put above yourself? If you're friends or acquintances with these people, it shouldn't be too uncomfortable. Just be yourself & quit thinking anyone is better than you & that things are going to suck. Have a positive attitude & you'll have fun.
What's the difference between sleeping with someone, and having sex with someone?
Because i was watching The Holiday last night with Cameron Diaz and Jude Law, and they said something like, "We've already had sex once, and slept together twice ..."
I always thought they were the same thing, but i guess not? Help?
It all depends on the context of what is being said. "Having sex" can mean "sleeping with someone", but "sleeping with someone" doesn't always refer to two people having sex. You can physically lie & sleep next to/with someone without having sex - that could be considered sleeping with someone. On the other hand, instead of someone saying "having sex" they will refer to it as "sleeping with someone."
Okay so I'm 13/f and I haven't gotten my period yet. My mom said she got hers when she was 13 too so she thinks I should get it soon. I've been getting a few pimples but not many like one or two.
Can anyone estimate the time I'll be getting it?
...yeah. I'm afraid I'll get it during school and it'll go through my pants and grrrr. D:
You still have a lot of time. There's no way to predict when it will come besides expecting it around the age your mother got it. Just be prepared for it to come. If you're scared you're going to get it during school, put an extra pair of pants & panties in your locker. Also, have some tampons and/or pads on you & in handy. In the meantime, enjoy not having while that time lasts. You're still pretty young, so don't worry; the only time you'd need to worry is if you didn't get by the time you were 17-18.
Is it true that most girls like sex and thinking about it as much as guys do, like they love doing sexual things as much as guys do so if you just ask them they will most likely say yes??
It all depends on the person & what age range you are talking about. Yes, it's stereotypical for a guy to be the one who always thinks about sex. But in all reality, most young women think about it just as much as guys. Girls are just more reserved & not as open about it as guys. So depending on what girls you ask, some may deny it & others aren't afraid to admit it.
how long should they last .
and like
how do i actually give one
how long should it last
and is it wrong to give one in a movie theatre?
sites ?
1.) If he's a newbie at receiving, he will definitely come a lot sooner. It also depends on how good you are at it.
2.) Ask your friends.
3.) See answer to #1.
4.) Yes, it is wrong. It's also very disgusting/trashy to do that. Save that for somewhere private.
i'm best friends with a group of 4 other girls. tonight they are all having a sleepover .. and like i wasnt even invited. they are always bugging me to go out with them, but they never ever tell me about the plans or invite me, they forget or something. i cant stop crying i am always the one left out, i always have been. what should i do?
If they are really your best friends, that's horrible to disclude you. You just need to talk to them as a group & tell them you feel left out. If they're really your friends, they'll care enough to change & include you in their plans. If not, then you need to find a new group of friends who care about you & don't make you feel left out. :)
my boyfriend and i talk during sex sometimes.
is this a bad sign?
as some of you know, sex makes weird sounds as times. is it healthy to laugh at these together?
It's definitely not a bad sign at all. It's great you two are both comfortable enough to be able to talk & laugh together during sex. Actually, it'd be unhealthy if you didn't or were too nervous to do those type of things. :)
So me and my friends we are really good kids... and we have really wanted to do something i dont know "rebellious" so should we?? we were either gunna drink or go get high or something... but i would just be a once in a lifetime thing though. oh and i am 14 by the way
What would be the point? What are you trying to prove? Yes, I believe in trying everything atleast once, but I don't think alcohol & drugs are the way to go. How do you know you're not going to make a habit of it? To me, it just sounds like you're bored with your life & you're choosing the wrong decisions to spice it up. Not only are you making a bad decision, but it only proves you are immature. Yes, you are a child & yes you're going to want to experiment with different things. But there are other ways to get a thrill out of life than choosing to do things simply because they're "rebellious."
do guys like *it* shaved or not. like do guys kno that girls should shave down there? and how do yu make it stop itching? thanks
Each guy will have a different preference. But most guys like it shaved or atleast trimmed/maintained. To prevent it from itching - use a brand new razor everytime & instead of using shaving cream, use baby oil. Then apply lotion to it afterwords.
Do you think it's wrong to take a picture of your boobs for a guy you're not dating?
p.s. I like him. He says he likes me. If that helps.
That would not be a wise decision. Who cares if you like him & he likes you? You aren't dating him & you aren't in a serious relationship to where you can trust him. Have more respect for yourself. Share that stuff with someone you are in a serious relationship with. It just sounds like you're trying too hard and/or just giving yourself away for the attention & to make him like you.
do you think its a dumb idea to go to Goodwell and get jeans?.. i mean i know they have hollister A&F jeans, but for cheaper. i think its a good idea. do you?
Is it dumb? Absolutely not. You're buying the same $100+ jeans, just gently used & much cheaper. You just got to have the patience to look through their stuff to find something decent. So of course it's a good idea. :) If you are having a hard time buying jeans for a decent price, try Wet Seal. I get my jeans there for about $20 & they've always lasted me a long time! :)
im 15 and i need a parent to go with me to get my cartilidge pierced but she cant cause shes sick but she wrote a note giving me permission then signed it..do you need anything else other than an signature like a liscense or lisence number? thank you soo much for answering!
No, in most places that's not enough. The parent needs to be present with an ID. Even with a license number, they aren't going to be able to "run" anything to check on it. & if you brought or showed her license without her present, how do they know it's not just any random ID? Moving along - a piercing can't be that important to get right away. Just wait till she's better & have her take you then.
13/F. This entire school year I have been wearing a 32AA bra. My friends have always made fun of me for my little boobs. Well my mother got me fitted this weekend and according to the people I should be wearing a 32B bra instead. Now they dont look right on me and when I told my friends they didn't believe at all that was my size and even asked me if I stuffed. Im too afraid to wear my new bra cause I think people will believe I stuff or will say mean things about me. I dont like wearing this size bra and im going to my best friends house tonight and she deffinately doesnt believe me. What should I do?
Who cares about other people's opinions? The truth is, you are a size 32B & no matter what anyone thinks or says, it's not changing. Don't get so worked about stuff like that. If people want to judge, then let them. It's all apart of being an adolescent; luckily most people eventually grow out of it.
yeah i know i should drink lots of water.but i love juice is that still okay to drink if im trying to lose weight and i drink power-aid are thoughs alright to drink
Yes, it's fine to drink lots of juice if it's 100% juice & doesn't have a bunch of sugar in it. Drinks like Poweraid & Gatoraide are good, but only in moderation (like everything else.) Try to keep it to a minimum because, although they keep you hydrated, they also have a lot of sugar.
how can you make him become a better kisser without hurting his feelings? seriously this kidis really bad at it yet hes completly perfect at everything else. help!
He'll become a GOOD kisser the more practice you give him, trust me! Just give it time & he'll get the hang of it. How well he kisses shouldn't be something you need to worry about if he is perfect at everything else. :)
how do i look my boobs look bigger? without plastic surgery, or anything like that. How do you stuff your bra without making it look obvious. Thanks.
Honey, don't stuff your bra. There are other non-desperate solutions to enhancing your boobs other than "stuffing" them. Try a push up and/or padded bra & don't wear dark colors.
why does my ex keep fingering me and wanting to french kiss me
Because you're allowing him to use you....