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Hi my name is Lee Ann. I am 29 years old and Graduated from Bethany college obtaining a bachelors of music. I am a happily married woman with two kids, ages3 and 2. I currently have six books out on the market, all of which can be found on amazon. The first is called The Leaf: One fallen heart and a burning desire, my second is called Avengement of Glory, my third is called Spiral of Enlightenment, fourth one is called Prodigy of the Immortal, fifth one is called Augment in the Realm of Darkness, and my sixth novel is called Bond in the Spiritual Heart. I started this advice column to see if I could give good advice. Turns out I am pretty good, better than I thought actually. I enjoy seeing people smile when I give them good advice and they use it. It makes me feel better as a person to help people. I want to make the world a better place and I think that starting an advice column is the right way to begin. Writing is a huge part of my life, without it, I wouldn't be able to function properly. After seven years, I think I have done pretty well as an advice columnist.
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Hello im 18/f i want to start working out and eating healthier. The thing is i cant find motivation to work out! I keep saying im going to but i dont want to, and i know i need to. I cant set any goals because i dont care to meet them but i really do want to work out just need the extra push i guess. The main thing i want to do it tone my legs and my stomach a little bit. Im 5'6 and 140lbs. Im not fat i just want to tone up and become healthier. I noticed im getting cellulite on my legs. Also stretch marks are a problem for me i was in cheerleading and i worked out so much i got massive stretch marks on my thighs. Is there any way to prevent that. Any certain excercises you would recommend?
Cocoa butter helps with the stretch marks and cellulite. The thing with exercising is you need to something that is fun such as riding a bike, looking at the scenery when you go by. Its all about enjoying yourself while doing. Another thing you could do is yoga or metation to keep you relaxed. Alot of people gain weight from the stress they endure, meditating is a way for you to keep balance. Eat 5 meals a day, 3 large meals and two snacks in between such as a banana or granola bar. The trick is not to set a goal that is to high to meet. Start out slow and workyou way up. For example, ride a bike or whatever you want to do for 10 minutes a day then the next week increase it. If it is something simple or doesn't take much time, you are more likely to do it. Once you get into a routine, you can increase the amount of time you do it.
I took a test at a phiciatrists' office, and it said I was insane. Actually insane. They said I should get "help" but I won't. Do I really need help? NO! I'm insane, mabye even crazy, but I will NOT get "help." Any @ home things I can do?
First off, those tests are not completely accurate. You can't determine a person's status or life through a piece of paper. Everything has flaws. A way to deal with any anxity you may feel is doing something to keep your mind off things. For example to get my frustration out I clean, cook, sew, write or play music, and write books. Writing is a great way to express your feelings in a healthy way. Also some people like to go on walks, exercise, listen to music, or read a good book. You are not insane and unless you are hrting anyone, I wouldn't worry about it.
for christmas along with a present im gona try and make my boyfriend a cd. i can do singing, guitar and piano for it by just recording each seprately and overlapping them. i taught myself how to do all three and im not good but im not bad. he loves metal music and pink floyd and journey type music so i wont do too girly of a song but maybe like parachute or evanescence? im 15 and a girl with a lower but not to low girl voice. what are some bands and songs that my voice could better match?
The thing with evanescence is she sings really high so if you have a mediu low voice then you will ruin your voice singing in a range you don't belong in. Lacuna Coil is a good band for your voice range. If you want to do some songs that are a low range of evanescence then my immortal would be a perfect fit.
19-female. I think I made a mistake and I honestly don't know how I can fix it. So i'm going to say first off - don't tell me not to do anything, etc. I am 19 years old, I do make good decisions but I just need advice on one thing! So please just answer the question without the preaching. :) I'll return the favor since it may be long ..Thanks!!
So i've had a crush on my friend for about 3 years now. He's honestly the only guy that I can trust. Me and him, we're both attractive to each other, its apparent and we have messed around before if you want to call it that, he's felt me up before .. we flirt nonstop like physically we just have fun with each other but about two years ago is when he first tried really getting with me, like going down my pants and I was like woooaah, it just caught me off guard and so I didn't let him because that was just my first instinct. Me and him basically talk about sex all the time, well when we text it occasionally gets thrown in there somehow! and he's the one who usually brings it up but I feel like he only thinks i'm a tease but i'm not. I was talking to my friend about it and I was like seriously, I NEED him like sexually .. I want to have sex with him and I know he would do it with me but I don't know how to bring it up. She was like... just text him and say FU*K ME!! But I just can't see myself doing that?? And I don't know if he would take me seriously either, because he doesn't think i'd go through with it but I WOULD. What should I do?? How would you go about it? What can I text him saying that would be hot/sexy and make it known that I really do want him?? I can't stop thinking about it..
The first step is admitting that you feel this way so you are on the right track. Texting him head on will make you uncomfortable, him, and the experience worse than it should be. You want to text him and say you want to hang out. Preferably a place you feel the most calm and comfortable. When you are together sort of touch him and laugh. He wants even more because you are resisting, in a mans mind, the harder to get, the more playful the game. What you are doing is completely perfect. Now that you have played hard to get, you want to snap the trap and stay in control. You don't want to throw yourself at him because it may make him want to leave but gradually ease into the transition. Put your hand on his leg, sit cose to him, look deep into his eyes, and sometimes slowly look away because that will make him want to look at you. Once you have done this for awile, he will kiss you, and if he doesn't then make the first move. And if also if he doesn't catch on, say things like "what do u think of women who make the first move?"; he will say something like "love it" and then you would kiss. Its all about control, confidence, and staying cool and calm. If you remember these things, you will be set to go.
My mom was vacuuming when suddenly the power was gone and she told me to come in and I thought that she couldn't vacuum her room because the light bulbs in her room went out and needed changing. But the vacuum won't work either so it's not that. And my brother's room (across from hers) has no power either and the electrical outlet (between his room and hers) isn't working because that's where she plugged the cord for the vacuum in.
Weird. My sister's room and my room are fine (though my internet is running slow because it's on the default network; the Wireless is in my brother's room and since nothing works in his room...).
Maybe I've been watching too many horror movies but has this ever happened before and is there a possible explanation or a way to fix this? Thank you.
Yes, when a circuit blows out, sometimes only certain fuses blows out. Some outlets will work while others are completely destroyed. The same thing happened in our new house that we bought. We ended up having to go to loans and replace some of the wiring in the basement because certain ones were completely dead while others were still intact. The sooner you do this the better because although the wiring is dead, it can still shoot electricity out and cause a fire.
my boyfriend and i are both 18. he's the lead in our school play this year and he has to kiss another girl. it's killing our relationship. i've never been the jealous type, but this has been so hard for some reason. we've been together a year and we're really serious. i was the first girl he kissed. he keeps telling me it doesn't mean anything. i trust him with all my heart, but is there anything i can do to help with this? i'm sure lots of people have been in this situation. what did you do to cope? i'm the stage assistant so i have to see it quite often. he's incredible. i love him and trust him, but it's hard not to hate the other girl at the same time. i'm trying so hard to be good but something inside me breaks every time i see it. help please.
The way to deal with this is by not thinking of it as a kiss but something that has to be done to draw the audience. Also, I told myself that he was a good actor and that is all the kiss was. I know that being a stage manager demands alot so try to avoid thinking about it by always keeping busy. Even if you are helping someone else with their job, it helps relax the tension and keeps your mind off of what you really want to think about. Last item, just tell yourself that this other girl probably has low self-esteem and this is probably the only kiss she will ever have. Even if this isn't true, it made my subconcious feel better.
Club volleyball costs $1,500 dollars. And that doesnt even include the additional stuff like booking in hotels, paying for food during tournies, and apparel (aside from uniforms). But it lasts from November til June so its a good deal, too.. I think. Not like I have a choice, anyways.
SO, I need to fundraise or something to make money! What should I do? Im gonna rake leaves today, and then bake a cake and give people samples so that if they want it I'll make their own cakes and make a profit. Also put up babysitting ads around my neighborhood sometime next week. But the main thing is that I have to make like actually $850 of the money by Sunday. Help! When I rake leaves I'm also gonna ask if people can donate.. cause I really love vball but its been hard on my family right now but i just cant quit!! my life would be ruined if i had to hah. so yeah, help guys!!!!!
I even made a Chipin page if you want to donate (I'll love you if you do!)
http://missionvolleyball.chipin.com/club-volleyball-fee
Im 15 btw!!!
car washes are a huge hit, bake sales, year sales of anything your family doesn't need (this actually can help make about 200 in a couple of hours), housing like painting, cleaning, etc.
what are some good bands or songs that are by a boy band like faber drive, stereos, or like justin beiber , karl wolf
thanks
kaaitlyn
Askylit Drive, 18 visions, Brand New, From First to Last, Hawthorne Heights
K so im having a few problems losing weight ive been dieting for like 2 months now and have only lost like 5 pounds which is not good enough and i need to lose like 25 pounds and i wanted to lose it by christmas but obviously that isnt gonna happen so now im thinking by february 1st or mid march basically what do i do to kinda speed it up i have exercised but i just ended up overdoing it and hurting myself so i cant really do much exercising cuz my doctor told me to just relax for a few weeks so ya plz help me out
First, you don't want to over exert yourself in exercising. You want exercising to be a relaxing, slow-building process. When eating, you want to make sure you are eating five times a day, three full meals then two snacks in between like apples, bananas, granola bars, etc. Breakfast should be cereal, oatmeal, cocoa wheat, or even eggs (doesn't matter how done). Lunch sandwich, fruit, etc. Dinner could be things like chicken, rice, turkey, tuna, pasta, lasagna, etc. You want to eat meat but chicken is the most healthiest. You can still eat what you normally do as long as you are eating 5 times in moderation. If you cut meals out, you actually gain weight. If you exercise too much, it is like you are not eating because you are burning more calories than you are eating. I would suggest exercising in the morning and night. Start with a low number like 10 for a week then gradually increasing it by 10 each week. You don't want to overexert your muscles because if you over work them, you be sore but also build alot of muscle. If this happens, you size won't change but turn into muscle.
15/f
*sigh* sorry if it's long, I'll try to make it brief.
Okay, so last summer the love of my life died. He was the best b/f ever and I knew I wanted to marry him and spend forever and more with him. The thought tragically ended when he was hit by a drunk driver--he didn't even make it too the hospital :'( . Ever since then, I have not been able to have feelings (like a crush) for any guy at my school. I know at least two guys that like me, and they are really great but my mind keeps picking at the things that annoy me about them and I just can't have feelings back.
Well, I haven't had any crush or any feeling at all since September--until now. I'm starting to like one of my guy friends and I think he kind of likes me. The problem is, whenever we get close or make physical contact I feel this terrible guilt. It's like a stabbing pain and I can't get past it. I want to be able to form a relationship but everytime I get close or even think about my friend I feel like I'm commiting murder or something. It's so bad it has come to the point where I burst out crying when he hugged me. I can't control it. I don't know what to do. Please help.
It is perfectly normal to have feelings of resentment or issues with commitment. Even though it was a year, it doesn't stop the pain going away. You may not feel this way conciously but unconciously you may feel guilty when you are happy. You feel that you shouldn't be happy unless he is right there with you. The truth is, he loved you and wanted to make you happy. He wouldn't want you to feel guilty for making the most of your life and experiencing joy. I don't know if you are religious, but I believe that is guarding you everywhere you go and he would want you to be happy. You being happy makes him happy.
Its perfectly common to feel insecure when it comes to relationships. This is something that takes time, you don't want to force yourself to get into a relationsip. You want to ease into it slowly and as less painful as possible. You should get closer, get to know people before completely committing, just until you feel completely comfortable about it. Some things you could do to keep your mind off of it, writing in a journal, lyrics, make a song, scrapbooking, sewing, taking photos, etc. Remember he would want to to be happy not unhappy.
16/F
I have been in a relationship for just over 9 months and its that time once again and I have no idea what to get my boyfriend. Throughout our relationship I have made him various gifts including:
A book with pictures I drew of times we shared together, with song lyrics to a song he really liked at the time
Coupons, a summery of our msn conversations, surveys and a one of those post it things that was named after each day of the next month with a little message on each
A flash music video saying 17 reasons why I love him to a song he really likes.
So pretty much I have begun to run out of creative ideas and I really want to make him something he will love. He loves music, is not really a party person, plays hockey, guitar and sings. I want something that could maybe show how much he means to me as well as some look at the past type thing... any ideas would be super greatful. I dont want to do a scrapbook though since hes not a huge fan of them
Thank you :)
IF he enjoys listening and playing music, why not write a couple of songs that he can put his own music too. Write some lyrics that come from your heart and not someone elses plus he can use to become a better musician. You both will connect on a level only you two would feel, I mean you would share something no one else would understand. The best way to write lyrics is to write out how you feel as though your writing a love letter. Once you are done with that, look at specific sentences that would make good lines, chop them up, and form a verse. normally you have three to four verses then a chorus that repeats after every verse. If you like this idea, my email is niceyanne@aol.com, you can email me the lyrics that you have and I can spruce them up to make them great. I am a published author for both poetry and fiction writing so I could help alot. Each line shouldn't be more than seven words and each verse usually contains four lines and four lines makes up the chorus. Sometimes the chorus can be longer if the lines are shorter.
hi, in my theater arts class we have to do a monologue. my favorite musicals are RENT and Sweeney todd, and i was wondering if anything in RENT is considered a monologue.
If you have any good monologues, not in RENT or Sweeney todd, please, send me a script.
thanks
A monologue is when a person talks to themself with noone else in the room. If in rent there is a character who does that then yes it would be considered a monologue. Sweeney Todd is a monologue because it involves alot of solo singing to oneself. If you want something different here is a list of ones that I used in my college acting class... http://www.theatrehistory.com/plays/monologues.html
i need as much advice as possible because i'm so confused and torn apart...
i don't know if you remember me but i'm that girl who asked all those questions about getting back together with my boyfriend over the summer and going on vacation with him. (we started dating aug. 11.2008 broke up april 26th 2009 then started going back out july 20th 2009 and now broke up again november 27th 2008 :/)...we both are 17 by the way.
okay so tonight he dumped me. again. i can't sleep, i can't eat, and theres this huge hole in my heart. i told myself i would never get this attached but its too late, because i am. it is impossible for me to get over him....three months wasn't enough i feel like its going to be longer this time if we don't end up getting back together.
he said he broke up with me because he feels like i contribute way more in the relationship than he does and he feels like its not fair to me. but then he said he loves me and cares about me and doesn't know what to expect after we break up....i said to him "i want to be sure this is what you want because i'm not coming back this time"....he said "yeah i know..id be a jerk to ask you out again" he said that ill always have an effect on him because its the first love kinda thing with both of us.
its really weird too because like a week ago he was telling me how the first time we broke up he was a mess and thought of me every night thinking that it would go away but it didn't for 3 months. so he asked me back out and things were good but then he said that he felt like he didn't want to hang out with me sometimes and wanted to be with his friends but thats understandable because i do too. ugh i know i said i wasn't coming back, but deep down i know i am if he will....im so crazy abot this guy....
and one more thing, everytime he says "i love you" like a couple months later we break up....i've mentioned this to him and he seems afraid of it...he says he meant it and i'm positive that he meant it becase i can tell especially the way he looked into my eyes but he says he doesn't want to be like an old married couple already and i think the words "Ilove you" remind him of that.
what do you think is the best way to play it so we can get back together? should i tell him all of this? he said he wanted to try the friends thing so we can hang out after a little awhile. but we hung out last time we broke up by ourselves and we ended up getting back together...he said he wanted to start hanging out in groups first though so that doesn't happen...but i secretly want it to :/ when should i call him/text him? like how long should i give it? i know i should wait until he texts me first but he told me to let him know when i'm ready to hang out again. this is seriously the hardest thing i've ever been through.
i want him back so badly. im trying the best i could to stay positive but things aren't going so well. i'm so in love and this is eating me from the inside out. i want him back. i know he loves me. he's just so confused and he has family problems going on at home (his mom is cheating on his dad overseas) and i want to be there for him i love him so much and i honestly think he's making a hugee mistake. how do i get him back? please help :(
First loves are always the hardest and you never truly get over it. It is completely normal to still feel the pain and to feel like your heart has been ripped out. Its been 3 years since my first love and I find myself still having trouble breathing without him. I find other people to date but it isn't the same and I have a feeling it will never be, I wouldn't talk with his friends about, he is the person you should talk to him face to face or on the phone. You don't want to talk to his friends because they will tell him and he will feel like you can't talk to him. For him to break up with you because he feels he is doing shows that he cares more about you than he does himself. He is hurting because if he weren't he would have no problem talking to you. If he is having family issues then he is probably protecting you from getting in the middle. Hes pushing you away to avoid hurting you again but deep inside I guarentee that he really wants you by his side. I believe that he is waiting for your call and once you make that call, everything will fall into place. I don't think it is too soon and if you are completely honest with him about your feelings he will see that he is making a mistake. Tell him that you are worse when hes not around that it feels like he ripped a part of you out and the only way you will be able to breathe again is if he is there again. When he chooses to leave in the best interest of you, it makes things so much worse. If he is all about what makes you happy then tell he is what makes you happy and he will stay with you if he wants to continue to keep that promise.
"He was in charge of his section. You have the trainers, trainees wo help the trainers, the major who is in charge of one section of people, and then you have the lieutenant who is in chrage of all sections. You have a major for each section. He was pretty high and I was also shocked that our men are shooting our men. It makes you wonder what really goes in their heads."
-seriously, if you don't know what you're talking about, scan your own lane and stay out of mine. you've got your concept of the officer corps all messed up. leave soldiering questions to real soldiers. and as far as the "what was he thinking" part... he's a bloody terrorist, he killed my comrades, and deserves a peasant's death.
good night.
-Gunner
now u listen here...my dad has been in the military for most of his life and i was shipped around like a pet dog. majority of my family has been wiped because the bloody war. i have one great grandmother and i have been to more funerals than u can imagine. if people have seen what i havseen they would have nightmares. war is something that never should have been. i am sorry that i gave false information but that was the way ranking was done when i was little and i didnt expect it to change.
Don't ask me why, ok? I need to know how long you can go without eating before something bad happens? I don't want to die but I need to lose weight and I have tried it all.
please don't judge me. :(
Starvation is the quickest way to gain weight and exercising builds your muscles causing weight gain also. First you need to eat 5 times a day, three large meals and two small snacks inbetween like a granola bar or something. Stick with chicken because meat helps keep you strong but chicken is also the mot healthy. To much pop and water builds water weight and if you cut down on it, you will lose weight. I would suggest drinking a variety of juices, flavored water, etc. You don't want to drink one specific thing.
Hey, so I want to try out for an a cappella group at my school. I really want to be in an a cappella group, but they're extremely competitive. So, I'd like to pick a good song for my audition. Does anyone have any recommendations of songs that would be really good for an audition? A song that would "wow" the people judging the auditions?... lol
Any suggestions would be helpful. Thanks!
There is a great christmas song that is sung in german called In Dulci Jubilo, you can find clips of the song on Utube. This is a song that is not only used for college choirs but it is also sung in a different language. If you really want the wow the judges you want to pick something that is not to difficult but it hard to pronounce. They won't be looking at the difficulty of the piece, they look at how you present it and if you have the right passion to present even the easiest songs. You sing this song and you will not only surprise them with your talent of singing but also your intiative to attempt to sing a song in a different language.
Sooooo I am on birth control. I missed a period but I took a pregnancy test and it said I wasn't pregnant. Now it is time for my next period and I am not having it on time.
Can you skip a period on birth control and not be pregnant or should I start picking out names? :)
Yes, depending on the brand of birth control, it works as though you never have one. It is very common if you have a birth control that prevents pregnancy and makes you still have a period that some will be skipped. Check with your doctor or maybe you can find it on google, and search for the sideeffects to the type you are using. They may be able to reveal whether you will not experience periods while taking or you will while taking them but the first couple are skippe.
me and my boyfriend for the first time last week had sex, and we didn't use a condom for like the first 5 minutes. and i'm just worried i'm pregnant. he said he didn't pre or do anything else, but i'm still worried. i'm 15, and sex talk is bad with my mom and dad, cause i told my mom once i had sex. and she was angry. but i'm more scared this time to tell them, my boyfriends mom knows about it though. but what are signs that i am ? or do you think i could possibly be ? oh and i've been having a sharp pain in my stomach at times. i don't know what it is. but maybe i'm just paranoid.
Symptoms don't start arising until maybe the third week. The only way you can get pregnant is if he released pre or the condom broke. I am abosolutely positive you are not pregnant. The causes of your pains may be from drinking to much pop or even the stress of thinking you are pregant. I would sit and wait to see if you skip a period. If your period is late then I would take a text. I think you may have a ulcer or bubble in your stomach that can caused by the way you are eating and the things you are drinking. If it worsens then I would consider contacting a doctor.
16/f
My friend is having an abortion today, and although I don't support her decision completely, I am here for her completely.
On the other hand, I just found out my mother is pregnant with twins, she already has three kids. We can't afford two more children, and by we can't afford it I mean, we can barely get through now. (We barely have a place to stay.) I had to confront my mom about her pregnancy and she told me about it, one baby has died, and the other is really unhealthy. My mom and I aren't really close because of her boyfriend and I've been kind of mean to her before I found out about her pregnancy, and now I feel bad.
Can any one give me some tips on how to help them through these rough times? Or how to be here for my mom without getting all mushy and teary-eyed with her?
The best thing to do is to forget the past. Once you have forgiven yourself, your mother will also forget about it. The next step is doing things for her such as cleaning, maybe help make dinner, offer to do something for her, and just apologize to her. Once you have told her that ou are sorry, it makes things so much smoother. It may help her if you take her mind off of things by telling her aboout your day, school, and activities you have done or planning to do. Once you reveal your daily routine, ask her about hers. This process may be awkward at first but with time it will become easier.
errm this may be a weird question [:
but i really wanna turn on this guy who sits next to me in one class.
what are some gestures that turns guys on?
like i dont mean stuff to say but things i can do, not to him but like ways to sit etc.
haha thankies(:
Well, a man likes a woman who isn't afriad to expose themselves. Wearing tops that show off a little cleavage or short skirts. Most guys love when girls drop something on the floor and have to bend over to pick it up. When you wear an exposing shirt, ask him questions so that he has to check you out. Also showing off the legs makes men go crazy especially if they look smooth and shiny :)