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how to get my mom to like him again
17/f . So last night my mom saw a hickey that my boyfriend of a year and 3 months had accidently left me and she flipped out and she said she didnt want over at my house anymore... i love him too much to let go but idk what to possibly tell my mom to make the situation better. Help please!!
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Your mom may have overreacted. A hickey can just be a hickey or it can be a sign that something more intimate took place. This is most likely the problem you face with your mother. She is thinking that in order for you boyfriend to put a hickey on you wherever it was; you two engaged in more than just making out.
You first task is to assure your mom that nothing more than making out happened, if that is all that occurred. Don't try to tell her something didn't happen that did as moms' have ways of knowing the truth.
If you have been successful at getting mom to understand that nothing more than kissing happened. The next step is to ask you boyfriend to apologize to your mom for getting carried away. I know he will most likely be reluctant to do so. An apology will go a long way in moms eyes and hopefully restore her respect in her eyes for him.
The easiest way to defuse any argument is to say "I'm Sorry." Why? Generally when you say your sorry; whoever you are feuding with is disarmed as there is no comeback for those two word. These two words immediately disarm a situation even if the other person is unwilling to accept the apology.
In your situation I believe mom will accept his apology. She will probably warn him to not let it happen again and to not go any farther than kissing if he wants to continue to see you.
I've been a salesman for over 30 years. Whenever a customer had a problem whether it was with me, a product or the company I represented, I immediately apologize. Not only did this generally put out their fire, I usually was able to accomplish my goal in visiting with them. So try this with mom. I'm fairly certain if you approach her calmly this will work.
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I think for your mom it's hard to see her little girl with a hickey on her neck. Has your mother ever met him? Have you ever had him over for dinner? I'm assuming she has if you've been dating him for a year and three months. It's important to remember that you are still under your mother's care and under her roof so you need to respect her. On the other hand you are almost 18 which is considered an adult and that makes you responsible for your own choices. I would sit down with your mother and have a conversation and talk about it calmly. Tell her that this situation she cause her to make such a rash decision. You don't want to make this situation like Romeo and Juliet ya know?
Give your mom some space right now and when you feel she is calm try talking to her and telling her how you feel. I think it's a good idea to tell your mom how you feel about this guy and how much you want her to like him. Good luck and I hope everything turns out well!
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