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Ok so Im 12 and I currently have a wonderful boyfriend but he kinda flirts with my best friend. When Im aorund him he doesnt givve me any special attention though. He is my first boyfriend, and slow dance. Then theres this other guy who is a year older than me (13). He IM's me 24/7 he admitts to me that he kinda likes me but likes other people too. I kinda am falling for him and I dont know what to do. We were playing truth over IM the other day and he said that he reall wants to kiss me. I have never kissed anyone before but he has kissed alot of other girls. I asked him for one of my questions if he would ever kiss me while im still dating ___? and he said yes. I have something in side me that wants to kiss him but the other part of me doesnt because i already have a boyfriend. I dont know what to do because the other guy said 'It would be worth kissing you even though I might get slapped'. PLEASEE help, I dont know what to do :( (link)
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Well you already know what you're doing is wrong because something is holding you back from kissing this other guy. You're with your boyfriend and you care about him because you don't want to hurt him. I don't think you like your boyfriend as much as you think you do and that's okay. Even talking like this to another guy behind your boyfriend's back is a bit sneaky. If you are interested in this other guy I would break it off with your boyfriend. Or if you care about your boyfriend and want to be with him then you need to stop talking to this other guy. You can't have your cake and eat it too. It has to be one or the other!
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this girl i met 4 months. we talk everyday and i think im getting feelings for her. altough shes bestfriends with my ex girlfriend that now is my friend.
when we talked on the phone last night she told me "TE AMO" (i love you) and i got goosebumps i dont knwo how to explain this feeling or what em i having.
iwould like to know why i got goosebumps.
thankyou im 18 and shes 15 (link)
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You like her!
I still get butterflies everytime I'm with my boyfriend. I get chills when he says 'I love you'. He has even started saying 'Te Amo' to me recently which is really cute. So do you like her too? Before you make a move I would talk to your ex-grilfriend/friend to see what she thinks about it. Afterall it is her friend and you need to respect her. If she is okay with it than maybe ask the girl on a date and see how it goes. If your ex says 'no' than don't bother pursuing the girl. Good luck!
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I suspect my girlfriend is cheating on me. How do i know? What signs do I look for? (link)
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Well why do you think she's cheating on you in the first place?
People who cheat tend to be very sneaky or very quiet about things. If she seems off to you I would consider that to be a sign. If she is always checking her phone or texting someone or even going off into another room thats a sign. I would confront her if I were you. Ask he if she is and if she gets really defensive or can't look you in the eye than there's a possibly she might be cheating!
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Hi everyone, I know this doesn't belong here, but in this case I need help with friends. I am looking for anyone's help with it, I need a bunch of emails of people who are online everyday, and just always want to talk. I can email them, and have a new friend.
All help is appriceated. (link)
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Well I'm always here to talk:
ohthatgirl1987@yahoo.com
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I've been talking to this guy but lately he's put me on the burner saying he doesn't want to cheat on his girl. But there are times where he acts interested all over again, and there are times where he won't text or barely flirt with me. Is he just lying to himself or is he really over it? (link)
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If he's with another girl that's a bad sign right there! Get away from him right now. When a guy is seeing two girls it means he's not going to be serious about either one. He's being selfish and you don't deserve to be treated like that. Ignore him, walk away from him, and lose all his contacts. He's playing with you because he know he can and you're letting him. Stop the cycle and end it by walking away!
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There's nothing online or in books that can help me. Everywhere it says "i stuff my bra because i want boobs" all that to make it bigger! Well i dont want it! i want it smaller. I think getting periods are gross. I did get mine today and i hate it. I dont think i can ever except it! Im athletic and i dont have the time for girl stuff! I hate everything to do with puberty! Make matters worse when i walk out everyday with my outfit my mom cant look at my face when i talk she stares at my shirt and its awkward! help! (link)
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I don't think anyone likes puberty but we all go through it. It's just a way of life that you have to except. It's difficult to adjust to I realize but what's going on with your body right now you can't stop it. I would go to a library and look up some books on puberty or something just to learn more about what's going on.
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What do you do, when you are learning that a friend is not so much a friend?? I have been friends with my daughter's father since high school. That has been since the year of 91... Now I have been a good friend to him through out the years, but he is an on & off kind of friend. I have feelings for him & always have, but he doesn't see me for some reason. He say he cares, but whenever he is going through somehting I have been there for him. He calls me we talk & we have good commnunication, but whenever he is involved wit someone he tends to treat me as if I am his conveniece. He needs someone to talk to when things are not right in his relationships, but then when they are fine he doesn't want to be bothered. I am fed up & it is really making me not want to deal with him, but for my daughter's sake I must. What can I do to move pass this man that doesn't want to be a friend??? (link)
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I have an ex that is the exact smae way, we don't have a child together but he acts the same way. I no longer have feelings for him but for years he would call me when he wanted something and he would constantly ignore me if it was the other way around. I guess the best thing to do is obviously talk with him involving your daughter but anything else having to do with his love life or personal matters don't talk about it. Don't be as open with him and don't let him use you as a punching bag. Let him know you're not his doormat!
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My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. For the last 6 months we have been arguing a lot about big things and petty things. He has currently been away for a month and hasn't Once emailed me saying anything affectionate when he is bk in less that a week. I'm so sick of him making me feel like shit all the time he talks down to me so much but I know he can be nice. He's said before that we just go round in circles and has tarted to breakup with me but then I get upset and he ends up saying 'well I do want to just not when we argue and nothing ever changes ' I don't know whether he does it for s reaction or what? He dosnt seem bothers by anything I do! I just don't know how to act anymore I want to vd with him I just want him to treat me like he use to. I've already said this to him but he just says I over react of says something harsh and blunt. Do j make the effort of what? I've tried everything!! (link)
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I have to be honest with you it's not going to be the same way it was when you first started dating. I know you want it to be but it won't be. You have to be realistic about that! As much as you hope that things will be that way it won't, the 'honeymoon' phase is over. The further and further you go into a relationship there are going to be challenges and tests against your relationship and it's how you both handle it.
Let's be honest when it comes to knowing what we want guys aren't really great at that. However we girls don't make it easy for them because we don't say what we want. It's battle after battle!
My boyfriend and I had this problem of communication for awhile and then we finally fixed it. We finally figured out that we just need to tell each other what is wrong when there is something wrong. We have an open line of communication and it makes me feel comfortable when I can just tell him when something is bothering me. For example our anniversary is coming up and he said he didn't have anything planned. He was joking about it and laughing and it broke my heart a bit. I want him to plan it I want him think about it because it shows how much he cares. Well I talk to him and told him it upset me about what he said and he told me he was kidding. He told me he had something planned all along and that I need to relax.
My point is you need to think about what you want I mean really think about what you want from this relationship. Then sit down with your boyfriend and have a serious conversation about what you need out of this relationship. Set something things up such as 'date nights' once a week. Or maybe dress up and go out just for the hell of it. Tell him what you need! I hope this helps and I hope it works out!
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i am just fed up with my life...
i want my parter to realise my value and the only way for this is to leave him which is ultimately very difficult for me if i remain alive so tell me what can i do???
the only thing i can think is of suicide. (link)
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No one is worth killing yourself!
No one is more important than yourself and you need to remember that. Sometimes I bet you feel like you're not appreciated for the things you do. Sometimes like you feel like you are bending over backwards for people and you never get the same in return. I've been there and I know what its like and it's not a good feeling. As much as I talk about how much I love my boyfriend we've had our 'ups' and 'downs'. When we dated for the first few months I felt he didn't appreciate me and he didn't even care. I did everything in my power to make him happy and yet I wasn't making myself happy. I ended up leaving him and came back and told me he made a mistake. We worked it. It's a work in progress my relationship isn't perfect but I'm happy and I know he cares about me. I'm sure your partner cares just as much about you. If you're unhappy than you need to leave and move on and do something else with your life. Killing yourself and isn't going to help your situation at all. Confide in a co-worker, a friend, or even a family member. Maybe talk to a therapist to get some help. I know you feel unappreciated and you want someone to care and I'm sure you have a bunch of people who are willing to help.
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Ok so I am 15/f and I have like this boy off and on for three years now. from 7th 8th and 9th grade. Well me and this boy have the same last name. Weddington. Well apparently at the beginnign of 7th he liked me, and i didnt like him and then when i started to like him, he had a girlfriend. Well 7th grade being immature and not caring what i did around him, I would constantly be like brrotther brother brother and tell everyone he was my brother. (because of our last name) and even added him as my brother on facebook. Well he gave me weird looks sometimes and would be like stalker, and crap and he would never ever even if i asked him to call me sister he wouldnt. We still talked tho. My mom even thinks he is the cutest boy at my school! Well now in 9th my grade, at the beggining of the year he gave me a little attention, then stopped for a while. Now though about two and a half weeks ago we had our Christmas dance. It went horribele for me and I was leaving and he came up to me out of the blue and said bye sister!, my heart jumped and I about fainted! after i got home, I told my mom and she was like yay. Then that next day i got in my trig class and he came up to me and said hey sissy and i said hey bubba. I got all happy again! then we had p.e. that day together and he came over and talked to me called me sister again and then this boy slapped me and he yelled at him and said DONT HURT MY SISTER! and I was like oh my gosh. eek haha. then we where both on the side lines (we where playing basketball) and he came and sat by me and we talked for a while, and I was like yay he sat by me!, He is a basketball player, and football player so he is good at sports so he did good in the game so I gave him a high five. Then we just got back from a three day break due to teacher confrences, and now he sits behind me in one of my new classes and he always calls me sister, and everytime he walks past my desks he taps it, and then had to change between three partners in my class and he chose me as one of his partners, and I freaked out! then today he of course called me sister and stuff and then when I was at my locker today packing up to go home, he came up to my locker and told me bye! So I was just wondering do you think he likes me??? because I really like him! but do you think he does from what i've wrote? thanks(: (link)
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It sounds like he might but it's hard to say. The best way to know is to ask him or ask if he wants to hang out outside of school. One of my exes and I before we started dating we used the sibling role. He would call me 'sister squirrel' and I would call him brother bear'. People started thinking we were really brother and sister so it was a bit weird when we started dating to say the least. If you feel comfortable with him just tell him. It sounds like he's an easy person to talk to. Good luck and I hope it works out for you!
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Hi there so I am 18/F
So I have a lot of guy friends and a few girl friends, most of which are short, except my best friend who is 6", I however am 5"9 and I feel soooo tall, I look at my girl friends who are 5"5 or 5"6 and they get a lot of guys, I get guys and everything, but for some reason I look at my girl friends and I feel freakishly tall and weird, I am skinny, I eat a lot but I don't gain weight, I weigh about 130, I just don't understand why I feel so ugly around my friends, is there anything wrong with being this tall, I feel so insecure when I go out with them. Why is it that tall girls aren't as pretty as short girls? (link)
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'Beauty is in the eye of the beholder'
Tall girls aren't as pretty as short girls? Who told you that? That statement is false, my dear. I had a problem like this myself when I was your age. My girlfriends were all shorter than I and I was the giant of the group. It was said that the short girls were cuter. Did you ever think though that we tall girls got the legs? That's right we got the legs and we walk faster!
It doesn't mean that if you're shorter you get more guys, unless there is a study I don't know about. That statement is false. It's about how you are as a person not what you look like that gets you a guy. If you are a person who treats people kindly then that's the person you should be. STOP worrying about height because it doesn't matter nor does it make a difference. Love your height and love being taller than your friends because that's what makes you stand out!
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I've been a Wiccan for a little over a year and been with my boyfriend a little under a year. I really want to tell him about my religion but I'm scared that he'll dump me because I'm not Christian, or try to change my mind. I love my boyfriend to death and I want him to accept me for who I am. I'm just scared to tell him. What should I do? He's a Methodist by the way. Should I be wary when I tell him? Please help. (link)
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If your boyfriend truly cares about you nothing will stop that. You saying that you're Wiccan won't change the way he thinks about you. Couples aren't always going to agree about things you are going to 'agree to disagree' on certain situations. You believe in something and that's okay. No one, not even your boyfriend, has the right to tell you what you can and can't be. Your boyfriend should support you in what makes you happy and what makes you feel like yourself.
My boyfriend and I agree about most things together. Even if we were to disagree he still loves me and still cares for me. I don't think anything would ever change that.
Just tell your boyfriend that you're Wiccan. If he freaks out a bit give him time to think. And if he can't handle it than that's his loss not yours. You shouldn't have to change yourself for someone else to make them happy. This is about you not him, so show him who you really are!
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My boyfriend is sick with a minor cold. This might sound dumb, but if I have any type of foreplay, oral, or intercourse with him, can I get sick too? I was wondering. Thanks! (link)
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It's definitely possibly!
My boyfriend had a cold during the holidays, we kissed of course and I caught the cold. It was worth it to me because I care about him. I am actually just getting over the cold at the moment!
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I have been with my boyfriend for 11 months now and I have had the most amazing times of my life with him and his friends. He was the sweetest, most amazing and understand boy...until he got depression. Our relationship deteriorated since the summer and has now reached a point where I was considering leaving him because I did not know why he was acting the way he was. He quit everything he was doing, stopped talking to his friends and would basically only go out with them because I wanted to. He also started being closed off and mean towards me, impatient, would always make me feel bad whenever I did something he did not think was smart.
The other day I had a long talk with him and told him he was going to end up alone if he didn't change and he told me everything. How hes lost interest in everything, he gets angry instantly, hes always tired, he tries to go out (were only 20) and immediately wants to go home. He never remembers a time when he actually felt happy his whole life. When I met him he was experimenting heavily with drugs but in a completely recreational and non addictive way and I didnt think anything of it because all of his friends did too. But he now tell me the only reason he did that was because they brought him to a normal level, while everyone else was at a whole different level, and he stopped because he felt like he was living a lie. He is severely depressed and agreed to get help but I don't know what to do anymore because I love him and all that I have gone through with him but he was so different before and I'm starting to be afraid that it was all a lie and the real him is how hes become now. Kind of cold and stubborn. I want to think its the depression and I am willing to stick it out to help him get through it but it puts a serious toll on me. It hurts when you love someone that is in so much pain they cant properly love you back. Any advice? (link)
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It hurts to see the ones we love in pain we feel hopeless and useless because we can't help them. We want to help but what can we possibly do? I would suggest telling him to talk to some like a therapist because there is nothing you specifically can do other than support him and listen to him. He is clearly going through something that needs professional help and possibly some medication.
Now it's your choice whether or not you want to stay. You have to be true to yourself and to him because if you are just staying because of comfort or to 'stick it out' then you need to rethink things.
He may not go for getting help and that's when you decide whether or not you want to stay with him. If he continues this behavior would you be able to handle it in the future? Think hard about what you want and what you want to come out of this. Good luck!
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This month I started my period too early. Is there any reason for this? It's suppose to be every 28 days and there was only 19 days this time. I was only off my period for about 12 days, so this sucks. I just want to know if there's a reason why. (link)
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It maybe that your cycle is changing. Periods can occur at odd times. Do you take birth control? Birth control regulates your period. If you are really concerned go see a doctor, but I think you'll be fine.
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17/f . So last night my mom saw a hickey that my boyfriend of a year and 3 months had accidently left me and she flipped out and she said she didnt want over at my house anymore... i love him too much to let go but idk what to possibly tell my mom to make the situation better. Help please!! (link)
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I think for your mom it's hard to see her little girl with a hickey on her neck. Has your mother ever met him? Have you ever had him over for dinner? I'm assuming she has if you've been dating him for a year and three months. It's important to remember that you are still under your mother's care and under her roof so you need to respect her. On the other hand you are almost 18 which is considered an adult and that makes you responsible for your own choices. I would sit down with your mother and have a conversation and talk about it calmly. Tell her that this situation she cause her to make such a rash decision. You don't want to make this situation like Romeo and Juliet ya know?
Give your mom some space right now and when you feel she is calm try talking to her and telling her how you feel. I think it's a good idea to tell your mom how you feel about this guy and how much you want her to like him. Good luck and I hope everything turns out well!
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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a little over a year but recently things have been going really bad... i have found out a lot of things he has lied to me about.. (nothing too serious like cheating(i hope), but enough to do damage, ex: drinking with girls hes done stuff with, & lying about dumb things) . I seriously love him with all my heart .. despite all hes done, i cant picture life without him, he is my everything. But he has no trust in me at all and swears that i cheat on him every chance i get when i really dont.. how do i show him that this relationship is serious to me and that i want nothing more but to make it work? (link)
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He might be cheating on you!
Sometimes when we do something instead of admitting it to ourselves and others we project it on to something else. You said he's lied about hanging out with girls that he has hooked up with. What else could he be lying about? If a guy is hanging out with girls from the past it makes me raise an eyebrow. Exes belong in the past you don't bring them to the future unless you are close friends or something. To drink with exes from the past sounds really fishy to me. He may have done something and instead of admitting it to you he's going to ask you if you have making you feel like you're doing something wrong. Don't let him do this to you. I know you love him but that is no way to treat a person you love. He doesn't deserve someone like you if he is going to treat you this way. I would sit him down and have a serious talk and get some answers and get the truth and if he can't than I would walk away if I were you. You can find someone much better who will treat you right and treat you with respect. Good luck and I hope everything works out!
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Hi everyone!!!!!Happy new year Advicenators!!!!!May 2012 be a great year for us all!!!! (link)
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Happy New Year to you as well! :)
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Do you guys have any advice for a newcomer on the site? Like how to rate, how to give good advice. I've already answered a few on here but I'm worried that my advice might be bad.
Denabella
(PS. I added my username for a reason so that you guys can give me a nice feedback and fully informed advice) (link)
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Welcome Denabella!
Answer the questions the best you can and try to relate to the situation as best you can. When I answer questions I try to think of a time or experience that is similar to the person's situation. That way the person knows that I understand but also can understand they aren't alone. Do your best! Good luck! :)
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so im not skinny but i'm kinda chubby and i bought a pair of pants today and they didnt fit when i tried to put them on. So im thinking about becoming anorexic to lose weight. i just dont know what to do. (link)
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Being anorexic isn't the answer because one it's a disease and two it isn't the right way to lose weight. A girl that is anorexic has a disease that takes over what she thinks about her body she doesn't just become anorexic. If you aren't happy with the way you look just change your eating habits and exercise a bit more. That's a healthier and safer way to lose weight.
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