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Pregnant People
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My friend is having an abortion today, and although I don't support her decision completely, I am here for her completely.
On the other hand, I just found out my mother is pregnant with twins, she already has three kids. We can't afford two more children, and by we can't afford it I mean, we can barely get through now. (We barely have a place to stay.) I had to confront my mom about her pregnancy and she told me about it, one baby has died, and the other is really unhealthy. My mom and I aren't really close because of her boyfriend and I've been kind of mean to her before I found out about her pregnancy, and now I feel bad.
Can any one give me some tips on how to help them through these rough times? Or how to be here for my mom without getting all mushy and teary-eyed with her?
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Regardless of my beliefs (I am pro-life) I understand the importance of being there for a friend during tough times, and trust me! Having an abortion is more than likely going to be the biggest decision of her life. Don't chastise her for her decision even if you think it is wrong, but if it's not to late, make sure she fully understands the situation so she won't end up with any regrets. That is something that you can never take back.
Since it's almost 9 PM my time I am going to assume that she has already gone through with the procedure. With that being said, take care of her, emotionally I mean. Explain that you are there for her if she needs someone to talk to, and let her know how much you support her decision (even if you don't agree with it). If things get to tough for her, gently suggest counceling. Considering the procedure is essentially taking the life of a baby, having one for anyone with a heart can be life-altering, and I don't mean that in a good way.
As for your mom, that is really tough too. Take care of her as well, emotionally and physically. If it is too hard for you to flat out apologize for the way you have treated her, let her know how much you care through action. Like previously mentioned, clean the house, make the family meals, and help take care of any younger siblings you may have. If you are the youngest, strive for your independence and take care of yourself.
If you are old enough, consider getting a part-time job. If you aren't old enough, ask locals if you could babysit, clean their house, or mow their lawn. That is the best way to show your mom that you care. Let her worry about the major finances, but when you can offer to pay for a meal or too. Lend them money when they need it, and take care of them the best you can. Don't over-exert yourself though; always think of yourself too. Stress is no environment to bring a new baby into. :) Get exited about the miracle of life, and always remember somebody somewhere is having the same problems, and many have worse.
I hope things get better for you and your loved ones :)
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The best thing to do is to forget the past. Once you have forgiven yourself, your mother will also forget about it. The next step is doing things for her such as cleaning, maybe help make dinner, offer to do something for her, and just apologize to her. Once you have told her that ou are sorry, it makes things so much smoother. It may help her if you take her mind off of things by telling her aboout your day, school, and activities you have done or planning to do. Once you reveal your daily routine, ask her about hers. This process may be awkward at first but with time it will become easier.
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