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Q: ok, there's this guy who i am really trying to get over, but its not working very well. i really like him and he's sending mixed signals, flirting with other girls, but he flirts with me and is like all over me all the time. anyways, i'm trying to get over him but i'm not having any luck. i've tried avoiding him, but he will come up and start flirting, which doesn't help at all. how do i get over him?? HELP!!

I just gotta say this, no matter what he says or does, as long as he keeps flirting with other girls, he does not like you. Everytime he trys to flirt with you, just roll your eyes and walk away. Don't keep letting him think you like him by standing and talking to him.
To get over him- Just try and think of other things, and push him to the back of your mind. Maybe instead of thinking of him, you could go see a movie or something. Good Luck!

Q: Ok so i recently signed up for myspace and have been going through old yearbooks and i ran into this girl i knew in junior high (im 18/m now) so i sent her a message saying she probably doesnt remember me but i went to school with her and just wanted to say whats up. she responded saying she doesnt remember me and im at a loss for how to respond. i was thinking of saying soemthing like "ok well i cant say im not disappointed but i didnt really expect you to remember me, if you ever wana talk about how much the school sucked or anything like that feel free to message me" but i was wondering if soemthing else maybe better. should i try to job her memory? should i reply with "oh well no big deal" or is there a even better response i have yet to think off? responses asap would be best. oh and not saying that romance is the last thing on my mind in this situation but it really isnt the reason, we were fairly good friends back then and i just wanted to get back in touch with her. thanks all for your help.

Try to make her understand who you are. If you guys were friends, she should know who you are after a couple hints. If you still want to talk to her and she doesn't know who you are, just ask her how her life has been going.

Q: my friend is a senior and wants me to go to prom. well she found us dates and she didnt tell me but they are gay. and both of those guys are goin out. i mean what if he dont wanna go to me and is like all over his boyfriend what should i do?

If he is all over his boyfriend there is really nothing you can do about it. Be mad at your friend though for hooking you up with a gay guy.

Q: Okay, all day..randomly I start sweating, and my bra gets soaked, so the bottom of my boobs stink..and the whole day it's wet there, and it raelly gets annoying. I've tried bringing two bras to school, and it doesn't really help. I use deodarant, everything. Please help me?

P.S. I'm wayy overweight, so my boobs are the size of china. I know this is part of the effect, but I don't sweat on my face or anything..just my chest and armpits. Help?

Try a stronger deodorant and wear looser shirts. If this don't work, a doctor can normally perscribe something to reduce sweating.

Q: Me and my boyfriend have been together 1-year-4-months today AND well we have not done ANYTHING sexual. well i want to lead on to start doing sexual things but i don't know how. can you guys explain your first times or how you lead on to doing sexual things for the first time
thanks-
confused..

Well...I dont have a first time to tell you about (sorry). I think you should ask him if he is ready, because if he's not ready, you would be wasting your time worrying about how to lead him on. Just give him little hints...

Q: both of my ears only have one pericing, and i want to make alot of other peircings myself but im a little scared and i kinda, dont know how to do it. i want to do my cartiladge on the top and another hole by my first hole on the lobe. but i want to get an industrial (its like a bar that stars at your cartilage and ends somewhere on the bottom somewhere, im getting that professionay done if i have the guts) so i dont know if thats going to interfere with my peircings. i wanna do it myself but im not sure what teh steps are. does anyone know how/have experience? or are there any sites with pictures and explanations for me (someone who is realy slow). ive never done anything like this before and any info would be great! thanks!

I would not do it by yourself. You could mess it up so much. But...if you want to, then fine. Just ice your ear (alot), draw a dot where you want it to go, and jus stab a needle through.

Q: my best friend and i like the same guy. she knew i liked him and still is going to the dance with him. he would have gone with me but my friend told him mean stuff about me. i tell him she is lying but he doesn't believe me. i want to dance with him but i don't know how to ask. how should i? and what should i do?

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You should be mad at your friend right now. How could a "best friend" do that to you? You should tell him that SHE isn't worth it, and just see how he reacts. Its hard to dance with someone when he doesn't trust you.

Q: I have a bestfriend. We fighted today and my bestfriend went to this person. I have known this person for as long as i have known ny bestfriend. This person was saying to break up with me. My bestfriend said no. This person thinks i am mean and everything. This person is trying to break me and my bestfriend up. Also this person is in a couple of my classes with my bestfriend and i am not going to change classes. What should i do?

If your bestfriend is a TRUE bestfriend, she will not leave because of what this person thinks. Just try to ignore the bitch as best as you can, and if your bestfriend stays with her, she wasn't really worth it.

Q: Hello!! I hope ya'll can help me! I'm sorr its so long but its a long story!! Okay here is my scenario. My birthday was at the end of January, and my boyfriend had already been planning our Valentine's date. He asked me if it would be alright if he gave me my birthday gift along with my Valentine's gift because it would make it easier on him, so of course i told him yes. Well, On Saturday (which was our Valentine's day because i had to work Monday) he took me to dinner, then he blindfolded me and took me to... a hotel. BUT before you judge, it was very romantic. He had his friends come and light the candles he had set up EVERYWHERE and rosepedals, the whole deal. And we had planned to have sex for our first time, not necessarily then but we had stopped ourselves a couple of times because we wanted to wiat until it would be special. Which this was. Okay, well moving on, besides all of this, he didn't get me like flowers or a bear or even a card. I spent like $70 on him with gifts and whatnot. But i wasn't too mad because i assumed he had sent me a carnation at school (Our school has sales where you can buy a carnation for someone for V-Day and writea message and then we got them on Monday 9*) Well i of course sent him one, and i waited but he never sent me one. I went to his house after work and i brought over peanut butter heart shaped cookies (His fav!) and still nothing. This made me really mad because he didn't even get me a stinkin carnation!! I got pretty upset and left. Now am i overreacting? I mean he did spend money on me but i'm the type of person who appreciates little things like a flower or a box of choc, he didn't have to go buy a hotel or anything, i just wanted a carnation :( Lol, AND he still hasn't given me anything for my birthday!! Shouldi be mad?

I think you really need to calm down. Be happy that he actually tryed. Most guys would NEVER think of that. Did you ever think that maybe the hotel room cost money too? You shouldn't be mad at him for not getting you anything, you should be mad at yourself for being so materialistic.

Q: I like this guy SO much i'm HELLA sprung off of him. I haven't really told anyone because he's not really the type of guy that you can be boyfriend and girlfriend with. He's a playah, a BIG one!! I know so many girls he's done stuff with, including me. He moves from girl to girl then back to the other girl then to another girl, all the time. I know he's just using girls and he's probably just using me too, just i like him so much. I always have this little feeling that maybe he likes me. (probably not though) A lot of people have told me he does, but well he does these things with everyone. I want to know if he likes me or not but I don't really want him to know that I like him cause if he finds out and doesn't like me back then what if he won't do stuff with me anymore, well, when i still wanna do stuff.ahah i'm so confused!! I just want advice on how to find out if he likes me or if i should just forget about him. Although if i forget about him can we still do "things"?? sry this was so long and/or confusing.

You are getting played! He does not like you. In fact, every other girl he is playing right now probably feels the same way. Just get over him, your gonna end up getting hurt. You can't get with a playa, he will....just play you like he's doing now. Think about what your saying though. You like him, and want to keep doing things with him even though he does it with everyone else too? Thats the way HIV gets spread.

Q: ok i have to tell you the first part of the stroy...my best friend and her boyfriend hooked me up with his best friend Blake well me and Blake talked for awhile and he was suppose to ask me out on V-day well the saturday he went back to his ex...and we have no idea why...
well last night Steve called me again with another guy...which happens to live up the street from me and happens to be another best friend (there like a crue of 4guys) well i was like ok i'll give this one a shot...my best friend things he will be better than Blake was and that i should go for it...i'm kind of scared of getting screwed over again...but the other guy Steve and my best friend they all said that everything will be ok...
do you think i should believe them and give this guy a shot?

I think you should believe them, I mean, they are your best friends. Just because one thing doesn't go well doesn't mean nothing else will. Give him a shot...whats there to loose?

Q: i have a naturally quiet voice, especially when singing, any advice on how to sing louder? i have to sing in fron of judges ina couple weeks and thats one thing i would like to work on

Just try to open your mouth a bit more and act like your in a crowded room and need to yell (sing) to be heard...it worked for my friend who needed to do the same thing.

Q: I have this problem with my singing. Im told by a few people that i am pretty good and all.. but i somehow dont have enough confidence in myself compared to a lot of othre people in my chorus. My music teacher is always cracking jokes on me about thank god that he doesnt have to hear my solo anymore and what not... But when I talk to him personally he tells me that if he didnt think that I was good then he wouldnt have chosen me for all county and all this stuff... and that i just need to work on my musicianship and all.. But somehow i am extremly confused... can someone help me figure this whole thing out?
I rate!
-Confused-

Your teacher is a jerk. Thats the end of that. But, to get more confidence, try singing in front of your family. If that bugs you, than just try singing infront of your mirror. It may feel wierd, but it would help alot. Maybe try recording your singing and play it back to see what you have to work on.

Q: ok, so i like have this guy friend... and i like really like him alot, more than a friend. Last night i went over to his house with my best friend and he invited her crush over too... it was weird because like for a half an hour they kept asking us who we liked... if it was someone else i probubly would have told them... but now they are going to keep bugging us and i usually crack under that kinda pressure.. but i cant crack this time because im afraid it would be weird... and he wont like me as a friend anymore... because he doesnt feel the same. what should i do.. i mean im not like pretty.. im not ugly... im not popular.. im not a geek... but i dont think that he will feel the same and i dont know if i should tell him...
should i...
[a] not tell him and say i dont like anyone
[b] tell him and possibly kill our friendship
[c] stop talking to him
[d] try to see if he likes me first

which one.. or do u have a diff suggestion..
plz i need help
sry if this is like wayyy too long but i really am confused and it would be great if u helped

thankz a billionz

I would try to turn the tables around and ask HIM who he likes. Normally when they keep bugging you about who you like, it means they like you too. I would choose D first, but if that won't work...go for it! It may change the friendship, but its worth the risk.

Q: Does anyone know any great sites where I can find very very very very funny jokes or comics so I can get a good laugh?

gotlaughs.com
liquidgeneration.com

Q: i have to memorize a sonnet for my english class and i am having a horrible time. i've tried making flash cards, recording it and listening to it, but nothing i'm doing seems to work. do y'all have any advice on how to memorize (if you need to see it, it's shakespeare's sonnet #148). thanks so much!!

I think you should get notecards and just keep reading it in front of a mirror over and over again until you memorize it. Or just write it on the back of your hand

Q: Okay. Well I like this guy but I have never met him. My friend has though. It's still weird though, likeing someone I have never met, but I really do like him. I dont know what i should do. Should I like him? Or am i just being weird? We talk alot. On the phone and on the internet. And its not like hes just some random person i know nothing about. He's friends with one of my good friends. It wouldnt be hard to go and meet him. But i just dont know if i should like him right now.

I think its okay to like him, I mean, you DO talk to him and know his name right? Liking him is not that big of a deal, being obsessed with him and wanting to know what he is doing 24/7 is not good.

Q: ok, there's this guy. i've liked this guy for a really long time, since like the 2nd or 3rd week since school started. we liked eachother for a while, but he liked this other girl to. finally, we decided to try the whole "going out" thing. that only lasted for 2 days. he broke it off and i was really sad. we didn't talk for a long time after that. but i had never REALLY stopped liking him, i would say that i didn't but i really did. just recently, we started talking alot more. we've been flirting alot and he acts like he likes me, but i don't know if he does. before we started talking, he would always be really mean and hurtful to me. but i still liked him. now, since he's nicer to me, i've sort of started recognizing my feelings. my friends think i'm crazy because he was so mean to me. i've tried to get over him but nothing works. and i don't know what to do because he acts lik he likes me but he flirts with other girls ALL THE TIME, mostly in front of me. I can't stop liking him and i don't know why. how do i tell if he likes me and should i take him back if he does like me??

He does not like you, its so obvious. If he was ignorant to you AND flirts with other girls right infront of you, he don't like you. What he IS trying to do is see how many people he can get to like him; and your probably the 1st person on his list. Just don't think about him as much anymore and you should be ok.
If he does happen to like you, don't get back with him. You will just end up on square 1 again.

Q: My best friends brother likes me and i told him I would give him blow job and now Im not really sure if I want to? please help me decide if i should or not

I wasnt sure what to put this under

You told him you would do that without knowing if you wanted to or not? Thats a bad idea to begin with. But you do not want to give him a blow job since you arent sure.
If you're not sure if you want to do something; do not make promises you can't keep.

Q: I'm in 8th grade and haven't really thought about this guy much..i've just noticted him. He keeps on telling me that this other guy is flirting with me, but the other guy hardly talks to me. maby eits a joke. I'm starting to like this guy though. I sit next to him in computers, but I don't know what to talk about anymore. We used to talk and laugh all the time. I really want him to ask me out. How do I lead him on?

You cannot get a guy to ask you out by just sitting there. Just start talkin to him again. Why did you stop talkin to him in the first place? Anyways, you should just start talking to him like you use to.

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