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Got nothing to say. What I say about me doesn't matter, I didn't come here to talk about myself. My advice is based on what I think of your situation and what I think you should do. Duh. I'm not here to sympathise when you're wrong or sugar coat anything. I'm honest, and yes, I have been an 'asshole' before - I try to wake people up to the best of my ability, thanks. If you really want to know anything about me you can drop one in my inbox.

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ok my teacher is putting me next to these 2 boys and they always make me laugh and i cant help it but my teacher yells at me and sends me to the offic for laughing !! omg it bugs the crap out of me ...... so she called my mom and my mom got all pissed and then she grounded me . i want to tell my teacher to move me but i have a feeling if she moves me she will move me by my self and i dont want to sit by my self.so what should i do to try to tell her why i need to be moved with out her moving me by my self.

Ok, let me get this straight - you sit next to guys that make you laugh, and that gets you in trouble and most obviously you dont want that...so from my point of vieew, you should be doin anything you can to 'redeem' yourself. If you dont want to sit alone, thats a sign you're not serious about school - you aren't going to laugh and play around - though I know it can be hard not to space out when you sit alone. So first of all, just ask your teacher to sit you in the middle or something, next to quieter people so you wont space out, and tell her to make you sit alone if you make noise - its fair. Good luck.

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Whats the best way to lose a bad slut reputation that isnt true?!? I try to be nice to people but there so mean to me cause of what they hear about me...i need to fix this. Any ideas?

You sit. And you watch who is going to stick by you and show you some support, and who is just going to be a sheep and follow the crowd because they dont have the guts to say it to your face. Look - if the stuff isn't true, you dont have to explain yourself or be nice to anyone - be civil. You'll find who you're friends really are that way, as opposed to sucking up to people who think badly of you, how does that get you anywhere?

One of my best friends, who is in a different school, well this bastard she used to date started spreading rumors about her and it got all around her school - and her two closest friends in that school believed the guy! Her ex, instead of even ASKING her if they were true. I didnt believe it, because that guy is a nut, but anyway, she found that a lot of people jumped and believed the rumours, and only the people who truly cared/are friends chose not to believe them based on her word.


And of course - dont do anything that gives people something to talk about. Good luck, because I know how hard this can be.

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I am not a big girl...16 years old, 110 pounds, 5 foot 4, but I am not small either. I am pretty happy with my body, but my arms & legs seem to have some extra flab. I am not fat...they just seem large to me. How can I get skinnier arms & legs? I do not want them to be very muscular necessarily, just skinnier. Do you know any exercises or anything else to help me get skinnier arms and legs?

I think that muscle training/weight training or whatever you call it could work, because it might turn the flab stuff into muscle, and just generally make you more fit.

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Hey! I need some fund raising ideas. I need to raise 300 dollars for dance team costume. What would be some good ideas. Remember its cold so no car washes xoxo

The good ol' bakesale is always a good idea. A garage sale, maybe? You and all the girls can get all the things you dont need and hold a garage sale. Hm, maybe you could also work odd jobs. Run errands, walk dogs, babysit, etc. Also, you could have this big mini-carnival type thing. You can have food stands, little games that you manage, and you can sell flowers maybe, anything. Get creative ;). And good luck!

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Im pretty late...and I'm 16 going on 17 btw I feel like an idiot and I know its all my fault. Anyway how am I gonna break it to my parents?

Wow. You're pretty calm. Just have a sit down with them and say, 'Mom, dad, I love you guys and I know you're going to be disappointed in me - I'm pregnant.'. Nothing else you can do. But you never know, they might be supportive of you, you're still their kid.

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Six weeks ago I started with tooth ache, and sore gums it turned out that the tooth was infected and needed to be pulled. The sore gums was diagnosed as gum gigivitas which I now have a sterroid mouth was which I have to do three times a day. Three weeks ago I had the tooth extracted which then ended with an infection in it. The dentist treated this and said every thing should be ok now. But now my gums are still very sore with a lump on it and a little indentation . Also the hole where the tooth was taken out I have a bit of tooth popping out. Have been back wards and forwards to the dentist and feel such a pain now. I contacted them again yesterday told them a bout my tooth and the lump on the side. They advised me to leave it till friday as it should work its way out as my body is rejecting it. My gums are still very sore with little white like blisters around some of the teeth. Those teeth also hurt and i just want to scratch the gums and press the lump as this is really getting to me now. I have just about had enough and feel I am just a real pain when I phone the dentist. Please help I am at my wits end.

Thanks Lesley

Maybe you should wait, like he said. If you cant, go to another dentist. Its his job, whether it annoys him or not. Tell him to find you a pain killer or something.

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Ok..i think im realy bad w/ guys. It just seems like i never get a guy nemore...or no guys like me this year. Im not ugly, i think im pretty attractive..wat do i need to do to get guys to notice me more? (dont give me that BE YOURSELF crap)

BE YOURSELF =O. ITS TRUE. OMG. DONT TRY TOO HARD, K? LET IT BE.






God.

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ok,my best friend has a boyfriend and i'm kind of jealous (they're perfect and i'm single). Him and i are friends but i like him a little bit more than that. they just started going out this week. she knows him better then i do and she's liked him longer too. i told her that i like him. now do i tell him that i like him or would that ruin the realtionship between the 3 of us? what should i do???
any help is great.
~~~Chelsey~~~

Leave them the hell alone before you lose both of them. I've seen this happen.

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I like this guy, and when I say that I mean alot. The problem is, I have a horrible feeling I wont get to have him. Hes known to "get all the girls". Hes almost perfect. I think he is. Normally I'm not comfurtable around most people, but even the first day that I met him I was completly comfurtable, and the doesnt happen very often so I didnt get it. Also I dont really flirt with guys cause im not comfurtable but I do with him. He doesnt go to my school so it makes things harder. I dont think im going to get him, at all. So my question is, how do I make this feeling go away? I dont like knowing that the one person whose come around in a long time who I am COMPLETLY comfurtable with (which is extremly rare for me) is all over other girls and my chances with him might be slim. I just need to know how to get over this fast. Thanks. Sorry for ranting on. Ill rate 5's to good answers.

I think that just because you're comfortable around this guy doesn't mean that you two could have a working relationship. You say he a ladies man? Ever wondered why? Girls tend to feel comfortable around guys that attract girls by changing the way they act around everyone, even if they seem perfect, he could be a player or something. What I'm trying to say is that dont just assume something might have come out of it because yoou felt comfy around him, even if you dont normally around others. Its smart of you to decide to let it go, unless he likes you too, annd, you sound like an honest person so I hope you find someone else who you can be comfortable around =).

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mk im 15/f/ and im going out with this really hott guy from my school.. and i usally go for the personailty but this time it was obviuosly the looks well this guy is seriously really dumb and i cant stand how dumb he is sumtimes like today he said that his yard was crappy becuse he had trees growin out of it? and he was serious.. it was soooooooo dumb lol and dont get me rong if eel bad for not liking his personailty.. but i dont know what to do.. can someone help me.. idk if i should jus brk up wit him or stay wit him?
i rate high

I am laughing my fucking ass off. He said that? Oh God, that is sooo dumb. XD. Hm, I say you should leave him, cause you aren't being fair to yourself or to him. Maybe he'll find a dumb girl and they can be dumb together =).

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it's because im courting a girl right now... things are actually going the way i planned it but sometimes i just can't help being afraid.. i know she likes me but being liked by somebody is different from being loved by somebody...thats why everytime i see her cellphone filled with messages from his x boyfriend, i feel afraid, afraid that she might just leave me and go back to that ex-boyfriend of her....what am i going to do

There isn't really anything you could do besides show her you care a lot and hope that something could come out of this. If something doesn't, hey, dont feel bad because you tried, and that way you can put it behind you - knowing you tried, is better than to have lived wondering what would have happened if you tried. If its meant to be it'll happen, and try not to feel all that threatened by the X - they broke up for a reason, right? Cause it wasnt working, so yeah, he cant be that much competition. Go ahead, take your chances man. You never know. Good luck, I hope it all works out.

P.S - Never ever be bitter. Thats no way to live.

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if a man you lived with and had a relationship with moved out while u were in the hospital for 3 days and told you you needed to loose weight cause you are too fat should you take him back if he apologies?

No =). He doesn't value you.

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Hey everyone. I'm in a spot of a dilemma here. You see, I have this friend who I've been chatting to online for around 2 years now and he's coming down to meet (don't worry, he's not a pedophile or anything. we've spoken on the phone and web cam and all) anyway, we were planning to see green day together and he already bought the tickets and his plane ticket. Anyway, a few days ago my good friend who lives here bought me a ticket to see Green Day. It was going to be a suprise but then he found out I was already going and had to fess up. Anyway, the next time he saw me he HANDED the ticket to me, which I now have. My good friend bought the ticket for me as a present and I don't have to pay him or anything, and I'd feel bad making him give it to someone else. But the other guy can't cancel his plane ticket or sell his ticket (since he lives in brisbane and i'm in melbourne) advice please??

thanks

Dude, you're online friend is coming down to meet you from somewhere else for the first time, and I think thats great in itself! Your good friend, well, you see him almost every day right? So while I know you'd feel bad giving back the ticket, tell him that the person you're already going with you dont get to see that often - or take him with you to meet your online friend. But in the end, I realy think that you shouldn't sort of pick your good friend over someone coming in from somewhere else to meet you. BUT - do buy your friend something as a thanks, or promise to make it up to him later or something, but all in all, yeah, don't just keep the ticket and stare at it - maybe you could give it to someone else. Good luck, and have fun.

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Hey I was just applauding you on your advice column. I found it very funny and interesting to read through. Even though you are sometimes an "asshole", your advice is usually really good and straight-foward. The only people you act rude too are people that ask stupid questions and deserve to get bitched at. Thanks for having a balanced column that isn't like some of those 13 year old kids on here that are just rude to everyone for fun. Keep up the good work.

Yay. Thank you, I really appreciate you telling me. < 3

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Alright this isn't exactly about school but I didn't know what other category to put it in haha.

So lately I've been bored with nothing to read. I like books that are funny but not completely stupid, good mysteries, and deep stuff that makes you think without being boring.

Suggestions? =)

(15/F)

Check out the Gossip Girls series by Cecily von Ciegar [I thinkk thats her last name], Sisterhood of the Travelling Pants [series] by Ann Brashares, anything by Sidney Sheldon, and of couuuurse, the one and only - the Harry Potter series.

Other books to look at - P.S, I Love You by Cecilia Ahern, Go Ask Alice, Speak...

Mary Higgins Clark is good...and also, it wouldn't be a bad idea to search for this sort of thing on google! Good luck - reading is the best thing ever.

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What r some romantic things a guy cood do for a girl, leading up to their first kiss?

He could learn to spell.

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i have a bf who has gone threw a lot with me
and we have been together for 1 1/2 years ..
he meanse everything to me .. he has hit me
in the past and he tried to kill me .. everyone
thinks i should just get over him but i can`t
i love him .. i was gonna have his baby last year
but shit happend with my mom so i had to get
an abortion :-/ . he has also liked this girl
behind my back and hes been lying about it ever
since .. but now he says that he misses me
and everything .. i don`t know what to do ..
i miss him so much .. he just got outa jail
for something big :-/ trying to run me and
my boii off the road but he just needs help.
please help me thank you -Nikky-

Oh my God. Are you insane? No, seriously, are you? This bitch tries to run you over and you think he needs HELP? >.>. He needs a mental institution, more like it. Look, I think you need to let go of the feelings you have for him. Girls have this thing where they fall for 'bad boiz' because they think they can 'fix them' and all that dramatic shit - so I think you should give up on him because he is beyond help. Its not a healthy relationship - you think you love him, but you dont. Once you break it off, believe me, you'll find that you're more at peace.

More so, what is love to you? Is it a guy that hits you and lies to you, and hell, tries to fucking KILL YOU?! Someone who loves would never, ever do those things to you...rather try to ward you away from him. Everyone deserves someone who is going to CARE about them, not try to demolish them! I think the sooner you get out of this the easier it'll be for you. I personally think you might be afraid of him too. And when all the people you know and care about you, your friends and family, say that you should get the hell away from him, they're right, because they care.

Good luck. Make the right choice.

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Okay, I have this problem with talking about bodily functions. I know that guys aren't very afraid to talk about farting, or burping, or even going #2. Guys always fart, and burp in front of people and it doesn't even phase them! Some girls that I know are like this too. But me, I would never be able to fart in front of anyone, or tell someone I had to go #2, I think that is just wrong. Is anyone else too shy, or afraid to do this in front of people. How can I open up more, and not be embarrassed if I burp in front of a guy? and WHY are guys like this? It bothers me when my b/f is always like.."i have to take a sh*t!" Like I wanted to know that!

Lmfao. That is really funny. I'm not making fun of you but I think its amusing. Hehe. I dont blame you for being disgusted, a lot of people are. Thing is that you kind of cant stop anyone from processing any of those bodily functions in front of you, unfortunate as that may be. The way to be more open about is to look at it from a comical point of view because it kind of is funny. Really. Just if you burp in front of a guy, laugh or something, because guys think all that stuff is 'neat', burping competitions and all.

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I have lived in a small town for about five years im 16 and im a female.I have done everything to make guys heads turn i wear very little makeup i do my hair different everyday i wear clothes that show off my great body and i have a nice smile still no hot guys seems interested how do i turn heads????

'I wear clothes that show off my great body'

Its nice to be confident, but you sound like you're an attention seeker to me. I think the real solution is to tone it down a little and just be yourself and wait for someone to be attracted to you for your personality and not what you wear and what you look like. Being personality-confident is great, it seems like you have that to me, but dont try too hard, it makes guys think you're easy.

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i CANT STAND my older sister. Shes a junior in highschool, im a freshman. she is always making fun of me for no reason at all, and always telling me what to do. So, im always mean back to her. I dont wanna be mean to her, but i cant control myself, she thinks shes so smart. She gets straight A's, drives her own car, has lots of friends, .. so she thinks shes wicked cool. I cant stand it, i really cant. Like, sometimes i just go completely insane. I have a bad temper, as im typing this now im just shaking, i feel like im gunna explode. WHAT SHOULD I DO

Stop being jealous. Thats a START. And then, tell her to piss off and stop making fun of you. If she doesn't, show her baby pictures to her friends. There.

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