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stage kiss
my boyfriend and i are both 18. he's the lead in our school play this year and he has to kiss another girl. it's killing our relationship. i've never been the jealous type, but this has been so hard for some reason. we've been together a year and we're really serious. i was the first girl he kissed. he keeps telling me it doesn't mean anything. i trust him with all my heart, but is there anything i can do to help with this? i'm sure lots of people have been in this situation. what did you do to cope? i'm the stage assistant so i have to see it quite often. he's incredible. i love him and trust him, but it's hard not to hate the other girl at the same time. i'm trying so hard to be good but something inside me breaks every time i see it. help please.
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Ooh, I was in a similar situation, except I was the lead in the play, I had to kiss another guy, and my boyfriend at the time was in the audience whenever possible. I felt terrible at first knowing that I had to kiss that guy, but my boyfriend's acceptance of it as just what it was - a stage kiss - helped immensely.
It can be difficult to deal with the situation from either side, but keep in mind that it's not him kissing the other girl, it's one character kissing another. It would happen whether it was your guy or not. I'm sure he's not such a fan of doing it, especially because I'm sure he knows it bothers you, but there's no way around it in a performance.
As far as hating the other girl, I can imagine how it would hurt to be a constant witness to that act, but be comforted in the fact that you ARE seeing it - it's not behind your back, it's not something he would do if he wasn't the lead in the play, and it definitely wasn't his idea.
I asked my high school sweetheart at one point how he dealt with it, and he said he just reminded himself that after the play, I was still his.
Hopefully some of this will help you out.
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The play is just an act. Him kissing another girl is just pretend. Try not to let it bother you :) . Think of it as a job, he has to do it. Also keep in mind that if he had the choice to kiss the girl or not, he wouldn't. No 'fake' kiss shouldn't get in the way of your relationship.
:) Good luck.
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The way to deal with this is by not thinking of it as a kiss but something that has to be done to draw the audience. Also, I told myself that he was a good actor and that is all the kiss was. I know that being a stage manager demands alot so try to avoid thinking about it by always keeping busy. Even if you are helping someone else with their job, it helps relax the tension and keeps your mind off of what you really want to think about. Last item, just tell yourself that this other girl probably has low self-esteem and this is probably the only kiss she will ever have. Even if this isn't true, it made my subconcious feel better.
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