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what are you suposed to do once you have a boyfriend?

Aww how exciting you have a boyfriend! Well, how old are you? I mean the basic stuff is like hold hands, go on dates (like go to the movies), hang out with each other, talk on the phone all the time, and get to know each other like REALLY well, like become best friends!, etc.. I hope this helps and good luck with your boyfriend hun!! If you need more help, just post a message in my inbox!

xoxo Kourtney

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how do you go about asking a girl out?

Well, if you haven't already, get to know her first and see if you like her. But, if you already know her, get her number if you already haven't and talk to her. And once you talk to her on the phone, just be like "You know, we've talked for awhile now and I like what I see and I just want to know if you would go out with me" Just say something like that, don't just be like "Hey be my girlfriend" lol. I mean be sweet and nice about it. If you already know that she likes you, if you want to be romantic, you can bring a rose to her (when you two are hanging out) and say "Will you be my girlfriend?" Just do something like that. Or, if the girl isn't really about all romance, just take her to a movie and just say "Will you go out with me?" There's many ways to ask a girl out, just depends on how the girl is, like her personality, is she romantic or what? If this didn't really help you, just tell me about the girl or whatever and I'll try to help you out as best as I can. I hope this helps and good luck hun! Tell me how it goes!

xoxo Kourtney

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I know how you feel being used by guys etc. I don't trust anyone and i try not to get too close to new people because i dont want to be hurt anymore. I think all guys just want sex and are cheaters. I dont want to ever get close to anyone... that sounds really bad doesnt it?

Aww, sweetie, I know how you feel, but you're going to have to trust some people in your life. Not all boys are liars and cheaters and just want sex, just some guys out there are. You're just going to have to get to know them awhile and see if you can trust them and thats the hardest part, learning to trust them. But, I know how you feel when you say you don't like to get too close to people because you don't want to be hurt anymore, I feel that way all the time sometimes. But, you just have to put your head up high and be positive. Not everyone is going to betray your trust or hurt you, some people out there will. People who forget about you, wasn't suppose to be in your life evidently. But, getting hurt, unfortantly, is part of life, thats the hard part, but getting hurt only makes you stronger in the end. I know, it sucks getting hurt, but it does make you stronger. I'm not saying go out there and trust everyone you meet, you're just going to have to get to know them and see if you can trust them or not, it's going to be hard, but just keep your head up high and be positive. Alright sweetie? Well, if you need to talk about anything, just post a message in my inbox!

xoxo Kourtney

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how can i make sure that my girlfriend that lives 300 miles awya will never wanna leave me?

Aww hun, no one really knows the answer to that kind of question. I wish we did because than we would know if our relationship would last long or not. That's the sucky part of it all. But, if she says she won't leave you and you trust her alot, then maybe she won't leave you. Maybe try talking to her about it and telling her how you feel and that you're scared that she's going to leave you, she can tell you how she feels about that too and maybe cheer you up and make you feel better. Just keep the relationship strong and trust her and stuff and things should be fine. I hope this helps and made you feel alittle bit better. If you need anymore help, just post a message in my inbox. Good luck with your girlfriend sweetie!

xoxo Kourtney

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Okay so here's the deal. There is this guy at school who i have liked for a little while..So today i talked to him for the first time in a while and he was pretty quiet and so was I. He told a friend of mine he would ask me out if he got to know me better. My first question is..since we are both pretty shy is there a chance of this happening, secondly what could I talk to him about because i get nervous..thanks :-)

Just be yourself. I mean, just take a deep breathe and relzx. Pretend like he's just of your friends, just one of the guys. And just be yourself, you wouldn't want him to fall for someone you're not. But, just ask little questions and keep holding a conversation and I'm sure he'll do the samething. Once you guys start talking alittle bit more, you guys will get more comfortable with each other. Maybe give him your number or something. Like when you two are talking, be like "Hey call me sometime!" and then give him your number. Maybe try having a friend come with you while you talk to him so you'll be more comfortable. Bring that friend he told that if he got to know you better he would ask you out. I hope this helps and if you still need help, just post a message in my inbox! Good luck hun!

xoxo Kourtney

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aw wow! i can totally relate to the guy using me. i didnt believe in love either and i liked this guy soo much and he used me for sex.. i cant trust anybody anymore and he totally reuined my veiw on life. yeah.. i just wanted to say sorry that that had to happen to you because i know how hard it is! good luck with your mom!
:o)

Aww hun, you're so sweet!! I'm so sorry about that guy, I can't believe he would do that to you, you seem so sweet! Guys, can be jerks sometimes, but you'll find him sooner or later, you just have to think positive. And I can totally relate on what you said, he ruined a lot of things for me too. And thanks about my mom! If you need anything, I'm here for ya!! =D THANKS AGAIN!! That put a BIG smile on my face haha!

xoxo Kourtney

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what do u do when u hav a huge crush on a boy that you would die for and it turns that he's moving and he likes you what should i do or say?

Tell him how you feel, I mean atleast you guys got it out in the open. I mean, even if you guys don't want to have a long distance relationship atleast you two know how you felt about each other. You guys can turn out to be best friends then. Just tell him something like "Even though you're moving, I just wanted to tell you that I like you and even if we can't have a long distance relationship, I thought maybe having a friendship, like a good one, would be good for the both of us.." just say something like that and talk to him about it and stuff and just get everything out. Tell him how you feel and stuff, he may feel the same way. I hope this helps and if you still need help, just post a message in my inbox!! Good luck hun!

xoxo Kourtney

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ok well theres this one kid who i really like n liek we both liked eachtoher n we hooked up a few times but now he likes this other grl too . .so that what he tells me n like now we dont really hang out nemore n he goes to a different school n he tould me that he didnt like how we go to different schools but we both live in the same town n he drives too so that doesnt make a difference to me but neways i really like him so what can i do to get him to like me more so lke we can maybe go out n stuff!!!! please!!! help me ill rate good!!

All you can do is be yourself. He may (I don't know) say that he likes another girl to see how far you will go to get him, if you know what I mean. Guys are like that, atleast some of them. But, just be yourself and flirt with him alot. Hint to him that you like him. I mean, what did you do before that got him to like you in the beginning, try doing that again. But the number one rule is to ALWAYS be yourself. Not saying that you're not, but just saying lol. Just be like "We never hang out anymore, I really miss that, we should go see a movie sometime or go somewhere" Just say something like that, so you two can talk again and once he sees you, maybe he'll realize what he's missing out on. I hope this helps and if you still need help, just post a message in my inbox. Good luck hun!

xoxo Kourtney

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hey, im 15 n i been wit my man for like 3 months now n i love him but we fight all tha time about little stupid stuff he always apoligizes like "baby im sry i didnt mean to hurt or yell at u" but its like tha same thing over n over n everyone thinks he treatz me like shit but i don't i guess.. i know i love him but idk if we're right for each other anymore. i feel like i have to stay with him because he's helped me through a lot of things. i really don't wanna lose him tho. but there is this other guy too that i like but ya mean idk what to do...? please help =(

Hey. Well, if you don't like fighting with him all the time. Maybe you guys will be better off as just really good friends. Because that seems like thats what you kind of what because it looks like you're having second thoughts on this boy. Just break it to him easily, just be like "We've been together for 3 months and we fight all the time over stupid stuff, I hate fighting with you, I know you don't mean to hurt me or yell at me because you tell me all the time, which I appreciate, but I think we would just be better off as just REALLY good friends. Because I still need you in my life, you've been there for me through a lot and I don't want to lose you..." Just say something like that and how you feel. As for this other boy you like, just get to know him and stuff. Don't go out with him right away because that won't look too good since you just broke up with your boyfriend (if you know what I mean lol). I hope this helps and good luck hun! Tell me how it goes. If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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ok i like this guy...we hardly talk anymore and i am REALLY REALLY shy around guys i like i dont talk!!!
Plz help me and tell me how to ge thim to like me and ask me out!!!!
plz ur best answer!
thank you

Just pretend like you're talking to one of your friends, like you don't even like them like that because you have to be yourself around the guy so they dont like someone you're not. I'm sure the guy will strike up a conversation once you get one started. Just be like "Hey, my names _____ whats yours?" or you could say "Hey" to them and just ask them how they've been and stuff. Or, if you're really shy and don't think you can do that. Just take a friend or two up with you and maybe that will calm you down, but make sure you talk alittle bit more than they do. But, before you go up to the guy you like, just take a couple of breathes and relax and you can do it. Just be postitive. I hope this helps and good luck hun! You'll be okay! If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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sry i alwayz ask u questions lol but i wanted to kno how can u be sexy...while being tall and not lookin like a slut?
plz give me ur best advice!
thanks sooo much!

LOL! No, it's fine! I don't mind if people ask me questions, thats what I'm here for! =D Well, I guess just don't act like one (if you know what I mean). Like, don't walk around acting like you're all that, that you know you're gorgeous and you know guys like you. Just be yourself. I mean don't wear clothes that are revealing. I mean but that's usually the problem. Like, I know this girl who is so sweet and she wears like short skirts and stuff so people automatically think she's a slut, when she really isn't. So, just be yourself and dress how you want is all I can really say. I hope this helps and if you still need help, just post a message in my inbox!

xoxo Kourtney

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i asked you this question...I like this guy whos in 8th grade...im inn 7th and he lives like 5 house down from me really close! oVER THE SUMMER I GOT TO KNO HIM A LIL BETTER BUT DURING THE SKOOL YR I HARDLY SEE HIM.(sry about the caps) i want to go out wit him but i wanted to kno some things to talk to him about to pick up a convo wit him. Any HelP?
what i meant was how can i just bring up small talk wit him?....
i like him and i want to get closer so we can move to better things!
plz help and give me ur best advice!
thanks soo much!

AHH! Alright, I understand now. I hope! Sorry! Alright, hmm I gotta think about this. lol. You could just be like, what I said before "I miss hanging out with you, we never do anymore!" or you could be like "Hey! I haven't talked to you in awhile, how have you been?" or you could ask like "So how is school going? Do you like your classes?" or you could be like "What are you doing this weekend? We should hang out!" just say stuff like that. Just ask him simple questions that may lead to a long conversation! ;) I hope this helps and good luck sweetie! If you still need help, just post another message in my inbox!

xoxo Kourtney

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Evn though this sounds weird...any tips on how to b a good kisser? (i havent kissed a boy yet but i soon will!)

You should just follow his lead and stuff. Like if he goes fast, you should go fast or if he goes slow, you go slow. But, you can like kind of nibble on his lower lip (but not hard) or you could like spell out your name or something on his tongue. Just be creative like that. I hope this helps and remember practice makes perfect. Good luck and have fun! If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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I like this guy whos in 8th grade...im inn 7th and he lives like 5 house down from me really close! oVER THE SUMMER I GOT TO KNO HIM A LIL BETTER BUT DURING THE SKOOL YR I HARDLY SEE HIM.(sry about the caps) i want to go out wit him but i wanted to kno some things to talk to him about to pick up a convo wit him. Any HelP?

Do you mean like a conversation on how you two could go out? Or what do you mean? Just be like "yea, we got pretty close during the summer but now that school has started, we barely talk anymore, I really miss that, we should hang out more.." say something like that or you could just be like "so who do you like?" or just talk to him about everything, flirt with him and stuff, and just give him hints that you like him and stuff. I hope this helps and if you still need help, just post a message in my inbox. Because I don't know if I understand this question completely, if I didn't I'm sorry! Good luck!

xoxo Kourtney

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i just got a new horse and i broke my arm what do you think i should do.

Aww, thats sad I'm sorry =( Sadly, the best thing for you to do, is just wait til your arm heals, so you don't do anymore damage to it. And once it's better you can ride again. I'm sure that's what your doctor and parents would say. I hope you get better sweetie! Hope this helps, if you need help with anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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There's this kid i like and i don't know if he likes me back but i dont want to talk about it to him and lose our friendship b.c he feels weird around me. and well hes 2 years older than me and he thinks im cute. so basically idk if he likes me like that or not. Well he just asked me for a girls sn named kelly, shes not pretty at all and she likes him too but we arent that goo of friends where i can tell her that i really like this kid so back off..lol...umm what do i do about this i mean kelly's cool and i want to be her friend, i want this kid badly lol hes perfect, how can i flirt with him or get him?

You could try talking to Kelly and telling her whats up. Just be like "Hey ____ wants your screen name, he just wants to talk to you. But, can I tell you something without you telling him?....Well, I like him and I'm not trying to be mean or anything, I just don't want you stealing him away from me or anything." Just say something like that to her. And for the boy, just flirt with him, be like "aww you're so cute!" stuff like that, like give him hints that you like him. And if it still doesn't work, you should try writing him an email and just basically be like "I just want to tell you something, so please don't be weird around me now and I promise this won't ruin our friendship. I know you're two years older than me and stuff, but that's only two years. I've been trying to give you hints, but you seemed to not of noticed. But, I like you and I just want to know how you feel about me..." Just say something like that. I hope this helps and good luck hun. Tell me how it goes. And if you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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i am really shy escaspeailly (i kno i spelled it wrong) around boys i like. i feel like i am gonna say the wrong thing! so i hardly talk!!! Please help me out!!!

Before you go up to the boy you like, just take a deep breathe and be yourself. I mean, don't be someone you're not because you don't want the boy to like someone you're not. Just act as if he's one of your guy friends. Just take like 3 deep breathes before you go up to him. And just hold a conversation with him and he should talk to you too and hold a conversation with you. Just stay confident and you can do it. Give it some time before you're a pro at it! ;) lol. You could always take a friend with you (so you're more comfortable) and go talk to him. I hope this helps and good luck hun! If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox!

xoxo Kourtney

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hey,
i am really shy can u give me some examples of flirting i am bad at that!(flirting help for a shy young teen)
thanks
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Hey!! Hmm, well when you're talking to him, just giggle at the things he says and smile at him. Give him that look like "aww you're cute" lol. Kind of like hit him (not hard though, just that playful hit) and then he'll probably like hit you back (playfully), once he knows you're flirting with him, he usually does it right back to you. I hope this helps and have fun flirting!! =P Good luck hun! If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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Ok my X boyfriend has a gf and she a friend of mine, and i thought i really didnt like my X ne more but last night i found out that he gave her a huge hicky, and i got really jelous..i didnt feel like this b4 becuz i thot nothing would ever happen between them becuz he told me like a month ago he would never do that cuz he didnt really like her and he still liked me..but now i dont know what is happening?? some one please help!

lol, its okay hun, I knew what you ment to spell. I think he's trying to get you jealous if he's telling you that he still likes you and he doesn't really like you. You should try talking to him and telling him whats up. Just be like "You tell me that you still like me and that you really don't like her, but then I find out you gave her a HUGE hickey. I thought I was over, but I guess I'm not and I'm just wanting to know whats up with everything..." Just say something like that and how you feel and stuff. I hope this helps and good luck hun! If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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my bestfriend and her boyfriend have been dating for 10 months now and they are both 15. my boyfriend is bestfriends with him and told me that he said they were thinking about having sex. i know that i cant do anything to stop her but its just that she has always said she wanted to wait until she was married. she wont do it unless he uses a condom but im just worried about her and i feel like she may be pressured into something she doesnt want to do because it doesnt sound like her. what can i do?

All you can do is try to talk to her. Not necessarily telling her she can't do it. But, just talking to her about it. After all, she is your best friend, you guys can talk about that. But, just be like "I know you've guys been dating for 10 months and don't get me wrong, I think thats great and I'm so happy for you. But, I heard you're thinking about having sex with him and you'll only do it with him if he uses a condom. Thats great that you'll only do that if he uses a condom. But, I always thought you wanted to wait til marriage..." And just talk to her about that and then be like "But, I also don't want you to feel like you're pressured into having sex with him because you don't have to if you don't want to. But, I just wanted to talk to you about this..." Just say something like that and just talk to her about it. I hope this helps and good luck hun! If you need anymore help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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