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What do you do, when you are learning that a friend is not so much a friend?? I have been friends with my daughter's father since high school. That has been since the year of 91... Now I have been a good friend to him through out the years, but he is an on & off kind of friend. I have feelings for him & always have, but he doesn't see me for some reason. He say he cares, but whenever he is going through somehting I have been there for him. He calls me we talk & we have good commnunication, but whenever he is involved wit someone he tends to treat me as if I am his conveniece. He needs someone to talk to when things are not right in his relationships, but then when they are fine he doesn't want to be bothered. I am fed up & it is really making me not want to deal with him, but for my daughter's sake I must. What can I do to move pass this man that doesn't want to be a friend???
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I have an ex that is the exact smae way, we don't have a child together but he acts the same way. I no longer have feelings for him but for years he would call me when he wanted something and he would constantly ignore me if it was the other way around. I guess the best thing to do is obviously talk with him involving your daughter but anything else having to do with his love life or personal matters don't talk about it. Don't be as open with him and don't let him use you as a punching bag. Let him know you're not his doormat!
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I understand what you're going through. He seems to be using you for his personal gain just whenever he needs it. Things like this are hard, especially when it's somebody you thought was your friend. I think you should try talking to him about the way he treats you. He might not have even realized that was being like that. It might be a little hard to talk about it, but hopefully you will be able to hear his side of the story. If he is actually using you, you should try to keep any anger out of it simply for your daughter. Keep any conversations or visits with him as minimal as possible and just remember that the only reason you deal with him is for your daughter. I hope I was help and good luck with whatever happens.
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